Boss Notices His Employee Sobbing At Her Desk, And His Act Of Kindness Turns Her Into The Best Employee
Companies often take their employees for granted. Withholding raises and promotions, piling up extra work and eliminating fringe benefits, they certainly know how to take advantage of their workers. But it doesn’t have to be like this. And this story by Bernie Reifkind proves it. Recently, he told his LinkedIn connections about the time he stumbled upon a mom employee, crying at her desk. She’d been up all night, was out of sick days, and her child was ill. However, instead of telling her to suck it up, Bernie did something that modern managers are forgetting about. It’s called being a decent human being and showing empathy.
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Image credits: Bernie Reifkind
Image credits: Bernie Reifkind
But if you’re unhappy with your boss and think that your long days and flat paychecks are making the company rich, there are things you can do to get a bigger piece of the pie. The first step would be to approach your supervisor to ask for more money, better hours, a lighter workload, a promotion or some other perks. However, don’t demand. “The way you ask is important,” Holly G. Green, CEO and managing director of The Human Factor, told Monster.
“Start the conversation with phrases like ‘It seems as if the company has really turned around and is doing well, based on our most recent quarterly results. Can you help me understand how this will affect employees as we continue to do well?'”
Also, John O’Connor, president of Career Pro, advised against letting emotion get the better of you when you’re asking for what you think you deserve. “Don’t speak out in anger because it will never advance your career,” he said.
“Companies are asking for a lot right now, but if they don’t live up to their promises and it’s affecting your health and sanity and performance, be looking for a place that validates you,” O’Connor added.
People were really impressed by the CEO’s act of kindness, comparing it to the way their managers treat them
Only in America. I am so glad I live in Belgium. But then again, we pay +50% of our income to taxes. And you now what, I have absolutely no problem with that. You know why? - no college debt for half your life - absence for medical reasons is always coverd (no loss of salary) - on top of that, you have (minimum) 20 days off, your choice when to take them (+ some additional, guaranteed off- days, like when a relative dies or your children are ill) - doctors' and hospital cost wouldn't bankrupt us - one of the best educational systems in the world - if you're fired, we have a strong social security safety net but the most surrealist political system;;; ;D
Hans my good sir.. this is heartbreaking for me .. I don't want to cry you a river of my problems but I'll tell you they run deeper than I ever thought be possible.. I'm ashamed of my country's greed and love of violence.. just yesterday we had another school shooting... I beg, wish dream of living such a life. In America we are Free.. Free to suffer , Free to owe the government 100k $ in debt at twenty years old for school ,, but cannot obtain a home loan for 10,20 or 30k . Our food is full of chemicals there are recalls of meat , fruits and vegetables seemingly monthly.. and the health, medical issues it all causes is too expensive to even get help with.. Hans it almost don't seem real what your saying.. this is my dream to live in Belgium
When I was a dumb Teenager in the 80s the USA was my "hero country" . Everything seem to be better than where I live. Today I thank god not to live in the US
In Norway too. Blessed to be born here. I do feel sad for Us citizens..
The US has gone from Democracy to Corpocracy. Corporations, big business, and the uberrich get the pleasure to decide and the common people, the Demos, get to do what they are told, say 'Yes, Sir' and follow orders. "In the free world you are living, in the free world you must stay" (Phil Ochs). I recently read that an "Oregon Man Sentenced to 30 Days in Jail -- for Collecting Rainwater on His Property". . . https://www.cnsnews.com/news/article/oregon-man-sentenced-30-days-jail-collecting-rainwater-his-property . . . The land of the free??? PLEASE VOTE!!!
There are a lot of countries like Belgium. Just in my personal experience: France and Japan (though University is not free in Japan while it is in France) but there are more (almost all Europe for example). I don't know what are your options but you could find a job in one of those to get a visa and move there, if you can stand living far from your family and friends.
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I wish the U.S. would get on board with the rest of the world, but they would rather their citizens struggle than do what is right.
Keep the citizens poor and uneducated, and you can manipulate them however you want.
Yep, England here, we have a share of issues like anyone elsae but like you said, i can be ill and not be bankrupt, get 31 holiday days a year plus an additional 14 days of non-serious sickness pay if i need them, yes we pay tax and i'm happy to pay it so it means we can look after our vulnerable in society and if i ever need help i know it's there.
