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From popular culture, we all remember very well that there are various sets of unofficial and sometimes unwritten rules for different communities of people and various occasions. Let's remember, for example, Barney Stinson from How I Met Your Mother with his bro code or those strict Fight Club rules (okay, okay, let's not tell anyone about Fight Club...)

But in any case, such codes most likely exist in real life. An example of making such a list is, let's say, a recent compilation in the AskWomen community, where the topic starter simply asked: "What girl code do you stick by?"

#1

25 Unspoken “Girl Code” Rules Women Secretly Follow On A Day-To-Day Basis, As Shared Online 1. Always give a girl in need a tampon, even if she’s your worst enemy 2. If she’s uncomfortable or seems creeped out by a guy, pretend you know her 3. Let her know if she has lipstick in her teeth

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That Goth Demon (zey/zem)
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2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

YAS! especially number two, couldn't be any better!!!!!

AceIsStrange (He/They/Zem)
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2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm a trans male and i even STILL do this! Also love your username <33

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Brenda
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2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I still carry a few tampons in my purse in case someone has an emergency, & I haven't needed them for almost 7 years. Just a habit.

Cthulhu Kitty
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2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Also let them know if skirt is tucked into tights or the like

Tyranamar Seuss
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2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was at AAA (car insurance place). I had a gusher. Tampon machine in bathroom was out. I told the woman at the front desk. She said "I don't think we've had those for years." I asked her for a pad or tampon. She said she didn't have one. No offer to go find one. No offer to talk to management about stocking the machines. Nothing, just a bland not my problem look. I was quite incensed.

BeepBoop is Lonely (she/they)
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2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

that's so weird. I'm always the person rushing around trying to find a pad or tampon for someone else if I strangely don't have one

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ERIKA H.
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2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I discretely let a girl know she had lipstick on her teeth at a holiday party and she was super b****y to me about it. Like sorry?

BeepBoop is Lonely (she/they)
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2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

ew was she drinking or something? I don't even wear lipstick but I would be so embarrassed if I was walking around with something on my teeth

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BoredDisneyPrincess
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2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I once saw this post about a trans-woman who carries tampons in her purse, not because she needs them, but in case someone else needs them. I think about it quite often and it makes me happy.

WiggleJiggle (they/them)
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2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’m AMAB, and currently demigirl so I don’t anything about 1 and 3, but number two I know is very important!

Bisexual Axolotls
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2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I agree with all of these except #1, but there's only one person I wouldn't help (for good reason, the s**t she did made me want to kill myself for a good few months and no one I know seems to care enough to not be friends with her)

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    #2

    25 Unspoken “Girl Code” Rules Women Secretly Follow On A Day-To-Day Basis, As Shared Online If I see a woman crying in the bathroom or whatever, I ask if they're OK. I always tell a woman I love her hair/ boots/ purse if I love it. I always let other women know if a stall is out of toilet paper before they go in.

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    That Goth Demon (zey/zem)
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I would do the first one even tho I'm an introvert. Some sort of instinct kicks in to help a person in need 🤔🤔🤔

    over it already
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My middle child (13f) is so shy she won't speak up for herself to the point it worries me. But I have noticed that she consistently speaks up for and (quietly) speaks to others when they are in need. I am so thankful for that good-hearted instinct. Can't convince her that her needs are important enough, but I can use it to illustrate that she already has the advocacy skills and that is something to start with.

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    Shark Lady
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm a goth so I'm used to dirty looks and snide comments, an older lady probably in her 80s came up to me and said how much she liked my cloak and skirt and wished she had the confidence to wear something similar. I obviously told her to go for it, but for the rest of the week I felt 10 feet tall .

    BeepBoop is Lonely (she/they)
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    At homecoming, I was hanging out in the bathroom waiting for my friend to finish (we agreed to not leave each other alone so we wouldn't awkwardly be standing not talking to anyone) and another girl came in crying. My first instinct was to talk to her and ask her if she was okay and what happened etc. I don't remember what she said but she ended up stopping crying and we had a huge hug. I don't even know her name, I haven't seen her since then. I hope she's okay, and I think about how I spoke up and calmed her down despite how horrible my anxiety was throughout that night. I'm proud of myself for that

    VikingAbroad
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If the toilet roll is empty, stand it between the lid and the seat. That way no-one will go in unknowing.

    Niamh Gallagher Kerr
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I always do 1 which does make my husband laugh at what he calls my mother instinct. I suffer from dry eyes which occasionally tear up, I did have someone come up and ask if I was OK as all she seen was me wiping tears when on the train. Although I didn't need it I was very grateful she did.

    Mimi M
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Definite on all. Except I don't ask 'are you okay?' - ettiquette teaches people just to answer 'I'm fine'. Instead I ask 'what's going on?'. That's more of an invite to actually share, if they feel like it.

    Diolla
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OP is a better person than I am

    Astrius
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wish men did that. Here, no one cares.

    Katie A.
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just yesterday, I stopped on a long drive because I HAD to use the bathroom. Women's was out, so I called out as I opened the men's room, "Is anyone here?" and proceeded to use it, because emergency. Some guy came in and said, sorry, I HAVE to use it, and he said oh ok, no problem. He then proceeded to stand outside and stand guard while I and his wife used the facilities. I told her don't open the first stall, and it's super slippery in this one. Look out for each other; it's good karma, and being a good human.

