Delusional Boss Instructs His Female Employee To Stand Up Every Time He Enters The Room
While getting my degree, I heard lecturers throw around the term “company culture” an awful lot. They talked about how every organization has its own values, goals, attitudes, and practices but never in my life did I realize these norms can be so… adaptable. But as Redditor u/idontwannabepicked’s post on r/AntiWork shows, there’s plenty of room to improvise.
The owner of the business she worked at, Mr. F., saw the woman more as a servant than an employee — the self-centered emperor demanded she stand up whenever he visited the shrine and would seriously punish her if she didn’t. Needless to say, it didn’t take long before u/idontwannabepicked had enough of these ceremonies.
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All things considered, u/idontwannabepicked liked working at the company. “I adored this place. I really really did,” she told Bored Panda. “The pay was above average for my area. The benefits were great. Everything was very strictly done but I thrive on deadlines and knowing exactly how to do something, specifically how they wanted. It was a perfect work environment for me except for the owners. My supervisor was also someone I looked up to. She’s been there 5 years and was a strong, no bull***t woman but there was logic behind everything she did. Unlike the owners.”
Her colleagues also didn’t like Mr. F. “They were terrified of him. I was told repeatedly to drop any and everything if he called or came in. Nothing took priority over him, nothing. If I was on the phone when he came in, I had to put the client on hold. He wanted to be treated like a king in his business,” the Redditor explained.
u/idontwannabepicked is a little sad that everything played out the way it did. “I’m going through a divorce and had to move back in with my parents,” she said. “I haven’t been able to find a job since I quit, even though it’s only been a few weeks I hate not being productive. I’m saving for a house and this has put a huge dent in my plans. However, I have started taking a bunch of yoga classes in my spare time and reading more, so I’m doing good.”
The Redditor added that she really appreciates the validation that she did nothing wrong. “If anyone needs a 22-year-old divorcee to do computer work I’m here,” she said.
While u/idontwannabepicked’s story is an extreme example, there are many more people who are in a similar predicament in that they want to leave their bosses as well. In fact, a poll released in September by the Society for Human Resource Management found that over 40% of U.S. workers are actively searching for a new job right (the survey of 1,150 employed Americans was conducted from July 2 to 8).
If you also belong to this category, keep in mind that how you quit matters.
Instead of bursting into your manager’s office or firing them an angry email, leave your desk and take a walk. Do some quick meditation at your desk or vent your frustrations to a friend.
“All of those things will redirect the thought process for the time being and create a sense of calmness,” Toni Frana, a Destin, Florida-based career coach with FlexJobs, told CNBC.
“Making sure you have a laugh, reminding yourself that how you feel is not permanent, that is what can help the most with staving off those feelings of learned helplessness,” organizational psychologist Melissa Doman added.
But if your job continues to negatively impact your mental health in and outside of work and you can financially afford to quit without another lined up, do so.
Doman suggests being honest with yourself about why you want to quit, and even write it down.
This will help you to be very clear about your top needs and preferences in a new role when targeting other potential employers. Try to come up with a list of the top five non-negotiable things you need, as well as what you would prefer to have in your next job.
In the end, it’s all about making an informed decision!
People were really appalled by the way the man ran his company
If you're being singled out with special rules that sounds like clear grounds for a civil suit for a hostile work environment
I was about to say that. I would have let them terminate me and then filed a wrongful termination suit by discrimination in the workplace.
Load More Replies...From the reddit thread: "I’ve worked in a military environment before and have never had anything like this before. also, we are supposed to drop whatever task we’re doing to greet him. yes, even if we’re on the phone with a client. we’re supposed to ask them to hold."
Ex officer here, the military is not stupid enough to waste time in useless pomp. If a General or the CO shows up, someone will call "Officer on the bridge" (in a ship) or "Ten-hut" in the Army, the first time a CO comes around. Everybody stands and salute. After that, people have s%*t to do. Some unit dispense with salutes or standing during war games, combat or at any time except the very first morning encounter. When I visited other bases, it was a pain to return the salutes of all the NCOs and privates I encountered, and if a roomful of soldiers stood up and saluted for me, I probably would have fallen on my ass, startled.
