Though we see our lives as mostly boring and "not much to write home about", we gladly want to see how others are living and what they're experiencing, even though they might see their lives to be as boring as we see ours. Perhaps those tiny little differences and the unfamiliarity with other people's lives are what attracts us to know more about them.
Let us introduce you to Promptlypaneled comics created by Xan that may satisfy your need to check up on how others are doing. Her comics range from relatable everyday life situations to particular experiences that the author has gone through from a feminist point of view. Take a peek!
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I appreciate the "not interested" it tells me not to waste my time before I get emotionally invested, and prevents me from weirding out some poor woman.
Most guys would appreciate the not interested only idiots who don't deserve to have human contact act like this.
This guy looks and speaks exactly like my ex-friend when he tried asking me out
Did you speak up? If so good on you! If we don't speak up and make this an unacceptable social behavior then it will never change.
Load More Replies...Men like that f It up for the rest of us. I feel.sorry for the women who experience such lowlifes
Here's how Xan started the comic and how it's doing right now: "It started sometime in 2019 before the pandemic, and I believe it was 2020 once one of the comics went somewhat viral. It's happened a couple more times since and tends to bring in a few new followers, which is nice! The comics get re-uploaded a lot, which overall I don't mind, as long as the watermark is intact. If people want to see my full collection and follow for more, they can find my Instagram page. If they just enjoy the few very popular ones that get reuploaded, that's fine too! As for how the comic is doing now, I think it's doing okay enough. I'm trying to get in a better groove of frequent uploads, though as we're renovating our house on the side, it's difficult to balance at times. I hope to find that balance soon: there's no shortage of issues I want to discuss or stupid relatable events I've had happen!"
Yes. Ask any woman when she first got unwanted sexual attention, it will have been at about that age.
Load More Replies...Groped in school halls every day. 11yrs old, game for boys, knock books, grab boob.
There was a game in my school called t*tty tag, where the boys run up and grab a random girl's boob. It got stomped out by the teachers but every girl was included without consent and there are 6th graders in my school.
Load More Replies...This definitely happens. I remember being a young girl probably 12/13 and if I was walking to the store, and a particular guy happened to see me, he'd always say "2 more years" I guess he thought I was older and was implying in 2 more years I'd be "legal" for him. Who knows. But it left me uneasy and annoyed.
See I was always confrontational. I’d walk up and innocently ask, “Two years till what?” They would get all flustered, and call me a b***h. Yeah, that’s what I thought you said fiddle d**k.
Load More Replies...The earliest this happened to me I was seven… It didn’t happen often, but that was the first time I got a gross comment. 🤮
I got catcalled 6 years ago for the first time- I was NINE!
I actually just got catacalled the other day for the first time... so no exact age, but I'm 11-15. these boys were 11, and they were whisiling at me. I was actually on my way to see my gf, and I told them, 'I'm lesbian, I'm not intrested.' and they were like oh sorry, but then I biked away and when they thought I was out of earshot they did it again. I almost went back to find their parents. disgusting.
AND although toxic femininity exists - such as prioritising others' wellbeing over your own because "women are caregivers" - both it and toxic masculinity are products of...wait for it...
Feminism doesn't fit it's definition. It means equality, however with the prefix fem misogynists assume feminists believe women are superior.
Kimita - on the chance you aren't an incel that's misandrism and a stain the feminist movement. Some people are like that but not everyone/thing on the internet is real.
Load More Replies...feminism wants men to be the breadwinner😂 aye, because I'm sure women spent all those years fighting for the right to work and then arguing for fair wages(which still hasn't happened yet) only to decide to stay at home and let the men earn the money.
And it's always labeled feminist to stamp down the real feminists just trying g to better woman's rights
These are the exact same men who do nothing to set up organizations and systems to help men who are hurting. Women didn’t have any choice but to help each other, but instead of helping each other through things like sexual assault, men prefer to laugh and mock other men who go through it, and then get mad a feminism for not being supportive. It’s very frustrating!
