Every family has their secrets, it's only natural. Some things are just so foul and wrong that they just have to stay in the family. Some of them even go to the grave.

Sharing these dark secrets is very brave, considering the taboo topics that might come up. I ask you, oh brave pandas, to share some of the darkest ones that you have. I put a trigger warning in advance, since I'm aware that some of you might go into some really dark stuff. This thread might not be for the weakest of stomachs.

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40 Family Secrets These People Did Not Expect To Learn My father is the youngest of 13 kids. But actually my grandparents only had 9 kids. Grandpa ran a farm and had a truck to deliver the produce from his and the surrounding farms. During WW2 he drove to Amsterdam to deliver food and secretly brought back Jewish boys. He hid them on his farm pretending they were his kids. Partially very nice of him, but he also just needed extra hands to work. After the war most of the boys went home to family members, but 4 of them had no remaining family. He officially adopted those 4 boys and just went on as if they had always been part of the family.

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40 Family Secrets These People Did Not Expect To Learn My uncle had always been a raging alcoholic. A dangerous alcoholic. Well, my aunt married him anyways. They went to Germany for their honeymoon. Only he returned. We asked about the aunt and he pretended like he had no idea what we were talking about and how he has "never gotten married".

About five years later he married again despite us all trying to tell the woman not to. They went to Jamaica for their honeymoon. Same thing. He came back without her. Again pretended like he's never married. We began suspecting he was k***ing them. We called the police. They investigated. Nothing turned up. And then the years later, he married again. But COVID happened and they haven't gone on a honeymoon.

We're not sure she'd believe us if we told her. So we have distanced ourselves from my uncle and he remains as the secret we don't talk about. We don't talk about Bruno type situation.

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40 Family Secrets These People Did Not Expect To Learn Trigger warning! VERY dark!

My mother and my father started dating when they were just 18.
My mother got pregnant soon after.
My grandmother made my mom ingest large doses of quinine every day (which is a big health risk by itself!), and inserted a small plastic item in her uterus.
This led - as planned- to a late miscarriage on the toilet when my mom was about 20 weeks pregnant.
The baby boy was alive and „as big as a doll“ (quoting my mother).
She k***ed and dismembered the fetus and flushed the parts down the toilet.
Then she went back to sit at the table with the guests they had that day to have coffee and later dinner.
My mom grew to be as cruel and cold as her own mom.
She did something similar to me, when I was just 15 and unfortunately got pregnant.
She and a gynecologist told me the baby was sick, and the pregnancy had to be terminated.
I believed them.
A few days later I had to go there, to get the abortion. My mom gave me an envelope with about (converted) 8000$.
The abortion was performed without any kind of local anaesthesia.
I lost consciousness a few times, they fastened me to the gyn chair.
Part of my soul will stay there forever.
The doctor forced me to take a good look at the destroyed embryo „so that I would never do what I did again!“
When I came home traumatized and in shock, my mom said, that „I should pull myself together and that she had suffered so much more!“
Then she told me her abortion story.
I wish she never had told me.
Years later, when we had a fight, she dropped that my baby had been absolutely healthy.

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40 Family Secrets These People Did Not Expect To Learn At twenty-one, when I asked my mother why I had no siblings, she confided that I had actually been born a twin and my brother had died because I "choked him" with my umbilical cord. She said I must never tell anyone or mention it to my father because he was still upset "that it was the boy who had died". I had wanted a brother or sister all my life so was deeply sad and felt incredibly guilty to the point where I unsuccessfully attempted to end my life. (There was other stuff going on too - death of my boyfriend of five years - so I was already in a dark place.)

Years later when I was carrying my own twins I began to realise that parts of her story seemed unusual and looked into my birth records. And here's the darkest bit - it turns out there never was a twin. I never confronted her.

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40 Family Secrets These People Did Not Expect To Learn My cousin is really my sister. My Aunt and Uncle couldn't have kids so my parents did for them.

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40 Family Secrets These People Did Not Expect To Learn It’s actually f*cking awesome. Grandfather's great aunt by marriage ran the most notorious brothel in Sydney and had a lifelong feud with another brothel owner. She did go to the other madam's funeral when she died, but as reported by the newspaper “just to make sure the old b***h stays in the ground”. The whole feud started over a dog breeding scam! RIP Tilly Devine

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm having trouble regarding a brothel as 'awesome', as you never know under what circumstances the workers had to do their jobs, but I guess it is a cool story :)

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40 Family Secrets These People Did Not Expect To Learn If you met my dad, you’d think he was a soft faced and gentle old doctor and a pretty cool guy for acting young, being a good father, living to fish and drink beer, and being willing to build you a deck. You’d think he loved God by the way he talks.

Well, he’s a p***phile who spent my childhood grooming me. He exposed himself at me every day when I was little, and got unusually jealous whenever I showed a little skin in public as a teenager. The way he hugged and kissed me was creepy, and I was afraid to say no. He told me my developing body was making me more likely to be “sold into white slavery and a** r*ped” and that I’d be r*ped by strange men if I showed my shoulders or danced. Yeah, he was racist and sexist. And as a young adult who still didn’t understand, he apologized convincingly, then began using me to emotionally cheat on the wife he hates, treating me like a girlfriend. And then he’d try controlling me financially when I lost my job.