    Nikki D
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As Carty as we can be, when it comes down to it we are all sisters.

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    #3

    25 Unspoken “Girl Code” Rules Women Secretly Follow On A Day-To-Day Basis, As Shared Online I do free legal work for DV victims.

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    That Goth Demon (zey/zem)
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    😮😮😮 Keep up the great work!!!!!!!!! 👍👍👍🖤🖤🖤

    Peppy
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This should be number one, surely.

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    zak
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm assuming that DV is "domestic violence", please correct me if I'm wrong. Thank you for your services 🩷

    detective miller's hat
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My boss does this as well. And often seriously undercharges former SAHM's who are going through a divorce after their soon to be ex just walked out and left them with nothing but the kids and the bills.

    Mental Liberals
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Like take out the loser!!! No, not on a date!!

    DarkViolet
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You are a godsend to DV victims everywhere.

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    "'Girl code' is the rules of being a woman, especially with regards to dating," the BBC website quotes Ellen Scott, Metro's Lifestyle Editor. "It's stuff like: you can't date your friend's ex, you also can't date your ex's friend. If you saw your friend's boyfriend cheating on them - you'd have to tell your friend. It's basically just that your loyalty is always with other women - that's what 'girl code' is supposed to be."

    However, many people believe that in fact the 'girl code' goes far beyond relationships, and generally concerns the sphere of women's communication and interaction with each other and, importantly, their attitude toward themselves. At the very least, most of the opinions of women in our selection relate to a way wider area than love and relationships.

    #4

    25 Unspoken “Girl Code” Rules Women Secretly Follow On A Day-To-Day Basis, As Shared Online If she has put extra effort into her hair/clothes/makeup, I will stop to give a compliment. It takes 5 seconds to make someone's day that much better. And I always feel good when it happens to me. Women's compliments are less creepy than men's.

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    Ginger Ghost
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    i kinda get it is less creepy cus there's no hidden intentions but as a guy I don't give many complaints to not be called a creep

    zak
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It just depends on the complement, really. Something said tactfully and without any innuendo is usually fine, and I try to only complement things that are choices (clothes/makeup/hair/jewelry/etc) and never a body part (with the only exception maybe being eyes/irises).

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    Lex Sandberg
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Everytime I see someone with something I like I compliment them. One time it was the color of their hair, another time it was a skirt or jacket, another their makeup. The last time was 3 older ladies at a restaurant. It was nothing special about them I just loved their attitude and going out to a restaurant togheter no matter what relationship they had with eachother, treating themselves. I just said I loved their attitude and that they all looked amazing. You should have seen their smile.

    Apatheist Account2
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What if they are from lesbians? Is that creepy?

    Stephanie Did It
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Straight woman here. No it is not creepy. A compliment is always appreciated, from her or from me, and we all need to give and receive them!

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    CD Mills
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I like to see people smile so I compliment other ladies' hair/clothes/shoes/purse. There is always something nice to be said. I've discovered a trend though, if it's something I really love, it was purchased six states away and they don't sell them here. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

    Jan Davis
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I like getting non creepy compliments from men. They don’t give them much anymore, though. We’re too “advanced” now. And they’re afraid women will think they’re creepy.

    bob cameron
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Thank you . I am getting on 80 so I doubt my compliments are being taken as passes but I still hesitate to give them for fear of being misunderstood.

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    Lex Sandberg
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My bf was a bit embarrassed that I complimented random people when out shopping or on a walk or anything really, at first. Now he just becomes happy and laughs himself bcz he see how happy they become each time.

    §• Råinbow Påndå •§
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I told a girl I thought she was pretty and got the expected reactions. She was my bff of 12 years, I don’t have a crush on her

    Natasha
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I remember one time I had a really bad day and this girl came up to me and was like “I just want to know you are so beautiful! I just thought you should know!” It made my day and it wasn’t weird ❤️

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    AliJanx
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Appropriate way to compliment: you look nice! Inappropriate way to compliment: you look nice TODAY! Just sayin'

    Gina Babe
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I compliment people a lot. Usually quickly, "love that bag!" "Your ring is gorgeous" and keep it moving.

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    #5

    25 Unspoken “Girl Code” Rules Women Secretly Follow On A Day-To-Day Basis, As Shared Online Just like bros before h**s, chicks before d!cks. If some guy is doing her wrong, I'm telling her, I don't care if I've known him my whole life, its girl code.

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    zak
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's "human code" for me. I'm not covering for any friend who's cheating, or purposely not telling someone something, just because of our biological similarities or differences. It's not "boys vs girls", it's "good people vs shïtty people".

    CD Mills
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hey, could you clone yourself and send you all over the place? You need to rub elbows with lots of people that seem to have issues believing people 'unlike them' need to be punished for daring to be themselves.

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    Christina Hvurchilova
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yep, then she pretends you were not best friends since you were kids for some sorry d**k.

