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Woman Goes Viral With 7.7M Views When She Shares That Her Date Called Her An Uber To Go Home After He Saw How She Was Dressed
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Woman Goes Viral With 7.7M Views When She Shares That Her Date Called Her An Uber To Go Home After He Saw How She Was Dressed Interview

To leave an unforgettable first impression can take a lot of preparation and time. Having this in mind, a lot of people like to sway others by showing up with their perfect appearance. Nice outfit and good makeup are some of the things that can help to make an impression on the person in mind. Very often this applies to going on a date, because everyone wants to look their best when they are about to meet someone who could potentially become their significant other. Of course, looking your best does not always indicate that you want to show others how good you look. A lot of people like to express who they are through their appearance by wearing intricate clothes and accessories and having eye-catching makeup on.

But it seems that sometimes even the closest people to you can have a problem with that. At least that is what happened to TikToker Nikki Jabs who decided to share her dating experience with her followers.

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A woman on TikTok decided to share her dating experience with her followers

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The woman, who is known for sharing her experiences as she lives and travels in a van, also shared some videos of her dating life. This is when “Greg,” her date, was introduced to her followers. Nikki was kind with details in her story and it seemed that everything was going really well for them. Her new date was very kind and well mannered, he even asked Nikki to stay at his place because of how much fun they had together.

All was well until one evening, the woman shared on her TikTok an incident that happened on the same night. The couple had plans to go out for dinner and then continue their night by going to a grand opening of the retail company were Greg works. Once they were on their way to the restaurant, the man kept staring at Nikki, which made her ask what is wrong. At first Greg told her that there was nothing wrong, but as the conversation continued, he made it clear that he didn’t want Nikki to go to this event looking the way she did that night. The woman suggested that she go and change to which he said that this whole situation made him feel “bad.”

Everything seemed to be going really well between the couple until one evening the woman shared a video after she was sent home by her date

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Nikki also revealed that it wasn’t the first time that Greg had commented on her looks by telling her that she didn’t need to wear makeup or that she was overdressed. Having this issue in mind, Nikki then told Greg that either he should be fine with her going to the event dressed the way she wanted to, or she wouldn’t go at all. The man then offered to call her an Uber.

This situation reached the point where the woman went back to his house and took all her stuff with her back to her van while he was out at the event. However, Nikki had to go back to his place one more time because she forgot her laptop. The woman shared that Greg tried to get her back by apologizing and asking her to stay, but she knew that it all was over.

The man decided that his date wasn’t wearing appropriate clothing, so he got her an Uber to take her home instead of them going to an event together

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Image credits: nikki.jabs

Once Nikki shared this story on social media, she received a lot of attention from people online. A lot of TikTok users were glad that she got out of this relationship early because this man was showing signs of some pretty toxic behavior that would’ve only become worse with time. Of course, there were some users who thought that the woman brought this situation on herself. The woman herself was open to the discussion and was glad that she was able to end this relationship without it escalating further.

After her first video, the woman sat down and explained the whole situation that happened that evening

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Image credits: nikki.jabs

The TikToker showed what she was wearing that evening and what made her date question her outfit choices

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Bored Panda connected Nikki to find out more about the situation and how she feels about it all. The woman shared that “the attention that the story has garnered has definitely kept my mind off of the fact that I just went through a breakup. It has been a whirlwind of a week for me. I am happy to have ended things sooner rather than later as his behavioral pattern of comments about my appearance progressed over time.” Nikki also shared that she cut all ties with the guy, despite him trying to apologize and get back together.

A lot of people became invested in this story, sharing their own opinion about the situation. Nikki revealed that what surprised her most was that “SO many women not only experienced this type of behaviors from this exes, but got ‘trapped’ into a tumultuous relationship for many years with their partners.” The woman was happy that she got the chance to get away from this early in the relationship.

The woman was furious with his actions, stressing that it wasn’t the first time he had commented on her looks

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For those who might find themselves in a similar situation, the woman’s advice is “to accept any compliments from your partner about your looks. If your partner says that you are beautiful without makeup, be flattered. But pay attention to comments that begin to compare, suggest, and request to change your appearance. This is a very slippery slope and if you begin to change your appearance based on the subtle comments of your partner, it’s time to reevaluate his or her intentions.” Nikki also stressed that communication is the key, so you need to speak about what bothers you. This is that she did but apparently it didn’t have an impact on Greg’s behavior. “If your partner truly loves you, they will accept you for who you are and how you choose to present yourself,” added Nikki.

The woman confronted her date with an ultimatum after which he asked if he could call an Uber for her

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The woman also added a comment on what she now thinks about her date: “I don’t think ‘Greg’ is a bad person. I think ‘Greg’ made a mistake. I really cared for him and I still do. I also don’t believe I was a victim; I believe I was the subject of a poor decision. I hope that he was able to learn from this experience to be a better romantic partner in the future and know that you should accept your partner unconditionally.”

Every situation teaches us and provides us with some new experiences. The TikToker also shared that “one important thing I took away from this experience is that if you choose to speak publicly about an important experience like this, many people will learn from your experience. I will continue to document parts of my life to anyone who wants to listen hoping that I may help someone someday if they find themselves in a similar situation.”

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People online were telling her that it was right for her to leave the man as he was showing some signs of abuse

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Marceli Szelag
Community Member
5 months ago

Ive got a strange feeling there is more to that story.

blatherskitenoir
Community Member
5 months ago

Yeah, like the fact that that's not even a crop top, but a bandeau (she has to pull it down to make it look like a crop top), and he works for a retail company, and had told her it was casual.

