Working Father Of 3 Says His Wife’s Everyday Life Is ‘Easy’ And Mothers Agree With Him
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With so many people convinced that it’s not so hard to be a stay-at-home mom or dad, exhausted parents often have to show them the reality. One of the ways these at-home warriors are debunking this myth is by candidly sharing their parenting struggles. Brad Kearns, a father of three, who, hand-in-hand with his wife, documents their parenting journey on social media, decided to get real about full-time parenting. Brad and his wife Sarah have been together for 10 years, they met through Brad’s cousin when they were teenagers. Brad told Bored Panda that currently, he works as a business development lead and a workforce planner. However, he expressed online that his job is nothing compared to the daily duties of his stay-at-home wife. Things Sarah does to take care for the children may seem unimportant to most, such as taking the kids outside, “how easy is that”, Brad writes in his Facebook post. However, he then explains, how tiring these seemingly small tasks truly are. “Comparison is the thief of joy. Especially when it comes to “stay at home vs go to work”. Everybody with kids works hard whether they receive a payslip or not,” he says. The post he wrote went viral with many mothers praising him for acknowledging this often overlooked truth. Scroll below to read it!
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Meet Brad Kearns and his stay-at-home wife Sarah who are proud parents of three
Recently Brad took to Facebook to acknowledge that being a stay-at-home mom is definitely not as easy as some might think
Here’s how people reacted
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Thank goodness there is a man around to explain how hard it is to be a stay at home mom. XD
Well, at least he acknowledges how hard it is; not every man does.
Agreed. My ex-husband once went around the house with a video camera to document how messy it was when I was a stay at home mom with toddlers. Yet, on his days off when I worked, he would send the kids to a babysitter. Yeah, our marriage did not survive.
Is the bar really that low?... but it's similar to another article where a woman congratulated herself for noticing her boyfriend had feelings. What?! Men have feelings too!?
It's because the men who need to hear this the most are the men who won't listen to women. So, yeah, thanks goodness (not even cynically) that there are men to explain these things to other "bros" who, somehow, don't understand the language when spoken in a female voice.
That's so true! My ex-boyfriend was like that. When I was telling him about the paleo diet and carbs reduction or about anything connected with anything he was like "bah, ya dumb". But when his cousin or dad were telling him exactly the same he was coming TO ME and repeating their words as the words of wisdom. His answer for my "WTF, I was telling you literally the same things a week ago" was "it's because you're a woman. Men know better". ._. And why did I let out such a gem remains a mystery...
Well, we all know if a woman says it there's something that blocks men from -properly- hearing it. However, if a MAN says it all of a sudden it registers. bit like the "I have a boyfriend" vs a "I have a girlfriend" thing.
@sav When you said that, I kept thinking of Ms Congeniality, Sandra Bullocks character running down the list of what should be done to get them into investigating the pageant and Benjamin Bratt chiming in after each suggestions saying "Yeah..yeah! Now I'm thinking!!"
Cue in the downvotes, but it's not that hard. In a lot of cases the mother also has to go to work (after her maternity leave) because one salary for 3, 4 or even 5 people is simply not enough.
I upvoted because of the second part, about working mothers and 1 salary not being enough. But that doesn't mean it's not that hard, it means she's doing double the effort.
For some of us it is hard because we are battling home life, work life, schooling and depression. It's not that easy. It might be for you because either your kids are old enough to help..they're all attending school..or you actually have a husband that realizes how hard all this is and gets off his butt to help. If you listen to his description..none of these kids are in school and one is still an infant who is breast feeding. When you returned to work..did you do it with a baby latched to your breast? Probably not.
Another unpopular opinion but it depends on the kid, My brother has two boys the first one was a breeze to look after, it was just so simple, his youngest just cries non stop, he plays with a toy can't figure something out and goes in to complete melt down, I only baby sat him for about 3 hours but it was super stressful and I'm not doing it again until he can speak.
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I agree it is not. I suppose it can all depend on the person, but I've been a stay at home parent, a work at home parent, a work at home/ student parent, and a regular working parent. By far the easiest job I ever had was a stay at home parent and I had difficult, never sleep, reflux babies.
