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“I’m Literally Allergic”: Teen Can’t Eat Birthday Cake Dad Bought, He Flips Out
Teen looking upset and frustrated while dad talks in the background after a cake fail moment between them

“I’m Literally Allergic”: Teen Can’t Eat Birthday Cake Dad Bought, He Flips Out

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Around a third of the world’s population has at least one allergy, and yet they’re still not taken seriously enough by some people. 

Like this dad, who, for his son’s birthday, bought a strawberry cake, which he’s severely allergic to. Since this wasn’t the first time the parent exhibited such self-centered behavior, his teen called him out on it, which made him super mad.

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    Like this dad, who almost endangered his kid on his birthday with a cake he’s allergic to

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    75% of parents of children with food allergies said it causes them anxiety

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    In the US, roughly 40% of children have allergies, while the percentage for adults is 30%. Among kids, the most common allergens are milk, eggs, nuts, wheat, trees, grass, and weed pollens. While some children are known to outgrow their allergies, it doesn’t mean that any allergy should be taken less seriously. 

    If allergies aren’t seen as important, they can have severe consequences. For example, people with serious allergies may go into anaphylactic shock, which can swell up the airways, drop the blood pressure, and result in loss of consciousness. 

    No one wants to go through such an experience. That’s why it’s crucial to stress the importance of allergy awareness. To help people with allergies avoid an emergency that can happen anytime, anywhere, as many people as possible have to know how to be around people with allergic reactions.

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    Not to mention parents whose kids have allergies. For a lot of them, such a life event is an enormous stressor and emotional load to navigate every day. In fact, a 2019 Asthma and Allergy Foundation of America study found that 75% of parents of children with food allergies said it causes them anxiety, and 82% of parents admitted to thinking about it all the time.

    With such statistics, it’s surprising to see that the dad in this story managed to forget or not even know his son’s food allergy. From the teen’s description, the parent seems to be quite self-centered, which might explain a little bit why he didn’t concern himself with such important details about his kid.

    “If you do not take them seriously, you are putting people’s lives at risk”

    Teen and parent in kitchen after cake fail, showing mixed emotions and supportive embrace from adult.

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    Self-centered or not, this dad and everyone, for that matter, should do better when it comes to taking allergies more seriously and helping others stay safe. 

    In terms of parents, every caregiver responsible for their children should have a plan for how they can best manage their child’s allergy. This should involve an emergency plan and having an EpiPen on hand at all times. They may also decide what to do with the allergen in the home, whether to remove it entirely or just simply keep it out of reach and avoid cross-contamination. 

    Children themselves should be educated by their parents about their situation as well, so they can avoid what’s safe and not safe for them. 

    As for everyone else, supporting people with allergies can be as simple as knowing the allergy and what its symptoms look like. In case of an emergency, it’s also good to know what to do. There are other habits that you might adopt, too, like washing your hands after eating the allergen or avoiding sharing your meal with someone who is allergic to something. All of these actions, even though simple, can help a person avoid risking their life. 

    “Perhaps some people may think allergies are ‘fussiness’ or ‘attention-seeking.’ If you do not take them seriously, you are putting people’s lives at risk,” said Bethany, who lost her best friend to a severe allergic reaction. 

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    Most readers sided with the teen

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    Austeja Zokaitė

    Austeja Zokaitė

    Writer, Community member

    Hi, glad you swung by! My name is Austėja, and in the past, I was a writer at Bored Panda. In my time here, I’ve covered some fun topics such as scrungy cats and pareidolia, as well as more serious ones about mental health and relationship hiccups. You can check them out below! I hope you enjoy reading them as much as I enjoyed writing them:)

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    Kate Johnson
    Community Member
    Premium
    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So many men think that any pathetic efforts on their part deserve a parade. What a completely worthless father that doesn't even know his own kid's allergies.

    Marianne
    Community Member
    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I know this is not the point of the story, but "he complained how he wasted so much time BUYING the cake". Like, excuse me? Buying a cake is no effort at all. Where I come from, a birthday cake is home-made. I do understand why someone might not be able to make one, but buying one and then complaining about the effort is really really weird.

    TunaKat
    Community Member
    1 month ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Exactly. Its the same effort as going to the store to buy toilet paper, you walk into the store you grab the item, pay and leave . The Man acting like going to do basic store shopping required him to clear his schedule and needed to be praised for that unique action.

