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Man Moves On From Intense Cyberbullying That Affected His Business, Wife Decides To Reveal Who Did It
You think you know someone, until you realize you never did. Life has a way of coming at us with the most unexpected twists and turns. For one man, it was a confession from his wife that shook him to the core…
The guy has told how he was viciously cyberbullied to the point that it took a toll on his mental health. He confided in his SO and she supported him through it at the time. Years later, the woman dropped a bombshell: her family was behind the anonymous online harassment. The victim has shared the entire ordeal online and is begging for advice…
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Relentless cyberbullying attacks left him in a very dark space a few years ago
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Now it’s emerged that his wife’s family was behind it, and she knew all along
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Cyberbullying is on the rise, with one in six school-aged children experiencing it
Cyberbullying is the use of technology to harass, threaten, embarrass, or target another person. Online threats and mean, aggressive, or rude texts, tweets, posts, or messages all count. As does posting personal information, pictures, or videos designed to hurt or embarrass someone else. That’s according to kidshealth.org.
The platform adds that cyberbullying also includes photos, messages, or pages that don’t get taken down, even after the person has been asked to do so. “In other words, it’s anything that gets posted online and is meant to hurt, harass, or upset someone else,” it notes, warning that it’s against the law in many states, and committing the crime could have serious consequences.
“Cyberbullying introduces unique challenges for adolescents, extending beyond the school gates into the perceived safety of their homes and personal lives,” warns the World Health Organization (WHO).
WHO reports that the latest data from 2018 to 2022 shows a concerning increase in cyberbullying. The Health Behaviour in School-aged Children (HBSC) study focused on patterns of bullying and peer violence among adolescents across 44 countries and regions. It found that 15% of adolescents (around 1 in 6) have experienced cyberbullying.
“The digital world, while offering incredible opportunities for learning and connecting, also amplifies challenges like cyberbullying,” said study coordinator, Dr Joanna Inchley. “This calls for comprehensive strategies to protect our young people’s mental and emotional well-being.”
Inchley added that it’s crucial for governments, schools, and families to collaborate on addressing online risks, ensuring adolescents have safe and supportive environments in which to thrive.”
Online bullying, just like any other type of bullying, can lead to serious, long-lasting problems. According to Kids Health, the stress of being in a constant state of upset or fear can lead to problems with mood, energy level, sleep, and appetite. This can have a knock-on effect on how they perform at school. Or whether they can concentrate in class.
“It also can make someone feel jumpy, anxious, or sad. If someone is already depressed or anxious, cyberbullying can make things much worse,” notes the site.
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JB 4 months ago (edited)
Speaking from experience, I suspect OP’s wife has CPTSD, a common outcome of a toxic/abūsive childhood. As someone diagnosed with the condition, I’m told it literally rewires the developing brain in abnormal ways. I’m *not* defending her so much as recognizing an abnormal pattern of logic and reaction to a stressful situation. Whatever you do, *never* rock the boat. I’m impressed she shut the bullying down and understand that her choice to say nothing could have been a combination of protecting him from hurtful knowledge underpinned by fear that he would throw her away for belonging to such a toxic family. Is that reasonable? No, but don’t expect reason to prevail when your entire upbringing shows you have no value unless you support toxicity.
Mir Adwari 4 months ago
This was largely my take as well. Had a damaging childhood too. To anyone looking in, of course her behaviour doesn't look right but she has a screwy take on things because her family are toxic and fecked up her head. Hopefully therapy will help her individually as much as it does him and their little family.
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BK BigFish 3 months ago
THIS! All this talk of "black sheep", which is classic cult behavior - cutting off offenders and isolating cult members. On top of that, she was raised in the cult. It will take years to deprogram her. Choosing her husband/child/other black sheep/society/reality is the first step....
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Tabitha 4 months ago
Who TF thinks cyberbullying someone is like a “rite of passage” to join the family, ffs? They put OP through absolute HELL for weeks, and weren’t going to stop until the wife told them to. Obviously the supposed “black sheep” of the family are just the members who are decent human beings and won’t join in or put up with the b******t the rest of the family’s nasty a******s do. Time for OP and wife to join the ranks of “black sheep”.
KrazyChiMama 4 months ago
As a black sheep in the family, I felt this one. Wife should have told OP as soon as she found out who was responsible for the bullying. You just don’t keep something from your spouse that is negatively affecting their business and mental health. Serious counseling is needed here for both wife and OP to move past this kind of betrayal.
Miss Ann Thrope 4 months ago
The only way through this is with therapy. Problem is, he divorces her, kid will have almost unlimited access to wife whacked family. He stays, he has some control.
Jonathan Setter 4 months ago
for me there could be no way forward without legal consequences. Hopefully there are cybercrime laws in their area and the wife can provide the evidence to prosecute. If not, then surely they can just outright sue them for what was done. If it was me, they would be paid back 2 fold for what they had done.