There are two rules on earth if it exists somewhere someone with a dirty mind will ruin it and that there is always someone who is toxic about everything lucky I am surrounded by my somewhat mentally sane pandas
Xan likes to base the comics off of something that she personally experienced or went through, which is why many find it relatable. "I tend to make comics based on my own experiences. Working as a server, being a woman, dealing with (the aftermath of) the pandemic... I'm an unapologetic feminist and as such, if I had to pick one overarching theme, it's an ever-present veil of feminism."
Honey, if he’s so superficial that a couple pounds difference between a tinder photo and the actual person makes that his worst first date, then you telling him that is wasted breath. It will never sink in, and he will never understand it, because he has no inner life. He only skims the surface of life, with zero concern for deeper truths.
Couple lbs =/= 100lbs difference on a 5'6" person. Yes, that happened IRL. Didn't care all that much about the weight itself but did care that they started the interaction with a major lie. That's a huge red flag. (edit, most people lie about a few lbs here or there, no that wasn't the worst date and doesn't take away from her answer in the comic... I'm not competing for worst date, just pointing out that lying about something so obvious can be a real problem and not a good way to start a date)
Load More Replies...I would answer; "worst date? That guy who figured out I'm possessed by a fart demon, had to suffocate him quickly."
"Men's worst fear (on a date) is that he will be laughed at or his date will be fat. Women's worst fear is that they will be raped or murdered."
This is why i dont trust people when they say "i dont say this to everyone"
Don't know why people think humans become angels when they die......
Some people are taught that as little kids. I guess some people still believe it later on.
Load More Replies...The artist believes that it's an important mission to talk about these issues. "Generally, I think there will always be a need to showcase women-centric struggles. The internet can be a very hostile space, and it seems to get worse every passing day. "Being a woman" isn't considered the social norm, despite making up 50% of the population, and because of that, a woman's voice is easily drowned out online. Even with my comics, people often assume I'm a man, even though the character is clearly not. I'd love for us as a society to move forward to a world where being online does not automatically mean being a man."
their job is not to date you it is to ring up your items and say "have a good day"
This is an innocent question, but more often than not i have been asked probing questions to discern where i live or what car i drive. "Do you live around here" "what time are you off shift" "what time do you start your shift" "do you have a boyfriend" and my favorite follow up to the last question "how long have you been together" probing questions are a huge red flag
i’m sorry but i’m a bit in the middle of this one. i don’t really see a problem with asking someone out, but if they say know, politely apologize and tell them to have a good day. i guess in my opinion it’s fine, just don’t take it too far
When you work as a service provider you need to be so careful with your answers as to not upset a customer that the worker might feel pressured into giving their number although they don't really want to. A way to go might be for the customer to hand her a piece of paper with his number and leave it up to her if she wants to contact him.
Load More Replies...Why? So no person who works in retail is ever allowed to meet their eventual SO while at work? That seems arbitrary and ridiculous. How about don't continue to ask if someone says no.
How about don't try to get someones contact detail before knowing anything else about them?
Load More Replies...I told them I didn't have a cellphone, but if he'd give me his he'd already know the number. Didn't work, I wonder why?
I fully agree with this, even if it was ment to be a joke: im not there to be laughing at cheap jokes. Im working, if you need help with our services: i will gladly help, otherwise spare your fake attention on my free time - in which you will never meet me. Very often done by adult women (30~40) or drunk youngsters (20~30).
I'm gonna get a lot of hate for this, but if a number was politely asked for and politely rejected I'm not sure what the problem is. It's ok to tell someone you are interested in them even if they aren't in you.
I encountered this guy a lot at my first job. He was easily in his 50s, I was 19.
"Bringing up women's issues can have a very strong reaction online. The loudest voices don't make up the majority of actual opinions, but they serve to keep women down and quiet, preventing these issues from being discussed openly. And if we don't talk about something, it goes unnoticed. That's no way to live. A simple comic is easy to read, easy to share and easy to relate to. In that way, I think they can help in getting a discussion started. Even if that means some people bring in a lot of negativity. Let them! It's part of the progress."