    Kathryn Baylis
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    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hell yeah. I’d appreciate it if someone I trust told me about it. Now, I’ve kept secrets that are good in the past—-stuff like he’s going to propose and showed me the ring, or he needs help planning a surprise birthday party for her. Stuff like that, which are good secrets to keep. Someone’s partner is cheating on them is not a good secret to keep. If your “friend” gets pissy at you for telling on them, they’re not your friend. Just tell them to f**k off, block their number, and go full no contact. They’re not worth your time if they’re the kind of rotten a*****e who thinks you’re going to help them keep their s****y secrets.

    Apps
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My stepdaughter told me that their friends can have d*ck appointments but they better not cancel plans with them for these "appointments". I was like what? She said that sometimes the squad has plans but then someone will get an "appointment" and that's OK, but after an hour for said appointment, they better be taking an Uber back to wherever the group is and continuing with the plans. Is this what young people are doing now?

    mSpencer
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I tried that. It backfired and I lost a dear buddy

    Irish woman abroad
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, me too... Well, not a really close friend, but still. But she deserved to know.

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    #6

    25 Unspoken “Girl Code” Rules Women Secretly Follow On A Day-To-Day Basis, As Shared Online In addition to other stuff mentioned, there's a mom code. You have a crying baby and your hands are full? Hand me the baby. Ran out of diapers and I have a spare? I'll give it to you. Need someone to talk to your 3yo for a minute while you change the baby? No problem, I'm right there. I'm instantly alert to the signs of a distressed parent in public & try to always offer help, even if it's just to play perk a boo with a crabby kid for a minute as a distraction.

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    That Goth Demon (zey/zem)
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I honestly never knew mums sometimes had senses like this! Guess I'm definitely not a mum!!!!! :3

    Brenda
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    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Was at the store last week and saw a lady with a baby & a toddler. Baby was being fussy, mom trying to soothe baby, toddler acting jealous. So I walked up and waved to toddler to distract her. Ended up playing with her for 5 or 6 minutes while mom took care of baby. After, she thanked me. I was just sitting on the floor playing peek-a-boo, no biggie to me, but it gave her a break. Said I remember those days and remember others helping me. Helped her out to her car and left. Cost me nothing, helped her, felt good.. Plus, hearing her toddler laugh melted my heart ❤️

    AliJanx
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And so much of what we can do doesn't involve touching. I do exaggerated winks, silly faces, whatever, on an airplane or grocery line. A lot of time it's enough to distract the funny baby for long enough to let the mom get stuff done.

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    madbakes
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm not a mom, but when I see these things I help as if I were. Except for the spare diaper of course.

    Noname
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    6 hour flight from Paris to Boston, my 9 mo infant slept the entire trip, but the toddler of the woman next to me wouldn't settle down, so we 3 played together to keep her toddler occupied for the entire trip.

    Amy Manning
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    One small adjustment here: I've never asked someone to hand me their baby--I ask them to hand me whatever else they're carrying so they can carry their baby unhindered. If they offer me the baby, you'd better believe I'm taking that little one, but that's mama's choice to make.

    Nicola Mawson
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A little girl was crying in the bathroom (mom with her but couldn't calm her down) I told her I liked her shoes and started joking about whether they would fit my feet. Worked like a charm

    Tyke
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And as a parent if you see a Mum or Dad whose kid is throwing an epic tantrum, usually slip in a "been there mate, don't worry, it'll be over soon".

    Zoey Rayne
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not a parent, but I always look out for kids. Little girl on an escalator leaning too far back and close to falling: put my hand on her back and gave her a nudge. Bored toddler at an airport: let her borrow my stuffed animal while chatting with her parents. 3 year old boy on a plane crying because his ears hurt: asked mom if I could give him some gummy candies to suck on (though that one was more self serving than the other examples). Man with a suitcase walking backwards down a few steps on a train: Warned him not to step on the 4 year old sitting there even though I was in a foreign country and not always confident speaking the language. 3 poorly attended brothers in a grocery stores jumping up to swat shelves: told them kindly to stop (Mom didn't appreciate it, but ffs the youngest was about to knock a glass jar of pasta sauce onto his head!)

    Old Roadie
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    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Last month, a month old baby squalling on my cross country train. Reluctant to interfere but finally said: Great-grandma here, may I suggest rubbing around her ears and jaw? Elevation change probably affected her ears, and they need to pop. Less than 20 seconds later, baby happy and peace reigned. We all need help sometimes, but always help the vulnerable.

    StrangeOne
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Mothers do not feel comfortable giving their baby to a stranger to hold. That seems to be the main go-to offer of help I see people give moms struggling with folding strollers on buses. Hardly anyone asks to help fold the stroller.

    K W
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not feeling comfortable handing over a baby is completely understandable but I wonder if sometimes the default is to ask to hold a baby because strollers, with the exception of those little ones, can be confusing to fold up and they're often all different for the release. I'm saying this as a mom whose mom friends all had different folding mechanisms. And as someone who has who has watched a few people be completely befuddled by my son's stroller.