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Shoshana Sherrington
Community Member
5 months ago

The comments calling the guy abusive are really exaggerated I think. People get nervous about their work and what their superiors think. He panicked a little at the crop top. Probably he went and saw other people dressed that way and realized he'd made a mistake. Doesn't mean they're meant to be together. As for comments about unlike you natural etc. We've had a decade or so of fighting back against the pressure for women to always look perfect and done up. This guy probably does like the girl exactly how she looks without all the effort which is sweet. When he is pushing it on her I think it is the result of growing up during that fight and not realizing that many women like to get dressed up. We are now at the opposite extreme

Che
Community Member
5 months ago

When everything you do is wrong it is abuse. "He" feels bad--manipulation. If she was improperly dressed that's a matter of fact and he can say so, not do a weird staring dance until she has to ask what's wrong. Manipulative. You can warn someone they are under or over dressed so they can steel themselves, but if he's wearing jogging pants, I call BS. If you want someone with you, you won't send them away like that. She could have worn a cocktail dress to that event. He was flexing. If you don't do what I want I'll punish you. You must put all your effort into what I want, but I won't tell you what that is so I can always punish you. That is abuse, or at least getting it started. If you don't think so, you are welcome to try it and see how you like the constant tension and fear. Maybe he never beats her, but the emotional stuff can be more impactful because it doesn't end with the sting of a slap.

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Chelsea Bates
Community Member
5 months ago

She looks so adorable. I hate guys like this

Monty Glue
Community Member
5 months ago

On the bright side he didn't tell her she smelled bad like the creep we read about here a few days ago. I think she looked beautiful and she really needs to raise her standards in men.

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Greivin LaPorta
Community Member
5 months ago

Yes she looked fine. You are all missing the point. She was going to meet his coworkers and friends at a work function. You do NOT show up in a belly shirt. That's akin to a guy showing up to meet her parents in shorts and sandals. It has nothing to do with her looks and everything to do with dressing appropriately for a certain function. If they were going out dancing that outfit would be perfect.

Lu Harris
Community Member
1 month ago

At first with her jacket on, it looked like she was wearing a black brassiere as a top. Not surprised he was uncomfortable with her appearance.

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Debbie
Community Member
5 months ago

To call it toxic behaviour stretches it.. maybe a dumb move. Wasn't everyone on the fathers side the other day when the daughter wanted to go to a wedding (formal dresscode) in leggings and a crop top? Not everyone has the same taste. I just wonder why he started dating her if he didn't find her attractive the way she presents herself? And tbh, if it was a work function where he'd know most people would wear old clothes, sportswear, pyjamas, and she arrives in much fancier clothes and looks - she'd stand out. Like wearing heels when going to a building site. Excuses are available. But he was an asshole about it, and the situation is solved. Case closed, Hopefully the guy has learned a lesson.

Taku Fuji
Community Member
5 months ago

The wedding is a seperate issue since theres usually a dress code that includes color and shape of the dress for the girls. Unless specified otherwise it's not a good idea to wear something that will attract attention away from the main characters. For this story I think the guy over reacted. I also agree with you, calling this toxic is a bit of a stretch. On one hand I feel like he should be allowed to comment /critique her outfit. But on the other hand I don't think she was wearing anything too revealing. Maybe he was more religious, conservative, traditionalist. (Anyone of those word)

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Enlee Jones
Community Member
5 months ago (edited)

Men: Women, look pretty for us! Women: - put on makeup and heels- Men: No, not like that….

Asswipe
Community Member
4 months ago

That kind of behavior isn't how mentally healthy person behaves and it doesn't apply to men only.

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Mystery Egg
Community Member
5 months ago

It is a really ugly outfit though

Tasya Rahman
Community Member
5 months ago

no need to be rude, 'Greg' said that to her because he thinks she overdressed and too revealing

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Kori Chamberlain
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4 months ago

The idea of crying on camera for the internet makes me… uncomfortable.

John Pedroza
Community Member
5 months ago

I think it would have been better for him to let her know before the date that the dress code was conservative. This would have allowed her to accept or reject the date before she went through the hassle of getting ready and both of them would had a better position to retain their dignity. Now both have them have been hurt and that can't be good for anyone.

SweetsEve
Community Member
2 months ago

She says he had mentioned in the past that he had started to talk to her about how she dressed. But I'm this story he never said anything to her about her clothes until she moved out. If you look at the story he says she looked pretty, said I feel bad, and she suggested it was about her attire. I think she baited him a bit.

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Mr. Tees
Community Member
5 months ago

It sounds like she asked him “how do I look?” and he gave her an honest answer which she didn’t particularly care for. Both of them dodged a bullet honestly, as who wants to be with someone you have to lie to, someone who asks your “opinion” but expects a certain answer and becomes angry/upset when they don’t get it?

AndyR
Community Member
5 months ago

What an a**e. I swear people should have to have a license before they're allowed to date.

Gerard Neaux
Community Member
5 months ago

They need psychiatric assessments for being allowed in public

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Mutch
Community Member
5 months ago

I would have been embarrassed also...She is beautiful but that outfit makes her look like a french poodle lol. Reading the story I was like wow what an jerk but after seeing that horrible outfit I was like yeah I would have been embarrassed as well I wouldn't have sent her home but I would have had to just been super embarrassed the whole night. So ladies if your man dressed up in a tank top and tie dye parachute pants and loafers would you all been so understanding???

Beans
Community Member
2 months ago

The outfit is fine. It may not be everyone's taste but it's fashion forward and she would have been fine at a corporate event. The problem it was casual and he prefers that and they were mismatched. If he wanted her to wear sneakers like him he should have said. He went about that wrong. But even if that's his preference he shouldn't bug her to dress that way if she doesn't want to. Insulting her for her outfit just makes you kinda gross and judgy

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Thaddeus Kerrin
Community Member
5 months ago

I just wish she had covered her stomach for an event like this.

