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Domestically Abused Woman Reveals Texts She Used To Get From Husband, And It’ll Make Your Skin Crawl
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Domestically Abused Woman Reveals Texts She Used To Get From Husband, And It’ll Make Your Skin Crawl

Leaving an abusive partner is one of the most difficult choices a victim can make, but for some, telling their story afterwards is even harder. This woman decided to break the silence and share hers, and she’s been met with a viral round of applause.

The woman, an Imgur user who goes by the screen name krissykross, used screenshots of text conversations and written anecdotes to tell the world about ‘Adam,’ her physically, sexually and emotionally abusive ex-husband. “Strangers on the internet are better than keeping it inside for so long,” she wrote about her decision to open up 3 years after the end of it all. Her post has now been viewed over 600 thousand times, and has received an outpouring of support from commentators. “I upvoted because this is insanity and should be seen by more. Glad you’re okay,” one user wrote.

Though this woman was able to escape from her ordeal, it’s estimated by The Huffington Post that at least 3 women are killed by intimate partners each day in the US – over 1 thousand per year. Stories of survival are crucial for current victims who may be afraid to find help, and who may even still be unaware that they’re being abused. Read how krissykross found a way out of her toxic marriage below.

One brave woman decided to share the story of her abusive husband, showing some texts he had sent:

Domestically Abused Woman Reveals Texts She Used To Get From Husband, And It'll Make Your Skin Crawl

“This is a good example of strings of texts I would get at work while on shift (I am not allowed my phone on the clock.)”

Domestically Abused Woman Reveals Texts She Used To Get From Husband, And It'll Make Your Skin Crawl

“Tony was a coworker. I knew when he clocked off because it was when I was clocking on. Fella helped me change my tire one time and I was suddenly banging him (apparently.)”

Domestically Abused Woman Reveals Texts She Used To Get From Husband, And It'll Make Your Skin Crawl

“I stayed the night with a female friend from work. He knew because he “set traps” for me”

Domestically Abused Woman Reveals Texts She Used To Get From Husband, And It'll Make Your Skin Crawl

“I visit my mother one every couple years. I had a huge bruise on my arm from where my husband had bit me, leaving visible teeth marks. The bruise was so bad it hung around for almost a month. Long enough for a visit to my mothers and to still be photographed by NCIS when I finally turned him several weeks later.”

Domestically Abused Woman Reveals Texts She Used To Get From Husband, And It'll Make Your Skin Crawl

Domestically Abused Woman Reveals Texts She Used To Get From Husband, And It'll Make Your Skin Crawl

She continued to share her whole story:

Domestically Abused Woman Reveals Texts She Used To Get From Husband, And It'll Make Your Skin Crawl

Domestically Abused Woman Reveals Texts She Used To Get From Husband, And It'll Make Your Skin Crawl

Domestically Abused Woman Reveals Texts She Used To Get From Husband, And It'll Make Your Skin Crawl

Domestically Abused Woman Reveals Texts She Used To Get From Husband, And It'll Make Your Skin Crawl

Domestically Abused Woman Reveals Texts She Used To Get From Husband, And It'll Make Your Skin Crawl

Domestically Abused Woman Reveals Texts She Used To Get From Husband, And It'll Make Your Skin Crawl

If you or someone you love needs help, don’t be afraid. Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233

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SusanS
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5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hardest part of domestic violence and abuse is that it is a slow and steady indoctrination into that world. Clearly if this man acted like that early on in the dating, she would not have moved forward. Even now, after all that, she refers to him as "kind, loving man" and she takes the responsibility on her shoulders for losing weight as the trigger point. That man was neither kind or loving. He was most likely an abuser from very early on blaming his actions on her behavior, and she thought she had some control, she didn't. His parents didn't see his behavior as criminal or abusive - probably mirroring their relationship. Leaving an abusive relationship is very hard. Even more so when there are children involved. The abuser will in a lot of instances be granted access to the children, and the children become the portals to continue to abuse, and or victims themselves. Then those children in turn are at risk to continuing the abusive patterns.

Cesi Baca
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5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's a good point. Kind and loving people don't just flip and become abusers after someone loses weight. They were abusers from the start just not as overtly.

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Violaine LB
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5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That was so brave to finally leave, because I guess many victims would be terrified about not being believed, not managing to leave, and them being "punished" by the violent partner when they find out they told someone what was going on. It's such a sad thing to go through and I can't believe she was told it was "normal" by her father in law. If I was being abusive, my mother would be the first to tell me I had a problem and need help to find ways to solve my own issues instead of being abusive and violent towards someone else.

lakitha tolbert
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5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When my sister was going through her abusive relationship with her now ex-husband, my mom and I kept with her about getting away from him. Never leading her to believe what was happening to her was safe or normal, and she should consider her life and her kids lives. We eventually succeeded in convincing her to divorce him. But he tried it. Tried separating her from us, and threatening us, and so forth. But no! We were trying to save my sisters life. He didn't stand a chance.

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Elina Kuusisto
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5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Omg, this is so powerful! Thank you for sharing your story.

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SusanS
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5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hardest part of domestic violence and abuse is that it is a slow and steady indoctrination into that world. Clearly if this man acted like that early on in the dating, she would not have moved forward. Even now, after all that, she refers to him as "kind, loving man" and she takes the responsibility on her shoulders for losing weight as the trigger point. That man was neither kind or loving. He was most likely an abuser from very early on blaming his actions on her behavior, and she thought she had some control, she didn't. His parents didn't see his behavior as criminal or abusive - probably mirroring their relationship. Leaving an abusive relationship is very hard. Even more so when there are children involved. The abuser will in a lot of instances be granted access to the children, and the children become the portals to continue to abuse, and or victims themselves. Then those children in turn are at risk to continuing the abusive patterns.

Cesi Baca
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5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's a good point. Kind and loving people don't just flip and become abusers after someone loses weight. They were abusers from the start just not as overtly.

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Violaine LB
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5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That was so brave to finally leave, because I guess many victims would be terrified about not being believed, not managing to leave, and them being "punished" by the violent partner when they find out they told someone what was going on. It's such a sad thing to go through and I can't believe she was told it was "normal" by her father in law. If I was being abusive, my mother would be the first to tell me I had a problem and need help to find ways to solve my own issues instead of being abusive and violent towards someone else.

lakitha tolbert
Community Member
5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When my sister was going through her abusive relationship with her now ex-husband, my mom and I kept with her about getting away from him. Never leading her to believe what was happening to her was safe or normal, and she should consider her life and her kids lives. We eventually succeeded in convincing her to divorce him. But he tried it. Tried separating her from us, and threatening us, and so forth. But no! We were trying to save my sisters life. He didn't stand a chance.

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Elina Kuusisto
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5 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Omg, this is so powerful! Thank you for sharing your story.

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