Woman Posts Her Doctor’s Pic Without His Consent To Sexualize Him, Gets Destroyed In The Comment Section
Just recently we had a post about the Man Who Has It All, a parody account that looks at sexism and bias by cleverly flipping gender roles in everyday situations. Well, now we have a similar situation that occurred in real life.
Twitter user purple goddess shared a pic of her male dermatologist, who she described as “fine as sh*t”. The pic, taken without the knowledge of the doctor, quickly went viral as people demanded to know where they could find the hunky skin specialist.
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Plenty of other female admirers were quick to agree
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However, some people began to question if the whole thing wasn’t just a little bit creepy
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What if a guy had taken a sneak pic of an attractive woman at work, just doing her job? One comment, in particular, flipped things around by taking on the kind of accusatory tone more commonly found among feminists pointing out examples of sexism.
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Purple Goddess wasn’t finished yet though. Who knows, perhaps the doctor was quite happy with the situation, seeing it as a nice compliment and good for business. For many people, however, encouraging ‘stalking’ and telling people where to find him was unacceptable behavior, and a step too far.
Determined to see her dermatologist go viral, she continued to share information about him, even going as far as sharing his location
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Bored Panda managed to get a hold of the man himself, to give his feelings about his picture suddenly trending on Twitter, without even knowing it had been taken
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“My first reaction was just pure anxiety,” Dr. Imran Aslam us. “I am a very low key individual so when I first heard that I was trending on Twitter I was kind of freaking out, like “oh my god what is happening.” I started getting texts from friends all over the country, some of whom I hadn’t spoken to in years, telling me that I’m the top post on Twitter.”
“Once the anxiety settled though, and I realized that most people were receiving my picture favorably, I started to find the whole situation pretty funny. The comments on Twitter were hilarious, people were posting all sort of ridiculous things and the picture just kept getting liked. I think it got over 20,000 likes or something. It was crazy.”
“Regarding the discussion of sexual harassment and double standards: I thought that the Reddit discussion was quite interesting and that many individuals made excellent points. By definition, many of the comments on my picture would be considered a form of sexual harassment, and I can totally understand how people consider this to be a double standard in light of the #metoo movement. And that if those same comments were made about a woman there would an uproar.”
“From my perspective, I would be remiss if I didn’t acknowledge the fact that I never felt that I was a “victim”. As I reflect more on this sentiment I realize the reason for this is undoubtedly because of my “male privilege.” I have had the privilege of never once feeling threatened or intimated by a woman in a sexual manner, I have had the privilege of never being catcalled, and I have had the privilege of never experiencing what it’s like to be followed home by a stranger that was a woman.”
“It is because of these liberties that we enjoy as males that I think the sexual harassment discussion may have to be interpreted differently in my situation.”
People continued to post their opinions on the situation
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Of course, men and women can have vastly different standards when it comes to this kind of thing. Men, in general, suffer less from everyday fears of being approached, followed, and stalked by sexually aggressive women. Most guys I know would have taken the whole thing as a massive compliment, and carried on with their lives. However, the incident did raise an interesting discussion about privacy, rights about having your image taken and shared, and being objectified while at work.
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Posting the photo without his consent is not cool. If he had consented it would have been a whole different story.
I sometimes downvote posts on BoredPanda because it includes posts of strangers that I feel cross the line.
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Can some one tell me why @Major Houlihan Bear comment was downvoted? @The Girl on Fire, if you couldn't literally comprehend a word of his post, then you are plain dumb. Yes yes, you can downvote me
I understand what Major Houlihan Bear, can agree in some of the statements, but don't get the point of any of them in this context.
It's in terribly broken English, and I have no idea what his points have to do with each other or this article. That's what I mean by not comprehending it.
Yeah, me neither
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Yeah. And also meh. Since everyone has a smartphone and the urge to post sth profiling, ego-driven content, ppl like to take pictures all the forking time. Thats annoying #1. Men under 50 in western industrialized urban areas do become more and more insecure because they read online debates on femenism tho most of them are too young to comprehend the depth behind the whole women's issues that reach back and wide into every cultural corner as well as era. Thats #2. And #3 ppl should chill the fork out and throw their phones away. Just flirt and talk in a human way. And #4: all political debates aside, courtship means war. So a lil conflict is very normal. Under other circumstances- or maybe even in the near future, the dermatologist and the twitterwoman might have humped like bunnies.
@ Major Houhilan Bear - I could literally not comprehend a word of what you were saying in your comment.
