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What makes you cringe? Is it witnessing someone try to flirt in the most awkward way? Or maybe looking at photos of yourself from middle school does it? Contrary to what your parents told you, that combination of bangs and braces did not look amazing! We’re all capable of engaging in some cringey behavior, whether it’s forgetting to mute yourself in a Zoom meeting with all of your colleagues or participating in TikTok trends that should probably be left to teenagers. But there’s something about the internet that seems to make individuals even more prone to engaging in full-on cringe.

And no one knows that better than the followers of Cringetopia on Twitter. Below, we’ve gathered some of the most painful tweets from this account dedicated to documenting “the worst of the worst on the internet”, so you’ve been warned: you might be cringing incredibly hard by the end.

Keep reading to also find an interview with an expert on the topic: host of the Watch Cringe podcast, Brendan, and try to enjoy this list (despite the fact that it might end up causing you physical pain). Be sure to upvote all of the pics that you couldn’t help but get a kick out of, and then, if you can somehow handle even more second-hand embarrassment, you can find another Bored Panda article featuring similar content right here!

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So you're a child trying to be tough and make people think your tough when you really fell off your skateboard and scraped your knuckles! Come on kid.

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The Cringetopia Twitter account has only been around since January 2021, but it has already amassed an impressive 105k followers. Despite the pain that it must cause those individuals, apparently, they can’t get enough of this embarrassing content. So we decided to do some investigating into what exactly “cringe” is and why the internet so obsessed with it. According to Wiktionary, the word “cringe” is derived from a combination of the Middle English word ‘crengen’, which means “to bend in a haughty manner” or to condescend, the Proto-Germanic word ‘krangijaną’, which means “to cause to fall” or “to cause to turn”, and several other Danish, Dutch, Scottish and West Frisian words essentially all meaning to turn away. 

The way that we use cringe today, however, is an almost inexplicable experience or feeling, according to Saumya Kalia, a writer at The Swaddle. She describes cringing as “a curled upper lip, a wrinkle on the nose, a weighted sneer, a shake of the head from side to side. To the assault on grammar, excessive displays of human emotions, fashion that was meant to die, any and every behavior that forgets social norms.” She explains that we’re all prone to experiencing and feeling cringe, so perhaps, it’s best to just embrace it.    

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What kind of insensitive nosy pig would post this about a complete stranger??

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“The history of cringe is rooted in social submission,” Kalia writes for The Swaddle. “What reached its peak through the internet culture first originated in the Old English; cringan was the word to describe ‘to fall, to yield in battle, to give way, to become bent, to curl up.’ Cringan became cringe sometime in the 16th century when it introduced the feelings of fear and embarrassment to ‘bending’ or ‘crouching.’ Finally, by the 19th century, the meaning had cemented itself; cringe meant to ‘recoil in embarrassment, shame, or fear’.”

And over the past couple decades, cringe content has become increasingly popular, with hit shows like The Office, Curb Your Enthusiasm, and Nathan For You gaining massive popularity. We watch these programs and laugh, partially from discomfort and partially because the situations the characters put themselves in are just too hilarious. But as Kalia explains in her article discussing the cultural history of cringe, “Watching train wrecks in fictionalized worlds spilled into a desire to mock those in real life.” Today, there are countless accounts like Cringetopia on Instagram, Reddit and TikTok calling out the lack of self-awareness so many people seem to exhibit in real life and online. There is certainly no shortage of cringe content to be found. 

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To learn even more about the painful and elusive topic of cringe, we reached out to Brendan, host of the podcast Watch Cringe, and he was kind enough to have a chat with us. First, we wanted to know what inspired Brendan, and his co-host Jay, to start a show dedicated to this topic. “We started the podcast because it’s highly entertaining and has a few lessons to teach the audience,” he told Bored Panda. “We want to normalize the cringe, so people can realize to not take life too seriously, but also to learn how to be better.”

