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Women Are Sharing The Most Ridiculous Things They’ve Heard Men Say About Their Bodies (30 Tweets)
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High school biology doesn't teach guys how to understand women. But it at least gives them an idea of how their bodies work. Pass that and you won't infuriate your girlfriend by telling her to "keep it in" when she asks you to buy her some tampons. Recently, Twitter user @brownandbella asked women to share the most ridiculous things they've heard men say about "sex, reproductive health, menstruation, etc" and BOY did they deliver! As of this article, the thread already has nearly 20K upvotes and over 3.5K comments, many of which will make you wonder if men are really that stupid or are they just being dicks. Maybe the first, maybe the latter, maybe a bit of both.
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Almost a quarter of men have admitted that they have "no idea" what a pelvic floor is or what it is supposed to do. About 1 in 20 believe it's just another name for your pelvis and some even think it's a dance move. A new study has confirmed that men really are clueless when it comes to their female partner's body.
The study, released by pelvic floor experts INNOVO, found that nearly 4 in 10 men don't feel comfortable talking to women about it, too. 4 in 10 men also admit they have no understanding about the health issues their wife or girlfriend faces and are stumped when it comes to the length of their period.
Periods can be a horror show for sure. Cramps, messy underwear, acne, bloating, not to mention the mood swings.
The same magical 4 in 10 men don't feel comfortable talking to women about intimate health issues and as a result, more than a third try to avoid all conversations with their partner about subjects such as periods, intimate screening tests, and even sex.
Damn monthly subscriptions. Never can stop them. I hear you can pause them for 9 months, but it is SO not worth it.
"Intimate health issues can be a difficult subject for many to discuss," Jane Wake, women's health and fitness expert, said. "'It may be funny to think men have no idea what a pelvic floor is or does, but it's a subject which needs to be taken seriously – especially as men also have a pelvic floor and can suffer the same problems as women."
Either he has a very small penis or thinks tampons are far bigger than they are. Either way.... wow.
Jane added that both men and women find it embarrassing to discuss their private health concerns with someone of the opposite sex, even if it is their own partner, but that being as open as possible with each other is the best way to gradually break down the taboo.
When I was about 14, over 20 years ago, I was reading the problem page in a teen magazine. A girl had written a letter, in a total panic, because her periods weren't blue. She thought she had some terrible disease.
This sounds like he was willfully neglecting his duties as a doctor. Like he was just too lazy to try and find out what was wrong and that's scary as hell.
As a young girl who hadn't had " the talk" yet, we knew my girlfriend would give us the facts. Her parents were Doctors! Well, she said.." First you lay this egg... suggesting it was size of an ostrich egg( made sense), and then you bleed for about a week. You also grow hair in weird places. It's called PUBLIC HAIR! At that point we all swore we would just get to a Nunnery!! Somehow, reality reached us by high school.
Why on earth should father express his opinions about daughters sexual life?
Or even be part of a conversation about birth control. She's old enough to make this decision without either parent having anything to do with it.
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Kick him in the balls and when he doubles over, tell him to toughen up.
Even if - we're not Eve, why should we suffer for her wrongdoing? No logic there.
And if we look at it from a religious point of view, didn't Jesus atone for those sins by dying on the cross, so girls nowadays wouldn't have to worry about "the sins of Eve" and shit like that?
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No where in the Bible does it even imply this. Misogynistic misinterpretation at its finest
My parents are pretty religious, but they are not that dumb... Menstrual pain? Here, have a painkiller. And have something to eat too, the medicine might upset your stomach otherwise.
Load More Replies... this is horrendous on so many levels. I'm so sorry that you had to deal with such a man, with such opinions.
Imagine being the sort of person who gets upset because your child isn't in pain...sick...
I' ll show this to my daughter so she can see that she is lucky with her dad :-)
as a child raised in the Southern Baptist Church as a DK, FUCK RELIGION FOR THIS REASON! No disrespect to any of you. I still consider myself a christian but this is the shit poison I'm sick of that's in the church.
Even at age 14 he had no right to prevent you from getting birth control. And then he tried it at 18? What an asshole! This is a real religios idiot!
My dad called me a disappointment for going on birth control because I was having extreme period cramps that would have me making cots in the bathroom with a heating pad, mom would call me out of school for the whole week (I was a top student). Mom told me not to say anything to him, but he found out because I let it slip I was running to the pharmacy to pick it up. He went to mom and was like "she won't be able to have babies and studies show it makes women more promiscuous" and moms like "when was that study?" and he said "20 years ago". He said I was a disappointment, and that I should have consulted him before starting. One of the many reasons I don't have a relationship with him.