Ubelievably high prices for houses and questionable double-standard food aside, thank God I live in Czech Republic and have extremely benevolent employer.
Even in Poland is similar as in Belgium (although we have our own problems and rather shitty wages). 20-26 holiday days (depends on the years of work, studies count to it), additional days off for funerals, getting married (or when your child is getting married), for taking care of your children or other members of your family, etc. Sick days are paid 80%, unless this is maternity sick leave, then it's 100% plus there is one year of maternity leave after the child is born which you can partially share with the other parent. It is surprising for me how the sick leave can be limited - how you can do that? People can't predict how long and how often they might be sick, it's not logical...here, you can't fire someone who is on a sick leave or maternity leave/pregnant, it's forbidden by law and trying to do it ends in law suit which is for sure won by employee.
I have a secret most place only give 1 week vacation after you have worked for more than a year and after five or ten years you get two weeks. And insurance but like my husband we have to pay 7k and 12k dollars before the will pay the cost and that can be 12k a year .. nice huh... I'm my family I'm very sick and my son's have issues one has heart disease... 1 of my medication is $800. For 90 pills of Elmiron for my bladder.. my husband works sick .. we can't even afford to have his issues checked. Land of the Free.. ya right.. and women's rights here... Forgote
"Only in America", huh? The world is bigger than America and Belgium. Greetings from an Italo-Croatian in S. Korea. ♥ (While health care is way better in all these 3 countries compared to the USA, the employment system? Not so much....)
It's called being civilized... also the Healthcare is one of many western values usa hates because usa is fucking stupid
Here in Canada we're at about 35-40% and I don't mind cause I've had my fair share of free healthcare. Growing up I never had to worry about putting my parents in debt with my many hospitalizations. As an adult I have never worried about my surgeries or my children getting sick and not being able to get them the healthcare they've needed. I don't understand how a country can deny that a healthy population is a productive happy population.
I'm also born and bred in Belgium (Antwerp - the center of the world!) and I would not for the life of me want to live anywhere else. I have triggerfingers which means every so many years one of my fingers is operated on. I get to choose the day of the operation. Me! The surgeon actually asks me what day suits me best. And after the surgery I get a week sick leave, paid. Yes, I'm all for paying taxes.
I live in Denmark and I am soooo glad I escaped the US many years ago. I used to think I would like to live there again, but no more! Here we pay about 50% in taxes but then the cost of medical, and education is covered. And people don’t starve to death (unless they really want to!).
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LIving in the Netherlands this is totally beyond anything I could imagine. I understand that companies aren't some kind of charitable organisation but ffs what is wrong with treating employees like they are actually human beings? None of this could happen in my country. Sick days? Yes we have them. You can stay sick for up to 730 days before the employer can fire you. Not allowed to attend a funeral? Nope. It's your legal right. Firing someone for being sick or recovering? No, impossible. Ok, we pay taxes but we all get more security and protection in return.
This is what boggles my mind. Here in North America, we pay taxes. And yet, some citizens (Usually Conservatives and Republicans) seem to think that it's perfectly fine to gut social programs, and only aid the rich, who barely pay any taxes at all. In this day and age, taxes are supposed to be paying for social programs that help everyone.
The US is the only country in the world where multi-billion companies and billionaires pay less taxes than a $20,000 income household. It's also the only country where people work 40 hours per week for Amazon and still have to rely on foodstamps to make ends meet. Foodstamps are paid for with taxmoney, yet Amazon didn't pay any taxes in 2018. Which means that your tax money is funding a billion dollar company and the owner who has a private capital of over $108 billion.
The American taxpayer is funding the so-called defense industry. You will find that countries with a better "people system" spend more on health and schools and less on the military. Why? "The US and Britain face no existential threat. So why do their wars go on?" https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2019/nov/15/britain-and-us-wars-conflicts-middle-east
You're woefully uninformed if you think the wealthy "barely pay any taxes at all."
Dutchy here, my manager thought he was in the US and tried to fire me on the spot for not agreeing how I managed my team (I'm more of the loyal to my team to get them happy and working hard kinda person). That backfired very quickly for my employer. It really doesn't work like that, you have to make a case (or both agree of course, that's an option). Even if the law is becoming more lenient towards employers, they still need a very good reason and documentation of it to break open a contract. It's not just about taxes and social security, because you are of course required to do your job in exchange for your pay. It's mostly about making employers to be more loyal and steer away from a fearful workforce.