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    In fact, people like to make various sets of unwritten rules and advice. Our entire society is based on such concepts. The thinkers of the Enlightenment a few centuries ago created the theory of the so-called 'social contract' - that almost everything in our world: the state, the economy, private property, and so on, is a product of consent between people. Based on this theory, the 'girl code' is such precisely because women follow similar rules.

    #7

    25 Unspoken “Girl Code” Rules Women Secretly Follow On A Day-To-Day Basis, As Shared Online Protect all women regardless of if I like them or not.

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    That Goth Demon (zey/zem)
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And men and non-binary people too, we all matter and have feelings and can be abused!

    Lana Lana Banana
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    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sawce, I'm gonna give you the benefit of the doubt and assume you're genuinely trying to educate yourself on what "zey/zem" means...cuz that's a sh*t-ton of downvotes. They are gender-neutral pronouns.

    C. S.
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's time to stop with the pronouns/binary or non-binary already! Can't a person just be their own person? I'm gonna address another human person as a member of my own human species, and if they have a problem with me addressing them as a GENDER they choose, instead of me addressing them as anything other than a fellow human, then I want no part of the gender-playing game. Much like the Race Card was common, I play the hands as they're dealt. Keep your race and gender cards in your hands, and meet me on your own terms.

    Boopy Cat
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So important for women to look out for each other!

    Jude Corrigan
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I dislike abusive women, what do I do then?

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    #8

    25 Unspoken “Girl Code” Rules Women Secretly Follow On A Day-To-Day Basis, As Shared Online If you see someone hating on themselves, like really being mean to themselves, be kind and lift her up. A kind sister, could change someone's life. May not be girl code, but there is something so amazing about hearing a woman older and wiser than you tell her that she is capable, amazing and some other compliment. Woman code: Help lift each other up. Don't compete.

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    Lana Lana Banana
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The love and support in this post. ❤️ Where are you people when I need you irl. How do we find each other.

    A B C the Third
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is not "girl code", this ought to be "human code". Sadly, way too many people are plain and pure ássholes.

    Noname
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    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I quit a friendship with a woman because I was always giving her compliments about how she looked, her hobbies, and how she was managing her life despite the problems she was encountering but she never, ever had one nice thing to say to me about me and how I was dealing with my life. She never gave me any compliments, and generally ignored me when I wanted to talk about myself. When I told her of this discrepancy in our friendship, she said she "didn't understand" me and my problems. I don't miss her at all.

    BeepBoop is Lonely (she/they)
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    you shouldn't miss her! She obviously doesn't deserve you and how sweet you were to her. Some people just don't want real friends, all they want is someone to talk to about themselves. There should be a balance of everything. Me and my best friend have a fun balance of sharing stories that don't really relate to each other, and talking about the most random things. Yesterday we got snow cones and we talked about and researched good first time birds to get lol

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    Almarako94
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is for both sides it will prevent a lot of false actions on both sides.

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    #9

    25 Unspoken “Girl Code” Rules Women Secretly Follow On A Day-To-Day Basis, As Shared Online Give out compliments like freakin candy.

    thatissoooofeyche , eduardo199o9 Report

    Nichole Harris
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes!!!! I'm always rabidly uncomfortable receiving a compliment but boy howdy it makes my day

    Shelley DuVal
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Me too, I never know what to do or say. I never had any compliments when I was a kid so never learned how to behave when receiving one. I have learned however to say thank you.

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    zovjraar me
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    i compliment people all the time. guys and chicks. i know i feel amazing when i get a compliment, so i try to give them out and make them genuine.

    Kathryn Baylis
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just be sure they’re sincere. People can smell insincere compliments a mile away.

    Old Roadie
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes. Without prejudice or regard for anything except their humanity.

    Noname
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    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I do give out compliments like candy, to everyone. When I finally told my female friend to f**k off, she asked why, and I told her that in the 3 years I'd known her, I'd been giving her compliments on her appearance, her accomplishments, been supporting her through thick and thin, and that she never ever once complimented me about anything I've done or how I looked when I made an effort. She never responded to or acknowledged me saying this. There were other reasons why I quit this friendship - but the réalisation that she never once told me she liked anything about me was all that I needed to finally end this relationship.

    Huddo's sister
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Despite my social anxiety I find myself giving out compliments without thinking. Admittedly it's often kids with 'really fast' shoes but still...

    Huddo's sister
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Also, when I get a compliment on my clothes etc I'm always proud to be able to say 'it's from the op shop' (thrift store)

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    Veronica Jean
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    YES! This is going to sound crazy but finding literally anything I can genuinely compliment about the women around me is my weird way of trying to let them know i'm a safe space. If they need help, feel uncomfortable, or just a friend, I'm there.

    K W
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I told a woman at the pharmacy drive thru today that her hair was glorious.

    RandomPersonOnline
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I told a flight attendant her hair was pretty and it was this purple gradient and I’m doing that when I get older

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    Thatkamloopsguy
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    You women better do this, as us decent men are not allowed to anymore.

    JM
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You're allowed. Just non-body related compliments. It's super simple.

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    Any unwritten set of rules, for any community, is actually debatable, because what, for example, looked completely logical and absolutely correct a few decades ago, today may look strange and silly. Returning to How I Met Your Mother - yes, the series has acquired a cult status, but in our time, many jokes from there, and the very behavior of the characters sometimes look absolutely inappropriate.

