Woman Shows How Sexist School Dress Codes Are On TikTok, Where She Acts As The Hero All Girls Need
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Super strict school dress codes that unfairly target girls are BS—that’s the message that 22-year-old actress and screenwriter Nicole Ciravolo sent her fans by posting a series of viral TikToks. Ciravolo called out the sexism present in schools where girls are sent to the principal’s office and chastised for ‘violating’ the rules by wearing tank tops and other ‘inappropriate’ clothes.
But what if things were different? What if there was somebody to stand up for you? Well, that’s exactly what Ciravolo showed in her videos as she took on the role of a school secretary: how people should use their common sense to react to dress code ‘violations.’ Scroll down and have a look for yourselves, dear Pandas. Be sure to share your thoughts in the comments below and read on for Bored Panda’s interview with the actress.
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Actress Nicole Ciravolo went viral after posting a series of videos on TikTok about how unfair and sexist school dress codes are
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Here’s her first video where she pretends to be a school secretary and shows how people should react to double standards for girls
@nicoleciravolo##POV: you get sent to the principles office for dress code but the secretary does! not! f*ck! around!♬ original sound – nicoleciravolo
“I was mostly inspired by the treatment I received as a high school student from faculty when it came to dress code,” Ciravolo told us what pushed her to make the viral TikToks. “I often felt shamed by female faculty and sexualized by male faculty. I wanted to create a character that I wish I’d had in school because I never felt like anyone was in my corner—and that’s what Ms. Connie has become. I never in a million years would have expected it to blow up like it did, but I’m not surprised that many people relate to wishing there was someone in power on their side in school.”
She continues to spread the message in part 2 of her video right here
@nicoleciravolopart two of… ##POV: you get sent to the principal’s office and realize the secretary does! not! f*ck! around!♬ original sound – nicoleciravolo
In the actress’s opinion, school dress codes are enforced “for the benefit of faculty,” not students. “They often have elements of racism and sexism disguised as ‘professional’ (i.e. sagging pants or no bra straps showing). In my own experience, skirt/shorts length or bra straps don’t distract other students but instead the teachers. It’s sickening to think back to being a 15-year-old minor and getting sent to the office by a man in his sixties because my shorts made him uncomfortable. Those types of people should not be teaching minors.”
The actress finishes her lesson about how to fight sexism in schools with her third video
@nicoleciravolo##POV part 3 — I think we’re gonna make this into a series!! 🥳 but… she needs a name! I’m thinking Linda but would luv to hear ur suggestions 🥰♬ original sound – nicoleciravolo
Ciravolo also told us a bit more about herself. “I’ve been in acting classes since I was in second grade. Though I loved the Disney channel like any other 8-year-old, it was really sneaking into my parents’ room to watch SNL that drew me to it: I so desperately wanted to make people laugh for a living, and that hasn’t changed!”
People absolutely loved her videos and they were viewed tens of millions of times altogether. That’s how you know that the topic resonated with them and that a lot of people find the issue important and worth talking about.
Around 55 percent of US public high schools have dress codes and plenty of people believe that they’re outdated, that they reinforce gender stereotypes, and that they’re sexist against girls.
One of the most commonly known problems is that girls get called out for wearing ‘revealing’ clothes that ‘distract the boys in the class’ but a lot of people believe that there’s no place for such views in 2020. This can not only lead to girls being shamed in front of the entire classroom but it also means that some girls have to skip classes because they’re forced to explain what they did ‘wrong.’
“These rules aren’t neutral: many target girls, and especially black girls, by regulating skirt length and headwraps. And the rules aren’t applied equally, either. Students report that black girls, and especially curvier students, are disproportionately targeted,” a report by the National Women’s Law Center called out dress codes in schools.
Ciravolo is an actress who “accidentally stumbled into ASMR.” According to her IMDb page, she is known for her roles in the 2018 movie Melrose, as well as the 2001 film Love, Sex & Murder. She currently studies theatre at Sarah Lawrence College in New York and plans to graduate in 2021. We just hope that she’ll find the time to make great TikTok videos in between her studies in the meantime.