He also beat, intimidated, and controlled my mother, who then took out her frustration on me. She told me I was ugly every chance she got. He told everyone that she was the crazy one. He wouldn’t let her have a job. He was verbally, emotionally, psychologically, financially, and sexually abusive to an extreme level, to the point I developed DID and nearly 60 alters as a result of how he treated all of us.

When his wife got into an affair with a man who gave her a little escape, he cheated in revenge with a woman who had the same name as himself. Textbook narcissist womanizer. Then he cheated with a woman who was hideous, just because pitying her made him feel better about himself. Being her “hero” made him feel better about himself. She was none the wiser that it wasn’t her he was cheating for. He blamed my mother for the entire divorce.

My mother wasn’t innocent, either. She brainwashed me like the fricken winter soldier. Used me as a weapon in the divorce. I really thought it was my fault. So I falsely confessed the divorce was my fault. As if a thirteen year old with autism could be a proficient manipulator. And he never stopped hating me. I was already the black sheep, but now it was so much worse. He often called me by my mother’s name when angry. He k***ed my pets on purpose. He kept buying pets, waiting for me to get attached, and then k***ed them. Over a hundred of them. I eventually stopped getting attached. I had nobody. When I finally understood that I was being mocked by my friends at school, I was alone. I cut everyone out to protect myself, and spent six years in isolation. He blamed me for all the bullying. Daily, he would say things so vile and cruel that I had to dissociate. When I told the school counselor I was s*****al, he showed up all goody two shoes to fix his reputation, and then when I got home, he called me things I wouldn’t repeat, and his new wife called me a traitor.

His second wife had a vile, mannerless, cruel son, and I had to come home to the school bully every day. He and his two brothers would gang up on me. Then the kid did something messed up on a whole different level. He and his brothers cornered me in the garage. He did the unpardonable sin, and led the other two to do it, too. Basically eternal murder-s**ide before my eyes. He was disappointed when I wouldn’t follow suit. But basically, I’ll never have a brother in heaven, which is my waking nightmare.

When I found Christ, my parents became more and more cruel, and I just tried to be a good child despite it. When he wasn’t preoccupied with making my life a living hell, he just drank a lot of alcohol and avoided me. When he felt guilty, he’d buy gifts I don’t want I at of be there for me, listen to me, or God-forbid apologize. I suffer from DID, PTSD, self loathing, depression, anxiety, anger issues, social anxiety, avoidant personality disorder, and chronic insomnia. Nobody believed me or tried to save me for 21 years. So I cut him out, but he still harasses me. I wish I was never born.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Trash Panda, I'm deeply sorry to read your story. If I had the power I would fly to you right now, take you in my arms and HUG you with all my might. I Want you to know that all the terrible things that have happened are NOT YOUR FAULT. You are lovely and beautiful and kind and caring. I love you and if you need to talk I'm here for you. HUGS and a big kiss from me (and they are Auntie Caro Hugs and Kisses).

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Can anyone else just indiscriminately give all these supportive people a round of likes? I can only give one each, and I think everyone’s really restoring my faith in humanity. ☺️ Edit: You guys just gave me a d*mn good idea for a more pro-social (instead of antisocial) social media site! Though BP is on the right track, generally.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You guys are sweet. I really hope you have bright futures, no matter what you’ve seen. They may walk free on earth, but not in hell. God have mercy on him, because if I were the judge, I honestly feel like I wouldn’t. Hell isn’t as much about fire as reliving all the terrible things a person has done all at once, and being eaten from the inside. And that feeling will never change for eternity. A monstrous person is apart from love, they are separated from every truth that says they have value. Everything they sought to project on their victims. There is no love in hell, and those lies of worthlessness and filth eat at the void that’s left. It’s more horrible than any fate on earth. Heaven is being apart from lies, with nothing eat you from the inside, and where remorse heals you, rather than destroying you like regret. All that stands is your worth. You always live in the moment there, forever, and never judged for it. The motivator of sin is always ego: the lie that you’re not enough.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People like my dad, the way they live, is just a reflection of what they believe about themselves. And it gets worse the more they hurt people. And it especially stings when watching someone else trying to become their best self in spite of it. The door is open for everyone because it is a form of mercy to be free of that lie everyone is born with. To be aware of and have a choice not to listen to it. You are enough. The fact that a lone, immortal, ominescent, omnipotent God of Creation would bother caring about such a fragile and mildly derpy creature like an individual human, and acts like comparison simply doesn’t exist is proof of it. It’s just hard that a consequence of God respecting free will is that we’ve got the power to hurt each other so deeply, if we choose not to love. And He feels every pain we inflict on each other as if it were His own. I sometimes wonder how He deals with it. How heartbroken He is to lose so many children.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can totally relate. When I finally got the courage to speak about the abuse I endured, I was the one isolated and treated like a criminal. Not my father, he walked free. Even received money for his daughter's tantrum. How dare I, Daddy's little Princess, lie on my daddy like that! Disowned by the entire family afterwards. I'm sorry all of that happened to you. I'm sending you Hugs, Love and prayers to you. ❣️

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If it comforts you, people like our parents always go after the one that makes them feel the most inadequate. And it’s never because you did anything wrong. It’s because they gave up on believing they can be any good. So they settle for believing they are awful and then becoming terrible and finding a scapegoat so they can lie to themselves that they’re not. It’s weird how people often prefer the convoluted effort to maintain a lie against another lie, instead of grieving, letting go, and being left with a simple grace of who they really are despite it. You don’t have to settle for the fact he’s like a wolf in denial that decided to dig his burrow in a latrine and won’t move out. You will never be your father.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is horrifying. Trash Panda, we're here, we have your back.