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    LakotaWolf (she/her)
    Community Member
    1 month ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've gotten almost literally the same exact treatment from my mother (though I don't have any allergies.) Every single birthday of my life, it's been HER favorite type of cake (which I actually hate, and yes, I have told her that for decades at this point), HER favorite foods, etc. When I got older, we went out to eat at the restaurants SHE wanted to go to (she shot down all of my requests), or she would "gift" me tickets to a musical SHE wanted to see, so on and so forth. I know, first world problems, but it still hurts when your mother is so narcissistic and Main Character-y that she doesn't care that you loathe German chocolate cake (I like chocolate cake, just hate the coconut-pecan topping) and that you haven't enjoyed musicals since you were 10. She always served lemonade at my bday parties - HER favorite drink (I hate lemonade.) As a narcissist, she doesn't even consider what other people want, enjoy, or care about. It's all about her, her, her. It was incredibly hurtful to me in my childhood - I couldn't/didn't understand why she didn't care that I hated German chocolate cake and wanted ANY other cake type but that. Again, first world problems - I was fortunate to even get a bday party - but it still hurt. These days I don't even celebrate my bday, because it's such a scarred-over wound at this point. Someday I hope to have IRL friends that I can enjoy a happy bday with - I'd be happy to just sit in a café and talk with them, and maybe get a hug or two XD (I'm a hugger - unsurprisingly I never got any physical affection from my mom - not even a hug. Alas.) If any of you Pandas will be in the Southern California area next February - want to celebrate my bday? XD

    Vinnie
    Community Member
    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    From further north and further east, a virtual hug. May you get some cherished memories on your next birthday.

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    Lee Gilliland
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    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sounds like "dad" is buying himself presents and then gifting them to himself. This you do not need. Tell him to go away and grow up.

    Earonn -
    Community Member
    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "You are being disrespectful" is the weak men's version of Israel's "that's antisemitic!"

    Alexandra
    Community Member
    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Of course not. Not every 'you are being disrespectful' is not true: children and adults can be, indeed, be objectively disrespectful to someone else and you're by no means if you call someone out for their behaviour. Your blanket statement just provides an out for people who are disrespectful but are too cowardly to acknowledge that and instead shift blame.

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    Nova Rook
    Community Member
    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Had a small one - was told that for my 18th birthday I was going to get something extra special and I could pick. I wanted a super 8 camera to film little movies as I was going to an arts program for film and wanted to get going. It would be a few hundred dollars and certainly very well in the suggested budget. The Super 8 camera would be useless for my dad though so he kept trying to tell me a vhs recorder would be better (better for him, not for me) and I kept saying that a super 8 was what I was hoping for. About two weeks before my birthday some guy at his work was selling a musical keyboard for a couple of hundred dollars so my dad bought it for my sister because it was a good deal and my sister (8 years old) likes music. No more money for my super 8 so I think they bought me a cd or something and my sister spent about 5 minutes with that keyboard. Yeah, I'm still salty about this.

    Eve
    Community Member
    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My husband brought me amoxicillin antibiotics. I am severely allergic to penicillin. We are separated now.

    Angela C
    Community Member
    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Are you allergic to both because I've known people with penicillin allergies who took amoxicillin with no issues

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    Charles McChristy
    Community Member
    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    All of these YTAs are most likely weekend-dads who are behind on child support and only want to post on Instagram to flirt with single moms.

    Sly Schlang
    Community Member
    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hate these BP b******t posts with "page one of..." that you cannot access. So annoying

    Jean Jacket
    Community Member
    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Nope f**k this useless s***m donor. My brand new neighbor that i have known for weeks and met only a few times, told me she is allergic to strawberries and I immediately put that in the notes section of her contact on my phone. Immediately made a mental note to never make her strawberry treats. That's for an essential stranger. This dude's SON!? Nope.

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    Kate Johnson
    Community Member
    Premium
    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So many men think that any pathetic efforts on their part deserve a parade. What a completely worthless father that doesn't even know his own kid's allergies.

    Marianne
    Community Member
    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I know this is not the point of the story, but "he complained how he wasted so much time BUYING the cake". Like, excuse me? Buying a cake is no effort at all. Where I come from, a birthday cake is home-made. I do understand why someone might not be able to make one, but buying one and then complaining about the effort is really really weird.