People supported the actress’ message and shared their own experiences with strict dress codes
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Honestly, the real issue are the boys who are distracted by a girl's shoulder.
/sarcasm/ Exactly! I for one am completely unable to control myself when I see a girl's clavicle!
Wait till you see our ankles 😉
Phwoarr!! Shoulders!! Lol :)
The things the boys usually aren’t distracted. It’s the creepy teachers who can’t control their own thoughts.
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How many shoulderfetishists did you encounter so far??? You should consider leaving the sect you are attending or get a proper sex ed to unveil the true reasons of a man's arousal...just sayin'
If a school needs a dresscode "to protect the children", I always wonder what lurks in that school that the children need to be protected from.
"protect the children" is always code for controlling the bodies of everyone who isn't a cis hetero white guy
Anyone who would snatch up a child, teen or adult to rape, will do so without a single regard for what she/he is wearing. What kind of f*****g monster s**t shames a child?
Sang Fe lol
Chutney Hawkes, firstly, the majority of paedophiles are known to the child eg family / family friends / people with regular access to children. Statistically speaking, the snatch-and-grab cases are an absolute minority. Secondly, those snatch-and-grabs happen regardless of what the kid was wearing. There are PLENTY of stories where the kid was wearing a uniform etc. Linking "what they wear" with "possibility of sexual attack" is unfounded, illogical, and perpetuating the ludicrous idea that the victim of sexual attack holds some responsiblity by the choice in clothes at the time of the attack. Seriously.
so true
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Sang Fe - What kind of f*****g monster would call a child a s**t in the first place. I'm not the monster who is sexualising children. Perhaps you should remember that. Disgusting!
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Or lessening the chances of them being snatched by paedophiles on their way home.
Yes, humans are sexual beings, and some are perverts.
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I worked in a Baptist church academy. Boys ran around in tank tops and basketball shorts -- and some appeared to be commando. Cheerleaders had to wear sweaters "that didn't touch the breast and waist," skirts past the knee, and stirrup tights under the skirts because they were kicking up their legs -- they could kick no higher than their knees. The boys were still distracted.
This dress code is over "protective".
That sort of thing is typical of religious nutballs.
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This is the problem with this site, I was just suggesting any possible reason why these dress codes exist and so far I've been called a "monster" by someone who (in the same sentence) used the word "s**t" whilst talking about CHILDREN!! Shocking behaviour.
Glad we never had a “dress code“ for school. That seems to be an American thing. We just wore whatever we liked and none of the teachers thought it was any of their business to tell us what to wear.
The only dress code I can remember was you were not allowed to wear jeans. Because, wait for it: the rivets would ruin the furniture.
My grandson had to tuck his shirt in in elementary school. They all wore big t-shirts, so that looked nice.
that's hilarious
That doesn't make any kind of sense.
my code is white yellow or gray polos and khaki navy or black botoms. boys are required to wear belt, girls have to if theres loops, no red or blue, no hats or hoods, ( sorry Muslim s) no stiletos. why cnat boys wear skirts if they want, huh? thas anothor part, no "cross gender" clothes. the teachers( not all, but a lot) are gayist!
i could go on and f*****g on
Same. Except no jeans allowed in gym class, too hard to move in.
I went to high school from 1978-81. The hippies, etc., had already fought the good fight. For those few years, we wore shirts with marijuana leaves, bad words, spaghetti straps and tube tops with no bra (not me - too big), low rise pants, etc. We also went to school with no A/C. They started tightening up after my sister went to high school right after me. However, I did get pulled out of lunch to discuss my tank top with wide shoulder straps & a bra. But I was 36C, so that was slutty.
When I was in grade school girls could wear skirts or dresses no shorter then an inch above the knee, tights were permissible, no pants or shorts ever, not even in winter. Blouses had to have a collar that reached the collarbone. This was a public school too
That's horrible.
Perhaps old fashioned but we had school uniform. It was the universal equalizer. Never had this problem.