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Shyla Clay
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wish I knew what to say. I grew up in a very difficult situation, too, and I let it nearly destroy me. I, too, find comfort in God after many years of isolation. I wish there were some way I could help you. When things get too difficult and you feel like quitting, know that there's a crazy fat woman that gives a damn. You're in my prayers.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hi Trash Panda, I'm so sorry this has happened to you. Just know that if you ever want to talk I'm here for you. You are amazing, caring, loving, beautiful, and SO MUCH MORE!

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hi, Trash Panda! I wish I knew what to say right now to make you feel better but i'll try my best. I'm so so so sorry about what you had to go through. I wish I could just give you a big hug! The divorce was NOT you fault, none of this is your fault. If you ever need to talk, I am here. Just remember that you have value in this world. Don't say that you wish you weren't born because God made you for a reason, even if that reason isn't clear yet. Im sending you virtual hugs, and I will pray for you.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

For someone who experienced the absolute betrayal from your family I wish you the absolution and solace you're seeking in your faith. Thank you for sharing your story, you're definitely a better person than me as I would probably be sitting in jail were this my lot

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Believe me, you are not alone. I am not better than you. I was tempted to do the worst night after night, and nearly gave in.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Holy f**k. You are such a survivor. I wish you a better life and increased peace.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’m already working on it. The comedy hobby is going well. Self-pity is as much worth anyone’s time as worrying about one or two mean comments some idiots made.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm so sorry you had to (and probably still are) suffer(ing) through this OP. You are loved and you matter, and NONE of this is your fault. I hope you can get the help and support you deserve to embrace the wonderful human being that you are.

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm so sorry this happend to you. I dont even know where to begin thats the worst way to treat a child. :'( you deserved so much more. I'm so sorry for you. :'( I'm sorry

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I know that seeing how bad the world can be is a quick way to ruin your day, but the fact people like you have a feeling heart is a godsend in and of itself. You deserve to understand just how much your goodness affects others, and then to feel that as you go about your day.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Raccon panda, We love you! You are our friend. This is your community. Please stay in touch with us! you are special. You are beautiful. You are loved. Dont listen to anyone who says different, they are just being mean. You are a wonderful person. I am so sorry about what happened. I have to go now, but if you ever need love and/or support, please please contact me!

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow. You are a GREAT person who did not deserve the trash people that surrounded you. I hope you are able and strong to start your life again, far away from everyone that ever hurt you. As Caro said, it's not your fault, it's all on them and their pitiful existences. You'll go on and do great things my friend!

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hope so. The fact good people still exist is one of the reasons I was able to resist killing myself. I want to someday leave humanity better off than what I was born into. I’ll find a way.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hey, I'm glad that you are safe now. But if that crazy man bugs you one more time, call the police. Every conversation he forces you to have with him, record it. If he goes too far, call the police, and if he tries to play the victim, show the recordings. We all care about you, and if you need anyone, we're all right here ready to support you.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

this is horrible!!! i don't understand- what's the unpardonable sin? im so sorry for what you went through.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm crying, I don't know what to say, I'm absolutely heartbroken. Big hugs sweetheart, great big hugest hugs

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My heart breaks for you and I'm so angry (not at you!) that you were denied the support that you needed. I am virtually here for you and you are so strong! Everyone on this thread loves you and supports you. Thank you for sharing your story.

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

MsLou, I’ve learned a valuable lesson yesterday. The window to get support doesn’t have to end with childhood. Connecting an older people for advice and mentorship, passing your wisdom to younger ones, making friends with people around your age, finding a pet (or a few) that really loves you, and having God in the center of it is the ultimate secret to a functional family. True family always starts with many different forms of friendship. That’s how the Guardians of the Galaxy did it, and that’s what I’ll teach my future children.✨

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You are a beautiful and strong person or you wouldn't have made it this far. A lot of us knewn things like this and we know you are worth everything in the world. You spoke of Your Faith that tells you in no uncertain terms that you are worth it all. Stay strong and accept our love. As removed as it may seem, it's very real.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm so glad you got out of that horrible and inhumane situation. And I'm glad God was able to help you through some of it.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Gentle hugs to you, You Awesome and Super Strong Survivor (yasss!) Formerly Known as Trash Panda. I don't know what to say. What happened to you is absolutely horrifying. I hope you find healing and peace, don't give up on yourself. Lots of love.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It’s just that I can be accused of libel and thrown in jail if I reveal his identity now. I have to play it smart. I have other plans (and plenty of patience) spread out across many projects that will get his deeds well known, without the issue of being falsely convicted of libel or slander. Once they’re complete, I’ll then let the other children, my siblings, spontaneously begin the allegations on their own. Too many friends and relatives will be forced to either come forth with honest testimony, or show their true character in obvious lies or absence. And even if he still files a suit and wins, the public will undoubtedly know the truth. He will be afraid for his life of them, and in solitude, nobody will be tricked by him again. I can get justice without revenge, and pass on my knowledge to do much in the fight against psychopathic and narcissistic abuse, but not if I tell anyone the plan. This is how in the long run, I’m not gonna lose.