Lisa Schlosstein
Community Member
4 months ago

Exactly! It had to do with his WORK!

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Aries Lamb
Community Member
5 months ago

I'd like to start off saying "Boohoo" this article stinks. Dude shoots 3 people but doesn't go to prison no one has nothing to say. Dumb girl whining because some guy didn't like her outfit the whole world is talking. Are you kidding me right now?!!?!!.. Find this dude send him a better woman then send this chick a dirty Kleenex for here fake tears. STOP USING SOCIAL MEDIA TO BASH OTHERS...If you don't like how he thinks or what he likes then kick rocks. I hate when people do this crap.

Bernard Franke
Community Member
5 months ago

Exactly. He got her a ride home. People are accustomed to thinking anyone, owes them anything.

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Eder Nieto
Community Member
5 months ago

People just abuse social media . Seriously ….instagram famous for over dressing an occasion and getting an Uber ride home . The guy didn’t think her attire was appropriate for the occasion , so he feels bad and gets her a ride home . The lady should of dressed a little more properly for the occasion instead of trying to catch her dates eye ….modern day shivery in my opinion

Melissa Rose Tavery
Community Member
4 months ago

Chivalry.

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John Pedroza
Community Member
5 months ago

Communication could have avoided this. If he would have said to her it was a conservative dress code she could have had a better position to accept or reject before going through the hassle of getting ready. That would have given more dignity to both parties.

Beans
Community Member
2 months ago

It wasn't conservative though, it was like casual leisure wear. The article said he was constantly saying she was overdressed and wore too much makeup. I think the outfit was fine even in a casual event setting. The problem was he wanted someone different who doesn't dress up and she enjoyed dressing up... and they were mismatched.

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Vanessa Gentry
Community Member
5 months ago

I want to back her but if the genders were switched then we would say that the guy was being immature and rude to not be considerate to something that made her uncomfortable and could get her in trouble. I think there should be been a compromise rather than a "my opinion in a situation that involves your career is more important than your opinion and I'm going to end the relationship if I don't get exactly/everything I want."

Bored_Randomツ
Community Member
4 months ago

Most men don't casually wear crop tops anymore, so I don't think it's smart to compare women's attire to men's attire. The issue is that he's been wanting her to dress more like him, more homely, even though she personally seems to enjoy being dressed up. This isn't an out of the blue thing, she stated he's been doing stuff like this Beforehand. The fact that some people are still offended by women's skin, especially a freaking abdomen, is proof of sexism and internalized misogyny. Wearing a fashionablecrop top vs wearing homely ass sweats to any event, tell me which is worse. (:

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Daniel Marsh
Community Member
4 months ago

These two don't seem like they belong together, but I'm not sure he's a monster. Try and look at the guy's point of view: he was concerned her clothes would make it harder for her to fit in. He tried to gently suggest that, emphasizing so strongly that she is in fact beautiful that that's all he actually says. But she knew he thought maybe the event had a different tone than what she was dressed for. No problem, he won't make an issue of it. But she won't let it die, until the point where she all but threatens to leave him. He gets hurt, and says, "fine... go!" but then regrets it. Definitely a screw-up on his part... but "abusive ... manipulative ... a**h*1e?" Not sure.

SweetsEve
Community Member
2 months ago

He may not have been hurt. He may have thought of she was that worked up she would be trouble at the function. They were arguing and he'd barely said 10 words. Maybe it wasn't the clothes that motivated the Uber, maybe it was the entire situation.

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Alia Bidgood
Community Member
5 months ago

I hate the outfit.... I have girls and don't allow them to show belly... I think it was clay of the guy to try and let you know he liked you but your attire was something that bothered him, and he told you early.... If you two can't learn to make changes for one another early you weren't meant to be, get over it.

GFSTaylor
Community Member
2 months ago

Why are you sexualising women's stomachs ? Do you get upset at seeing men's stomachs too ? If men's stomachs don't bother you, then the problems is not with women, it's with you.

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Jessi W
Community Member
4 months ago

Casual work attire does not mean show your belly like a teenager. She is beautiful and the outfit would be perfect for a dinner out or drinks but she was to be formally meeting his coworkers. I dont think it was abuse I don't think he was telling her how to dress I think he panicked as well. He didn't know how to approach the situation or resolve it. When you're looking for a forever person something like this, a stick in the mud, should not break the relationship. Grow a pair, talk about it and learn from it. Thats how a relationship becomes something. They both made mistakes, he should have been real and she shouldnt have left and maybe worn a different shirt or kept her jacket closed.

SweetsEve
Community Member
2 months ago

Sometimes these things die they're a bad fit. If she considered him having an opinion about how she dressed at his work function to be abuse is likely they're a bad match, because you can't have a real talk with each other when she considers him having any feelings on his she is dressed to be abuse and mistreatment.

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Lisa Wearsch
Community Member
5 months ago

I feel so bad for her. However, I am of an older generation. If anyone wore a crop top to my place of employment or to an event they would be immediately terminated. Even my kids high school's student handbook says that anyone who shows up in a crop top will be sent home. And I know that that has been every school's rules for decades. So no one who is as young as Ms. Jabs should still remember those rules. I'm really sorry to post a 'negative review' but, it is what it is. All schools and most employers still have had the same dress code since around the 70's. She does look cute for a date or even a second (or higher) meeting of his family. But most definitely not for a business function. So just give the guy a tiny bit of pity as he remembered these same rules and clearly was afraid that he might get into trouble. However, he should have brought up the company's dress code policy the day he told her about the event, definitely NOT the night of. So very sorry. Chin up!!