Not only is it awful that so many people still seem to subscribe to the "pay for Eve's sins" rhetoric based on a book, but the fact that a father is totally okay with his own daughter being in excruciating pain in order to "atone" is arguably a form of child abuse.
Paying for Eve's sin is just when you are in labor during birthing your baby. That was also in the Old Testament and most Chritians don't go by its laws since Jesus died on the cross to take away our sins and make us white as snow. When you accept Jesus as your Savior your sins are gone from that moment on. Tell your father that. I never knew when I would have a period. Some would last 6 weeks and I'd bleed heavily and cramp the whole time. The next time may happen in a couple of weeks or 3 months and I'd only spot a little. I don't know how my body knew when to get pregnant but it did. I too took birth control pills after my first baby to straighten out my periods and it was great. Better yet was having a hysterectomy at 26 and never having a period again!
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I have a cute story for you tho! When I was starting out, I was freaking out looking for a pad and my Dad brought an entire box to the door: “I have a chart for your time of the month in my calendar and an extra box in case they sell out or are late.” I guess three daughters made him the best dad ever!
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What is it with men and letting women suffer because of Eve’s sins?? Someone must inform them about the year we live in. 😐
People who say, "Toughen Up" to medical injurys always make my blood boil
Same. I actually find it kind of scary because it must take a spectacular amount of narcissism and lack of empathy to look at someone, have no idea what they're feeling and still brazenly insist they should ignore it.
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Seems like the Bible (or Church) has guided a lot of people to really not understand how women work. Bringing the whole "you deserve it because of the sins of Eve" is so manipulative and degrading. No wonder people are leaving the Church in droves. This sort of thing is just so repulsive.
I hate it when people bring religion into this stuff. Like, even from a religious standpoint, you're wrong buddy.....
last year, my science teacher said she had cramps so bad she had to go to the hospital.
Did she tell you what they were able to do for her?
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Can someone explain what's up with Eve's sin? Saw it twice on this thread.
I'm sorry, but never tell a girl to toughen up about her period. That crap HURTS
As far as I know, men don't have monthly pain. I guess that's why they evolved with their genitals so vulnerable and sensitive to pain. Kind of evens out, if only a little.
Jesus christ. I was buying a house at 18. Maybe it's time you left home if that's the kind of "parenting" you're subjected to.
Hey Dad..how about every time your daughter has menstrual cramps, you let her kick you in the balls...because that's how painful it is sometimes. And if you say "no," maybe you should "toughen up."
Actually, if you have extreme period pain, you should see your doctor to find out what's going on. Sure, we have bad cramps from our periods sometimes. But if it's extreme pain every time you have your period, something more could be going on.
I would kick him in the groin with all the force of a sledgehammer and say "haha, don't forget that Adam ate the apple too"
I would kick him in the groin with all the force of a sledgehammer
Fathers overall seem to have a problem with their daughters' sex life - real or imagined...
Poor sex Ed, and a mother intimidated by his father, and didn’t explain sex to him at all, nor did his dad... grandfather and then her dad, poorly educated. And likely,for a long time. Bully men all the way back, and suppressed the moms from saying anything to sons or daughters... very sad!
In retrospect, he should have his balls put in a vice due to the sins of Adam
Well, unless he is going out to work the land with thorns and thistles which is the product of HIS sin he should probably shut up.
Nice....what a true hero of out time ...imagine your mum's marriage...
Eve didnt sin, God told Adam not to eat of the tree, and then he created Eve
Yeah, rather have your daughter get pregnant then to get her on birth control. Good thinking.
Don't worry dude they don't bite and police can be called and back you up . We all have mouths and words to communicate, we can use them accordingly for more reasons than bitching and thrashing genders hmmmm
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How many people seriously believe women deserve pain just because Eve at the fruit? Yknow the scriptures do say that we are not judged for the sins of our fathers so wtf
Dad tried to forbid an 18 year old? He needs to be informed his daughter is an adult. Next time he's in pain, just remind him he is suffering from Adam's sin and toughen up.
Why aren't women relieved of menstruation and painful childbirth when Jesus "forgives" them?
I think you dodged a bullet with that one. Just because you are in college, does not mean you are educated.
Ummm... does he only know 50 foot tall women? How big/heavy does he think the egg is?
So to sum up: You girls/women don't only bleed from your vagina's, but also have to suffer from uneducated pains in the ass.
Yep and the dozens of other symptoms that go with the bleeding. If it was just blood it honestly wouldn’t be so awful. Cramps, headaches, hormones etc are even worse.
I used to feel like I was coming down with the 'flu on the first day or two. Did I mention how wonderful menopause was?
just about. but the mansplaining is the worst. Thank goodness some men have empathy and curiosity, and their only sin is ignorance, not out-and-out malignant intent.
yeeep
These are the reasons that Sex Ed and health should ALWAYS be taught in school. Lots of parents don't education their children; my mother never did.