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1 year ago

woah...

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Eamonn Stanford
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My mom had something similar, and she fled the state last year fearing for her life. Mother's day marked 1 year since she left.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am so sorry you had to deal with all that...like everyone else here im sending my love. No one should frel alone like that

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My agoraphobia has resurrected itself due to so many abusive situations in my life. I am so sorry that you had to endure this. And I wish you well in all of your future endeavors and relationships. You did not deserve this at all. I've been thinking about therapy again for a while. I hope you get the best help humanly possible.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was abused by my grandfather, took me to the other side of the world away from my parents to do so. I have an inkling of what you've been through, there's too many of us who have been betrayed by those who should protect us. I'm so sorry this happened to you, sending you all my love

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Raccoon panda you are amazing and I'm glad you're alive. I'm sorry for your suffering. You've got a safe place here with us all x

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Big big love to Trash Panda. You are so brave and so strong because you are still here xx

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm sending you big hugs! You are such a brave person. Kids should have more opportunities to share their stories and get help when the evil things begin to happen. I'm so sorry that your neighbours or teachers at school didn't help you years ago😞

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Priscila Pedrosa
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My God! This is almost exactily what happened with me. My dad was very charming, but mean and dangerous inside our home. Trated me as a little girfriend, made me hate my mom for a while... same story.

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You deserved a real dad. May you find a mentor who will love you like a daughter, and treat you as the hero of your own story, and may he never, ever, EVER hurt you.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Where to even begin… It’s sad. And on top the text implies that the person realizes right and wrong and still for some reason puts way too much blame on themselves.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The onions are killing me here. I wish you all the best of life for ever and ever. You must be monumentally strong. Be with Auntie Caro, a caring and lovely Panda full of empathy and love.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I know there is very little strangers on the internet could say which would make any of what you have had to go through less awful, but I hope you understand that none of it was your fault, every vile thing done was a reflection of the person perpetrating it, not you. I hope you find yourself in a place in life where you are safe, have people around you who respect you , and can start to see a future for yourself. Do not let their actions define you, they do not deserve to have that influence over you or your life. You are not them, or their action, or the person you were when you were trapped with them, and one of the biggest FUs you can give back to them is to carve out the person you want to be and live your best life in spite of their toxicity. It may not always feel like it, but you have the power to take control of your life and you will find people who deserve to be a part of it.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That is the saddest story I have ever heard. I am so glad you found Christ though as he will never leave or forsake you but I know sometimes it feels like he has. I really hope you have found some good people to help soften the sharp, tough times. Hang in there, you are an amazing person to have survived that living hell of a childhood and even though your life story is a nightmare, it is powerful and I am sure you will overcome much and your story will help many many people. You are loved by God and have much to give. Tons of love to you dear person.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Omg that was a lot and I'm so sad to know someone has been through all that, people are for real the cruelest species on this planet.

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Simi Ismail
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hey there! You have been through a lot... Pls reach out!!! Pls take charge..pls choose not to give in. Life has much more to offer.. Many good things to come your way.. Let's choose what's best for us!!! There are many who are willing to offer support.. Just don't give in please....

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Nicole OBrien
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You are a VERY strong woman. I hope you will be good to yourself, you deserve all the love in the world.

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BasedWang12
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

this is all sorts of messed up too. I am terribly sorry that ANYONE has to go through something this terrible. I really hope the harassing stops and that you get some personal peace. Best wishes to you. I am so sorry I am not good with writing things like this the right way, but I really do hope you get to find your peace.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I know this is an odd perspective, but YOU WON! You survived so much and still choose to be a good person! They LOST because all their evil couldn't erase the good in you! Just hold on a little while and "See the salvation from God!"

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I find this really validating. I kind of felt like it was all my fault for a long time. That I was just a weak coward who let this happen. But crud, this really is a better way to see it.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Raccoon Panda, I'm so glad you're still with us, that you've found a sort of reason to go on. God is a good place to go, so are pets, and so are friends who you can trust - I'm sure that's not easy. Be well. I'm praying for you!

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

i’m not that strong. i admire you so much. i’ve been through a lot less but have had similar feelings. just think you should know that you inspire me. i don’t know you but your ability to get through all this is helping me get through a lot less of a situation. thank you, you deserve the world and i’m sorry. oh yea, and if i could, i would have helped you as much as i could. i would fight for you

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OP, you are valuable, lovable, perfect (with all your human imperfections). You are enough. In addition to all the other advice, make certain that you have a solid team around you. A general practitioner who understands you, a psychiatrist to work with you, trained counselors, and legitimately trained clergy. It is good if you are in a faith community that gives you support. If they start talking about your "sin" and your "guilt" about the abuse you suffered, run run run to a different parish, where the people truly treat you like the precious lamb of God that you are.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Believe me, I’ve learned that whenever I walk into a church, I should pay close attention to how children, women, disabled people, people of color, the elderly, and animals behave around the pastor. If they don’t like him/her, and don’t wanna be anywhere near, then neither do I.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's so cruel. Do not hurt yourself for someone else's fault. It's not you. They are the problem.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Your parents deserve to ROT in jail FOREVER! No child should EVER have to experience that you went through. This is absolutely heartbreaking and evil. I've never experienced abuse but I have gone through my parents getting divorced. If I was in your situation I would get your parents arrested. I really hope you are doing much better.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh my god! Keep yourself cut off from all of them. I hope you have some amazing people in your life, but you seem so lovely I'm sure you do :). Families are created.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hi Trash Panda, I am so sorry this has happened to you, I will definitely hug you if I could. You don't deserve to suffer all this pain. You should be loved instead of being tortured. We are here for you.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’m so sorry. I could never say that I understand, and I don’t know how to help other than praying for you. I hope that you know that you are unique, and that you find comfort in Christ. I don’t know what else to say except “As love grows within you, so beauty grows. For love is the beauty of the soul.” -St. Augustine

