What hobby is an immediate red flag?
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3. Anything that involves harm or hurt to animals and/or their habitat.
Gun enthusiast. I have no problem with responsible gun owners, but if you openly carry a gun everywhere you go, I'm running.
Excessive involvement in social media.
I don't mean using social media in general, I mean excessive use. Like, when someone's life exists only on and around social media and they spend an unhealthy amount on them and spend their time on what their social media image looks like.
And it’s severely affecting people’s “mental health”, especially teenagers
There was this guy who had an entire, HUGE room in his house that was filled to the brim with rows of shelves and cupboards. And upon these shelves there were apparently what seemed like thousands of anime girl statues, glass jars filled with precisely different shades of colorful Lego bricks, and some big bags just lying around stuffed with stuff-I-don’t-know-and-doesn’t-want-to-know-either. The Lego bricks were kinda neat though, but the red flag was that he literally hoarded cats, hamsters and bunnies. These poor animals were just running around, wrecking havoc and leaving poo everywhere and not being cared properly, and he absolutely ignored like it was nothing. It was really damn absurd. The hygiene levels in that house was horrible, he was cruel to his pets, but he managed to keep that room with shelves always in top condition. I heard he later got reported by a neighbor because of animal abuse and hoarding pets he probably had no intention of caring for. (No offense to the people collecting stuff out there, that’s nice. Hoarding pets is not.)
The animals is where I'd draw the line there. Collections (of whatever sort, so long as they aren't say... a wall full of drivers licenses that don't belong to the collector!) aren't a bad thing.
Hunting. Killing animals for sport is disgusting.
Killing animals for entertainment is something I'll never understand. There are some super rich guys organizing periodic huntings in the Carpathians. They explained that this was how they "get together". Every year there are hundreds of wild boars killed (and no, the number of boars is not excessive). Following strong criticism, they decided to move it somewhere else and make it very private.
uhh,, killing people?/j
In all reality, I kinda think that non-stop arguing with people online is a no-go.
Sports Betting. The occasional bet is fine or even a low-key weekly pool, but when they start betting if a team is going to walk counterclockwise under a full moon while wearing away jerseys, that's not a hobby, it's an addiction.
That was... really specific? I don't even understand most sports, or why people bet on them
Taxidermy. "I kill them, then I stuff them and then I put them on a shelf in funny little poses"
Collecting flags of communist countries.
Any sign of supporting communism. I lived in the last, darkest years of communism in my country. There was hunger and cold and humiliation, and FEAR. I was taught to distrust people (anyone could be a secret police agent) and never tell anyone that my parents were listening to Radio Free Europe (which was illegal). Minor offense (such as making a joke about the dictator) could get you and your family arrested, tortured and jailed by the secret police.
For me, a lack of hobbies or interests is a huge red flag. It can be an indicator of someone who has a chameleon personality, meaning the morph into the perfect partner by taking in the personality of their latest source.
Being in the top 1% at boredpanda ;)
I've only been on bored panda about a month and I don't actually understand what the points are all about can anyone explain.
I used to have a friend who would collect the underwear of the girls he slept with. We were drinking one night and he told us it was like trophy hunting.
Being “quirky” where you diagnose yourself with every disorder that’s ever existed
Yes. I also get annoyed by people who have never been to a doctor but tell people they have an anxiety disorder, or adhd, or any other disorder that truly affects people. And they say it because they think they are special in some way and don't realize that everyone experiences anxiety and it isn't unusual to experience depression and a lack of focus occasionally throughout your life. But saying you have these conditions/diseases as a blanket statement with no diagnosis ends up watering down the seriousness that people take it when someone who really does have a condition says it. Anxiety conditions are crippling and embarrassing and life-threatening in some cases and because so many people say they 'have bad anxiety' people now are almost afraid to say it because they know they're going to get an eyeroll from others.
Making household items out of humans? Big red flag, Ed Gein!
Doll collecting. I'm not talking antiques. I love antiques and we own quite a few porcelain dolls. I'm talking I walked into a guy's house and he had shelves upon shelves of every single doll possible. Porcelain, barbie, baby, cabbage patch, you name it.
It wouldn't have creeped me out so much but they were placed around like trophies and he was super defensive of them when I asked. I gestured to ask if I could pick one up and he said "I'd rather you didn't."
He seemed like a super nice guy, but all I could think about was those crime shows where a guy kills some kid and keeps a toy as a momento.
"Do you like my knife collection? These ones over here are for skinning carcasses....."
I just started dating this guy years ago. He came to pick me up for work. This was the first time I had been in his truck. I opened the door and there was an open beer in the cup holder. I should have said,"No thanks." and got a ride with a coworker. We continue dating and I start noticing he has a drinking problem. I overlook it because I thought it was the one. One day, he explains to me what is to happen should we get pulled over. I "admit" the open container belongs to me. I would never drink in a vehicle so I was perplexed as how I would convince an officer I had been drinking all the while breathing a 0.00 into a breathalyzer.
Having an open beverage container in a moving car is federally illegal, and the driver bears sole responsibility; full stop. Cops make an exception for non alcoholic beverages, but even that is technically against the law. For an open beer, it doesn't matter at all if someone other than the driver claims it's theirs, having it open in the car would result in a suspension of the driver's license. Drinking while driving and conspiring to have you lie to the police to protect them are NOT merely red flags, they are total disqualifiers. Getting in that truck was a stupid, stupid, stupid mistake. Thank you for sharing your mistake so others can learn from it.
Clubbing. I personally couldn’t date someone who goes clubbing.
Watching TV nonstop.
To clarify, I mean when this is literally all someone does in their spare time. I'm all for binge watching a show now and then but TV and nothing but TV is kind of sad.
Being a furry
Habitually smoking cigarettes or cigars, especially around non-smokers.
Someone who collects flags is probably going to have an immediate red flag somewhere.
i have bad problem of eating the skin in my mouth
Do you also have skin picking disorder? If so, please see a specialist and a therapist (it typically is a stress-related disorder).
Collecting coca-cola stuff. it can fill houses, is never ending and it's ugly merchandise too
Anyone who can go into a long discussion about WW2. Not wars in general, the causes of, the political impact, or even the military machines etc. Just inexplicably "World War 2" as an overall topic that usually ends with them saying Hitler was right.
1. Eating as a hobby 2. Shooting, any fascination with weaponry, military.
I havea fascination with weaponry, technologies of any kind( Even Military), and martial arts. I want to learn martial arts once I can earn enough. And I would like to learn forging, etc. and make myself some weapons. Would I be a red flag too?
People who say sorry all the time when it's not sincere.they just use as a excuse for bad behavior.
1. Dicing (as we call it here) / Drift-racing. It means you are either toxic masc or low income or both. 2. Drinking as a hobby, like that's what you do in your spare time. 3. Smoking pot. You're welcome to do it but I won't date you because you'll just be argumentative and argue in circles, and have red eyes most of the time. Speaking from experience. 4. Watching TV as your main hobby. It means you are not able to do anything useful.
Not sure I agree with some of these. Not all spare time has to be sent doing something 'useful'. If someone wants to watch TV or drink on their own time I dont think we should be saying its a red flag because it isn't productive.