    And if you find a selection of old women's magazines, let's say, half a century ago, then many of the 'unconditional' rules of conduct of that time (yes, such collections were always and everywhere!) will definitely make us do some facepalming. Who knows, maybe this list will look weird in a few decades as well...

    #10

    25 Unspoken “Girl Code” Rules Women Secretly Follow On A Day-To-Day Basis, As Shared Online Don't know if this counts but if a guy calls his ex gf crazy or hysterical something in that area I make it my mission to find out her side

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    Beatrice Fairchild
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Everyone should do this. There is always more than one side to a story.

    mSpencer
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There's always 3 sides. 2 people and the facts

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    Deidre Lippnik
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes!! In this age where people are becoming more self aware of the abuse that they're experiencing we're starting to understand more about red flags and noticing them. If a guy says all his exes are crazy he's the crazy one.

    Mother of Dragons
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OMG YES!!!! I have repeatedly tried to instill this into my own daughter. There's two sides to every story find out what he did to make that b***h the psycho he says she is!!!

    Celesta
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And if it seems like ALL his exs are crazy/psycho/toxic ect, HE is the toxic one.

    Veronica Jean
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Every time a guy has ever told me he and his ex broke up because 'She was crazy' or 'She turned into a b*tch', with little to no other explanation, i've found out actually because he was abusive or cheated. That's not to say it's every time...just something I noticed. 5 Different guys have told me that. 5 guys who either were serial cheaters, or had severe mental disorders and became extremely abusive.

    Amy
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've done this, turns out she was actually crazy. Not always the case, though.

    Anxious&Bored Bear
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When a guy says that she's hysterical, it usually (but not always) means he did something that made her cry.

    Iridian
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Especially if all of his past women are "crazy." The problem is either he has no ability to discern BS from the truth (at best) or that he is the problem (at worst). Both are red flags, though, that I wouldn't want to get caught up in. To be fair, this works regardless of sex.

    Haywood Jablome
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The reverse is true too, right, if they call a guy crazy? Kidding, I know it's not

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    #11

    25 Unspoken “Girl Code” Rules Women Secretly Follow On A Day-To-Day Basis, As Shared Online Whenever my guy buds get a girlfriend they are serious about, I always extend invites to her to do things. I never want any misunderstandings or any kind of competition so I am as respectful as I can be. Also if we are at a party and my friend is drunk, I will not be letting her make the decision to go home with anyone other than close friends/family.

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    Jude Corrigan
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And if you see a drunk girl with a man who seems too insistent in taking her home even though her friends are objecting. Intervene. I have seen men claim to be the woman's boyfriend, they were not. Ask for proof, do they have a photo of them together? Call the police if you have to. Innocent people will wait.

    Celesta
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    ALWAYS make sure if you arrived with someone YOU LEAVE with them if they start showing signs of intoxication. ESPECIALLY if they've only had 1 or 2 drinks but seem wasted

    Kathryn Baylis
    Community Member
    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don’t drink much at all—-never have—-so I usually end up being the only rational one left to disentangle my friends from some a*****e trying to get her to sleep with him. Guys, if she’s drunk, she’s automatically incapable of giving consent, so you would be guilty of rape, plain and simple. So back the f**k off and go home ALONE before sober ME gives you a royal asswhooping using my fists and the business end of my spike heels. You could end up deeply pockmarked and bleeding if you don’t hightail it out of there ten minutes ago.

    Elchinero
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    " ... my friend is drunk" = great friend!

    LJ Robinson
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    2 years ago

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    You will not LET her? What if she doesn't have close friends/family? I'm sure she's aware of Uber. If your friend is drunk YOU don't get to tell her what she can and cannot do. How arrogant.

    RandomPersonOnline
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    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If she doesn’t have close friends, then her friend (the person who made the post) would drop her, simple.

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    #12

    25 Unspoken “Girl Code” Rules Women Secretly Follow On A Day-To-Day Basis, As Shared Online Build up other women at work. Saying things like "Sue" is great at spreadsheets, let's ask her for help. Or she has mad people skills, let's ask for her advice. Especially build up other women to management and to customers.

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    Chia
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I try to make a habit of this regardless of my colleague’s gender. My employer is not guilty of systemic sexism so it has not been necessary to champion any specific gender. I might behave differently if I worked elsewhere.

    Erin Huber
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think she just meant that womens skills are sometimes overlooked at work. Your philosophy is also awesome

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    BarBeeGirl
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wow I wish I worked where the OP works. Every woman I worked with was out to get me. I'm not being paranoid here -- I had an female assistant who was ratting me out to the female boss over what time I arrived at night desk, when I left my desk, if I took a personal call she reported how long it was. Women in the workplace can be absolute bitches

    Brenda Greene
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This would be great, instead I'm getting ignored because I'm "new" (I've been here 2.5 year)

    Noname
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm really on the fence about coworkers of either sex. I've worked in environments where it's mostly men, and about 50% are jerks, but I've also worked in environments where women are 90% of the employees and 80% of the women are b**ches. And I'm describing a professional setting, where it should be skill before kill. My experience has been that most of the women will undermine another female colleague if they perceive that colleague to be more attractive and with a higher education than themselves. Men just don't like women to be better educated than themselves.