Stoopham McFernybabes
Community Member
3 months ago

What people wear to work or school is a bit different to what they wear to a work function. Even so, she was going as his partner - the bloody company dress code has nothing to do with her.

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Le Box of Shame
Community Member
3 months ago

Look, the guy was most likely uncomfortable with her coming to an office party in clothing that may be seen as revealing and sloppy to his superiors, so he gently told her to change her outfit and offered her a ride home. A bit prissy? Yes. Monstrous and abusive? No.

Stacey Pack
Community Member
3 months ago

Umm...she just met the guy and was already LIVING WITH HIM.....she’s hardly a catch herself. Please tell me when people stop airing their personal lives all over social media for clout and to be placed upon that almighty, coveted VICTIM THRONE. Give me a break. Don’t know what is more sad. Her posting her pathetically conjured up tear filled eyes on the internet...or the fact hat almost 8 MILLION PEOPLE VIEWED IT!!! 🤬

Doc Vidal
Community Member
5 months ago

I dunno man. It was his WORK event. If she wanted to tag along she should know there's most likely gonna be a way he's gonna want to represent himself and you being with him is representing him too. He didn't say anything you did. He said you were pretty and you pulled out of him his dislike for your outfit which honestly was quite atrocious. Then you offered the ultimatum to either not go or go in that you're wearing. He offered then to pay for your ride back since you were clear you didn't want to change your clothes and go to the event. He expressed that admitting he disliked your clothes made him feel bad.Then after the fact he apologized and admitted he was wrong. If he was a narcissist he would've continued to say what she was wearing was ugly or even said so immediately and not tip toe around it.

Susan Green
Community Member
5 months ago

Am I missing something??She said she picked him up from work, to go to a restaurant, then to his work function, but she had to take an Uber home?

BusyLizzy
Community Member
5 months ago

She didn't say she was driving. I assumed she'd got in a taxi and picked him up on the way.

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Amy Vinyard
Community Member
2 months ago

I would've sent her home too. Who shows their whole stomach to a work event? It's called class... People should try to have some.

Elis Williams
Community Member
3 months ago

I don't see why people are giving this man a bad rap. It's his job to be honest with her, and he was. Also, I assume she didn't ask him what specifically she was supposed to wear, so that's on her. I don't know much about job functions, so I don't know if they're supposed to be formal or not, but that jacket she was wearing wouldn't fit the theme of his job or any event for that matter except for a runway fashion show. She's exaggerating with all the crying over being sent home by an Uber. Damn, she even said "yeah go ahead. Send me home in an Uber" and she's the one crying. Either way, she feels like "If my date doesn't like my outfit and offers to send me home to change, that's mental and emotional abuse." I know it's been happening for 3 weeks, but maybe she should've taken the hint beforehand. Greg has different preferences and maybe she should think whether her outfits are suitable for different occasions, and if she doesn't like his preferences, so be it. Ne need for crying.

SweetsEve
Community Member
2 months ago (edited)

You and I are on the same page. Emotionally ABUSE is such a broad term now days. Oprn and honest communication in a relationship is entirely necessary. If two people have two different standards that doesn't make one toxic and the other righteous. But if you're coming to my job you should vibe with my standard, or you should opt to stay home, no hard feelings. But if my opinion of what you're wearing or how your behaving is automatically considered toxic, abusive and manipulative idk how people plan to stay together. Not every guy wants his co workers ogling his girlfriend. Not every woman wants to show a bunch of skin. Some guys like a sexy dressed woman all the time. It's not a right or wrong situation. It's preferences and compromises. You don't stay together without discussing preferences and making some compromises. Have we really gotten to where having to make a choice for your partner's comfort or benefit is automatically abuse? I worry a bit about when this generation gets old.

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Jonah Long
Community Member
5 months ago

He wasn’t in the wrong. He told her before hand that they were going to a grand opening, and if he brought her looking like that, she would have gotten him fired. There’s a huge difference between personal style and presentation style, and she was dressed for personal style.

Stoopham McFernybabes
Community Member
3 months ago

Gotten him fired for having a partner with him showing a tiny bit of midriff? What kind of backward, totalitarian, 1984 athleisure company is this???

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zrwhol cue
Community Member
5 months ago

I once had a girl that did not know anything about style, she sent me to change every time...she was not right, my friends make me find out

Viviane
Community Member
5 months ago

I'm glad you have good friends to warn you that it's a bad sign when someone makes you change for every single occasion.

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Lisa Feldman
Community Member
2 months ago

Another case of I can do and say and wear whatever I want without consideration of anyone else. A pretty girl dressed as if she's going to a nightclub. Had she been considerate of her date she would have inquired as to the appropriate attire for the occasion. I'm a woman and I would have sent her home in an Uber as well. When you're out with other people you need to respect their feelings and how your actions reflect upon them. She made a mistake in her attire for the occasion and hopefully she will be more respectful of her companions feelings next time.

plain bOrEd not panda
Community Member
5 months ago

You look gorgeous! He handled the situation horribly, but I might take the unpopular opinion to note that such outfit could be considered inappropriate for a formal occasion. I would compare it to a man wearing shorts or flip-flops with socks. The woman should have asked for the dress code, the man should have handled the situation in a more sensible way. And no, this is not a women equality issue or a feminist issue, it's just simply a dress code that applies to both genders.

CindyLouWho1209
Community Member
5 months ago

Whether wore was not formal either. Read the story again.