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ok I need to stop reading all of those. That are horrific and heartbreaking. I cannot imagine doing to my child what these parents have done.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've read a lot of stuff on BP, and I mean a lot, but never once have I cried openly after reading anything. Until now. I feel like I should say something, but it looks like the awesome people here on BP have done that for me, and I cannot do better than that. I will say: 1. Thank you for sharing such an intense story. 2. Your abusers actions were a reflection of themselves, and I hope you feel no shame for their terrible, terrible actions. 3. I hope, for the rest of your life, you find nothing but love, joy, and peace. Sending you a kind, gentle hug from a mom who knows you deserved so, so much better.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hear you, and I feel heard by you. I also cried when I read that the hug I received was from a mother.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’m so sorry all this happened to you and I hope you are getting therapy because it’s not your fault! Don’t wish you were never born! The great thing is, you found the Lord & He is with you at all times! You are also able to file against your Dad. No matter how long ago it was. There are no more statute of limitations, they did away with that! Since he did those things to you, he can be punished AND never do that to another child again! It might be the closure you need. Talk to a therapist! God Bless you and keep you. I will add you to my prayers. 🙏✝️ Love ❤️ you, sisters in Christ! ✝️🥰

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You and I have a similar sense of dark sarcastic humor (I hope). Believe me, if he ever finds out I do standup comedy as a hobby, and follows me to an open mic, I will kill him with my routine.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yo the frock wrong with peoples families on this website But yours is the worst and I will be praying my soul out for you Just go and take your dad fishing and take concrete blocks, a knife and a black tarp Make sure that the lake is deep

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You She turned them all into the police there’s no limit to sexual abuse anymore

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I can’t turn them into the police because I have no solid proof. And nobody believed me as a child. Justice can still be achieved by keying the whole town into the truth in another way. In time, he will find the repercussions inescapable. I am not helpless, even if sometimes it feels that way.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Over a hundred pets? Let's say this was over 20 years, which is very generous: that's like a new pet every 10 weeks. Seems unreasonable. And what is this "unpardonable sin"? This all just sounds like a creative writing assignment.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He thought my life was trivial. Imagine what that kind of person would think about animals. I had to force myself to not get attached.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

you got to cut these story short and get to the point.

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jesus ever been dicked so hard you developed 60 personalities... most people can't even develop One.

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40 Family Secrets These People Did Not Expect To Learn My grandfather, my Mom's Dad, was in the Merchant Marines in the 40's during WW2. He started out sailing the Atlantic but in the last 2 years they switched him to the Pacific.


It turns out that he was actually honorably discharged in July, 1945 and NOT November, 1945 like he'd told everyone.


He stayed in California for 4 months, unbeknownst to anyone, with a couple of buddies and crashed with them. To earn extra money to bring home, he made 3 porn movies. He was 32-33 at the time, a big, robust, good looking man.


He was married to my grandmother already and my Mom wasn't born until 1947, so they were childless still.


We never found any of this out until 1984, when my Dad got a hold of some VHS vintage porn from the 40's and watched it with my Mom. Back in those days (40's), even before and after, one of the common tricks they used was to make the participants wear half-masks to try and conceal identity.


My Mom recognized him right away though, despite the mask. He had a very distinctive tattoo on the inside of his lower left forearm, a specific birthmark on his lower right hip (which I have too) and also a jagged scar on his lower right calf from when he got hit by shrapnel on an Atlantic ship that had taken some hits but hadn't sank and limped to port years earlier.


A buddy of his was still alive at the time (1984) and still living in California, so my Mom got in touch. Sure enough, the friend (in his 70s) confirmed it and told her about the 3 movies. He starred in them himself and eventually sent her copies of the other 2 films.


In the other 2, he had brief speaking roles and she identified his voice along with the other body ID markers. My grandfather died in 1969, and my grandmother in 1983. According to my Mom, she was sure no one had any clue.


The money my grandfather earned helped to pay off the only car they had at the time and the rest helped to reestablish their nest egg.

So yeah, there's that one. I still have the VHS tapes but don't have a player anymore. I've never watched them, just kept them. Still don't know if I want to watch, LOL.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I wouldn't watch them. A: it would ruin those memories of love for him and B: it's pørn. Why would anyone want to watch that.

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40 Family Secrets These People Did Not Expect To Learn My mom's brother and her dad secretly don’t like her but its sad because she loves them so much

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40 Family Secrets These People Did Not Expect To Learn That I was s**ually a***ed for many many years by an uncle. When I finally worked up the courage to tell my mother, I was forced to keep it a secret so my grandmother wouldn't know the horrible thing her son had done. I'm still holding onto this to this day.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wondering why sexual assault is asterisked out like it’s a cuss word or shameful. That’s nonsense. We keep distilling rape down to something the victim should be ashamed of, punishing her for being raped, to the point that we can’t even write out the words?? Absurd.