My mom was pretty good, but also preached the "no sex before marriage" due to religious views. My son will be 11 soon and we have really good, open discussions about the good, the bad and the ugly of both male and female puberty and reproductive health. Some people might think he's too young to know about STDs, intercourse, and periods, but I say he's young enough that he won't hear it from someone else first so I can teach him the facts before he hears the myths.
I think you are doing exactly the right thing. Not that you need my approval - but you have it anyway.
Here in Italy we have the first sex ed lesson in school at 10 y.o. so it's not too soon.
I don’t know who is down voting you but I don’t think 11 is too soon. Girls start periods around 11, I was 12, and I knew nothing! I am lucky nothing bad happened to me. But I would have had healthier relationships mentally and physically if it wasn’t so taboo to know about the difference between our bodies.
Dippin Dot, your mom did you a solid, that's for sure! My mother got me a kit from one of the feminine hygiene companies with a booklet that explained a lot of things. She gave me the kit when I had a "period" at age 10.5. It wasn't a real period, but she was prepared. My mother was such a prude about sex and taught me that sex was dirty and was not a subject that polite women talked about. My stepmother was quite open about the birds and the bees, so I got a mixed education at home. On the subject of the right age to start teaching comprehensive and frank sex education is dropping into the single digits. Girls are starting their monthly cycles much earlier. It's not as uncommon as it used to be for girls to have their first period at age 9. A friend who worked at a middle school office had a student who was pregnant for the *3rd* time at age 11. She told my friend that she was keeping this one. This was 20 years ago.
My mom was similar to yours. She actually gave me age-appropriate books that were from age 6-9, explaining about puberty, periods and where babies comes from and the other was I think 11-13 where they explained in more details about sex, STDs and contraception. Well, I was curios, so I actually read the second one earlier, so I knew the facts way before I needed them. I didn't think about having sex before 16 and when I did I knew that "I'll keep you safe" isn't good enough, so if you want to have sex, you better go buy condoms.
@Dippin Dot..and that's what makes you a good mother. People are always overly-protective of their kids. I'm here to tell you, the earlier the better when telling them the birds and the bees. Why? Because the last time my sister-in-law was a counselor for a camp full of 11 year olds, her biggest problem was breaking up kids that had attempted to sneak off in the woods to have sex...some of them she caught in various stages of undress. Girls are getting pregnant at 12 and 13 now. You can't wait until you think they're old enough. It's not a conversation that you can avoid and you don't want to live with the consequences of delivering that message too late.
You made sure that he’s vaccinated against HPV, right?
You, are a great mom!!❤️❤️❤️❤️
I was 14 and found a copy of Dr Ruth's Guide to Good sex and knew more about sex than my dad ever thought I knew. It talked about sex before and during menstruation, but not what menstruation was.
Relatable. I didn't know about period until mine came for the first time. Imagine my fear when i saw it. Also, lot of the stories above are just men who don't know trying to not be rude. They just don't know cause no one told them.
Although I would not take the responsibility from the parents here. School AND parents. Parents should be a role model that bodies are just normal as they are, and that includes among others women having their period. Anyway, this series only in small parts is about outraging comments from men but really a lot about an astonishing lack of education.
Last week, when I picked up my little boy in kindergarden, a mother was upset because her elder daughter (14yo) "learnt sex" at school, she had to memorize anatomical names from pictures (in fact drawings). She was even more upset that parents around didn't see any problem with this, because school was " putting ideas in kids head" and they shouldn't talk about menstruations because this is dirty... I'm really glad for this girl ( likely to soon menstruate) had the chance to get informations on that point at school. Of course, in a perfect world, her parents would have do the job, but as we're not living in a perfect world...
The trouble is that there are parents who don't teach their children or teach them wrong or misleading things. Schools need to do this so that parents can't get away with teaching their children utter crap. I was lucky - my parents were good in that regard but I heard a lot of playground chatter from children who weren't being given good education. The school aspect is VITAL. Parents should not have the right to overule this either. Ignorance leads to some terrible things happening.
I set a lot of children straight on the playground, but I was lucky--my mom told me everything, and kids were asking questions way before sex ed caught up with what they wanted to know--it's worse now.
My mother never did either. I was born in the Soviet Union where "there's no sex" so no one talked about it. I got my education on the street and god it was flawed! I dodged most of the bullets by self-education, but looking back now I understand how much more I needed to know before I started my sex life. I try to be different with my daughter, talking to her in clear terms and trying to give as much detail as appropriate for each age.