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SweetsEve
Community Member
2 months ago (edited)

Idk if your going to a professional function with your significant other and they say showing your midriff is not appropriate for their work function, you should change. Work is a different atmosphere, one that the person who works there understands completely over the one that does not, and supporting each other requires that you represent them well at such a function or kindly opt out of attending that kind of function. I've gone to many work functions with my husband, from casual baseball games for team building, to cocktail parties, to Christmas parties where the gowns come out. My job at these events is to be charming, and on his arm because his work environment is not about me. It's about him. Not everything is about you all the time.

Frankenfrog
Community Member
5 months ago

Unless the party was at a beach, cover yourself the hell up. You'd be furious if your date showed up in shorts or a tank top. What makes you think this was an appropriate outfit to a corporate party, honestly.

Beans
Community Member
2 months ago

It wasn't a corporate party, genius. If you could read you'd know it was semi casual leisure wear. He said she was overdressed. Hope you don't do a job that requires reading comprehension.

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LazyPanda
Community Member
5 months ago

I think maybe he should've just better communicated to her what the event attire was. This sounds like a simple communication issue that got blown out of proportion. Sending her home was a bit much though. I think he needs to work on his own insecurities. He could've stood by his woman. The other people probably wouldn't have cared that much and if they did, it's their problem not his or hers. But, I think it's also okay to have patience for someone who got flustered and didn't know how to handle it. Men are allowed to be overwhelmed and confused sometimes too

Elvira Mendieta
Community Member
5 months ago

You can't go wrong with wearing all black

Lu Harris
Community Member
1 month ago

Unless it looks like a negligee.

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Ara Claire
Community Member
5 months ago (edited)

I can relate. I was dating a guy who was attending Harvard and while we had great chemistry and I matched him intellectually and had common interests, I came from a family of generational poverty and was working at Walmart at the time. I had no money in which to pursue a career in Psychology as I had always wanted. Needless to say, after a few months of dating secretly (even paying to fly me out to Boston to stay with him for a weekend), he broke up with me. His reason? He was too embarrassed to bring me home to his parents because I had nothing going for me that they would value and I wasn't worth the fight. Talk about a soul crushing experience. While I moved past it, the fact I'm still trapped due to the limitations of opportunities that comes from poverty, what he said still echos back to me from time to time with a, "See, he was right. You were never going to amount to being worth anything." The damage words do is real.

Allan Jordan
Community Member
5 months ago (edited)

You are worth everything. To your family, to your friends. Do not let the words of someone depreciate your value and self worth. If you feel you can improve then do it. But do not let the words of idiots bring you down. To be honest for him to say that he does not deserve you or any woman until he learns respect. I am sorry this happened and was said to you. You deserve better.

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Eb
Community Member
4 months ago

Maybe I'm old but the writer seems to be putting a lot of spin on the original story, which itself was only one side of the story. It's possible the OP was the one who misjudged the situation. I don't think he's a narcissist or embryonic abuser, but I do think you should get to know someone before you move into their place.

Jacob Schandorff
Community Member
4 months ago

Look I have to disagree with the angry comments here I don't have the whole story and I wasn't there but he did probably almost exactly what I would have done I would have been nervous and probably wouldn't have said anything and then she offered to change and he turned her down saying it was fine and then she told him he had to pick between her going to a casual party in eye very eye catching cloths where his boss and coworkers are or her going home to which this person who wanted to keep their job payed for her ride. If you give someone two options and one of them constitutes the end of the relationship that should be conveyed. And when he found out how much it meant to her he tried to apologize (and gave her back her laptop) . All I'm saying is A. It's relatively not that long a relationship he does not owe you his job and B. If he tells you its causal and you spend 40 minutes on makeup that's your bad. I'm very sorry that this incident upset the both of you.

Jacob Schandorff
Community Member
4 months ago

Also he started the interaction with the fact that he thought she looked good at no point during this is there evidence he meant harm or hard feelings

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Tomislav Pleše
Community Member
4 months ago

how is this anyones fault? simply two people who don't share their views.. I have never been in a relationship with anyone who puts effort in their outfit and now i'm happily married to a beautiful woman who does not own makeup or heels, doesn't shave and wears whatever is first in the closet. To each his own-it's obvious that these guys have insurmountable differences and they will find happiness with other-likeminded-people.

Kishora Das
Community Member
5 months ago

The outfit was his excuse, his reaction was her excuse. And now the wheel spins on with us to validate their experience... He may be narcissistic, and so might she be for needing our validation. Wake up from the charade, folks, or you're never gonna be able to go deep with that special someone because you'll be too caught up in what culture expects from your relationship. What do you expect from you, is the only right question. Neither he nor she are wrong here, this is just what they wanted and what happened. And yes, she and her outfit are YAS QUEEN... and none of us know his work environment.

Tracy B
Community Member
3 months ago

But what I want is what everyone else has to want and if they want something else then they’re a total a*****e and I’m gonna cry and post it on the internet so everyone can tell me I’m right and if they say I’m wrong then I’ll call them s**t too! Bahhhhh, look at meeee

SweetsEve
Community Member
2 months ago (edited)

💯 this! So right Tracy. You left out the part where she moved back into her van because living in your car on social media is cool and she's a master of basic life skills. Let's all rally behind her because obviously questioning her choices is toxic and abusive.

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Jon Ty
Community Member
3 months ago

HIS work function, HIS call. If the situation were reversed, I'd agree with her sending him home. At least he paid for the Uber.

Jacob Nunez
Community Member
4 months ago

I feel like i need a lot more context

Jeff Gralish
Community Member
4 months ago

But, she left her laptop at his place.....CossstannzA!

Brîndușa
Community Member
4 months ago

Yeap, she took everything and forgot the LAPTOP?!?