    Jaya
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wish my workplaces had been like that! One of three we women were supportive and remain friends. Other jobs, backstabbing sometimes stabbing right in front of your face. No reason for it not like there promotions at stake even. Turned me sour on the whole corporate job market.

    Androgyny Lunacy
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This one is decent because women are already competitive towards each other enough.

    Erin Huber
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Never thought of this! Boost the females at male dominated work forces

    Agamemnon O'Neill
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Make it easier for the next group of women coming up. Don't think "I suffered, so they should too." It's petty and counter-productive.

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    As in any collection of rules and advice, here you will find opinions on what should be done and what not. You will probably disagree with some of the judgments, and some of them look completely obvious. But that's what the Internet exists for, so that sometimes you can argue to your heart's content. So please feel free to scroll this list to the very end, discuss the most interesting and controversive points and add your own ones in case you have something to add.

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    #13

    25 Unspoken “Girl Code” Rules Women Secretly Follow On A Day-To-Day Basis, As Shared Online Never leaving them alone at a party

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    K W
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's very true but unfortunately women and feminine presenting people are more likely to be roofied or assaulted by a long shot. My guy friends would literally sleep in a ditch drunk and be fine after a wild night of partying. My girl friends have some pretty horrific stories about the things that happened to them at house parties.

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    #14

    25 Unspoken “Girl Code” Rules Women Secretly Follow On A Day-To-Day Basis, As Shared Online Not giving out details about where they are/who they are with unless the girl herself gives permission for me to do it

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    Shark Lady
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Also don't give out their phone number if someone asks you for it.

    Pterodactyl in Disguise
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    YESSSS. I always ask the person even if it’s really good friend if both of ours, bc what if they done? Then what? So you just ask first and have no consequences

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    Androgyny Lunacy
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You're just a s****y person if you do that to anyone.

    RandomPersonOnline
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is a given, like not sharing emails or phone numbers without asking them

    That Goth Demon (zey/zem)
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yah, unless you're, like, at schl and it's a friend trying to find the person in a playground, DONT GIVE OUT INFO LIKE SWEETS

    Lana Lana Banana
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A friend trying to find the person in a playground? Wat? 😂

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    Kaz_Brekker
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why would you do this? Seems dumb to begin with

    Nichole Harris
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Shouldn't this be ALWAYS true.... Like you call me.... IDK if I'm staring them in the eye....I ain't seen'em and don't know

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    #15

    25 Unspoken “Girl Code” Rules Women Secretly Follow On A Day-To-Day Basis, As Shared Online I was put into early menopause by medication but I still carry around tampons in various sizes in my bag because I have been approached several times in the past by girls/ women who needed one urgently. I'd think I look rather unapproachable (Heavy Metal fan with corresponding clothes and tattoos, also diagnosed anxiety/ introversion, etc.) But it still happens more often than I would ever have guessed

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    That Goth Demon (zey/zem)
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    People must sense that you can help a girl out!

    Shark Lady
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I also do this and I keep a stock of pads and tampons in my bathroom. I don't need them but visitors and neighbours might.

    rapid unscheduled disassembly
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In my experience, the must "unapproachable" looking people are basically giant teddy bears on the inside.

    Sven Grammersdorf
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Heavy metal fans are NOT unapproachable. Metalheads are the kindest people on Earth, in my experience!

    moeless
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm male, but I kept a box of tampons in my dresser when I was younger. Came in handy more than once.

    Peter
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Bikers sometimes carry tampons too. I've helped out a damsel in distress before

    Fenchurch
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When I was a teenager I dressed as you describe with a shaved head and lots of piercings, short skirts, thick tights, bother boots style. People my own age and my parents age would avoid me or tut at me. BUT little old ladies would pass all the other "normal" looking people to hone in on me and ask me to mind their suitcase, or ask for directions or hold their dogs lead while they went ino a shop. it was like a super gran skill that they could see the real soft and honest me I was trying to hide so she didn't get hurt and immediately trusted me. It drove me mad at the time, but I'm fast approaching supergran skill stage of life myself and can see it in these youngsters who try to look intimidating.

    JM
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe it's body language that might make someone appear unapproachable, not clothes or tattoos.

    Arthur Waite
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There's a downside to his, too. My Wife once commented that she was forever being asked for pads, Kleenex, etc by a series of 'Needy Nellies' who never seemed to plan ahead or organize themselves before going to a party or a show, and they knew she was reliable and available to help out and so on. I merely listened with my mouth shut.

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    #16

    25 Unspoken “Girl Code” Rules Women Secretly Follow On A Day-To-Day Basis, As Shared Online When around their partner, never behave in a way that will make your friend feel uncomfortable. Meaning… don’t be flirtatious for example.

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    Insignificant panda
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    But its OK to be flirtatious when the partner isn't there?

    Deidre Lippnik
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No. The point is to still be nice without doing or saying anything that can be constituted as flirting.