I rely on disability in the USA because I have active seizures. The income from disability isn't enough to live on. You have to choose do I want my medication or do I want food. Rent for places to live cost almost all of your income. I've talked to people who can't get disability and have to work while they have active seizures and they talk about being fired job after job due to having too many days off work or having seizures makes them unable to do their job and it scares other employees so in turn, creates the ability of other employees to do their job efficiently. Our health system is terrible. I am married so I can have a place to live and I have food, but medication costs, even under Medicare, are outrageous and create debt. This shouldn't happen
Wait... you mean treating employees like human beings and being kind and empathetic makes them more productive and willing to do more for your company? NO WAY
Only in America. I am so glad I live in Belgium. But then again, we pay +50% of our income to taxes. And you now what, I have absolutely no problem with that. You know why? - no college debt for half your life - absence for medical reasons is always coverd (no loss of salary) - on top of that, you have (minimum) 20 days off, your choice when to take them (+ some additional, guaranteed off- days, like when a relative dies or your children are ill) - doctors' and hospital cost wouldn't bankrupt us - one of the best educational systems in the world - if you're fired, we have a strong social security safety net but the most surrealist political system;;; ;D
Hans my good sir.. this is heartbreaking for me .. I don't want to cry you a river of my problems but I'll tell you they run deeper than I ever thought be possible.. I'm ashamed of my country's greed and love of violence.. just yesterday we had another school shooting... I beg, wish dream of living such a life. In America we are Free.. Free to suffer , Free to owe the government 100k $ in debt at twenty years old for school ,, but cannot obtain a home loan for 10,20 or 30k . Our food is full of chemicals there are recalls of meat , fruits and vegetables seemingly monthly.. and the health, medical issues it all causes is too expensive to even get help with.. Hans it almost don't seem real what your saying.. this is my dream to live in Belgium
When I was a dumb Teenager in the 80s the USA was my "hero country" . Everything seem to be better than where I live. Today I thank god not to live in the US
In Norway too. Blessed to be born here. I do feel sad for Us citizens..
The US has gone from Democracy to Corpocracy. Corporations, big business, and the uberrich get the pleasure to decide and the common people, the Demos, get to do what they are told, say 'Yes, Sir' and follow orders. "In the free world you are living, in the free world you must stay" (Phil Ochs). I recently read that an "Oregon Man Sentenced to 30 Days in Jail -- for Collecting Rainwater on His Property". . . https://www.cnsnews.com/news/article/oregon-man-sentenced-30-days-jail-collecting-rainwater-his-property . . . The land of the free??? PLEASE VOTE!!!
There are a lot of countries like Belgium. Just in my personal experience: France and Japan (though University is not free in Japan while it is in France) but there are more (almost all Europe for example). I don't know what are your options but you could find a job in one of those to get a visa and move there, if you can stand living far from your family and friends.
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I wish the U.S. would get on board with the rest of the world, but they would rather their citizens struggle than do what is right.
Keep the citizens poor and uneducated, and you can manipulate them however you want.
Yep, England here, we have a share of issues like anyone elsae but like you said, i can be ill and not be bankrupt, get 31 holiday days a year plus an additional 14 days of non-serious sickness pay if i need them, yes we pay tax and i'm happy to pay it so it means we can look after our vulnerable in society and if i ever need help i know it's there.
Ubelievably high prices for houses and questionable double-standard food aside, thank God I live in Czech Republic and have extremely benevolent employer.
Even in Poland is similar as in Belgium (although we have our own problems and rather shitty wages). 20-26 holiday days (depends on the years of work, studies count to it), additional days off for funerals, getting married (or when your child is getting married), for taking care of your children or other members of your family, etc. Sick days are paid 80%, unless this is maternity sick leave, then it's 100% plus there is one year of maternity leave after the child is born which you can partially share with the other parent. It is surprising for me how the sick leave can be limited - how you can do that? People can't predict how long and how often they might be sick, it's not logical...here, you can't fire someone who is on a sick leave or maternity leave/pregnant, it's forbidden by law and trying to do it ends in law suit which is for sure won by employee.