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Full Nameю
Community Member
4 months ago

Stop!.WHAT SHE WORE IS LOUD & HIDEOUS! THEN WENT SKIN TIGHT! A simple shirt, pants & MUCH less eye makeup. Then BRIGHT RED JACKET? OMG!

bill marsano
Community Member
5 months ago

Both parties in the wrong here. She was poorly dressed for what appears to have been a semi-formal or "business attire" occasion. He didn't advise her when he invited her and then couldn't express himself effectively.

Mia Michaela
Community Member
1 month ago

bill, no offence, but how was he supose to know she will have such poor tate and sense? most women are even more sensible when it comes to fashion and appropiate even attire than men, even. i don't realyl think is any of his fault here. can't really see it,

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Nigel Rodgers
Community Member
5 months ago

Guys stop overreacting, maybe he works on an Amish farm.

Sigita Tru
Community Member
4 months ago

Tbh.. I think we all sometimes make mistakes on how we should dress up, and there's nothing wrong in making them, but, the whole situation could have been handled better and more subtly. If you say to your gf that you wish she'd change her outfit for an occation, and the gf immediately breaks up with you, do you guys think it's normal also? I personally don't see one person here being at fault. But both of them miscommunicating and misunderstanding each other. Plus, breaking up over small thing like that, I dunno.. If you actually like the person, why would you do that. Just to make a point that "you can't ever disagree with me", or "you can't tell me what to wear". It's like the famous question, to which there is no right answer: "does this dress make me look fat?". Honestly, I think both of them need to become more mature.

Faithkeeper
Community Member
5 months ago

Women these days need to learn to be a little more modest... If you want to be seen as a princess, then you must carry yourself like a princess....Dress with a little bit of class... Good guys don't want their woman showing off skin to everyone.... A belly shirt was very inappropriate for a first impression at a work party

Beans
Community Member
2 months ago

It was a casual leisure clothing event and he thought she was overdressed. As for her shirt, it's a short blouse and she has a jacket over it. You are projecting a lot and making assumptions about what you think is 'classy' or appropriate. You sound sexist.

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M Bou
Community Member
5 months ago

I think to judge someone based on one comment and one situation is as superficial as it gets.

Debbie
Community Member
5 months ago

He might have known what was appropriate for the situation and people involved. But they shouldn't be together.

Chris Oakley
Community Member
5 months ago

This guy can best be described as what noted political analyst Lucy Van Pelt would call "a blockhead".

COCO puff
Community Member
5 months ago

TikTok has a new story for us :) Thanks TikTok

Tracy Wallick
Community Member
4 months ago

This is ringing a lot of alarm bells for me, as someone who endured a lifetime of narcissistic abuse; right out of the gate this guy is criticizing her makeup, her shoes, her clothes, even sending her home because he doesn't like what she's wearing. These are major red flags that should not be ignored, because they *always* start small to test your boundaries, and gradually escalate from there.

Mia Michaela
Community Member
1 month ago

oh Tracy, please, let's not confuse poor dressing taste, and overssensitive behavoiur to narcissism on his side. is not the case here. she was going on a formal event on his work place.you'd think she has a bit more sense. plus, she was the one asking to go back home becuse he actually pointed out rightfully so that the outfit is not appropiate for such event. everyone is jumping on the narcissim train witout counting the whole context. for pete sake, really, this rings more red bells for her than him.

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Christina Uhlir
Community Member
5 months ago

She was picking him up from work, she has a van and he will call Uber for her to go home? I don't get it. I think that her outfit is nice, not too reveling, however for a business celebration gathering I would choose something a bit more conservative.

OJC
Community Member
5 months ago

It's a cute outfit, and you looked ok. It's just that it may not be an appropriate outfit if it was a semi professional business get together

Beans
Community Member
2 months ago

The outfit was professional enough, the event was actually leisure/athletic wear. That was the problem, it was going to be more casual he thought. But he was probably wrong when he got there and noticed people with all kinds of outfits. Which is why he said later it would have been fine probably. Do people not read the articles?

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Paul Walls
Community Member
5 months ago

When your dating your attracted to one another and your exploring everything together. Along this journey you are trying to understand how each other live, dress, eat . I don't believe that to attract a partner you slowly change their life to your pleasure or control what they wear, where they go, what they eat. The thought of telling a date what to do and how to do it is called control.This was not a mistake of words because those words have come out several times.Runnnnnnn.

Alireza Alireza
Community Member
1 month ago (edited)

So he didn't like her style & dumped her, how is that different from any woman dumping a man, because she doesn't like his looks? & all the extra drama is just that... drama!

Beth Park
Community Member
1 month ago

I think he's the one who dodged the bullet here. She moved into his place right after meeting him? And there's not a woman out there that hasn't picked out her man's clothes but omg if a man tries to do the same thing he's abusive.

Mia Michaela
Community Member
1 month ago

i mean...i don't wanna be the devil's advocate here, but that's not really a good attire for such event. surely his reaction is also a bit extreme (if is truly how she describes it) but ths woman needs to also do some reseach to get a sense of how to dress for certain occasions. i mean a date with him only ok, but a fromal event? a bit unappropiate. it feels she really need some advices when it comes to dressing. anyone who says that this outfit is "cute" for a grand openng needs a reality check. this is cute for your local cafe, read the atmosphere. in some places a certain etiquette is needed. i can't blame him complelty, but his reaction was too strong too. she just need a good friend with decent taste and good sense when it come to occasions, to take advice.

Lu Harris
Community Member
1 month ago (edited)

Can't wait to see how many down votes this gets, but it seems obvious that his comments about her wearing too much makeup and overdressing were code for he thought she looked like a ho and to please tone it down. Failing to take the hint she chose a hot pink satin jacket that made the black top underneath look like lingerie. Not surprised he was too uncomfortable to bring her to the work event. Doubt their tastes will ever mesh and hope they've both found more compatible mates.