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh my ! I was wondering why this was a "bad" one, I didn't realize the bottom was before and the top is now, I thought it was the opposite way around

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Cringe can be a subjective topic, so we were curious how Brendan likes to define it. “Cringe equals ‘shared embarrassment’. When someone does something ‘cringe’, it usually highlights that person's inability to be socially appropriate,” he explained. “Meaning it’s usually when someone [messes] up or is just really uncool. For example, uncool dad jokes make you cringe because you feel embarrassed for the dad and everyone in the room. Or let’s say a dude is showing off a Venus fist (feminist) tattoo at a bar to pick up babes. That’s cringe because it’s obvious he didn’t get that tattoo out of sincerity; he’s basically acting like a tool bag.”

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's not just $3k or $2k though, it's holiday time at work, it's child care, it's that amount per person, it's all the extra costs on top like insurance, spending money, vaccinations for Thailand etc (including an expensive registry by the sounds of it!) Most people can only have one holiday a year and don't want to spend it at your wedding, especially as you sound insufferable

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Brendan was also willing to share one of his own personal moments of cringe with us. “On one of my first dates with a girl, I asked her if she was on the spectrum because I thought she was like me,” he told Bored Panda. “She didn’t like that line of questioning, but guess what: she’s my fiancé now! This type of cringe is because the cringer is unaware of how their words can affect other people’s feelings.” That may have been cringey in the moment, but I’m glad to hear the story had a happy ending!

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And lucky for all of us (or unlucky, depending on how you look at it), Brendan says no one is immune to being cringey. “The cringe is unavoidable,” he told Bored Panda. “It’s a part of human ancestry. Look to our past, present, and future, and you will find that entire countries are cringe. France stole a 3,000 year old obelisk from Egypt, shipped it to France on a boat, and set it up in the middle of a traffic circle!” It’s true. It’s called the Luxor Obelisk, and you can read about it right here

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And it was all looking so good until the last couple of lines.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So he's not your husband, he's not in the armed forces and he never went to that school... wow!

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Finally, Brendan left us with some wise words about our cringey behavior. “The world needs to highlight it and embrace it,” he shared. “It’s like having a big pimple on your face. It’s worse if you try to hide it. Just own it, and be better next time.”

If you’d like to hear some painfully cringey stories, accompanied by hilarious commentary, be sure to check out Brendan’s podcast Watch Cringe right here or follow the show on Instagram right here!

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What's really cringe is posting pictures of children on social media without their parents consent.

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According to Melissa Dahl, a senior editor at The Cut and author of Cringeworthy: A Theory of Awkwardness, indulging in cringe content for fun is actually similar to experiencing nightmares, as far as our brains are concerned. “It’s our brains giving us a dose of exposure therapy,” she told Vox. “Maybe the same thing is happening for people who are drawn to cringey content, [maybe they’re] people whose deepest fear is being ostracized or made to look like a fool.”

“I think [cringe content] is a controlled way of facing this really deep fear. It’s funny to talk about being embarrassed during the year 2020 when there’s such scary things going on,” Dahl continued, referring to the COVID-19 pandemic. “But, like, there’s nothing scarier than being cast out on your own and laughed out of the group!”

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

One of the beauties of the written word is you can elucidate your thoughts far more effectively than with speech. I don’t understand why anyone would give up that advantage.

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Are you feeling a little better about all of the cringey things you’ve ever done? Because clearly, it can always get worse! We hope you’re getting a kick out of these photos pandas, but remember, none of us are immune to the cringe. So don't get too cocky... Keep upvoting your favorite photos, and then if you want to experience even more second-hand embarrassment, you can find another Bored Panda article featuring painfully cringey content right here!

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ew... that's just weird, I hope he at least asked the kids first if this was ok

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i have adhd and what they said was so false.🙄, god i hate when ppl say lies abt disorders

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As someone who has ADHD/ADD, this is DEFINITELY not how it works...