I can't cus I'm ten and don't have a job mf
Load More Replies...That's when you remember the name of that thing you were talking about earlier as well...
I have woken up from a deep sleep because I remembered I never gave a customer their ranch. Server life😂
Here are Xan's plans for the future, and the future is looking interesting, so keep an ear out. "I'm writing a rough outline for a bigger comic project, about my experience with life coming out of an abusive relationship in the past. I have yet to find the perfect tone for it: as it is, it's too dramatic for my taste, and it'll take a few rewrites before I can take it to the next level.
As for slightly less depressing plans, honestly, part of me wants to animate some content. I haven't animated something for myself since college and I quite miss it! So some short-video-form content might be a nice addition. Though it would require making a TikTok account, which is terrifying for someone who's pushing 30, like me."
Holy cow. I was playing as Lara croft 20 years ago and thought it was great that there was a main game character who was a good role model...
There are sooooooo many idiots in gaming. My personal favourite was when they finally gave me the option to play Shepard as a gay man in mass effect 3 that people complained that Shepard wasn't gay. And I was like duuuudes, just because your Shepard isn't gay, doesn't mean he or she can't be gay for other gamers. It's an option, you don't have to play him like that. Just having an option in a game is already an attack for some people.
Anytime I hear comments like this I just start thinking of horizon, portal, senua, final fantasy vi, the current tomb raider and other great games.
Wow let male characters wear fabulous red dresses and women tuxes if they wanted to.. *now if only that sense of equality extended to the workplace.....*
In a game I play, the character you play as is female. I have several male friends that play this game, and they really don't care about the character being female. The gender of the protagonist doesn't matter, just enjoy the freaking game.
I'd actually go the opposite way, for instance Assassins Creed Syndicate kept forcing you to use the male character which to me ruined the game. When I played AC Odyssey & Valhalla I chose the female character because despite being male I find the female characters to be better to play with.
Stardew Valley is for everyone, include all types of games. Everyone is a real gamer now and then
A game is a game and anyone can play any game. I've played hunie pop and hunie pop 2 and I am female but it's a " male" game. Why do we put genders on games. I've beat Bloodborne and dark souls 3 and gotten the comment "wow that's unusual for a girl to play"...like, it's just a game
In my book, anyone who loves games is a gamer, doesn't matter if it's UNO or GTA. There is some consideration for some types of games not fitting into "gamer culture" but in my experience, gamer culture is a steaming pile of salt and sweaty bodies, so who wants to be that kind of gamer anyway?
Load More Replies...Games are games. Gamers are gamers. If you think otherwise, go eat a pinecone!
And if you're not playing "girl game" they'll find some other reason to mock you
Gatekeepers are insecure and can be regarded as non existing when you encounter them
Now as a trans guy who plays both of these I feel insecure lmao
O-o what? if you play games, you're a gamer. -from, an epic gamer
Hey! Your name is really similar to mine! That’s pretty cool :))
Load More Replies...Soft spot on his back... *taking notes for potential future use*
I just finished moving. I also had to paint the old apartment (German rules when renting). I did so much "sit, do nothing and stress". It was horrible. But I am in my new apartment and can take the time to make it perfect for kitty and me. All good now.
I have one obsession that has gone on for almost two years and I'm running out of ideas, but I can't find a new one strong enough to fully replace it, so I'm stuck with all these characters I made up running through my head and screaming at me forever- ahhhhh
Load More Replies..."The loudest voices don't make up the majority of actual opinions" unless its a cause celebre'.
If you like it, drink it, it doesn't matter if it is a cheap or expensive wine or beer.
Correction: the cheap wine is better because it doesn't weigh as much on your pocketbook
Load More Replies...I have had that exact kind of thought - do wine (or coffee, or even beer) snobs REALLY taste all the notes they claim to taste?
