Hey Pandas, What Questions Do You Have About The LGBTQ+ People? (Closed)

You are right, gender is more of a mental thing, so it is different for everyone. Personally, as a enby, I always felt disconnected when I was in a group of girls when told that I was a girl. I didn't realize that it was because I am a trans enby until more recent, I just felt like an outsider. Also, I know not every trans person has gender dysphoria, but for me, when I looked in the mirror, is wasn't that I didn't see my reflection as pretty, I saw a stranger, a girl, and knew it wasn't right.

I personally have days that I feel pretty in touch with my biological body. And then other days that I feel certain parts are wrong and missing or I shouldn't have them. I don't really know how to explain it, other than that sometimes the shirt fits perfectly and other times you can't get it to fit right,

Gender is really just a social construct, those of us who are under the nonbinary umbrella often are just as confused as you, but it's really just a form of expression, if you really think about it what does someone's gender actually tell you about them? It says nothing. Many people who are gender fluid switch in a way between gender identities, which can in turn change how they are expressing themselves, but it doesn't change them. They themselves are still the same, but the way they identify themselves is different. It's very confusing and i don't know all of it, but at the end of the day it's just how you express yourself and a label assigned to/chosen by you by the intricacies of society.

I'd like to make an important point here that hasn't been covered: not everyone feels that connection to a gender. From a rough count in a thread on this topic (so, small AND biased), about 50% of the people commenting felt a noticable connection and 50% felt nothing at all. Sometimes it was strong, sometimes less so. People who are non-binary may identify as such because they feel connected to "non-gender" or they may identify as such because they feel no connection. Plenty of people who identify as cis (aka non-trans) feel no connection and just are content to go along with their birth gender. If you're one of the people who doesn't understand what trans feels like or believes gender is a social construct, it may be because you're in that 50% that doesn't feel it - and if you're trans, I suspect that means you DO feel it, and strongly, but for the gender you weren't born as.

I can answer the question "How do come to realize that the gender you are born with isn't who you are?" We aren't born with gender. Gender is entirely a social construct. Which means that the things that we associate with gender are entirely made up. Did you know that pink used to be considered manly for boys because it's like the colour of blood, while blue was considered girly because it's calm and peaceful like a clear blue sky?

Maybe the staff does it, or maybe it happens automatically when a certain keyword, namely LGBTQ+, is in the post title?

YES I NEED TO KNOW

I feel like they add it

Bisexual means attracted to multiple genders(not necessarily just two) and can sometimes have a preference. Pansexual means attracted to all genders. This means there is some overlap. For example, I identify as bi while my sister is pan but we both like all genders.

Hi! First off, great question! Second off, this is going to be long, so I'm splitting it into multiple comments. I encourage you to read them all to really understand. Now, to start off, I’d like to explain the different Multisexual spectrum identities (otherwise known as M Spec identities for short) The four I'm aware of are Bisexual, Pansexual, Polysexual, and Omnisexual. The simplest definition of each are as follows. Bi people are attracted to 2 or more genders. Poly people (not to be confused with polyamorous relationships!) are attracted to 3 or more genders, but not all. Pan and Omni people are attracted to ALL genders with the main difference between the two being that Omni people tend to have a preference for one gender or the other, where pan people tend to experience their attraction to genders equally.

Typically, pansexual is being attracted to all genders with no preference and bisexual is being attracted to two or more genders, but you can be attracted to all genders with no preference and still be bi. It's a matter of what labels your comfortable with. Bisexual isn't a strict label, and a lot of people try to make it into one, but it's not just two genders, and it's not just binary genders either.

the main distinction between the two is that bisexuals usually have gender playing a role in attraction most pansexual people don't have a gender preference and are "gender blind" (aka gender plays no role in attraction) (example of pansexual: I like people with dark hair) (example of bisexual: I like girls with dark hair and I like boys with light hair)

I'm pan and I can tell you that the distinction for me is that there is not really a kind of adult person I have not been attracted to. It doesn't mean I'm attracted to everyone I meet (no one is). But it means that I've met men, women, trans men and trans women, nonbinary, and I've been attracted to people who fit any of those categories.

Female. It’s like calling yourself the opposite sex. I mean, unless it’s intentional, and you understand what your saying, but yes, I believe many other people including me have struggled w/ this. So they identify as female. Say they were born as male. Their birth sex. Years later, they identify as transgender. They wouldn’t call themselves ‘male’ if they identify Ed other wise. ( post continues in replies.)

They would say their current identity, with trans as the modifier, meaning just that their identity differs from what was assigned to the person by others at birth/childhood etc. What they were assigned at birth may vary, intersex people for example are often assigned a binary male or female gender.

Trans [gender] means that you are the gender that comes after the trans part, so trans woman would be born a male but identifies as woman :)

Ok I actually had this same problem for so long. Like something in my brain would just not click and for the life of me I could not figure it out which is really weird bc it makes so much sense to me. Trans is an adjective. You are describing the person. It’s not very different from saying blonde woman. Like it only clicked when I truly started identify with a label in the LGBTQ, and one that fit me more than previous ones. But like this would just not click for me. But to answer the question, FtM (female (at birth) to male) trans person in a trans male, a MtF (male (at birth) to female) trans person in a trans woman. Whatever gender they identify with, if it does not coincide with the one assigned at birth, is what comes after trans

a trans woman is someone who currently is a woman, in most cases they would have been assigned male at birth. some cases are different, for example someone can be born intersex and be a trans woman

Yeah, definitely. They/them can be used for anyone you don't know the gender of. Also, I think most people won't mind you asking for pronouns

We should come up with a non gender singular pronoun. Fine by me if people wanna be called they/them, but would be nice to have an option. I usually ask if I think it's appropriate. Better to ask than offend imo. I asked a dishwasher at my work what their preferred pronouns were because I thought they were very androgynous looking. He thanked me for asking because everyone was referring to him as she/her. My coworkers actually thought they were doing the right thing. Thinking he was trans mtf. Also the name Charlie threw people off. When I would correct them they thought I was being the typical cis-gender male(I'm not).

Most of us won't be offended if you ask. Anything is better than being misgendered!

i'd say use they/them if youre not sure of pronouns unless you've been explicitly told not to use they/them from that individual.

I use they/them as a default pronouns cause idk if your non-binary or female or male, so I think so, but make sure you ask for the pronouns when you can

I chose the name cause I said it in my head and my brain was like "OOOOOOO"

I didn't technically change my name but I prefer to be called by one of my nicknames because I felt it was more gender neutral, but was still connected to the name my parents gave me, and had a funny origin story

I found my name by chance. My parents and I all have the same set of initials. I looked at names with the same initial as my first name. I wasn't sure on any of the options I had found. I put the ones I liked best in a poll and asked my friends for their input. One of my friends told me they were all good choices but what about “name”. As soon as I saw that name I knew it was mine; it felt like my name. Finding a middle name was easier; I didn't. I like my middle name so I kept it the same.

Loki is a genderfluid entity, the name sounds very gender neutral and I once wrote a research paper on the cultural significance of Loki as a trickster God and people started referring to me as "Loki" because of that

I chose Jay bc I was hyper fixated on birds and loved blue Jays