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Alexandru Bucur
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I mean polyamoury exists, but this person isn't polyamorous, they're just a wanker.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

WTF? I'm ADHD and I've never cheated in my life. I can't even wrap my head around cheating. If Im distancing with a partner, it's not because I'm cheating, it's because I'm bored. I will respect my commitment to the other person as long as I can but when I'm on my way out, I'm on my way out. Then I will take months or years of healing time before I even consider being with anyone else.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People who pull this type of s**t are the reason adhd has a stigma

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Jordan
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

that kind of garbage is why so many girls and adult women with adhd try to hide it. Adhd has nothing to do with his lack of morality.

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NoIdeaForAName
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You’re kidding right? I’ve ADHD and have been with the same person over ten years now. What a lame a$$ excuse to be a cheating h0e

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Persephone
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ummm... none of this is true. I have ADHD. It allowed me to be a victim of abuse bc I always focused on my partner and was overly empathetic to their c**p behavior before I had access to treatment. Don't do this s**t to people with a disability.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i have ADHD and thats no f*****g excuse Sharon. your a dirty cheater. go somewhere just, away. not here. we dont want you

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Icecream Sarang
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have ADHD, untreated because my dad didn’t believe in mental health. I’m a faithful partner. Humans are not monogamous by nature. We can choose to be or not. If you’re not, then for Pete’s sake find a partner whose okay with pluralism.

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lili
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You can get diagnosed and treated later in life or whenever it is safe for you. Best wishes

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It enrages me when mental health struggles are used as a crutch to justify stupid behaviour.

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Boii
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

ADHD is the reason you are cheating? Are you sure it isn't your shi**y personality?

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have ADHD and I've been in a committed, happy monogamous relationship for over a year. I sincerely hope that you, cheater, can go f**k yourself with an Adderall bottle. Polygamy is OK. Cheating is not.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There are folks who are okay with the polyamory lifestyle. But that's something you establish at the beginning of the relationship. Not 3 months into it. It isn't for everyone.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have dissociative identity disorder, aka, split personality. Does that mean Ihave a partner for each of my different alters? no. it most certainly does f*****g not.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Dude if someone actually told me that they have a different partner for different alters I think I'd laugh my a*s off honestly. Someone should love you for the whole you, not just one of your alters!

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

But wouldn't you open the possibility of getting rejected more than once? Sounds counter intuitive to the whole fear of rejection thing.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have officially diagnosed ADHD. I may have trouble focusing on a conversation, I’ve never felt the need to cheat on anyone.

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AbsintheMinded
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you are already aware of this, then why get into a relationship in the first place? You’re just making excuses for s****y behaviour.

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Delta Dawn
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have ADHD too and the only thing it does to my romantic life is make me forget to make date nights with my spouse of 20 years whom I have *never cheated on*

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Jayden Penzien
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

ADHD doctor diagnosed patient here! We have the oh so lovely things we like to call… what’s the word? oh yeah, STIMULANTS. Also, medication. and a ton of other s**t to help you focus. cheating is a choice, not some symptom. seriously

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David
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sorry, I didn't mean to cheat. I just got distracted for a moment and then suddenly I was F'ing someone else.

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aZZy_d3Lta (they/them)
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

that's not how it works. it sounds as if you're just polyamorous and in denial about it. next time make sure you find partners who are also polyamorous.

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Kitty Kat
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There is nothing wrong with being poly, but you have to agree to that with your partners before hand.

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Jess
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Crazy that me and my ADHD fiancé have been together for 15 years this year with no hints of cheating or anything

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Liv
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As someone who actually was diagnosed with ADHD at 10. This is extremely offensive.

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Jordi Sharpe
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Quit using ADD/ADHD/autism/etc to try and excuse awful behavior.

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Bonesko
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Open relationships, polygamy is fine, but only when all parties are on board.