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    Nichole Harris
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Umm 🤔.. Why we gotta state that? It's this a thing??? Like a soap opera??? Like fr??? Not kidding.... All my friends I inherited from my husband...50 yr old men....I don't actually know how to 'friend' legit question

    Kathryn Baylis
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Real d**k move, even if it’s done by a woman.

    Natasha
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And if you see her wanting to be alone with him, leave and get others to come with you

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    #17

    25 Unspoken “Girl Code” Rules Women Secretly Follow On A Day-To-Day Basis, As Shared Online If a girl asks me about a man I (have) know(n) because he’s questionable or does questionable things, I tell her what I know. We go out together and we leave together. Nobody’s left unattended.

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    Kathryn Baylis
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’m not competing with other women for a man. I resigned from the competition decades ago. I’m married, so I already have the only man I’ll ever love, who loves me the same. We’re both in our sixties now, and really enjoying growing old together. There’s nothing to fear from me.

    Jaya
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I am still amazed at my husband's stories how he and his friends would go out and instantly split up. Women stay together - keep an eye out even when dancing with some new guy - my husband had no clue women had to do that.

    #18

    25 Unspoken “Girl Code” Rules Women Secretly Follow On A Day-To-Day Basis, As Shared Online Salary transparency

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    zak
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm guessing they mean sharing how much they make with their coworkers, so they know what a fair wage is for their position and to see if there is a gender pay gap at their company, however they would also need to be sharing with men so they know the whole picture. This is something everyone should do.

    Kathryn Baylis
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    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And in the US, people don’t realize they have a legal right to discuss salary with coworkers. Believe me, employers really bank on you not knowing your rights, and try to make you fear doing it. Do it anyway, because you’re in the right and your employer is in the wrong—-on a FEDERAL LEVEL.

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    Babs McGurk
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Nope. I'm not discussing my salary with anyone.

    Loris Adams
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This bit me in the behind though. Shared with someone looking to take on my role as interim as I was leaving a job. They demanded my salary when they interviewed because they were "worth it". I'd been in the role 20 years. They'd only been in the profession 5 years. They became furious with me for not advocating for them to get the pay I was earning. For what it's worth, they were being offered a 14% increase for the interim role. I tired to tell them to take that huge bump (they were already beyond the average pay for their role in the city by quite a bit) and then negotiate to be the permanent director and their final pay in the next year. Nope. They got angry at me and the employer and quit. The employer was upset with me for sharing my salary. I understand trying to eek out a living in these huge cities with nominal pay, but I was trying to get them the best possible and still have a job. Not saying I won't share again, but didn't expect the drama.

    #19

    25 Unspoken “Girl Code” Rules Women Secretly Follow On A Day-To-Day Basis, As Shared Online At a gas station late at night, I always wait til the other only girl there leaves

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    Ronnie Cutshall
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I do that and I am a male. I stay a respectable distance of 100 feet. Just to make sure they safe. Let them know just making sure they safe.

    Lana Lana Banana
    Community Member
    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Unfortunately, and absolutely no offense to you, that'd make me feel uncomfortable. I really wish it didn't.

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    Sara Wilson
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I also tend to pull over if a girl is broken down on the side of the road. Especially at night and I'll put my hair down and give a profile so they know I'm a girl, before I approach them. Have saved a few girls after a night of clubbing. In heels and a dress walking down the side of the road?! (Mostly before cell phones)

    Ginger Ghost
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    the girl who's working there: you ok mam?

    Kathryn Baylis
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Same if you give someone a ride home. Make sure they’re safely inside their house before you pull away.

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    #20

    25 Unspoken “Girl Code” Rules Women Secretly Follow On A Day-To-Day Basis, As Shared Online Not dating your friends ex’s & group bathroom trips

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    StrangeOne
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hate the whole group bathroom trip. Just want to do my business and leave.

    ace pirates (she/they)
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Same. I avoid the shítty school bathrooms at all cost and my friends are like “let’s go to the bathroom!” Like, why. Just why

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    Tracy Wallick
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Soft 'no' to the first one; I had a friend ask my permission to date an ex, I said yes, they've been married for 10 years :)

    §• Råinbow Påndå •§
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Dude my bf broke up with me in front of Prefects, I moved away bc my parents decided to, my one friend lied about getting with my ex

    Lauren Fox-Hall
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So he broke up with you in front of a senior student that enforces rules? Or ..? I'm not sure what Prefects is

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    BarBeeGirl
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes!!! This one. I thought all girls knew you don't date a friend's ex but turns out the reason my sister slept with my first boyfriend is because she didn't know this rule until I told her 35 years later

    Stary_cat
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    At my last school there was a group of boy and girls all the girls were friends, every 2 weeks they would all switch boy friends

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    #21

    25 Unspoken “Girl Code” Rules Women Secretly Follow On A Day-To-Day Basis, As Shared Online Embracing womanhood in the bathroom - be it helping a total stranger glue on her falsies then wishing her a fabulous evening, fetching the over turnt girlie some water, giving the heartbroken chick a genuine compliment & a cig...

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    C. S.
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    But why is this such a thing in women's restrooms? I get supporting your comrades, but why don't guys do this? Is it that guys are so universally offensive and abusive that women have to stick together? People are just people to me, always have been. Male or Female, it doesn't matter.