You've been down voted by trolls--your experience says everything, and why we need sex ed for our children
Sex ed will help just a bit, sometimes the info they give is so convoluted and watered down you would be better off looking at a PBS program. It is abysmal.
But even then the sex ed is not accurate!!! But you're right, it must be taught properly!
This just shows the lack of sexual education in general. It is scary to say the least. It ought to be mandatory that men receive education on the body of women...
Yes. And also women about the male body, and women about female bodies and men about male bodies.
Sadly, women are often no less ignorant/misinformed regarding their own bodies, sex, pregnancy, etc.
Well, a little bit less of course: you will quickly discover for yourself that really weird things like 'having a period only once in a lifetime', 'periods being blue' etc. are not correct haha. But I agree, there are lots of women that are ignorant/misinformed about female bodies: about which things impact the chance of getting pregnant, which things are just natural and not a sign that you did something wrong, what technically happens inside your body during a pregnancy, which things are normal (many women thinking their vagina looks abnormal because it doesn't look like it does in porn), which symptoms are not just a fact of life as a woman but are a medical problem, etc etc.
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Sadly, you are terribly wrong.
We had a Great Sex Ed program set up in Ontario in the past few years and the Ford Government and their backward ways cancelled it and returned to something from back in the /60's. because they thought that it wasn't proper to teach kids about same sex relationships, sexting, stalkers, STDs, AIDS & so many other things that we know some kids as young as 12 or less are involved with. We all see the stories of young kids getting pregnant because they develop as young as 9 years old.
As a male, I will never truly understand the pain that women endure. But as someone who has been with the same woman for nearly 30 years, I have witnessed the monthly struggle, and I do my best to alleviate the suffering as much as possible.
why would someone downvote this??? you are very kind
So... you stock up on bourbon and make sure there’s plenty of Advil and chocolate in the house? Because that would make you a saint among men.
Chocolate and Midol, actually
Don't forget the heating pad or hot water bottle
Correction...Godiva and Midol...with lots and lots of wine.....lol
THANKYOU. You're showing empathy, a willingness to learn, and most importantly, a willingness to support your parter (which is exactly what partnerships are about: empathy, willingness to learn, and a willingness to support in whatever ways possible). Unsure why your good intentions got down-votes.
My high school daughter told me her friends think I am the coolest dad. I asked why. She told me because I was the only dad that had no issues with bringing pads or tampons to school for her a couple of times. I am not sure whether to be proud or sad that other dads don't do this.
wow-nice dad
i once had to explain to a man in his 20s that breasts are not hollow ziplock baggies constantly full of milk. you cannot, in an apocalypse situation, cut off a woman's breast to drink the milk inside.
Jesus.
WUATT! This plays in a whole new league of sick!!!
I was dating this guy a few years ago and he got angry one afternoon because I didn't wanna have sex because I was on my period. He thought I was lying because we had sex that morning and I didn't have my period then. I tried to explain that it doesn't start in the morning and finish in the evening. The whole argument went so far that I pulled out my tampon to prove that I wasn't lying. Gross, I know but that was the only way to make him believe me.
That is insane!
You are with a guy who called you a liar. Bye!
sometimes it takes extremes
And these are the men taking our rights away
PLEASE Bored Panda - don't cut this one down to 30. The subject matter is too important.
Could someone please explain why the topic of sex education has gotten SO MANY DOWN VOTES? I'd like to know from the people who are down voting WHY they are doing so... because it seems like the majority of the comments are pro-education...
I don’t get it. I was in elementary school and junior high in the ‘70s. Starting in Grade 5 we had comprehensive sex educations taught by nurses (hats of to the VON, the Victorian Order of Nurses for doing this) that covered everything from a detailed description of the plumbing, what sex involves, how babies are made, what forms of birth control there were at the time, and how to use a condom. ...///... This was in public school, as a unit in science, and it was MANDATORY. no one was excused for any reason, including religious freakery.
Take that to early 80's. We had a sex education segment in 5th grade. That was the time they started to send permission slips home giving parents a chance to "opt out" their kids from the program. I can understand why they did since part of the class went over contraception and many of the students in class were Catholic. But there was an outline of topics on the permission slip so parents could check off certain parts of the class they didn't want their kids attending. Our school really put some thought into setting up these classes..including having the class separated down with girls in one class, boys in another. Questions were also submitted to the instructor anonymously by writing your question down on a piece of paper and putting it in a box. It prevented kids from getting singled out for asking strange questions and/or really personal questions. Maybe sex ed would be more successful if the school districts took time to set it up properly.
Reading other people's comments, I sometimes think sex education was better in the 70s. I know I got very good sex education in school, and thank goodness for that - my mother did not want to talk about it at all. Periods were a dirty shameful secret at home.