Do I detects muscles in her arms, I like women with muscles (I am gay woman just to be clear not stupid moronic man)
It takes a lot of rigorous training to fully taste wine. My godfather tried to train me when I was a teenager but I lost all of it in adulthood because I don't drink wine often enough
Piers Anthony. Holy shmoley, his writing gets progressively more vile the longer you read it.
And the pretension! Ever read any of the author's notes on any of his books? He thinks he's a way better writer than he is. He straight up hates his readers, too. He thinks they/we are all idiots. I was just talking about this last weekend, weird coincidence.
Load More Replies...A few of the readers groups for romance books I'm a member off often share lists of dumb bits in books like that, I don't think it's a man thing because as one myself I would never use the descriptions some of the authors use its more like they stopped maturing mentally when they hit puberty.
Of course it is a male author. 'Her breasts stared up at the sky, quivering in anticipation'. Bleh.
I gave up reading a certain series because of how the male (very well known) author wrote the women. The way these 4 ladies, most of whom had known each other for YEARS, interacted had absolutely nothing to do with how real women relate to one another. Their conversation was really formal & stilted. I remember putting it down and wondering if he knew any actual women.
Sorry dude, sex feels different for each person. Not cool to overgeneralize
Important to note that although this is definitely a problem, it's unfair to say that all male authors do this with their female characters. Correct me if I'm wrong, but Rick Reordan, Brandon Sanderson, and Robert Jordan (to name a few) have all had good track records of good, respectfully written female characters
It's not that ALL male authors do it, it's that when you see it in a book, there is a high probability that the author is male.
Load More Replies...What a shitty book you bought, just randomly took some book from the shelf without reading title or description? The heck? Buy a 50 shades of grey, it have female author. :D
my sisters is nothing but leo di caprio and stuff about why ryan reynolds is hot
Load More Replies...Demon tryna possess me: "OW! What is wrong with this shoulder? And Lower Back?! And Why does it feel like a red hot rod of pain is going up my butt?! What is wrong with this body?! Forget it, I'm out. Humans are too messed up."
Dude I feel like my body is slowly degrading I’m only 16( so biological family has history of genetic heart conditions and much more oh god it might actually be something)
Load More Replies...I don't understand why ANYONE thinks it's gross or something that shouldn't be talked about. it just makes no sense
I get the all the time I thought I was the only one!
I got it and it was horrible!!! Lasted about 3 years. Interestingly enough, it went away after -finally- having sex (had been without a partner for about 4 years or so) *shrug*
Load More Replies...Opposite for me. I got used to the first one, and it wasn't too bad next.
First one gave me a sore arm for about a week and for some reason a metallic taste in my mouth, the second and the booster did nothing to me. I did sadly catch Covid which with my health issues should have put me in hospital, but because I was vaccinated i had one night with a fever and a few days felling like I had a bad cold and that was all.
i love that she draws her muscles. my siblings however think that it looks weird
Yep, same for me, number 3 was a half week of pain, so I really don't want to know what actually getting CoVid would have felt like.
Yeah. Like when you see your therapist and they ask and you feel tears burning and sort of get angry because you tried to hold it in because you have things to do after (before you can go home and cry it out in the shower).
I used to breeze into my psych's office and she'd say "How are things?" and I'd say "Good! Everything's good!" and then 10 minutes later I'd just be sobbing on the couch.
Load More Replies...I hate this, but it’s so relatable. Whenever my parents are lecturing me, they always ask “why are you crying?” And even if I wasn’t crying then it makes me start crying.
If someone looks like they need a smile, don't tell them/remind them. It can make them feel worse. Be the reason someone smiles.
I do love an Incel screeching that no one will date him because he is short, but in the same breath insisting he'll only date a size 4 with big boobs. It's not your height, my dude, it's your whole personality.
