Folks Online Reveal 24 Things That Most Are Probably Not Ready To Hear

Agree. Organized religion is a scourge on humanity.

thing is they use religion (which is a taboo people can't say no to) to justify bigotery homophobia transphobia sexism ||| if god was a homophobic racist transphobic misogynistic d**k I'd have overthroned him long time

AMEN!!!! The family I love does not share one drop of blood with me, while the family I was born into has used and abused me. Not anymore. Stick a fork in me, I am done.

I love my hubby above all else, but *I* come first above him. If I'm not in a good place I can't support him. The rest of the hierarchy is flexible, and would have changed if we'd had kids.

Yes. My husband comes before my mum and I absolutely expect my husband to put me before his family BUT we have mutual respect for each that means I don't demand or expect this when I can see that its important to my husband. For egample, early on our relationship his mum was playing some power games. I expected my husband to support me and put his foot down - which he did. This was piviotal to developing a respectful relationship with my mother in law. Years later, and now mother in law has dementia and husband spends a lot of time caring for her. While I know that if I need hubby to put me first, he absolutely will- I wont ask it of him because he needs to be there for them and I need to be there for him.

Real life is messy, and marriage is a partnership, not a locked ward. There's a kernel of truth in this, especially when one's young, but there are going to be times over the years when yes, others will take precedence for a time. And that's okay.

heheh. "AITA" people usually need to understand this.

I think it depends on the situation and the person?

Unless they an *ss

Your spouse should come first, above parents and even kids, because this is the person you are supposed to spend your life with.

Yuuuup. You can have a life that's full of friends, family, etc. but everyone needs to understand that your spouse is your priority.

If you love someone, that person comes first. Marriage has nothing to do with it.

I was a caregiver for my father when he was dying. I dealt with both the pain of watching Dad slowly decline and the complete lack of support-and outright jealousy-from the man I was married to at the time. Sometimes putting your partner first means recognizing that THEY need to put a parent first for a time. Dad died less than 18 months after his diagnosis. My ex-husband had already had an affair before Dad was diagnosed. I tried to work through that, but the total lack of compassion when I was facing so much pain was the final blow to that marriage. I consider it a very difficult but important lesson learned. It’s so much better today. I can communicate my needs and set clear boundaries, and I am happily married to someone who loves and respects me.

Kids come first, then you, then your partner. You need to be your own person, not their person. That goes for the husband and wife. Your parents don't make the equation. I have kids, and i sure as s**t don't want them thinking about my dumb opinion when/if they have their own families.

If all of the people involved are in a fairly healthy place, there should never be a choice. Each person, in one's life, holds a separate position of value. If there has to be a choice made between one's spouse and one's parent, there is something inherently wrong with the marriage.

Yourself comes first. And then your kids. And then your partner.

F**k that

Absolutely!

Then you have kids and put the kids first over your spouse. You can divorce your spouse, but not your kid.

If you want well-adjusted children, your partner comes first.

Once you get married, your *relationship* (mutual) comes first.

What's the point?

Nah I disagree with this. Parents and partners have different roles in a persons life. so trying to put one on top of the other is wrong since they are not comperable. Also everybody lives a differnt life. one can have amazing parents but a bad partner or they can have an amazing partner but bad parents.

I'm amazed at the number of people who start giving all kinds of scenarios about their spousal status. This post is perfectly clear. When you have a spouse, your spouse comes before anyone else. We're not talking abuse, family sickness, or any of those issues. We're talking straight to the fact that some people will put their parents, or someone else, before their spouse, which is wrong.

I don't agree with this. I will always be my first person, my favourite human and strongest love is to myself. But also if you're a pushover where your family will walk all over your partner/husband/children do everyone a favour and don't start relationships. Your first responsibility in this world is to love yourself and take care of yourself. Then comes your partner and together you're strong to take the children. Life happens and sometimes our parents/children/partner need to come first but this usually is temporary and our parents have each other to rely on, and will understand that we now have our own immediate family that must come ahead of everyone else, except me. If you're unhealthy, stressed and putting everyone ahead of yourself, you will end up unhappy alone and probably walked all over. "no good deed goes unpunished" love yourself so you can spread your love to your closest humans/animals.