Load More Replies...If he knew literally ANYTHING about the "old times" he'd know that it's MEN who should stand anytime a woman enters a room or leaves the dining table.
I don't know enough about employment law, but i'd go speak to an employment law attorney about this, because it doesn't seem right. Either way, I wouldn't work there, because the boss and his wife are needy, self important fools who will find any and all excuses to come down on you. It's a total power trip for them both, they're abusive bullies and this is their playground. You deserve better treatment, kudos for standing up for yourself and walking out. Best of luck.
Not even in the military, and believe me, I was almost court martialed for not saluting the Italian Joint Chief as I sat in civilian clothes at the Officer's Club. I know the rules. For normal superior, you stand and salute once in the morning and maybe once in the afternoon, but they better be a few ranks above yours. Otherwise people have stuff to do and can't all the time get up and salute a superior officer. To have this in a civilian company is insane.
I've been in a similar position, but in my case it was one son of the owners that tried to pull this s**t. For example, the owners gave me rides to my house whenever the weather was crazy, would lunch with us employees etc. Their younger son was a cool dude, respectful, but the older son... Like we say here, he "had the king in his belly". Pompous mtf, dumb as a door AND spineless. When he stayed more than 30 minutes, he would humiliate us employees until one cried —in front of clients. The only good thing about this shitty experience was that when I quit, I told him (and his parents) good luck because they would need it— and they did, he was a terrible administrator. I feel bad for his parents tho. :/
Especially with being southern, isn't that backwards? I thought the gentleman thing to do was stand when a woman gets up from a table. I think anyway. I have to admit, that's one part I was always fuzzy on. Hold the door, and even get someone's chair sure, but standing always confused me.
Yikes. Why is this person still there?? His wife will be in to reprimand her… for not standing and greeting him…. He wouldn’t have known who was on the phone. She’s supposed to stop what she’s doing and make him feel important? And everyone freaks out when she doesn’t do it!? I wouldn’t want to do business with these people.
I once had a district manager that expected us to run to open the door for customers....I worked at a Buffalo Wild Wings in a mall. I told him I was not doing that as thats not what I was hired for. Especially bc he expected us to do it even if we were behind the takeout counter. It was already hard enough to gauge who was coming into the restaurant instead of just walking by but now Im expected to launch myself over the counter to open the door for ppl? Not for $9 an hr Im not tf. His solution? Create a new position "Greeter" whose sole responsibility was to stand by the door and open it. Thats it. For 8 hrs. Dude acting like we're a 6 star restaurant.
This is embarrassingly stupid of the district manager, a greeter at a Buffalo wild Wings!
Load More Replies...I often wonder what would happen if the Queen walked past me sat down and I did not stand, exceedingly unlikely to happen, but I do wonder
Nothing if you don’t live in a dictatorship
Load More Replies...People stand up for others they admire and respect in certain situations. But only if and when they -the standing up people, not the "respect mah authoriteh" morons- choose to do so. Like for a king or queen perhaps. Some dickwad who feels entitled to respect just because he has a bigger car certainly doesn't deserve to be stood up for. Point proven by the fact that you got fired over this. Sorry you lost the job, but it's a win, really. Nobody needs to work for a narcissistic jackass
in my country also pupils stand up for their teachers when the teacher enters the class at the beginning of a lesson. most of them just waved back saying stay seated. but there was one teacher that expected everyone not just to stand up but also step outside from their desks to the alley and stand in a row. she would then check if the row is perfect enough for her. she later became deputy of the headmaster and bullied other teachers with unnecessary bureaucratic nonsense like the letters in the teachers'book werent straight enough or so. she later became a headmistress but quickly after she couldnt make it anymore and retired. I think she must suffer with some disorder. normal people dont do that
Load More Replies...If you're being singled out with special rules that sounds like clear grounds for a civil suit for a hostile work environment
I was about to say that. I would have let them terminate me and then filed a wrongful termination suit by discrimination in the workplace.
Load More Replies...From the reddit thread: "I’ve worked in a military environment before and have never had anything like this before. also, we are supposed to drop whatever task we’re doing to greet him. yes, even if we’re on the phone with a client. we’re supposed to ask them to hold."