    Apatheist Account2
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    2 years ago

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    Hey, you're heartbroken! Here's a stick that will probably give you cancer!

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    #22

    25 Unspoken “Girl Code” Rules Women Secretly Follow On A Day-To-Day Basis, As Shared Online Make sure your friends always have a designated driver to drive them home if they have been drinking.

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    Hakitosama
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Let me rephrase it as you seem to purposely miss the subtext : "make sure they have a trusted person that will drive them home WITHOUT RAPING THEM".... Better?

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    Kathryn Baylis
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or call them a cab if you can’t do it yourself, or find anyone SAFE to drive them. If Uber is safe in your area, call them. Even better, go with them, whether by cab or Uber. Making sure your friend gets home safely is way more important than any party, no matter how enjoyable. You can always come back after getting your friend safely home.

    Apps
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    But don't pick the same person all the time to be the designated driver- even if they don't drink or can't drink drink. You want them to know that you like them and just not for their ability to chauffeur everyone around.

    Aria the Dog Lover
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have a feeling I'll be the DD. I am currently seeing my grandpas brain go down the drain as he drinks 5 or more beers a day. It's terrible, no one should drink.

    Tamra
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    An alcoholic death is a terrible thing. I'm so sorry for your grandpa, and I'm sorry you have to experience such a thing.

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    Arthur Waite
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It gets to be a drag to Be the DD all the time. My Wife was a soft touch, and a lot of her friends would just assume that they could get home when we left. But, she got good at predicting upchuck, so I could get the car stopped in time to get 'em out. It's possible to be too good a friend, and get taken advantage of.

    Nichole Harris
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I vote we all drink in a safe place.... Like home.... Or surrogate home .. I won't drink in the out there.... It's scary out there

    Spencer's slave
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As a Mum, I did exactly this for my two and their mates. As they got older, got partners, they all took turns being sober driver, even the girls.

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    #23

    25 Unspoken “Girl Code” Rules Women Secretly Follow On A Day-To-Day Basis, As Shared Online Not being a home wrecker

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    BarBeeGirl
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I never understood women who get angry at the other woman when their mate cheats. He's the one who screwed you over, she doesn't owe you anything

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    Celesta
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How about stop blaming WOMEN when men cheat? That'd a MUCH better pro woman concept. Even if she knew he was taken, which a lot don't, HE is the one who made the commitment and the one who cheated, she didn't force him.

    JM
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's homewrecking if you're married and cheating, or if you know the person is married and is cheating with you. Gender doesn't matter here.

    Kathryn Baylis
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    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You forget the second half, “or not purposely wrecking your own home for nothing more than a meaningless hookup”. Be smart about relationships. There are way too many potentially life-changing, even life-threatening, risks involved with sleeping around. Raise your standards and respect yourself too much to just give yourself away so easily.

    Shosh Grinberg
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    not blaming a woman of beeng a "home wrecker". the "home wrecker" is the cheating husband, he commited to his wife and he has the responsability to be loyal. if he is loyal no woman can "steal" him or :"wreck his home:

    Apatheist Account2
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe this one does need writing down...

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    #24

    25 Unspoken “Girl Code” Rules Women Secretly Follow On A Day-To-Day Basis, As Shared Online Complimenting someone's outfit even if I don't like it, and especially when I think it took guts to wear it and she's looking for comments/validation (regardless of whether I think it's tasteful/looks pretty).

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    Brainmas
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Find something to compliment, but don't lie. The outfit may be wack, but maybe she has some cute boots or cool eyeliner.

    WindySwede
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes, OPs comment makes me not trust compliments! 😑

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    Sawce
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Nah. Don’t lie to people

    JM
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, don't lie. Just say: "That outfit is wild and I would never be able to pull it off but YOU are!"

    Rens
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything; at the same time, you don't need to lie but you can always find something nice to say, and you should.

    LonelyLittleLeafSheep
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    2 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't think OP is saying to lie; she's saying even if the clothes aren't her style they may look great on the other woman. I do this too. I may not like the shirt but I'll say "that color is beautiful on you" or something to that effect.

    Iridian
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Naa, I'm not going to lie about an outfit or haircut, etc. that I don't like. I might rather say something like "you look so confident in your new dress" or something like that, if the person really DOES look confident about their choice.

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    #25

    25 Unspoken “Girl Code” Rules Women Secretly Follow On A Day-To-Day Basis, As Shared Online We pee TOGETHER.

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    Stephanie Did It
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Because we then wash hands, fix makeup, etc at the same time and no one gets left behind in the bathroom or alone in the venue.

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    Mia Black
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As a female I never understood this....

    Phobrek
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Isn't that messy? Who sits on who's lap?

    Kathryn Baylis
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    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Nope. Sorry, not sorry. I’m married. I have seen and smelled the worst a man can—-unabashedly—-do in the bathroom. No way I’m sitting next to the men’s room to do my business at a public place.

    C. S.
    Community Member
    2 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why?! Can't you do so on your own? Do you need help?

    Timbob
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    2 years ago

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    Sorry, but all you ladies are much too touchy feels for me !

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