Beak Hookage 4 months ago (edited)
I've been the target of cyberbullying, more than once, and it is REALLY traumatic. In this case I personally think the wife was spineless rather than selfish and very intimidated by her evil family. I've got branches of my own family that really do not get along, and my attitude is "don't get involved, ever". So I never take sides in any of their stupid arguments. Though I should add that it's always just stupid arguments over politics and such. It's never gotten even half as bad as this. If it did, then I would do something about it if I could.
FreeTheUnicorn 4 months ago
She's not really sorry if when she asks what she can do, and is told give OP space, she doesn't even do that. If you respect someone, especially a partner, you respect what they ask for, and trust them to be adult enough to know what they need. This isn't checking in, it's once again ignoring his wishes and mental health because the situation isn't what she'd like. It's a pattern and no matter how this plays out, it will continue. No one should stay married to someone like that.
Paul C 4 months ago
My goodness, the OP has a very low bar if his wife is the most unselfish, decent, loving person he's met. Glad I don't have his life. The wife still doesn't get how badly she has behaved or how badly she allowed her family to behave, whilst she covered it up all in the name of "keeping the peace". She only confessed because her sister threatened to tell. She claims to choose her husband over her family (in the reddit update), but it's one of two gestures so far. Makes her family sound more like a cult than a family, which may be the biggest hurdle for them.
JB 4 months ago (edited)
Speaking from experience, I suspect OP’s wife has CPTSD, a common outcome of a toxic/abūsive childhood. As someone diagnosed with the condition, I’m told it literally rewires the developing brain in abnormal ways. I’m *not* defending her so much as recognizing an abnormal pattern of logic and reaction to a stressful situation. Whatever you do, *never* rock the boat. I’m impressed she shut the bullying down and understand that her choice to say nothing could have been a combination of protecting him from hurtful knowledge underpinned by fear that he would throw her away for belonging to such a toxic family. Is that reasonable? No, but don’t expect reason to prevail when your entire upbringing shows you have no value unless you support toxicity.
Mir Adwari 4 months ago
This was largely my take as well. Had a damaging childhood too. To anyone looking in, of course her behaviour doesn't look right but she has a screwy take on things because her family are toxic and fecked up her head. Hopefully therapy will help her individually as much as it does him and their little family.
Load More Replies... BK BigFish 3 months ago
THIS! All this talk of "black sheep", which is classic cult behavior - cutting off offenders and isolating cult members. On top of that, she was raised in the cult. It will take years to deprogram her. Choosing her husband/child/other black sheep/society/reality is the first step....
Load More Replies... Tabitha 4 months ago
Who TF thinks cyberbullying someone is like a “rite of passage” to join the family, ffs? They put OP through absolute HELL for weeks, and weren’t going to stop until the wife told them to. Obviously the supposed “black sheep” of the family are just the members who are decent human beings and won’t join in or put up with the b******t the rest of the family’s nasty a******s do. Time for OP and wife to join the ranks of “black sheep”.
KrazyChiMama 4 months ago
As a black sheep in the family, I felt this one. Wife should have told OP as soon as she found out who was responsible for the bullying. You just don’t keep something from your spouse that is negatively affecting their business and mental health. Serious counseling is needed here for both wife and OP to move past this kind of betrayal.
Miss Ann Thrope 4 months ago
The only way through this is with therapy. Problem is, he divorces her, kid will have almost unlimited access to wife whacked family. He stays, he has some control.
Jonathan Setter 4 months ago
for me there could be no way forward without legal consequences. Hopefully there are cybercrime laws in their area and the wife can provide the evidence to prosecute. If not, then surely they can just outright sue them for what was done. If it was me, they would be paid back 2 fold for what they had done.
Beak Hookage 4 months ago (edited)
I've been the target of cyberbullying, more than once, and it is REALLY traumatic. In this case I personally think the wife was spineless rather than selfish and very intimidated by her evil family. I've got branches of my own family that really do not get along, and my attitude is "don't get involved, ever". So I never take sides in any of their stupid arguments. Though I should add that it's always just stupid arguments over politics and such. It's never gotten even half as bad as this. If it did, then I would do something about it if I could.
FreeTheUnicorn 4 months ago
She's not really sorry if when she asks what she can do, and is told give OP space, she doesn't even do that. If you respect someone, especially a partner, you respect what they ask for, and trust them to be adult enough to know what they need. This isn't checking in, it's once again ignoring his wishes and mental health because the situation isn't what she'd like. It's a pattern and no matter how this plays out, it will continue. No one should stay married to someone like that.
Paul C 4 months ago
My goodness, the OP has a very low bar if his wife is the most unselfish, decent, loving person he's met. Glad I don't have his life. The wife still doesn't get how badly she has behaved or how badly she allowed her family to behave, whilst she covered it up all in the name of "keeping the peace". She only confessed because her sister threatened to tell. She claims to choose her husband over her family (in the reddit update), but it's one of two gestures so far. Makes her family sound more like a cult than a family, which may be the biggest hurdle for them.
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