Ex officer here, the military is not stupid enough to waste time in useless pomp. If a General or the CO shows up, someone will call "Officer on the bridge" (in a ship) or "Ten-hut" in the Army, the first time a CO comes around. Everybody stands and salute. After that, people have s%*t to do. Some unit dispense with salutes or standing during war games, combat or at any time except the very first morning encounter. When I visited other bases, it was a pain to return the salutes of all the NCOs and privates I encountered, and if a roomful of soldiers stood up and saluted for me, I probably would have fallen on my ass, startled.
Load More Replies...If he knew literally ANYTHING about the "old times" he'd know that it's MEN who should stand anytime a woman enters a room or leaves the dining table.
I don't know enough about employment law, but i'd go speak to an employment law attorney about this, because it doesn't seem right. Either way, I wouldn't work there, because the boss and his wife are needy, self important fools who will find any and all excuses to come down on you. It's a total power trip for them both, they're abusive bullies and this is their playground. You deserve better treatment, kudos for standing up for yourself and walking out. Best of luck.
Not even in the military, and believe me, I was almost court martialed for not saluting the Italian Joint Chief as I sat in civilian clothes at the Officer's Club. I know the rules. For normal superior, you stand and salute once in the morning and maybe once in the afternoon, but they better be a few ranks above yours. Otherwise people have stuff to do and can't all the time get up and salute a superior officer. To have this in a civilian company is insane.
I've been in a similar position, but in my case it was one son of the owners that tried to pull this s**t. For example, the owners gave me rides to my house whenever the weather was crazy, would lunch with us employees etc. Their younger son was a cool dude, respectful, but the older son... Like we say here, he "had the king in his belly". Pompous mtf, dumb as a door AND spineless. When he stayed more than 30 minutes, he would humiliate us employees until one cried —in front of clients. The only good thing about this shitty experience was that when I quit, I told him (and his parents) good luck because they would need it— and they did, he was a terrible administrator. I feel bad for his parents tho. :/
Especially with being southern, isn't that backwards? I thought the gentleman thing to do was stand when a woman gets up from a table. I think anyway. I have to admit, that's one part I was always fuzzy on. Hold the door, and even get someone's chair sure, but standing always confused me.
Yikes. Why is this person still there?? His wife will be in to reprimand her… for not standing and greeting him…. He wouldn’t have known who was on the phone. She’s supposed to stop what she’s doing and make him feel important? And everyone freaks out when she doesn’t do it!? I wouldn’t want to do business with these people.
I once had a district manager that expected us to run to open the door for customers....I worked at a Buffalo Wild Wings in a mall. I told him I was not doing that as thats not what I was hired for. Especially bc he expected us to do it even if we were behind the takeout counter. It was already hard enough to gauge who was coming into the restaurant instead of just walking by but now Im expected to launch myself over the counter to open the door for ppl? Not for $9 an hr Im not tf. His solution? Create a new position "Greeter" whose sole responsibility was to stand by the door and open it. Thats it. For 8 hrs. Dude acting like we're a 6 star restaurant.
This is embarrassingly stupid of the district manager, a greeter at a Buffalo wild Wings!
Load More Replies...I often wonder what would happen if the Queen walked past me sat down and I did not stand, exceedingly unlikely to happen, but I do wonder
Nothing if you don’t live in a dictatorship
Load More Replies...People stand up for others they admire and respect in certain situations. But only if and when they -the standing up people, not the "respect mah authoriteh" morons- choose to do so. Like for a king or queen perhaps. Some dickwad who feels entitled to respect just because he has a bigger car certainly doesn't deserve to be stood up for. Point proven by the fact that you got fired over this. Sorry you lost the job, but it's a win, really. Nobody needs to work for a narcissistic jackass
in my country also pupils stand up for their teachers when the teacher enters the class at the beginning of a lesson. most of them just waved back saying stay seated. but there was one teacher that expected everyone not just to stand up but also step outside from their desks to the alley and stand in a row. she would then check if the row is perfect enough for her. she later became deputy of the headmaster and bullied other teachers with unnecessary bureaucratic nonsense like the letters in the teachers'book werent straight enough or so. she later became a headmistress but quickly after she couldnt make it anymore and retired. I think she must suffer with some disorder. normal people dont do that
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