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Natalie Kelsey
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So weird, I have raging ADHD and all the problems that comes with and I've been married to the same awesome guy for 22 years. Never needed to cheat or have an open relationship. So I don't think your diagnosis is your issue here

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Frank Miller
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Cheating is NOT an effect of ADHD. That's not even close to how the human brain works.

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Sweet_Dee
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OMG fuxk this d-bag for using ADHD as an excuse to be a s**t bag

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Trophy Husband
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So what you're saying is those people shouldn't marry. Instead they should date people casually and be super clear with them that they don't want a serious relationship. It's not for me, but so long as you're all okay with it, I'm not going to look down on you for it.

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Jessica J.
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As someone with Bachelors degrees in Psychology and Sociology, this is not how any of this works.

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sally
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So this is how the show The Bachelor was born…🤔

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Susan Bosse
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah. No. I have ADD and this is laughable except it's sickening because someone out there prob believes this to be true.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have ADHD, inattentive type and have been married almost 18 years. Also there is limited research in this area to really know that it can affect monogamy.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As someone with adhd F**K THIS GUY. They can go f**k themselves sideways on a chair with a hedgehog on a stick. Putting down people with a real condition and justifying vile people.

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jdtimid123
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hate when people do this kind of thing, because it makes it so hard for people who actually have disorders to be taken seriously.

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Amy T
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Have ADD (as I was diagnosed back in the day) and have been married 13 years. Funny, we also got married after 30 and neither of us had any kids.

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Tugg Ster
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

just stop. ADHD absolutely does NOT cause a person to cheat. Lane.

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liyanee
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Dude, you can't focus on one person at a time then how are 2-3 even possible? According to you, it sounds like you would forget even having one person.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Damn people really love to scapegoat Adhd for their awful behavior

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Ausrine Ciapaite
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am dating a guy with ADHD and he is the sweetest most loyal guy. How I know he's loyal? He can barely conjure energy to focus on one person let alone multiple.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am Autistic, I have ADHD, and I am hypersexual in a monogamous relationship with someone who has been essentially asexual since a surgery over two years ago, I am also physically disabled and functioning more or less as a full-time carer for her. Life is stressful as all hell, but I would never in a million years cheat on her. I love her deeply, and even if I didn't, we are monogamous and I would have the decency to respect the boundaries of our relationship and either suck it up or end things. Mental health issues, disabilities (excepting the odd memory issue, I suppose), etcetera are not an excuse to betray someone like that.

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lili
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ok or, hear me out, you could just be in a poly relationship with other people that are ok with it instead of being a piece of trash?

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have ADHD, like really bad. I only like one person right now and I’m not even in a relationship…

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

as someone with adhd let me just say that PEOPLE ARE COMPLICATED AS HELL i can only handle one romantically involved person at once, this is top tier bullllshit

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Julie Snelling
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you want to shag around then don't be in a relationship it's not difficult.

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Susan Steele
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nah, dude...as someone with ADHD who practices ethical non-monogamy with full consent from my partners, I can safely say that the only thing forcing you to cheat is you.

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lili
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ethical non-monogamy is the funniest way I've ever heard poly said. +1

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Gmaddles
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hey genius, don't get into a monogamous relationship then.

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Raven Red
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

as someone with ADHD, cheating is still disgusting.

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Potato Chimps
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Fear of rejection makes it hard to initiate an open relationship? So instead of risking a no and an open discussion you'll lie and just harm everyone. I don't think you can blame that on the diagnosis.

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CatWoman312
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have ADHD and am married. I love my husband, but he is a handful so therefore I determined that one is enough.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That’s all well and good until SHE cheats on HIM, then he’s all “WTF?”

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Atlas
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10 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm pretty sure just because I have ADHD doesn't mean I can cheat, it's not an excuse. :/

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Andrew Fallon
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've got ADHD and the dude isn't wrong in what he's saying... He's just awful at saying it. But finally knowing you've got ADHD means the bad behaviour can't be excused anymore... So the dude is a cheating moron.