Laura Dawson
Community Member
1 month ago

He didn’t tell her to go home, she pushed him for an ultimatum so there’s that. Do I think he was a jerk for caring what others think over his girlfriend? Yes. Her outfit was fine. They both jumped in pretty fast moving in together after only 3 weeks. I get she lives in her van but they just don’t seem suited as people. I don’t think it’s abusive. Just shallow & both seem petty.

Jason Asebrook
Community Member
1 month ago

Simple facts.. Does everything have to go on social media?? It's ridiculous 😒

Joe West
Community Member
1 month ago

I would have done the same thing. What was she thinking wearing that to a formal work function....

Emma Jolivet
Community Member
2 months ago

I was called a prostitute because I left my dance studio too tired to change, i had to walk home, i was wearing my leotard (pink) and my ballet skirt (also pale pink/cream coloured) my hair was in a bun--a man stopped me and asked if i wanted to come home with him. i said no, and he grabbed my arm and started to pull me. thankfully i was walking with a friend and she hit him with her bag. we ran.

Front jones
Community Member
2 months ago

There is more to this story. Everyone is quick to judge after hearing one side of the story then proceeding to call names and abuse the guy that hasn’t had a chance to speak… Let’s be kind and encouraging.

Carol Edmonds
Community Member
2 months ago

He should have told her ahead of time what would be "appropriate" apparel for the event he was taking her to.

dajoro3000
Community Member
3 months ago

“the attention that the story has garnered has definitely kept my mind off of the fact that I just went through a breakup.

malenchki
Community Member
3 months ago

K so maybe she overdressed but he then SENT HER HOME LIKE A NAUGHTY CHILD. He does not get to underdress then complain about her overdressing then try and get her back the next day. If he complains about every little thing she does then he is being insecure but then again he might just be nervous around the girl he cares about so yeah sending her home is weird but for the rest you need more context and even that she asked him to call her an Uber so yeah we got half a story where she is clearly not saying everything that needs to be said

William Walton
Community Member
3 months ago

Spoiler alert all these stories are made up

Lois L. LaBounty
Community Member
4 months ago

My ex did this to me. I asked him if it bothered him that I was a little taller than him. He said why would I mind having a tall nice looking blonde on his arm. Later on he complained and asked me to wear flats. I put on makeup for a date he told me the only women who should be wearing makeup were actors on stage. The second time I wore makeup he said that if I needed money To ask him for it. There was no reason to ‘walk the streets’. Yes, he implied I was a prostitute. I wear eyeliner, eyeshadow, and mascara sometimes lip stick that’s all. Be glad you noticed he was verbally abusing you when you did. It continued for years. I didn’t even notice. Until I kicked him out. Then I realized I was a completely different person. Than when we started dating. Shoshana Sherrington yes it is abuse. But there are no scars to see on the outside. Just the scars on the inside no one sees but you.

DarkAngelNic
Community Member
4 months ago

I hope she never talks to him again. This is a first glimpse of abusive behavior, it will only get worse from here.

S. Peters
Community Member
5 months ago

Men have no business telling a women how to dress. I had dates that made comments to me about my appearance. and that was the last comments they made to me.

Luke Oakridge
Community Member
4 months ago

It was a formal event. If she can't follow the rules of the event, she shouldn't complain if she isn't allowed to go.

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Darrell Powell
Community Member
5 months ago

Pretty hot.... his lost

Kate Van Kirk
Community Member
5 months ago

You dodged a bullet.... c'est la vie!

Tex
Community Member
8 hours ago

Listen up, you all who think she was inappropriate: Her outfit was casual enough for what was an important event. Unless there was a specific dress code, it actually would have been more inappropriate had she worn what is actually considered casual. She wasn't inappropriate, and dude was in the wrong.

Michael Rasch
Community Member
2 weeks ago

There are 2 sides to all stories. we are only getting one side. Obviously, lack of communication and understanding is the real truth of it all. We also have the ultimatum and "know that you should accept your partner unconditionally". Modern day dating, you can get doxed, a viral video that is not even true ( you saw that one where a guy falls asleep on a plane and the woman next to him does a fake cheating boyfriend video, imagine being a respectable guy dealing with that short of crap) and a ton of other bad outcomes. He made the good choice. If you make an ultimatum, expect your bluff to be called. Also, No you don't have to accept a partner unconditionally. Accepting some of the good, knowing your skill sets, working on the other. Could this be the start of a manipulative relationship, Yes, I can perceive it as such because it seems that both parties are demanding. And he's definitely going down the manipulative road faster than she is.

RedOphelia 13
Community Member
3 weeks ago

Was he an insensitive, dodger idiot about how he handled things? Yes. He could've handled it better than making her uncomfortable about how she looks because he feels paranoid about how his work mates will perceive it. I've seen women wear far trashed than that to a company Christmas party, gets wasted to Jesus at the open bar and proceed to dance like a seasoned stripper.. OP is dressed just fine and it's an athleisure company so I don't see it being sneaks and Ts or being a black tie event either.