    TunaKat
    Community Member
    1 month ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Exactly. Its the same effort as going to the store to buy toilet paper, you walk into the store you grab the item, pay and leave . The Man acting like going to do basic store shopping required him to clear his schedule and needed to be praised for that unique action.

    Load More Replies...
    LakotaWolf (she/her)
    Community Member
    1 month ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've gotten almost literally the same exact treatment from my mother (though I don't have any allergies.) Every single birthday of my life, it's been HER favorite type of cake (which I actually hate, and yes, I have told her that for decades at this point), HER favorite foods, etc. When I got older, we went out to eat at the restaurants SHE wanted to go to (she shot down all of my requests), or she would "gift" me tickets to a musical SHE wanted to see, so on and so forth. I know, first world problems, but it still hurts when your mother is so narcissistic and Main Character-y that she doesn't care that you loathe German chocolate cake (I like chocolate cake, just hate the coconut-pecan topping) and that you haven't enjoyed musicals since you were 10. She always served lemonade at my bday parties - HER favorite drink (I hate lemonade.) As a narcissist, she doesn't even consider what other people want, enjoy, or care about. It's all about her, her, her. It was incredibly hurtful to me in my childhood - I couldn't/didn't understand why she didn't care that I hated German chocolate cake and wanted ANY other cake type but that. Again, first world problems - I was fortunate to even get a bday party - but it still hurt. These days I don't even celebrate my bday, because it's such a scarred-over wound at this point. Someday I hope to have IRL friends that I can enjoy a happy bday with - I'd be happy to just sit in a café and talk with them, and maybe get a hug or two XD (I'm a hugger - unsurprisingly I never got any physical affection from my mom - not even a hug. Alas.) If any of you Pandas will be in the Southern California area next February - want to celebrate my bday? XD

    Vinnie
    Community Member
    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    From further north and further east, a virtual hug. May you get some cherished memories on your next birthday.

    Load More Replies...
    Lee Gilliland
    Community Member
    Premium
    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sounds like "dad" is buying himself presents and then gifting them to himself. This you do not need. Tell him to go away and grow up.

    Earonn -
    Community Member
    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "You are being disrespectful" is the weak men's version of Israel's "that's antisemitic!"

    Alexandra
    Community Member
    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Of course not. Not every 'you are being disrespectful' is not true: children and adults can be, indeed, be objectively disrespectful to someone else and you're by no means if you call someone out for their behaviour. Your blanket statement just provides an out for people who are disrespectful but are too cowardly to acknowledge that and instead shift blame.

    Load More Replies...
    Nova Rook
    Community Member
    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Had a small one - was told that for my 18th birthday I was going to get something extra special and I could pick. I wanted a super 8 camera to film little movies as I was going to an arts program for film and wanted to get going. It would be a few hundred dollars and certainly very well in the suggested budget. The Super 8 camera would be useless for my dad though so he kept trying to tell me a vhs recorder would be better (better for him, not for me) and I kept saying that a super 8 was what I was hoping for. About two weeks before my birthday some guy at his work was selling a musical keyboard for a couple of hundred dollars so my dad bought it for my sister because it was a good deal and my sister (8 years old) likes music. No more money for my super 8 so I think they bought me a cd or something and my sister spent about 5 minutes with that keyboard. Yeah, I'm still salty about this.

    Eve
    Community Member
    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My husband brought me amoxicillin antibiotics. I am severely allergic to penicillin. We are separated now.

    Angela C
    Community Member
    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Are you allergic to both because I've known people with penicillin allergies who took amoxicillin with no issues

    Load More Replies...
    Charles McChristy
    Community Member
    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    All of these YTAs are most likely weekend-dads who are behind on child support and only want to post on Instagram to flirt with single moms.

    Sly Schlang
    Community Member
    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hate these BP b******t posts with "page one of..." that you cannot access. So annoying

    Jean Jacket
    Community Member
    1 month ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Nope f**k this useless s***m donor. My brand new neighbor that i have known for weeks and met only a few times, told me she is allergic to strawberries and I immediately put that in the notes section of her contact on my phone. Immediately made a mental note to never make her strawberry treats. That's for an essential stranger. This dude's SON!? Nope.

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