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@Girl On Fire: Your reading comprehension must suck. It's not the best writing but come on; it's not in Russian, for f#%ks sake.
Change this to an unauthorised photo of a 'fine' female dermatologist and give out her location, and the feminist brigade would have been all over this- and rightly so. It should be no different when it's a man. The lengths that social media go to is just scary and downright creepy. I'm curious to know what the dermatologist's reaction is to this story.
Feminism is about equality for all, let's get that straight now. Also, the dermatologist states on his Twitter feed "This is sexual harassment" , this is his reaction.
@lingon Oh I'm sorry. I didn't realize that that the dictionaries automatically update themselves every second to fix/add meanings to words. I didn't say that a dictionary isn't reliable. I said it isn't ALWAYS reliable. There is plenty of shit still missing from the dictionary. Lol the dictionary definition doesn't matter that much. Your definition could be slightly different from someone else's definition. It happens often. I have a lot of shit I was gonna type, but arguing with you is a waste of my time. Believe whatever you want dummy.
He very clearly states that some of the comments could be defined as sexual harassment, but that he did not feel like a victim. That doesn't take away the idea that the harassment occurred, rather that he felt no fear as a woman may do if situation was reversed.
DearOptimists, perhaps the article was edited to add it later, but there is a very well-thought out response from the doctor posted in this article. I am not on Twitter, so cannot speak to Han's account of his response there, but that certainly isn't what he told Bored Panda.
@Lingon you know the meanings of words are always changing right? A dictionary isn't always reliable. Look at the definition of fish. It still says fish are cold blooded. That's not exactly correct because we have already found a warm blooded fish. And by definition you can't MURDER animals, but the animal rights idiots will argue to the death saying meat is murder. Nobody really cares what the dictionary says lol.
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Yes Han, feminism is supposed to be about equality for all. That's the point of the movement, but many (not all but many) modern day feminists have not gotten this message so R L is completely right with their prediction.
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Live Era Nemow Why? Because I know a hell of a lot more than you? Or is it just not that you can't admit to being wrong?
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feminism was never about equality - you can see it well in their inaction in such cases as this one. Words are worthless.
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Live Era Nemow Oh I'm sorry. I didn't realize that that the true meaning of the words automatically change themselves every second just because you don't know the correct menaning of them and instead of learning something new, you feel that it's easier to pretend that dictionaries true definitions don't matter. let me guess, you call all cattle cows right? Then let me tell you that a cow is just a female cattle that have had at least one calf. And yes, a lot of shit is missing, do you know why? Because it's shit. And no, my definition of words come from dictionaries, I spent a lot of time reading them from childhood until now.
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@lingon I see you think you are pretty smart. Good for you. whateverhelpsyousleepatgnight but yeah I try not to argue a lot elpoepdiputshtiwyllaicepse. And your last reply made me cringe it dedrateradniksaw. Who cares if you know about cows? Seriously. You just randomly started talking about cows wtf. You are likeastupid8yearold. Idont argue with people like you. Peoplelikeyouwillarguetotgedeathevenwhentheyknowtheyarewrong. Um5WamEybHVaMEpwZEdOb1EzVnVkQ0I1YjNVZ2RISmhjMmdnY0dsbFkyVWdiMllnWjJGeVltRm5aUzRnV1c5MUlITmpkVzB1SUZsdmRTQmhjbVVnZEdobElHUnBjblFnYjJZZ2RHaGxJR1ZoY25Sb0lIQjFjM041SUdaMVkyc2dlVzkxSUdaMVkydGxjaUJpYVhSamFDNGdXVzkxUm5WamExbFBWVkpHUVZSSVJWSkVUMDVVZVc5MVB3PT0= .gnorwerayehtwonkyehtnehwnevehtaedegtoteugralliwuoyekilelpoeP .uoy ekil elpoep htiw eugra tnodI .dloraey8diputsaekil era uoY .ftw swoc tuoba gniklat detrats ylmodnar tsuj uoY .ylsuoireS ?swoc tuoba wonk uoy fi serac ohW .waskindaretarded ti egnirc em edam ylper tsal ruoy dnA .especiallywithstupidpeople tol a eugra ot ton yrt I haey tub thgingtapeelsuoysplehrevetahw .uoy rof dooG .trams ytterp era uoy kniht uoy ees I
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Live Era Nemow You do know that the definition of the words in the dictionaries change when the meaning of the word changes right? So sweetie, they are reliable. Feminism is still a ideology for womens rights, not all as Han stated.