Micah Chips 🇺🇦
Community Member
1 month ago

DUDE I WAS WATCHING THIS WOMAN ON A VIDEO NOT EVEN 2 SECONDS AGO AND THEN I SWITCH BACK TO THIS TAB AND WHAT

lenka
Community Member
1 month ago

This is not yet fully fledged abusive behavior, but it is the beginning of the grooming process. Abusers start by removing your certainty and confidence. In this case, her clothing and how she looks. She states that this has been increasing in regularity. They then convince you to start second guessing yourself ... oh,perhaps this is not appropriate, maybe he's right, I am overdressed'. This guys did NOT straight out say, 'babe, that's a little too much for the opening. You might be overdressed'. What he did was refuse to comment, say nothing was wrong when clearly it was and then waited until after the dinner to send her home. This is the beginning of the gaslighting process. If the OP had accepted that she was sent home (aka punished) for being dressed inappropriately she would have essentially given him the green light to continue with this behavior. This is not abuse. This is how abuse starts.

lenka
Community Member
1 month ago

People, and women especially... know the signs. Establish firm boundaries and STICK to them. Abusers will will always push you to abandon them. If the beginning of the relationship is defined by you feeling unsure or strongarmed into seemingly insignificant things (like what you wear) and second guessing yourself... be very very cautious. Insignificant things become very significant very quickly.

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Mshauri Mazuri
Community Member
2 months ago

She looks good, maybe not his taste.or the taste of other people to where they were going to.

Greg Grambor
Community Member
2 months ago

He acted rather strangely but living in a van is also kind of strange so maybe you belong together?

Raging Zim
Community Member
2 months ago

How would he know where to book her Uber to?

Emma New
Community Member
2 months ago

I don't think her story is real this is fake really why is that this story is not on her TikTok page? Are you looking to get attention with your story to have people follow you and hit 7 million followers?

Porpoisepower
Community Member
2 months ago

It's not an outfit if wear but... But dude needs to chill...

Kevin Storme
Community Member
3 months ago

No excuses for him, whichever way you look at it, he should have handled the situation better. If I was insecure about what employers/managers might think about the appearance of my company, I would have discussed that ahead of time. And his insecurities being projected is a huge red flag, get away from him ASAP

Beans
Community Member
2 months ago

This is the only sane answer here.

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Tracy B
Community Member
3 months ago

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Tracy B
Community Member
3 months ago

Did she live in her van with a cat? 😒

Michael Chan
Community Member
3 months ago (edited)

This story IS also proof that men are subhuman trash and garbage and women are divine goddesses and perfect humans

Mary-Jo Woodcox
Community Member
3 months ago

I can see he was nervous, but if he wanted her to dress more casual he should have said. Plus clothing is an extension of ourselves, so asking someone veto change is like saying I don’t like you like this… so change to how I like you. I agree he may have screwed up but I think he was showing his real self. Maybe he can learn to be accepting and not aspect people to ALL BE THE SAME! If someone commented that my date was outrageous in their dress, maybe saying isn’t it great their creativity and confidence? I love that about her, would have shown REAL leadership qualities!

Texaspoontappa
Community Member
3 months ago

So he didnt want to be seen in public with a whore? We got bigger things to worry about.

Margaret Weaver
Community Member
5 months ago

That was a LOT of red flags she skated over. How can someone so darling have such poor standards? She deserves better, I think.

Wim Cossement
Community Member
5 months ago

Sad but please stop all the TikTok stuff...

Brenda Pereira
Community Member
5 months ago

You may be too young to see it, but at 66, I'm not. Trust me. You dodged a bullet with that one! This and his previous passive comments scream "RUN!!" He would only get worse. Sideways comments on your comments, then outright disapproval with the meaning that you do it his way or none, then he would do this to everything about you until you had no self esteem left, couldn't trust any decision you make without running it by him first, and going no where without him because he doesn't trust you, then accusations you are cheating. Laugh as you walk away from that one. I'm glad you didn't go home and change.

Dorothy Cloud
Community Member
5 months ago

Whoa, at first I thought she meant he didn't want her to wear slacks to the occasion. But, reading further he had commented about all her dressing habits. Thank HIM for sending you home in an Uber.

Patricia Bryan
Community Member
5 months ago

I'd be more concerned with her weight.Or lack of it.Right to get away from this man..the type who will eventually say.."but I love you so much...so you can't see your friends or family,I will phone you ten times a day to see where you are,I'll occasionally have to smack you around for your own good...and the very worst..if I can't have you..who loves you so much..then nobody can"....

Chris Machabee
Community Member
5 months ago

Well, there are two sides of the coin, and two side to this story. I am on Nikki's side. I think she should count her blessing because she has left behind perhaps a lifetime of emotional abuse. the guy knew where they were going and he should know the kind of clothes she wears and simply asked if she could wear the dress he like for the function. he said noting and so she dressed, what looked like to me in a comfortable manner, and not inappropriate. so, this guy worrying about what people would think? he didn;t love her, he wanted to show his boys he got a girl. however, Nikki wasn't dressed hot enough. sure a pretty face, but plain comfortable clothes, oh no, that would never do. she forgot her high heels and mini skirt, you know, the hooker look. Peple are cruel by nature. they hey and they get hurt its an endless cycle. It hard to find true love, but the search i s worth it. Nikki's serach begins anew, good for her.

Shawn Dunlap
Community Member
5 months ago

Hey I think you are a very attractive lady and that outfit makes you look that much cuter. I wouldn't worry to much on him obviously he's a Deutsch and you deserve so much better. If his opinion mattered we'd all be listening to him at the moment, I just wish everyone at his shindig knew how big of an a****** he is. Hell I would have took you home to mama anytime of day because you are you not what people want you to be and that trait is extremely rare in this day in age. Keep your head up because the world wants to see you for you, with those eyes, the world and as do I have no reason to worry about your wardrobe. I have two sisters and no brothers so I understand the hurt and pain this may have caused, but you know what it isn't your loss, it's his. I'm actually glad he did what he did because none of your precious, valuable, and considerate time was waisted on an invaluable, and inconsiderate man so be optimistic you wasted a minute amount of time on a guy that wasn't worth it.

13
Community Member
4 months ago

Do you mean a 'douche'? A 'deutsch' is something ver