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Hey Pandas, If You Are Trans, What Tips Do You Have For Other Trans Pandas? (Closed)
I'm a trans guy (he/they pronouns, please), and I am curious, what can I learn from fellow transgender people?
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A tip: Using makeup helps you look more masculine or feminine (however you want). there are lots of good tutorials online on how to do that and it is really helpful. It is good especially if you aren't on hormones or you aren't out.
second tip: Not really a tip but trans people, you are fantastic! You are so worthy of love. Even if the world feels hard sometimes with all of the anti-LGBTQ laws and stuff, you will make it through. Have a bit of self-care time. You can do whatever makes you happy
I'm not trans but my adoptive mother is. She had the surgery almost 50 years ago through the UW. It was a experience that she has always felt blessed for. She is the most maternal person that any daughter could ask for. The one thing that she is most afraid of, even to this day at 75, is being found out. I've asked her if she would ever become an advocate for the trans community. But that fear still lingers. My advice is to live the fullest life that you deserve. I am so proud of all of you.
your mom is awesome!! i wish you + ur mom the best <33 thank you
your gender expression does not have to match your gender identity! im agender, so I don't quite understand the feeling of dysphoria, but from knowing trans and non-binary people who do feel dysphoric at times, ive found that many of them force themselves to dress or act a certain way in order to validate their gender identity, even though their behavior wasn't natural to them. just be yourself and express yourself however you see fit!!
also! if you are closeted because of a transphobic family, i want you to know that haircuts are pretty much all gender neutral. i have so many cisgender male friends with long, luscious hair and just as many cis female friends with buzz cuts and other short haircuts. just know that in a couple years you will be away from your oppressive environment and you can do whatever you want with your hair then, but for now you should embrace the amazing and beautiful thing that is your haircut.
I’m not trans, but my 15 year old nephew is and if I could tell all the other young trans people like him out there one thing, it would be to move at the pace that’s comfortable for you. Don’t worry if you don’t have it all figured out right away, and don’t let outside pressures dictate the speed/extent/public visibility of your transition or life path. Be you. At every stage. Wear what you wanna wear, look how you wanna look, and love who you wanna love. It’s your body and your life, and no matter what, you ARE worthy of love, friendship, validation, and being taken seriously. So shine.
Don't let others tell you how to transition. Go with what feels comfortable to you. Just want to take hormones, good for you. Want the surgeries, go for it. When I started on my journey I had a trans friend tell me his way was the only way. Needless to say I did not listen to him and cut of communication with him and transitioned the way that worked for me.