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That wasn't the dermatologist's reaction, tho. According to this article, he hasn't stated anything yet.
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My bad for believing that people knew what a dictionary was. Here you go: Dictionary- A book or electronic resource that lists the words of a language (typically in alphabetical order) and gives their meaning, or gives the equivalent words in a different language, often also providing information about pronunciation, origin, and usage. Egalitarianism- The doctrine that all people are equal and deserve equal rights and opportunities. Feminism- The advocacy of women's rights on the ground of the equality of the sexes.
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Interesting. I get downvoted for just stating facts easily found in a dictionary. You hate facts? Okay, here is a fact for you. Stockholm is Swedens biggest city. Are you upset now to?
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Well Lingon It's Obvious That Your Childhood Has Been A FUCKING LIE HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA
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No, feminism is not about equality for all, it's egalitarianism that fight for all humans, not just females. :)
And they would have been right. There is NO WAY anyone should do this at any time. Everyone has a right to privacy, and giving a bunch of Twits his location was absolutely foul. He has a case for stalking if she doesn’t get a grip.
Exactly!
I'm pretty sure feminists jumped on her too for the same reason? What's your problem that you refuse to see the good too in this movement?
The problem IS the commenter in this case because there is NO example of that bad feminist you mentioned, in this whole post, just ignorant and uneducated women that shared the post, none of them claiming to be a feminist. And his comment clearly puts a bad light on feminism when there is NO need or reason to, because all this post was about is women who took the man's side against those sexualizing him.
The problem isn't necessary the commenter. The problem is the extremists out there giving feminism a bad reputation. Good feminists would jump on this women, extremists would argue that it was her right to do this.
All I had to read to understand your true feelings is your word choice with "feminist brigade".
Yes my first thought was omg a bunch of creepy women are going to see this online and start to stalk him, but then I thought maybe I'm just thinking that because if the tables were turned and it was a female dermatologist I would be very afraid for her safety. I'm not entirely convinced that he would start to be stalked at his work by a woman but if it was a female I would bet money all kinds of creepy guys would start booking appointments. Basically if this were a woman she would be an idiot not to hire some security/bodyguard...as a guy not so much.
Women can be creepy stalkers too.
Feminist here, I'm disgusted by this. It's wrong to post pics and locations of ANYONE without permission. It does not matter what gender the target is.
the result would've been worst if it has been a female. but again men and woman Don't react the same.
Imho a woman would actually be more vulnerable. One-because women are phisically smaller usually and two - because there still are men with a very toxic conception of women who might act very wrong. Nonetheless, what this woman did is undoubtly wrong and could put the man in a dangerous situation as well.
I see your point but I also party disagree because men and women are different so the same situation can be more likely pleasant for one gender but more likely negative for the other one. There are things men can cope better with and things women can deal better with. Things women like but man dislike, things man like and women dislike, well at least in general there always is a big overlap between genders. If we apply the same rules / standards to both genders it will not result in equality but in a whole lot of suffering for everybody. There is no final answer to this, except that she should have asked wether it's ok to share the picture. But in this case no harm was done in the end so everybody can relax.
"Reverse sexism" isn't righting a wrong ... it's still wrong. If the guy looked at the camera I'd say he was on board with it and then it would be fine. But a sneaky shot is still a creepy shot and shouldn't be posted, no matter the sexes involved.
There is no such thing as "reverse sexism". There's just sexism, regardless of who is doing it to whom.
If a guy did that we be in jail over some b.s. Like that and she should be treated the same way!
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Well by my opinion taking the shot is ok, when asking before taking the shot the situation chances, the shot might be ruined. But after taking the picture you ask the photographed person wether this was ok, and if not then delete the picture.
Posting the photo without his consent is not cool. If he had consented it would have been a whole different story.
I sometimes downvote posts on BoredPanda because it includes posts of strangers that I feel cross the line.
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Can some one tell me why @Major Houlihan Bear comment was downvoted? @The Girl on Fire, if you couldn't literally comprehend a word of his post, then you are plain dumb. Yes yes, you can downvote me
I understand what Major Houlihan Bear, can agree in some of the statements, but don't get the point of any of them in this context.
It's in terribly broken English, and I have no idea what his points have to do with each other or this article. That's what I mean by not comprehending it.