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40 Family Secrets These People Did Not Expect To Learn My stepdad was a known p***phile. He had more than one teen boy he “took in” and slept with in his bed, for years. He kissed me with tongue once when I was about 8. He used to watch my sister and I bathe, staring at us creepily. To this day my mom denies he was a p***phile despite what I’ve told her and the whole community believes. Also, my uncle k***ed a man.

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40 Family Secrets These People Did Not Expect To Learn My grandmother on my mom's side might be the s**ttiest person I've ever met. She treats me like c**p because I'm a teenager, a girl, and I remind her of my mom who she also tends to treat like c**p. She caused my uncle's divorce because she MOVED IN with him and his then wife because she's a hoarder and can't even live in her house anymore. She's completely ruined my youngest cousin and now he worships her in such a creepy way. She's also racist, homophobic, sexist, anti-vax, etc. I just hate her. And we can't find a way to cut ties because when we're in her state she finds a way to figure out that we're there and guilts my parents into visiting. I hate her so much.

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40 Family Secrets These People Did Not Expect To Learn I thought my dad had died but apparently he sent me away because I was born with a hearing problem and I wasn't perfect enough for him. I also didn't know I had a sister until four years ago, because my father decided that because my older brother was born, dear old dad could send my sister and I away, putting us both up for adoption. My mom got in the way though and managed to claim me, but I only recently got in touch with my sister and oldest brother, as we all met at Dad's funeral after he passed from cancer. I'm not sad that he's gone, but I don't hate him. He hated me, but I don't have a reason to hate him. I'm not sad though.

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40 Family Secrets These People Did Not Expect To Learn My uncle suffered from head trauma after falling off a skyscraper during work, it messed him up really bad and led to him turning to hard drugs.
He was mixing coke with PCP behind the family's back.
Well, one day when his soon to be be ex wife stopped by to talk to him about their 4 kids, he jumped into her car before she had a chance to remove her seat belt and stabbed her to death over 36 times.
Afterward, he walked back into his apartment where his brother was and told him to call 911 cuz he just k***ed the monster that was gonna take his kids from him

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's extremely sad to have happened to their children. For their father to take their mother away from them in that manner, and then I would assume, go to prison for a long time. It would have been so devastating as well for her parents to lose their child. I hope her children are doing okay.

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My Dad is a Sex Offender. The story he gave us was full of holes and the real story was revealed after my husband and I tried to adopt. He had attacked 2 women on two separate occasions. We have been no contact ever since and have been unable to adopt.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's very sad that someone else's life choices are going to prevent you from being a parent to a child who needs one. It's disgusting that he's still manipulating people to get what he wants out of life and has no concern for his family members. That is the nature of this type of people.

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40 Family Secrets These People Did Not Expect To Learn My cousin married a serial k***er, she had 2 boys with him and he tried to k*** one of them.

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The story as I was told is this... My grandmother, my mom's mom, came from a very poor family, and they lived away from town. She was asked to babysit, at the age of 15, by a couple from town. The "husband" picked her up, drove further into the country and r**ed her. It said that my great grandmother, after finding out what had happened to her daughter, tracked the man down and gutted him with a kitchen knife. My grandmother got Justice through her mother. The saddest part of the story, my grandmother had a baby from this r**e. The baby girl was adopted by a couple they we're acquainted with and my grandmother was able to visit her daughter until she was around three or four years old. Im told the couple thought she was too close to the little girl and they up and moved away without telling anybody where they were going. My grandmother was an alcoholic most of her life due what had happened to her, but she always wanted to find her daughter. My mother being an "only" child , so she thought until about age 12 when one of her cousins blurted out that her mother was r**ed and had a baby. Which was rather devastating to my mom as well. My grandmother's has an identical twin. Her twin continued to look for her daughter up until she passed away. The daughter, my mom's sister, would be in her '80's now My mother also looked for her prior to her passing 17 years ago. If only the internet was a bigger better thing back then she would probably have found her quickly and could have possibly had a relationship with her. So that's the family secret. Very few know about what my grandmother did or about the baby. Only my grandmother's sisters knew.

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40 Family Secrets These People Did Not Expect To Learn My childhood home burnt down in 2009, when I was 8 years old, and my whole family knows the truth about what really happened that day... Let's say the fire was unaccidentaly accidental...

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Only a secret to me, because my whole family knew. My mom had been married before she met my father. When she got pregnant, they married and moved away so she could tell people that 9lb me was born prematurely. She never wanted me to know that she'd been married before, or that she was pregnant before she married my dad. I was raise to think divorce and pre-marital sex were wrong, period. Everyone kept her secret from me until after my parents passed away. I found the marriage license when cleaning out the house, and the date had been visibly altered. Then I was accidentally told about the first marriage by a cousin who assumed that I must have already been told (I was 41 years old by then). I had come to suspect that she lied about their wedding date, but I had zero idea about the first marriage.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's so sad. She let her own shame and embarrassment muddle the integrity of the one she had with you.