One of my best friends is hella short, and he gets so much sex, conversely, I'm 6' 3" and never been on a date. It's not about height
Load More Replies...It's not shallow to have a preference, no matter what your preference is. As cliche as it is - beauty is in the eye of the beholder... Every one likes what they like. No diff between height or body type. At the end of the day, every one should be loved for who they are.
No Evelyn, those are incels. They may be men as well, but they are incels first...
It makes no sense to expect others to have your preferences & get annoyed when they don't. There are 7.8 billion of us. Next! :D
Haha... yes. Men on dating profiles: 'women must be blonde, slim, toned, no older than 35, green eyed'. Me, a 6 ft woman asking for a man to be at least my height: 'you are being unreasonable!!'
Mine said 'don't make decisions, your emotions are in an uproar' and if that doesn't describe my entire life then I don't know
I had a twitter DM from a dude saying "Hey can' I ask you something?" and I thought "Oh this'll be good". Turned out I'd posted a photo with a plant in the background and he wanted to know what kind it was so he could get one. Unexpected! Cheered me up all week.
And he didn't follow up with uncomfortable lines? Niiiice!
Load More Replies...i got a dm from a dude once... it was my brother using an alt account telling me to unload the dishwasher.
once i got a pm from a dude asking for something. it was my animal crossing dodo code :D
No, it's not okay, you can tell someone you're sexually attracted to them without being a f*****g creep
I almost asked a woman irl if her freckles were real, and then I said aloud that I almost asked a stupid question lmao. The friend I was with was definitely confused. But yeah, I could see people asking dumb things online. There seems to be less of a filter when people post online or dm or whatever.
And this is why i have trust issues: i dont like to write with females, they always expect "something" - eighter getting nowhere with communication, or calling me "boring". Yeah, i am boring: thanks for compliment.
I will die on that hill, it tastes bad for me not sure for others
There's some people who it straight up tastes like soap. It's a gene thing. Tomatoes are often also a problem - they don't taste sweet to kids normally and sometimes never.
Load More Replies...Why does Cilantro taste like soap? And....why do chefs think that is a good thing?
oh, cilantro tasting like soap is a genetic thing. you can read more if you like https://www.britannica.com/story/why-does-cilantro-taste-like-soap-to-some-people#:~:text=Of%20course%20some%20of%20this,flavored%20aldehydes%20in%20cilantro%20leaves.
Load More Replies...I feel bad for the people who got the soap genes. Its just so damn good. But then again Im sure most of those people would REEEEE me for hating potatoes and tomatoes
I LOVE cilantro on chili. my mom makes the BEST cilantro lime rice...man now I'm hungry ;)
personally i like coriander (cilantro) but you should always ask if you have guests over or if your a water or whatever if they want coriander on their food bc it’s just polite :)
A lot of people have a certain gene that makes Cilantro taste like soap. My step daughter is one.
Where's the user Will sell soul for corn chip? That demon will be even more confused.
*cut to me selling my soul for the entire line of sears mushroom kitchenware*
I am in christmas mood, during my summer holidays
Load More Replies...False, summer ends on August 2 and whoever thinks that winter starts on December 21 is a sheep that can't see past the greed of calendar makers
Where I work at people routinely take the price sticker off themselves, then try to make that joke and proceed to dictate to you what they think the price should be...
Load More Replies...Try working at Dollar Tree. "Your total is $1.06" "I gUeSs EvErYtHiNg'S nOt A dOlLaR tHeN DUR HUR HUR HUR HUR"
I once went to a craft store (Michael's) to get a single artificial flower (my mum was making my wedding bouquets). I got the flower and took it up to the counter to pay for it. When the cashier rung it up it came up as 1¢. (It was meant to be like $5). She tried again, same thing. Typed in the number on the bar code, once again 1¢. She called the manager, and explained the situation and the manager said "show me." So, again the cashier scanned it and typed it all in for it to show up twice more as 1¢. Manager laughed, said: "I've never seen this happen before." Handed the flower to me and said "Here you go." I stood there absolutely dumbfounded unsure if she was joking when she said "it says it's 1¢ and seeing as pennies no longer exist I cannot charge you anything for it. So, i guess it's free. Have a good day!" Oh, how the turns tabled that day...