I have a secret most place only give 1 week vacation after you have worked for more than a year and after five or ten years you get two weeks. And insurance but like my husband we have to pay 7k and 12k dollars before the will pay the cost and that can be 12k a year .. nice huh... I'm my family I'm very sick and my son's have issues one has heart disease... 1 of my medication is $800. For 90 pills of Elmiron for my bladder.. my husband works sick .. we can't even afford to have his issues checked. Land of the Free.. ya right.. and women's rights here... Forgote
"Only in America", huh? The world is bigger than America and Belgium. Greetings from an Italo-Croatian in S. Korea. ♥ (While health care is way better in all these 3 countries compared to the USA, the employment system? Not so much....)
It's called being civilized... also the Healthcare is one of many western values usa hates because usa is fucking stupid
Here in Canada we're at about 35-40% and I don't mind cause I've had my fair share of free healthcare. Growing up I never had to worry about putting my parents in debt with my many hospitalizations. As an adult I have never worried about my surgeries or my children getting sick and not being able to get them the healthcare they've needed. I don't understand how a country can deny that a healthy population is a productive happy population.
I'm also born and bred in Belgium (Antwerp - the center of the world!) and I would not for the life of me want to live anywhere else. I have triggerfingers which means every so many years one of my fingers is operated on. I get to choose the day of the operation. Me! The surgeon actually asks me what day suits me best. And after the surgery I get a week sick leave, paid. Yes, I'm all for paying taxes.
I live in Denmark and I am soooo glad I escaped the US many years ago. I used to think I would like to live there again, but no more! Here we pay about 50% in taxes but then the cost of medical, and education is covered. And people don’t starve to death (unless they really want to!).
You also have the BEST CHOCOLATE EVER
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LIving in the Netherlands this is totally beyond anything I could imagine. I understand that companies aren't some kind of charitable organisation but ffs what is wrong with treating employees like they are actually human beings? None of this could happen in my country. Sick days? Yes we have them. You can stay sick for up to 730 days before the employer can fire you. Not allowed to attend a funeral? Nope. It's your legal right. Firing someone for being sick or recovering? No, impossible. Ok, we pay taxes but we all get more security and protection in return.
This is what boggles my mind. Here in North America, we pay taxes. And yet, some citizens (Usually Conservatives and Republicans) seem to think that it's perfectly fine to gut social programs, and only aid the rich, who barely pay any taxes at all. In this day and age, taxes are supposed to be paying for social programs that help everyone.
The US is the only country in the world where multi-billion companies and billionaires pay less taxes than a $20,000 income household. It's also the only country where people work 40 hours per week for Amazon and still have to rely on foodstamps to make ends meet. Foodstamps are paid for with taxmoney, yet Amazon didn't pay any taxes in 2018. Which means that your tax money is funding a billion dollar company and the owner who has a private capital of over $108 billion.
The American taxpayer is funding the so-called defense industry. You will find that countries with a better "people system" spend more on health and schools and less on the military. Why? "The US and Britain face no existential threat. So why do their wars go on?" https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2019/nov/15/britain-and-us-wars-conflicts-middle-east
You're woefully uninformed if you think the wealthy "barely pay any taxes at all."
Dutchy here, my manager thought he was in the US and tried to fire me on the spot for not agreeing how I managed my team (I'm more of the loyal to my team to get them happy and working hard kinda person). That backfired very quickly for my employer. It really doesn't work like that, you have to make a case (or both agree of course, that's an option). Even if the law is becoming more lenient towards employers, they still need a very good reason and documentation of it to break open a contract. It's not just about taxes and social security, because you are of course required to do your job in exchange for your pay. It's mostly about making employers to be more loyal and steer away from a fearful workforce.
I rely on disability in the USA because I have active seizures. The income from disability isn't enough to live on. You have to choose do I want my medication or do I want food. Rent for places to live cost almost all of your income. I've talked to people who can't get disability and have to work while they have active seizures and they talk about being fired job after job due to having too many days off work or having seizures makes them unable to do their job and it scares other employees so in turn, creates the ability of other employees to do their job efficiently. Our health system is terrible. I am married so I can have a place to live and I have food, but medication costs, even under Medicare, are outrageous and create debt. This shouldn't happen
Wait... you mean treating employees like human beings and being kind and empathetic makes them more productive and willing to do more for your company? NO WAY