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Bully Eats Dirt After Victim’s Father Violently Retaliates, Dad Sees His Reputation Destroyed
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Bully Eats Dirt After Victim’s Father Violently Retaliates, Dad Sees His Reputation Destroyed

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We might imagine that bullying only happens to kids in middle school or high school, but in reality, it starts happening as early as kindergarten. The statistics are pretty grim: 20% of kindergarteners said they experience bullying often. What’s worse, the numbers even go up in elementary school, where 33% of students report getting bullied.

When you’re a parent, you might often feel helpless. Your kid is experiencing psychological torment every day, but the school doesn’t seem to be addressing the problem. This one dad tried to protect his son from a bully, but unfortunately, he picked the wrong method. One that cost his son his place at the kindergarten and the dad his reputation.

Bored Panda got in touch with this Redditor, and he was kind enough to answer a few of our questions. Read his comments below!

Kindergarten social dynamics can be hard on the parents as well as the kids

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This dad’s knee-jerk reaction to his son being bullied caused his son’s expulsion and outraged other parents

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“I’ll start by saying that I was uneasy about the number of commenters who thought it was justified or that the boy deserved it,” the author wanted to make something clear right off the bat. “It wasn’t, and he didn’t.”

“I’ll also push back against the people calling me a monster and unhinged, etc. I know Reddit isn’t known for its nuance, but the majority of comments, regardless of siding, made it black and white. Overall, it’s an unfortunate situation that culminated in a horrible mistake that I’m now paying for,” the Redditor said.

One thing he wishes he had done differently was to ask the school to do more regarding his son’s bullying. “I should have been more assertive. I took a backseat and expected the school to do the right thing,” he says. “That didn’t [happen], and it ended in regrettable fashion. Had I advocated more in the first place, the circumstances that led to that afternoon probably [wouldn’t have happened].”

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The father doesn’t take pride in what he did and feels remorseful. “It takes a split second to ruin a reputation that took 13 years in a community to build. What I did was wrong, and without context, it seems even worse, split-second reaction or not. Hopefully, one day, people will remember me for something other than this, but in the meantime, I’ve done this to myself,” he adds.

To other parents whose children experience bullying, the Redditor advises not to take “no” for an answer. “Never assume that just because people have the authority to do something, they will.”

“I always considered myself a huge advocate for my son, but this has been a wake-up call to the fact that I need to be the one to get things done for my children and not rely on anyone else. Emails and pleasantries aren’t enough sometimes. I won’t be making that mistake again,” the author says.

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Parents often feel helpless when they know their child is being bullied. The kids, in turn, don’t always come to their parents for help. They can feel embarrassed, thinking that their parents might get angry at them, be disappointed, or get upset.

It’s not uncommon for children to blame themselves for getting bullied. They might think that if they looked or acted differently, the bullying might have never happened. They also fear what might happen if they tell on the bully. The bullying might get worse, and the parents might not believe them. In some cases, they’re afraid their parents will tell them to fight back, which they might be scared to do.

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Experts say that it’s important for parents to tell their children they did the right thing by telling them. Knowing that their parents will help them get through this can make the kids feel safer and more self-assured.

What should parents do upon finding out their child is being bullied? The first step should be to talk to the teachers and the school administration. When bullying occurs at school or kindergarten, parents can consult their state’s anti-bullying laws. There are also federal laws that require schools to take action against harassment based on race, sex, color, national origin, and disabilities.

VeryWell Family advises parents not to minimize what a child says about bullying. As this is a very delicate situation, a child needs to feel validated if they feel hurt and afraid. Role-playing is another strategy parents might employ: teach them how to act in one situation or another. The most important thing is to let the child know this isn’t their fault.

Some people in the comments showed support for the father, and others questioned the school’s passivity

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karenhann avatar
Insomniac
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3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The dad instinctively put his foot out to protect his kid from a known bully who was attacking him. The child has obviously never faced consequences for physically attacking other kids if he'll chase a child right into his father's arms. Even at 5, you should know not to be hitting someone at all, much less in front of their parents. So the child has obviously gotten away with this before. We can say the dad should have picked his child up or swung him away or something, but defending someone is instinctive, and putting a foot out to stop an attack is natural. The moment the CCTV footage becomes available, that should be enough to shut this down. If a child is going to attack other children, especially around their protectors, the kid is going to end up getting restrained in some way. Unfortunate the dad instinctively used his foot instead of his knee or something that was more clearly an act of defence.

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Clown fish
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3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would have turned round and let that kid collided with my butt. Putting a foot out makes it look like he kicked the kid. If it runs head long into his butt it's still a win when the kid falls down

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Tamra
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3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He said there's CCTV everywhere, yet not one of them caught the boy bullying the other kids? No other parents made a complaint against this kid? And this little boy, who's done NOTHING wrong, gets expelled?? Sounds to me the school failed massively, given the information we've been given.

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Rayne OfSalt
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3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The school doesn't give two hoots about bullying. Doing anything about it would cause disruption to their "donations" and a likely lawsuit from the bully's parents.

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karenhann avatar
Insomniac
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3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The dad instinctively put his foot out to protect his kid from a known bully who was attacking him. The child has obviously never faced consequences for physically attacking other kids if he'll chase a child right into his father's arms. Even at 5, you should know not to be hitting someone at all, much less in front of their parents. So the child has obviously gotten away with this before. We can say the dad should have picked his child up or swung him away or something, but defending someone is instinctive, and putting a foot out to stop an attack is natural. The moment the CCTV footage becomes available, that should be enough to shut this down. If a child is going to attack other children, especially around their protectors, the kid is going to end up getting restrained in some way. Unfortunate the dad instinctively used his foot instead of his knee or something that was more clearly an act of defence.

bb_20 avatar
Clown fish
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would have turned round and let that kid collided with my butt. Putting a foot out makes it look like he kicked the kid. If it runs head long into his butt it's still a win when the kid falls down

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tamrastiffler avatar
Tamra
Community Member
3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He said there's CCTV everywhere, yet not one of them caught the boy bullying the other kids? No other parents made a complaint against this kid? And this little boy, who's done NOTHING wrong, gets expelled?? Sounds to me the school failed massively, given the information we've been given.

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Rayne OfSalt
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3 weeks ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The school doesn't give two hoots about bullying. Doing anything about it would cause disruption to their "donations" and a likely lawsuit from the bully's parents.

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