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My grandfather on my dad's side was one of the guards responsible for keeping the little rock 9 out of school, yet because he died when my dad was at a young age practically everyone in my dads side of the family consider him a hero. Another really messed up part of my dads side is the fact that they are all racist homophobes and my grandmother on my dads side talked about how she would punt stray cats. I don't like my dads side and try to avoid talking about them.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Who the hell would hurt a poor kitty? I'm glad you're not in touch they seem horrible

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I met my bio father in 2008. We met in person twice. We lived in different states. Met my 3 half sisters and 2 half brothers. We talked on the phone and wrote often. One day the calls stopped. Found out he was in prison for sexually abusing a few of his grandkids. I waited about 2 years to decide to write him. The day I went to look for the address to the prison I found his obituary and his funeral was that same day.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm sorry, it's unfortunate that you can't be heard for the things that you might have needed to say and that opportunity is gone. You could possibly try writing it all down, taking it to his grave, reading it there, and burning it. It might give you a little bit of comfort.

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So I know this isn't as good (or bad?) as some of the other stories but a few generations back two brothers fought over the civil war and never talked again. A few years later, a girl from the confederate side of the family and a boy from the union side met at a lets-forgive-and-forget-but-I-still-hate-you type family gathering. They fell in love and started a family (keep in mind they're some kind of cousins or something). Fast-forward a few generations and I'm named after that girl.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's not very dark ... I think it's romantic even. So you're a direct descendant ?

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40 Family Secrets These People Did Not Expect To Learn It’s not actually disturbing or anything but somehow the fact my great gran got admitted to a psyche ward because she became s*****al has become something no one talks about. She died 5 or so years ago and I only found out this year that 20 years ago she was admitted for a few months and both my mum and gran are really ashamed of this fact.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's sad. Nothing to be ashamed about. My mum was going though a crisis and went to a psyche home for a month and it helped her a lot. Hugs Spinachpuffs.

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40 Family Secrets These People Did Not Expect To Learn Take your pick: The murderer, the murderer who got away, or the one who a***ed children to death (murdered) without suspicion.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Jesus Leo. I can't pick and am not sure I want to know. I sincerely hope you are ok tho. Maaaaan, these stories make me realize how good I had it and I thought I had sh!t to deal with but no, the postings here are truly sad and horrible. I'm sending you a Hug and a big sloppy Caro kiss. You know the one, they take your breath away ... those. X

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40 Family Secrets These People Did Not Expect To Learn The darkest secret our family has is a few streaks of alcoholism here and there and the fact that we're so boring that we don't have dark secrets.

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40 Family Secrets These People Did Not Expect To Learn Quite some secrets here.
- My mom and her sisters were a***ed by the same uncle when they were little. No one believed my mom when she spoke back in the day, and her sisters never said anything until last year, I think.
- My grandad from my mom's side was a alcoholic and a violent person. He hit my grandma A LOT, and also hit my uncles when they were little. Everyone in town knows him as a great and kind person, and the greatest friend.
- We don't know who my dad's father is. My grandma never said a word, never will. The man I call my grandpa on his side doesn't Even look like him. Other people know who my bio grandad is, but no one seems to remember the name. Also my dad doesn't care so idk who my actual grandad is and probably will never know.
- Word says my grandad from my dad found his wife sleeping with this other man and set her on fire, leaving her a huge very visible scar on her belly, chest and neck, almost to her face. He denies it all.
There's more, but it's getting quite long, so I'll leave it at that. Quite the family.

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There are really two......my old man was a sociopath, closet p***phile with a sadistic streak......when my maternal grandfather dies he persuaded my maternal grandmother to move in with us, sold her house and pocketed the lot. Charged her rent from her pension and treated her abysmally. When she was 82 he left a note on the kitchen table telling her to be out of his house by the time he got home from work, THAT day. All because supposedly she had omitted to pass on a phone message.

He was a complete a'hole whom I hated with a passion and I'm glad he is gone.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Goodness, what a rotten thing to do.. I can understand why you're glad he's gone. Are you ok?

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I am my family's darkest secret.
1. My birth mother was a teenager who became pregnant by her high school History teacher. I was put up for adoption and never spoken of again.
2. My adoptive mother and I lived with her father. I was told my father was dead, having been k***ed in the war. That was untrue. He left us when I was a toddler to start another family in the next town over.
I did not find out about any of this until after my adoptive mother died. I was 32.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's incredibly sad. I hope that you're doing well considering the information that you've been dealing with. Gentle hugs.

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I was raised by my mom, no dad in the picture. When I was a teenager, I guess my dad reached out to my mom to have contact with us (my brother and I). My mom asked us first if we wanted that, and my brother did, so I also agreed even though I didn't really care.

Well right before we met him for the first time, my mom told us that he was married when they were dating. He was cheating on his wife with her. I apparently have two half siblings, one is older than my brother and the other was born between me and my brother. (I still don't know if my mom knew about the wife while she was dating my dad.)

We stopped having contact with my dad only three months after starting contact. My brother invited him to his football game, but he didn't show up. I hate my dad for disappointing because my brother because he really wanted it to work out and to have a father.

I should note that I found out my brother asked my mom for my dad's contact information when my brother's wife was pregnant. He told my mom he wanted to see if there were any health problems on that side of the family that he should be worried about due to the pregnancy. My mom is pretty sure he just wanted to tell his dad that he was having a kid.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's sad that your dad hasn't made himself a part of yours and your brother's lives. It's even more sad that he probably won't care that your brother is having a child. Men like this are a piece of garbage.