Until the little ones come... then they are first...

Get a dog.

Just because your "smart" doesn't mean you are a "good anything. I know many educated idiots with minimal life skills and deficient personalities.

This at least rings true for the hospital I work at. We were already having problems with staffing before Covid hit. Now administration is just using Covid as an excuse to not admit they ran the place into the ground.

I agree with abortion considering there are other concerns out there plus without it people could die from miscarriage or the fetus is sick. If men can be shirtless why tf can’t others, idc. The ones who care also grew up with hatred for groups of people. I agree with the Internet thing (for video games, you should restrict chat usage). True about the Asian fetishization. Neither of them are amazing politicians, but one’s pro/cons outweigh the other. Gender shouldn’t be in clothing. BLM is NOT an evil corporation (I know people who think this). Discriminating another minority in general is wrong. And I love both animals equally but when I’m able to I want a cat

Agree. I am much more diligent about how we talk about others than about the types of words we use.

Money buys the time and space needed to think beyond survival. It won't actually buy contentment. You still have to figure out what that is for you.

if when you tell who you are your father commits you, if when you don't do what he likes he beats you, if you don't think what he want he burns you ; you SHOULD be dishonest and not show yourself as who you are ; it's not freedom of speech "you can tell me anything but if you do......." you can't I can't you SHOULDN'T be honest in front of someone who is stronger than you ; who has the power the means AND the will to hurt you..

Let's not forget about how the majority of sex traffickers in the US are black men.. and the majority of people being trafficked are black women.. but apparently black ppl enslaving other black ppl is excusable? Yet we blame the white men who purchase these women (not excusing them. They're POS too and should absolutely be prosecuted) more than we blame the actual ppl doing the pimping, exploiting, beating, debugging, kid napping etc. ppl just love to ignore the black on black violence in this country n then they'll make excuses and say "white ppl love to bring up black on black violence" and make it some race issue that is some conspiracy made up by white folks to make black ppl look bad. When in reality it's something that is not talked about enough. N to be clear.. I am a bi sexual Afro Cuban Italian woman.. I have experienced a whole lot of discrimination in my life.. so I'm not speaking out of my ass on this. I'm just sick of seeing women n children being trafficked.

One of the advantages of living in larger towns & cities is that most people do tend to mind their own business. It's not deliberate. We're all just going about our lives in a busy place and usually don't intersect. Some people find it alienating, I've always found it comfortable.

Who can blame them

Starbucks is overrated.

This is very black and white and lacks understanding of the depth and diversity of people and relationships.

Like those parents we saw on the Halloween videos taking all the candy while their kids tell them to only take one, they're the parents that tell their children that other people are bad and they only do bad things bc if they don't others will.

I don't know, never read Lord of the Rings.

This will pass as one matures past one’s overwhelming mating instincts.

The women who do it on social media expressly for likes and use language like yes queen, you go girl might very well be toxic. But women supporting women and genuinely investing time and energy (beyond a vapid social media comment) are absolutely not. I have been blessed by knowing some amazing women who have supported, encouraged and mentored me over the years and they have been some of the most rewarding relationships I have had. I think the differentiating factor is.... are you doing because you genuinely care about the women or are you in it for attention or likes. Because one of these does not look like the other.

Up to a certain salary point that's true. But consistent studies have shown that beyond a certain figure, the money stops being enough. You spend between 66-75% of your adult life working (taking the average working week of 40 hours and working between the ages of 18 and 69). That's a very long time to be masochistic enough to *hate* your job. I'd say ditch "career" and find well paying jobs you can switch between. Who cares if your CV says "Manager, DJ, Teacher, Dog Walker, Accountant".