Yeah, me neither
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Yeah. And also meh. Since everyone has a smartphone and the urge to post sth profiling, ego-driven content, ppl like to take pictures all the forking time. Thats annoying #1. Men under 50 in western industrialized urban areas do become more and more insecure because they read online debates on femenism tho most of them are too young to comprehend the depth behind the whole women's issues that reach back and wide into every cultural corner as well as era. Thats #2. And #3 ppl should chill the fork out and throw their phones away. Just flirt and talk in a human way. And #4: all political debates aside, courtship means war. So a lil conflict is very normal. Under other circumstances- or maybe even in the near future, the dermatologist and the twitterwoman might have humped like bunnies.
@ Major Houhilan Bear - I could literally not comprehend a word of what you were saying in your comment.
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@Girl On Fire: Your reading comprehension must suck. It's not the best writing but come on; it's not in Russian, for f#%ks sake.
Change this to an unauthorised photo of a 'fine' female dermatologist and give out her location, and the feminist brigade would have been all over this- and rightly so. It should be no different when it's a man. The lengths that social media go to is just scary and downright creepy. I'm curious to know what the dermatologist's reaction is to this story.
Feminism is about equality for all, let's get that straight now. Also, the dermatologist states on his Twitter feed "This is sexual harassment" , this is his reaction.
@lingon Oh I'm sorry. I didn't realize that that the dictionaries automatically update themselves every second to fix/add meanings to words. I didn't say that a dictionary isn't reliable. I said it isn't ALWAYS reliable. There is plenty of shit still missing from the dictionary. Lol the dictionary definition doesn't matter that much. Your definition could be slightly different from someone else's definition. It happens often. I have a lot of shit I was gonna type, but arguing with you is a waste of my time. Believe whatever you want dummy.
He very clearly states that some of the comments could be defined as sexual harassment, but that he did not feel like a victim. That doesn't take away the idea that the harassment occurred, rather that he felt no fear as a woman may do if situation was reversed.
DearOptimists, perhaps the article was edited to add it later, but there is a very well-thought out response from the doctor posted in this article. I am not on Twitter, so cannot speak to Han's account of his response there, but that certainly isn't what he told Bored Panda.
@Lingon you know the meanings of words are always changing right? A dictionary isn't always reliable. Look at the definition of fish. It still says fish are cold blooded. That's not exactly correct because we have already found a warm blooded fish. And by definition you can't MURDER animals, but the animal rights idiots will argue to the death saying meat is murder. Nobody really cares what the dictionary says lol.
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Yes Han, feminism is supposed to be about equality for all. That's the point of the movement, but many (not all but many) modern day feminists have not gotten this message so R L is completely right with their prediction.
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Live Era Nemow Why? Because I know a hell of a lot more than you? Or is it just not that you can't admit to being wrong?
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feminism was never about equality - you can see it well in their inaction in such cases as this one. Words are worthless.
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Live Era Nemow Oh I'm sorry. I didn't realize that that the true meaning of the words automatically change themselves every second just because you don't know the correct menaning of them and instead of learning something new, you feel that it's easier to pretend that dictionaries true definitions don't matter. let me guess, you call all cattle cows right? Then let me tell you that a cow is just a female cattle that have had at least one calf. And yes, a lot of shit is missing, do you know why? Because it's shit. And no, my definition of words come from dictionaries, I spent a lot of time reading them from childhood until now.
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@lingon I see you think you are pretty smart. Good for you. whateverhelpsyousleepatgnight but yeah I try not to argue a lot elpoepdiputshtiwyllaicepse. And your last reply made me cringe it dedrateradniksaw. Who cares if you know about cows? Seriously. You just randomly started talking about cows wtf. You are likeastupid8yearold. Idont argue with people like you. Peoplelikeyouwillarguetotgedeathevenwhentheyknowtheyarewrong. Um5WamEybHVaMEpwZEdOb1EzVnVkQ0I1YjNVZ2RISmhjMmdnY0dsbFkyVWdiMllnWjJGeVltRm5aUzRnV1c5MUlITmpkVzB1SUZsdmRTQmhjbVVnZEdobElHUnBjblFnYjJZZ2RHaGxJR1ZoY25Sb0lIQjFjM041SUdaMVkyc2dlVzkxSUdaMVkydGxjaUJpYVhSamFDNGdXVzkxUm5WamExbFBWVkpHUVZSSVJWSkVUMDVVZVc5MVB3PT0= .gnorwerayehtwonkyehtnehwnevehtaedegtoteugralliwuoyekilelpoeP .uoy ekil elpoep htiw eugra tnodI .dloraey8diputsaekil era uoY .ftw swoc tuoba gniklat detrats ylmodnar tsuj uoY .ylsuoireS ?swoc tuoba wonk uoy fi serac ohW .waskindaretarded ti egnirc em edam ylper tsal ruoy dnA .especiallywithstupidpeople tol a eugra ot ton yrt I haey tub thgingtapeelsuoysplehrevetahw .uoy rof dooG .trams ytterp era uoy kniht uoy ees I
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Live Era Nemow You do know that the definition of the words in the dictionaries change when the meaning of the word changes right? So sweetie, they are reliable. Feminism is still a ideology for womens rights, not all as Han stated.