Suzi Gauthier, whom did your daughter cheat? ---- I agree with you, Bunzilla: that's how culture dresses up women ....or more precisely, undresses them. On the other hand, I would definitely not want to be covered from head to toe either, it belittles women as well. ---- And I agree with Helena: school uniform frees kids to focus on learning. (Peer pressure can be very burdensome).
My middle school has a dress code (eww) but some of them I understand. We're not allowed to wear shorts that don't come halfway down our thighs, but I've seen a lot of girls wear shorts that were REALLY short (meaning I could see their buttcheeks, blech)
I don't know why girls can't wear short skirts but the official cheerleader outfit is shorter than most dress codes! My daughter was able to cheat. Her high school said the skirt hem had to be below your own fingertips. My daughter had pretty short arms - so just below her fingertips was still above her butt!
Problem is that many girls can't find shorts that are an 'appropriate' length. That's literally all stores sell.
Reasonable comment, Wolfstar. I too can understand some dress codes, and, on the other hand, there can be some too strict. 1). It is very wrong to call a teen girl a hooker, especially in the presence of her classmates. It is inexcusable. 2). It is negative cultural phenomenon: woman's worth is only in her sex appeal, her naked skin. There are many women which are pleased to play this role. Men do not come to school or work dressed for beach, only girls do. Every place has its reasonable and practical "dress code". Yes, it was 95 degrees F outside; what was the temperature inside? All it takes are rationality, the right dose of temperance, and common sense. ----- Yea, start down-voting.
What non-American place did you go to school? I've been to several countries and have observed students wearing SCHOOL UNIFORMS.
I think you're ill informed if you think because you've been to several countries then you know for a fact everywhere else has school uniforms... There are at least 50 countries only in Europe... In Scandinavia we generally don't wear a uniform. I think its more a British thing, although other countries obviously do it too.
And then girls got raped or were never found going home from school. It's not just boys at school
In my country there were school strict dress codes only during the fascist dictatorship that ended 46 years ago. Also, boys and girls went to different schools, so I don't know who they could be distracting... Thankfully that was a lifetime ago :)
It seems to me that in Scandinavia (Sweden) people (and their government) have common sense.
Honestly, the real issue are the boys who are distracted by a girl's shoulder.
/sarcasm/ Exactly! I for one am completely unable to control myself when I see a girl's clavicle!
Wait till you see our ankles 😉
Phwoarr!! Shoulders!! Lol :)
The things the boys usually aren’t distracted. It’s the creepy teachers who can’t control their own thoughts.
This comment is hidden. Click here to view.
How many shoulderfetishists did you encounter so far??? You should consider leaving the sect you are attending or get a proper sex ed to unveil the true reasons of a man's arousal...just sayin'
If a school needs a dresscode "to protect the children", I always wonder what lurks in that school that the children need to be protected from.
"protect the children" is always code for controlling the bodies of everyone who isn't a cis hetero white guy
Anyone who would snatch up a child, teen or adult to rape, will do so without a single regard for what she/he is wearing. What kind of f*****g monster s**t shames a child?
Sang Fe lol
Chutney Hawkes, firstly, the majority of paedophiles are known to the child eg family / family friends / people with regular access to children. Statistically speaking, the snatch-and-grab cases are an absolute minority. Secondly, those snatch-and-grabs happen regardless of what the kid was wearing. There are PLENTY of stories where the kid was wearing a uniform etc. Linking "what they wear" with "possibility of sexual attack" is unfounded, illogical, and perpetuating the ludicrous idea that the victim of sexual attack holds some responsiblity by the choice in clothes at the time of the attack. Seriously.
so true
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Sang Fe - What kind of f*****g monster would call a child a s**t in the first place. I'm not the monster who is sexualising children. Perhaps you should remember that. Disgusting!
This comment is hidden. Click here to view.
Or lessening the chances of them being snatched by paedophiles on their way home.
Yes, humans are sexual beings, and some are perverts.
Christina Uhlir +
I worked in a Baptist church academy. Boys ran around in tank tops and basketball shorts -- and some appeared to be commando. Cheerleaders had to wear sweaters "that didn't touch the breast and waist," skirts past the knee, and stirrup tights under the skirts because they were kicking up their legs -- they could kick no higher than their knees. The boys were still distracted.