Oh ffs, can anyone do anything right? He's trying to show appreciation, don't be a jackass.
I read the title and was about to get mad but theeeennn
Same
Me too
haha same
I love how you started the story.... First I was gonna say, Ahhh, Hell No!! But then when I kept reading, I felt my blood stop boiling cause I'm a stay home mom and when people state that we don't do much or not work hard and have it easy blah blah blah, my blood starts to boil, I have to resit myself and start typing away... But he has respect for his wife and telling everyone how her day goes from day to day.
Yeah, I always hated the question "what do you do all day"? when I was a stay at home mom. For starters , A LOT MORE than I did all day when I went back to work. That question drove me crazy.
Thank goodness there is a man around to explain how hard it is to be a stay at home mom. XD
Well, at least he acknowledges how hard it is; not every man does.
Agreed. My ex-husband once went around the house with a video camera to document how messy it was when I was a stay at home mom with toddlers. Yet, on his days off when I worked, he would send the kids to a babysitter. Yeah, our marriage did not survive.
Is the bar really that low?... but it's similar to another article where a woman congratulated herself for noticing her boyfriend had feelings. What?! Men have feelings too!?
It's because the men who need to hear this the most are the men who won't listen to women. So, yeah, thanks goodness (not even cynically) that there are men to explain these things to other "bros" who, somehow, don't understand the language when spoken in a female voice.
That's so true! My ex-boyfriend was like that. When I was telling him about the paleo diet and carbs reduction or about anything connected with anything he was like "bah, ya dumb". But when his cousin or dad were telling him exactly the same he was coming TO ME and repeating their words as the words of wisdom. His answer for my "WTF, I was telling you literally the same things a week ago" was "it's because you're a woman. Men know better". ._. And why did I let out such a gem remains a mystery...
Well, we all know if a woman says it there's something that blocks men from -properly- hearing it. However, if a MAN says it all of a sudden it registers. bit like the "I have a boyfriend" vs a "I have a girlfriend" thing.
@sav When you said that, I kept thinking of Ms Congeniality, Sandra Bullocks character running down the list of what should be done to get them into investigating the pageant and Benjamin Bratt chiming in after each suggestions saying "Yeah..yeah! Now I'm thinking!!"
Cue in the downvotes, but it's not that hard. In a lot of cases the mother also has to go to work (after her maternity leave) because one salary for 3, 4 or even 5 people is simply not enough.
I upvoted because of the second part, about working mothers and 1 salary not being enough. But that doesn't mean it's not that hard, it means she's doing double the effort.
For some of us it is hard because we are battling home life, work life, schooling and depression. It's not that easy. It might be for you because either your kids are old enough to help..they're all attending school..or you actually have a husband that realizes how hard all this is and gets off his butt to help. If you listen to his description..none of these kids are in school and one is still an infant who is breast feeding. When you returned to work..did you do it with a baby latched to your breast? Probably not.
Another unpopular opinion but it depends on the kid, My brother has two boys the first one was a breeze to look after, it was just so simple, his youngest just cries non stop, he plays with a toy can't figure something out and goes in to complete melt down, I only baby sat him for about 3 hours but it was super stressful and I'm not doing it again until he can speak.
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I agree it is not. I suppose it can all depend on the person, but I've been a stay at home parent, a work at home parent, a work at home/ student parent, and a regular working parent. By far the easiest job I ever had was a stay at home parent and I had difficult, never sleep, reflux babies.
Oh ffs, can anyone do anything right? He's trying to show appreciation, don't be a jackass.
I read the title and was about to get mad but theeeennn
Same
Me too
haha same
I love how you started the story.... First I was gonna say, Ahhh, Hell No!! But then when I kept reading, I felt my blood stop boiling cause I'm a stay home mom and when people state that we don't do much or not work hard and have it easy blah blah blah, my blood starts to boil, I have to resit myself and start typing away... But he has respect for his wife and telling everyone how her day goes from day to day.
Yeah, I always hated the question "what do you do all day"? when I was a stay at home mom. For starters , A LOT MORE than I did all day when I went back to work. That question drove me crazy.