Have you heard the one about the 100 dollar bill just printed this morning when you check it for counterfeit.....(insert fake laugh here)
My response to that one is always, it’s never free. Which is accurate.
That joke is old and lame, i mostly half-empty respond: "only if, but if you are *really* fast: you can run for it" (we have security in building, even they do mostly nothing - im glad we have them).
Unless it’s a wholesome community, it’s best to enjoy it by yourself
Im almost sure there is no such thing as a wholesome community...
Load More Replies...Don't forget the fake "fans" that want to memorize every detail about (blank) so they can put fans of blank down. Like if you hate it so much why do you want to talk about it so much
Load More Replies...Went out with a guy like this decades ago; only went out ONCE. He actually made the young server tear up because he was such an a*s. As we were leaving, I excused myself after he paid because I "forgot" something. Was going to personally apologize, but couldn't find them. Left the kid a huge tip (about 60%). Don't know that it solved the problem but I hope it helped.
aww that’s horrible but your so sweet x smart move running. (also anyone else read the “oh yeah” in kool-aid man voice? just me? okay.)
Load More Replies...Had a date like that. He ordered a coke with ice and lemon, she forgot the lemon. He made fun of her, calling waiters stupid and scumbags who couldn't find better jobs.. dude was 26, unemployed and living with his parents. Made an excuse to get out of that dinner and left. Yeah, I know I should have called him out for his behaviour, but I was 20 and super shy.
ITS OKAYYYY A LOT OF PEOPLE THINK IM A BASIC BICTH TOO
Load More Replies...Personally i have never heard a guy say that but if anyone has…f**k you
If women like popular things, we're called basic bitches. If we don't like popular things, we're accused of disliking popular things for men's attention. Basically men will shame us no matter what we like.
Really hope this person has seen the gem that is Kung Fury and Thankskilling
For a moment I mistook Kung Fury for Kung Fu Hustle and thought we'd have to fued. *Phew* Anyway, Kung Fu Hustle is a masterpiece and best watched as a double feature with Bubba Ho-Tep. Kung Fury is glorious in that in leans so hard into parody it feels like it's going to fail but then pushes it further until somehow it comes out the other side into a weird Dadaistic brilliance.
Load More Replies...I thought the existential issues and anxiety were essential to just living. I must be doing it wrong. Jk.
That’s a manager who’s not paying any attention to his employees on the floor. If he had, he’d know she had already done a lot already and all by herself, so she deserves some down time. But no, he assumes——and it only makes an a*s out of him.
Who said that was a manager? Seems to be a customer coming to check out, hence him saying he is going to "give her some work".
Load More Replies...Not all makeup suits everyone! I like lipstick, but not reds and pinks. BLACK AND PURPLE ALL THE WAY!!!!
I loved becoming a senior, I no longer have the need nor desire to wear makeup
Load More Replies...I couldn't apply eyeliner if my life depended on it. Fortunately I don't care much for makeup
That's like when I ask someone what their name is and completely forget to listen to them when they tell me.
I mean people have their own opinions but if someone disrespects ANYTHING I enjoy, They. Are. F*****g. Dead
How is not sleeping for a week a MINOR inconvenience? I turn into the hulk with just one hour less per night
It's about a real guy who experienes weird hauntings and has videos and photos for proof. I thnk that it's on twiter, and some youtubers have reacted to it.
Load More Replies...sorry for being annoying, but can someone plz give me the link to the twitter story?
I think its important to let know imbecile men still exist and I think its pretty daring to let lnow the stuff rhey did in the past, but the author cant stop seeing man as enemy in half her comics.
I think its important to let know imbecile men still exist and I think its pretty daring to let lnow the stuff rhey did in the past, but the author cant stop seeing man as enemy in half her comics.