This dress code is over "protective".
That sort of thing is typical of religious nutballs.
This comment is hidden. Click here to view.
This is the problem with this site, I was just suggesting any possible reason why these dress codes exist and so far I've been called a "monster" by someone who (in the same sentence) used the word "s**t" whilst talking about CHILDREN!! Shocking behaviour.
Glad we never had a “dress code“ for school. That seems to be an American thing. We just wore whatever we liked and none of the teachers thought it was any of their business to tell us what to wear.
The only dress code I can remember was you were not allowed to wear jeans. Because, wait for it: the rivets would ruin the furniture.
My grandson had to tuck his shirt in in elementary school. They all wore big t-shirts, so that looked nice.
that's hilarious
That doesn't make any kind of sense.
my code is white yellow or gray polos and khaki navy or black botoms. boys are required to wear belt, girls have to if theres loops, no red or blue, no hats or hoods, ( sorry Muslim s) no stiletos. why cnat boys wear skirts if they want, huh? thas anothor part, no "cross gender" clothes. the teachers( not all, but a lot) are gayist!
i could go on and f*****g on
Same. Except no jeans allowed in gym class, too hard to move in.
I went to high school from 1978-81. The hippies, etc., had already fought the good fight. For those few years, we wore shirts with marijuana leaves, bad words, spaghetti straps and tube tops with no bra (not me - too big), low rise pants, etc. We also went to school with no A/C. They started tightening up after my sister went to high school right after me. However, I did get pulled out of lunch to discuss my tank top with wide shoulder straps & a bra. But I was 36C, so that was slutty.
When I was in grade school girls could wear skirts or dresses no shorter then an inch above the knee, tights were permissible, no pants or shorts ever, not even in winter. Blouses had to have a collar that reached the collarbone. This was a public school too
That's horrible.
Perhaps old fashioned but we had school uniform. It was the universal equalizer. Never had this problem.
Suzi Gauthier, whom did your daughter cheat? ---- I agree with you, Bunzilla: that's how culture dresses up women ....or more precisely, undresses them. On the other hand, I would definitely not want to be covered from head to toe either, it belittles women as well. ---- And I agree with Helena: school uniform frees kids to focus on learning. (Peer pressure can be very burdensome).
My middle school has a dress code (eww) but some of them I understand. We're not allowed to wear shorts that don't come halfway down our thighs, but I've seen a lot of girls wear shorts that were REALLY short (meaning I could see their buttcheeks, blech)
I don't know why girls can't wear short skirts but the official cheerleader outfit is shorter than most dress codes! My daughter was able to cheat. Her high school said the skirt hem had to be below your own fingertips. My daughter had pretty short arms - so just below her fingertips was still above her butt!
Problem is that many girls can't find shorts that are an 'appropriate' length. That's literally all stores sell.
Reasonable comment, Wolfstar. I too can understand some dress codes, and, on the other hand, there can be some too strict. 1). It is very wrong to call a teen girl a hooker, especially in the presence of her classmates. It is inexcusable. 2). It is negative cultural phenomenon: woman's worth is only in her sex appeal, her naked skin. There are many women which are pleased to play this role. Men do not come to school or work dressed for beach, only girls do. Every place has its reasonable and practical "dress code". Yes, it was 95 degrees F outside; what was the temperature inside? All it takes are rationality, the right dose of temperance, and common sense. ----- Yea, start down-voting.
What non-American place did you go to school? I've been to several countries and have observed students wearing SCHOOL UNIFORMS.
I think you're ill informed if you think because you've been to several countries then you know for a fact everywhere else has school uniforms... There are at least 50 countries only in Europe... In Scandinavia we generally don't wear a uniform. I think its more a British thing, although other countries obviously do it too.
And then girls got raped or were never found going home from school. It's not just boys at school
In my country there were school strict dress codes only during the fascist dictatorship that ended 46 years ago. Also, boys and girls went to different schools, so I don't know who they could be distracting... Thankfully that was a lifetime ago :)
It seems to me that in Scandinavia (Sweden) people (and their government) have common sense.