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elcee
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

if you don't want a monogamous relationship find someone who also doesn't want one

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Terra Raizor
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Adhd does NOT do that. Just stop being a garbage partner, figure out what you want, communicate that and own it. It's okay to have multiple partners or an open relationship if you're all on the same page.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i HATE when people use a REAL issue some people have as an excuse for stupid s**t like THIS.

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Sandra Llewelyn
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I call BS on that I have ADHD and have bever cheated - if you're not happy, then simply stop current relationship and find a new one.

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Poppy
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have ADHD and I don't cheat. Plus it's not just not being able to focus, we can hyperfocus

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Gypsy Lee
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Instead of calling me an entitled, manipulative creep just call me a pathetic excuse for a real human who thrives on hurting others to satisfy my selfish whims with no regard for honesty & self control.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm polyamorous. I have ADHD. And this is some offensive-a** bull****,

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Melissa Hamed
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That is the most convoluted and wrong definition for why you should be able to cheat. There is no acceptable reason to cheat.

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bv7hearts
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have ADHD and I can't even get my own s**t together, let alone have the capacity to f*ck around with multiple people.

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Missi Boness
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's such bullsh*t. An excuse to cheat. ADD can cause trouble focusing on one conversation at a time in a group setting...not monogamy. You just want an excuse to cheat.

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Mrs.Pugh
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This actually makes me so f*****g angry. If one more person uses their mental illness/disorder as an excuse for their s****y behavior, I might just push them off a cliff. If they die, they die🤷🏽‍♀️

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AzuraStar
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There are some people I would love to judo chop in the throat. I hate it when people use mental health issues, they most likely don’t have as an excuse for being pieces of s**t. It makes people who actually have mental health issues, like me, be harder to be taken seriously, when we’re having a setback. I have severe ADD and ADHD and a whole litany of c**p that goes with that. I’m 38 and I deal with it on a day-to-day basis. So this type of s**t, it’s infuriating to me.

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BetterBitterButter
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am not sure that's how ADHD works.This person was "forced" to cheat?

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Liv
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

ADHD or ADD is basically a mental disorder that makes it difficult for a person to focus and/or sit still (depends if you’re hyperactive). It makes it hard to learn certain things in school, mostly mathematics. And you can forget things more easily. Hope you understood a bit cause I’m not the best with words

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Jane Cortez
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh please. The ‘I can’t help it excuse….’ Monogamy is beautiful. Loving someone so deeply and how love deepens over time! Yes, it is work to continue to grow as a person as well as growing within the relationship but it is true intimacy. This douche will never know.

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Rabbit Of ill Portent
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Pity this wasn't around about twelve years ago, my ex husband would have used this excuse

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Rostit .
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

well. when they put it that way, I mean they sort of .. actually nope. this is garbage.

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Jane Doe
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How is this person forced into a relationship in the first place? Dying to know.

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Real Onceler
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They're the only person demonizing here?? "people with ADHD are natural cheaters!" Brother... 😟

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Rahul Pawa
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No disorder or disease is a legitimate excuse for cheating.

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Donna Clanclan
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I imagine the idea of cheating will continue, but it will be difficult for older generations to take you seriously. I had one of my siblings kid explain how they are in a relationship with 8 other people. 3 were exclusively dating one other person in the group yet those other people were dating multiple people, two were dating everyone in the group, a few were dating multiple people in the group but making sure that there was no cross over with each other. Each person has a 'My name. No one else has this name. It's not a nickname.' cute name they use exclusively with one person. So, they each have a # of pet names based on how many people they are involved with.

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Mrs.Pugh
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's not that hard to just say you're a cheater. (No im not saying polyam is cheating)

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People with ADHD might have an issue with impulsiveness which will cause them to cheat. but that doesn't excuse the cheating.

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lili
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We're usually hyperfocused on our partner. Our impulsiveness doesn't cause us to not have morals/cheat

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

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