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There are times when words hurt more than actions do. Especially so if they come from the mouth of someone you thought you were close with. Bonus points if the addressee doesn't quite * get * why their words were hurtful. Mix these three things—hurtful words coming from your loved one without them being aware of being an a-hole—and you get the perfect combination to mess with someone's self-esteem.

When one young woman asked people on Twitter "what are things a guy has said to you that he has no idea severely hurt your feelings?" dozens of people delivered. While we're not saying that only guys say offensive things, this list is precisely about that—30 people sharing the times that a man has hurt their feelings without being aware of it. So scroll down to see the full list and tell us in the comments below whether * you * have ever been offended by a guy who thought he was just being honest!

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#1

sheyxpeare Report

Iggy
Community Member
5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hope you dumped that gobshite.

Colin L
Community Member
5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I so rarely hear the term gobshite... uncommon in the US, but I'm going to adopt it now.

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elfin
Community Member
Premium
5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The "poor guy" is feeling something between entitled and serial killer.

Rebekah
Community Member
5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Red flag flying high on this one.

Pseudo Puppy
Community Member
5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hope you ran away from BOTH of them!

Raine Soo
Community Member
5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I once told a male friend that a male classmate was trying to make the moves on me. I subtly told the classmate that I was not interested. The friend said: "Oh, the poor guy." Apparently, guys are bros when it come to this type of commiseration.

Hello it Smee
Community Member
5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

BIG RED FLAG he's not the one for you.

Living_Shadow
Community Member
5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well this guy didn't give a s**t abt his gf. He's not worth giving a s**t about himself

Colin L
Community Member
5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My wife was stalked for years and still has nightmares about the guy. The only real question is *why* is he still breathing.

Bob Connely
Community Member
5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So, do I give this an "upvote" - I don't wanna appear as though I'm condoning the asshat's behavior...

weatherwitch
Community Member
5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sadly as a female who doesn't relate very well with situations it's the sort of thing I'd say first before the seriousness of the situation dawned on me 😕

Lyop
Community Member
5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In Nigerian context, I will ask: Are you well??!

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    #5

    SoapHeadass Report

    Ryo Bakura
    Community Member
    5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Baby, talking to you is like taking out the trash. Or cutting the grass. Or cleaning my dirty plates."

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    #6

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    Prince Maroochy
    Community Member
    5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I would've said, "Well, that's because you are."

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    #8

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    #9

    pastryarm Report

    Ryo Bakura
    Community Member
    5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hope you burned the bridge that was between you. Along with the rest of his stuff.

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    #10

    mutablemama Report

    Marcellus the Third
    Community Member
    5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Probably not the sharpest crayon in the bag you chose there?

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    #11

    maybemaeve Report

    Emma B
    Community Member
    5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Thanks bro" LMFAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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    #12

    maggieeashIeyy Report

    Emma B
    Community Member
    5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "ED" in this case means Eating Disorder. (Not Erectile Dysfunction)

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    #13

    AreBurgers Report

    CelSlade
    Community Member
    5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How childish and insensitive of her. You deserve better.

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    #14

    natcmau Report

    hobbitly
    Community Member
    5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There is no such thing as 'too much garlic' <3 GARLIC

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    #15

    eleanorgolson Report

    elfin
    Community Member
    Premium
    5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Perhaps he'd enjoy a lovely bouquet of poison ivy.

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    #20

    Suurrahhh Report

    Daniel da Silva
    Community Member
    5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Point to his penis and say "you're a large? really? are you... sure?"

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    kristennevanns Report

    Ryo Bakura
    Community Member
    5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And then you kicked him in the nuts, right?

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    #23

    franmascookies Report

    Ryo Bakura
    Community Member
    5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What's wrong with both? Having a scholar for a girlfriend would be awesome. Sitting by the fire, drinking cognac, discussing why Freud made everything about Penis Envy, and how much acid Piet Mondrian must have dropped when he started with his grid-based paintings.

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    #25

    Marleeejeann Report

    Ryo Bakura
    Community Member
    5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That guy was one of those things that women are getting unsolicited pics of.

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    #26

    Misbah20911049 Report

    CelSlade
    Community Member
    5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    At least you learnt from it - I did and said some s****y things in my past, but I learnt from them and try to not repeat the mistakes.

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    jellyvernon Report

    Felicia Dale
    Community Member
    5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is why it's important to know people's "love languages." He may not be ok with telling you you're pretty but if he's expressing his love for you in other ways (being faithful, telling the truth kindly, buying you treats, doing chores, etc.) then he may still love you very, very much. But people can learn to express themselves in new ways when they need to, or if they want to.

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    #28

    peytonnns Report

    Joonscrab
    Community Member
    5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hey... At least he was polite about the rejection ? Idk, maybe he just didn't wanna say he didn't like you right to your face.

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    #29

    rkellysucks Report