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My grandparents met and married within 7 days; my grandma already had my mom at that point (from a r**e, she was only 16). A few years and 2 more daughters later, they divorce and she moves away and meets a man, who we'll call Tom, and marries him. About a year later, she leave him for my grandfather and they remarry. Now when she left Tom his own mother tells him she got in a car accident and died. Fast forward about 30 years an my grandmother applies for social security and they tell her, "oh, you're last name is so and so." She responds, no, my last name is "this." Nope, sorry ma'am, our records indicate your last name is so and so. She does a little sleuthing and finds Tom. She speaks with Tom's wife who tells her what Tom's mother said and so he never divorced my grandma. She also told my grandma that he never got over her and she wasn't going to mention this to him. My grandma said, "well, you're not really married to him, I am, so unless you want me back in your life, you'll get this taken care of PDQ." So, she got a divorce and married my grandpa for a 3rd time. When we had a family meeting for them to tell us, their 3 daughters and grandkids cracked up laughing, but my grandparents didn't think it was funny.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Where in the hexx would Tom have been, to believe his wife had a car accident and died but he never saw any proof of any of this, and willfully believe it? This sounds like madness to me. I wouldn't give up without seeing my husband, dead body, accident report, casket, grave, headstone, ashes, receipts, death certificate, or some proof of something. I would never walk in my house and be told by anyone that my spouse died and just sit down and say okay, tomorrow's a new day. Someone would have to drug me and knock me out or tie me down to keep me from trying to figure out what happened. Sounds like someone lied on Tom's mother and Tom nor your grandma neither one thought it was very important to get a divorce. It wasn't all Tom's fault, women can and should file for divorce too, before they get married.

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Not really a secret as she had no trouble telling everyone, but my mom wanted to k*** me and my brother and “bury em in the backyard” so there’s that

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Brittany, what a horrible thing to hear as a child. I hope you are ok. Hugs Honey.

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My grandpa's brother on my mom's side who I grew up knowing as a nice man that I called Uncle Bill. He had an inappropriate sexual relationship with a distant cousins young daughter and got her pregnant. He told her to tell everyone she didn't know who the father was. She slept over their house frequently for some reason and she gave birth in their basement and he tossed the baby into the furnace.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Omfg! What fresh hêll is this! I hope this man is under a prison somewhere or in general pop, maybe even on death row. I hope this young lady is going to be okay and gets the help she needs.

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#33

Not really a secret, but we are related to Americas first serial k***er, Boone Helm

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3 half siblings from Dad (older than us )but named the same as my brother and two sisters,

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's after a DNA test and them coming forward,very weird meeting half siblings that have the exact names,he never acknowledged them .maybe he called us by their names as not to be confused or let his secret out..even our mother didn't know

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It is known that I suffer from depression and I am on antidepressants. But what i have not told anyone is that the antidepressants have not worked as they should and that I've tried taking my own life several times so far this year

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hope you're talking to your doctors & therapists about them not working anymore. Not all kinds work for everybody and some just stop working after awhile, so it often takes experimentation on types & dosages. And if you're afraid the doctor or therapists will report any of that info to people you don't want knowing, it's time for a new one.

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A person in our family has committed multiple felonies and crimes (none of physical violence). Due to therapy, financial wealth, and cunning secretive behavior, they have never had to pay the price for their actions.

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Me. I'm the first one in the family to have gone to prison.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Im the first in my family to NOT go to jail or prison and the hate I get from that is INSANE

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Buckle up, we're about to go on a crazy ride. First thing first, this was a secret only hidden from me.

A few decades ago, I met someone who seemed like the perfect match for me. We clicked so well, it almost seemed that we were destined for each other. We had several mental issues. It caused some strain, however we helped each other pull through it and we progressed further than anyone would've thought. At first, I took her mom's lead when things went bad (she had schizophrenia, bipolar and OCD). I thought sedating her was a simple way out. So, I tried talking her through it. Sedating her was a last resort for me. The more that happened, the better it got. Her Mom was told that she would never be able to live on her own and bought an apartment building, so she would have some illusion of Independence. However, the more I worked with her, you couldn't see a trace of any serious mental illnesses. The honeymoon period wore off. Honestly, I think I felt it earlier. But, I thought it would be too devastating for her to lose the relationship. I took some soul searching and remembered why I feel in love with her in the first place. It worked in a hundred fold. A couple years later, she felt that. Broke it off, with very few regrets (& not even giving a chance to rethink it). My little brother had a crush on her from his early teen years. He thought I didn't deserve her. He never saw her at her worst and thought she was always at her best (though, I don't mean anything negative for her at these points). Now, here's where it becomes relevant to this post. He started dating her. That information was kept from me for a couple years. I had some suspicions, but no answers. It was usually brought up in a side note, but carefully covered. I didn't know for sure until one of my friends asked me if we were on good terms (my brother and me). Now, I do feel bad, but I take some pleasure in this. Without the constant care, she has reverted back to where she was. Also, my brother can be on the selfish side, he left her.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Edit: to clarify the honeymoon period was around 3-4 years. This was a long term relationship. Rereading it I thought it sounded like a light fling.

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