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That wasn't the dermatologist's reaction, tho. According to this article, he hasn't stated anything yet.
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My bad for believing that people knew what a dictionary was. Here you go: Dictionary- A book or electronic resource that lists the words of a language (typically in alphabetical order) and gives their meaning, or gives the equivalent words in a different language, often also providing information about pronunciation, origin, and usage. Egalitarianism- The doctrine that all people are equal and deserve equal rights and opportunities. Feminism- The advocacy of women's rights on the ground of the equality of the sexes.
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Interesting. I get downvoted for just stating facts easily found in a dictionary. You hate facts? Okay, here is a fact for you. Stockholm is Swedens biggest city. Are you upset now to?
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Well Lingon It's Obvious That Your Childhood Has Been A FUCKING LIE HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA
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No, feminism is not about equality for all, it's egalitarianism that fight for all humans, not just females. :)
And they would have been right. There is NO WAY anyone should do this at any time. Everyone has a right to privacy, and giving a bunch of Twits his location was absolutely foul. He has a case for stalking if she doesn’t get a grip.
Exactly!
I'm pretty sure feminists jumped on her too for the same reason? What's your problem that you refuse to see the good too in this movement?
The problem IS the commenter in this case because there is NO example of that bad feminist you mentioned, in this whole post, just ignorant and uneducated women that shared the post, none of them claiming to be a feminist. And his comment clearly puts a bad light on feminism when there is NO need or reason to, because all this post was about is women who took the man's side against those sexualizing him.
The problem isn't necessary the commenter. The problem is the extremists out there giving feminism a bad reputation. Good feminists would jump on this women, extremists would argue that it was her right to do this.
All I had to read to understand your true feelings is your word choice with "feminist brigade".
Yes my first thought was omg a bunch of creepy women are going to see this online and start to stalk him, but then I thought maybe I'm just thinking that because if the tables were turned and it was a female dermatologist I would be very afraid for her safety. I'm not entirely convinced that he would start to be stalked at his work by a woman but if it was a female I would bet money all kinds of creepy guys would start booking appointments. Basically if this were a woman she would be an idiot not to hire some security/bodyguard...as a guy not so much.
Women can be creepy stalkers too.
Feminist here, I'm disgusted by this. It's wrong to post pics and locations of ANYONE without permission. It does not matter what gender the target is.
the result would've been worst if it has been a female. but again men and woman Don't react the same.
Imho a woman would actually be more vulnerable. One-because women are phisically smaller usually and two - because there still are men with a very toxic conception of women who might act very wrong. Nonetheless, what this woman did is undoubtly wrong and could put the man in a dangerous situation as well.
I see your point but I also party disagree because men and women are different so the same situation can be more likely pleasant for one gender but more likely negative for the other one. There are things men can cope better with and things women can deal better with. Things women like but man dislike, things man like and women dislike, well at least in general there always is a big overlap between genders. If we apply the same rules / standards to both genders it will not result in equality but in a whole lot of suffering for everybody. There is no final answer to this, except that she should have asked wether it's ok to share the picture. But in this case no harm was done in the end so everybody can relax.
"Reverse sexism" isn't righting a wrong ... it's still wrong. If the guy looked at the camera I'd say he was on board with it and then it would be fine. But a sneaky shot is still a creepy shot and shouldn't be posted, no matter the sexes involved.
There is no such thing as "reverse sexism". There's just sexism, regardless of who is doing it to whom.
If a guy did that we be in jail over some b.s. Like that and she should be treated the same way!
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Well by my opinion taking the shot is ok, when asking before taking the shot the situation chances, the shot might be ruined. But after taking the picture you ask the photographed person wether this was ok, and if not then delete the picture.