Husband Leaves Mistress After Wife Starts Acting Exactly How He Wants, Doesn’t Know It’s A Plan
One of the most hurtful things that anyone can do to their spouse is be unfaithful. Anyone who has had their partner cheat on them knows just how painful it truly is. It’s a personal decision whether someone decides to try and fix the relationship or if they decide to move on. Some people decide to get revenge.
One anonymous woman, who recently gave birth, went viral on the r/TrueOffMyChest subreddit after talking about her extremely sensitive situation at home. She revealed how she learned that her husband had cheated on her while she was postpartum. She then won him back from his mistress and now plans to get her revenge. You’ll find the full story as you read on. Bored Panda has reached out to the author via Reddit, and we’ll update the article once we hear back from her.
Finding out that your spouse has been unfaithful can be heartbreaking
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One woman opened up online about how she plans to get revenge on her husband who cheated on her
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Good communication and trust are fundamental to happy relationships
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‘Tech Report’ states that 16% of married couples admitted to being unfaithful at ‘some point’ in their marriages. Around a third of those who cheated revealed that they did so with someone from their work environment.
The majority (nearly two-thirds) of emotional affairs also start in work environments. 77% of men said that they’ve engaged in emotional affairs. Meanwhile, 91% of women did the same.
Meanwhile, ‘Regain’ points out that married people over 55 years old reported being unfaithful at a rate of 20%. On the flip side, married individuals under 55 had an infidelity rate of 14%.
Happy and healthy relationships—both romantic and otherwise—rest on a few fundamental things. Trust. Mutual respect. Empathy. Loyalty. Good communication. Transparency. Love. Kindness. Honesty. All of these are key if you want an equal partnership. However, if these things are lacking and both partners are on different pages, the relationship is in jeopardy.
Most problems arise from a lack of communication. If there are issues at home or in the relationship, it is absolutely essential to talk about them. Nobody is a mind-reader. No matter how well we know someone, we can’t tell if they have secret issues with the relationship unless they speak up.
Yes, it can be awkward and uncomfortable to have those super candid conversations. But avoiding confronting these issues will only lead to bigger problems. For example, it can lead to a buildup of frustration and resentment. Couples are meant to be a team. It’s important to remember that and prioritize honesty.
People are unfaithful due to a wide range of possible reasons
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There are no easy answers to why somebody cheats on their partner or spouse. Every couple’s situation is different and complex. However, there are some broad trends when it comes to the reasons behind cheating.
For instance, psychology professor Lucia F. O’Sullivan, Ph.D., from the University of New Brunswick, argues that one major reason why people are unfaithful to their partners is due to sexual dissatisfaction.
The individual might want more sex or variety in bed. If they don’t get this from their partner, they might look for someone who can provide them with what they want. A solution to this issue would be for the couple to sit down and open up about their intimate needs.
Another common reason for cheating is emotional dissatisfaction. The individual might feel drawn to other people in their lives when they become disillusioned with how they see their partner.
Others become unfaithful when they feel neglected, rejected, and overlooked by their spouse. Still, others cheat because they’re angry with their partners and want to find ways to hurt them for mistreating them.
But the reality is that some individuals are not just unfaithful due to some problems at home or having unfulfilled emotional or physical needs. They cheat because… they can. Some people do this simply because a romantic opportunity presents itself.
As we’ve mentioned before, it’s a very personal decision whether to try to fix the relationship or to cut ties and move on with one’s life. In these sorts of delicate situations, the help of a therapist or couples counselor can be invaluable. They can help you understand what happened and reframe the situation to restore your confidence.
The author of the viral story shared some more details in the comments of her post
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4-5 times a week, postpartum!?!? Excuse me? Something tells me if he has that much energy, he’s probably not doing much of the parenting. Honey, he sees you as a thing to satisfy himself. You and your kiddo much better off without him.
This. If he was a real father who'd do his part, he'd be too exhausted to have so much sex. He'd wake up when the baby cried. And it was the best proof of all that he didn't love her for herself, he just desired her body. That's why you don't date someone who is superficial and only cares for physical attraction. Beauty is fleeting. Anything can take it away. You could have a baby and look vastly different, being unable to loose the baby pouch, you could get a disease that makes you fat, there are several. You could get cancer and need a mastectomy, have an accident. So many ways to become less desirable. If he doesn't love you for yourself and is attracted to you without your looks, he'll cheat and leave as soon as the beauty gets diminished no matter how long the relationship lasted and no matter how 'happy' it seemed to be.
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Why is it expected by so many men that a woman can snap back from a pregnancy to exactly what they were before? They have literally just observed the entire process from start to finish. For those of you about to say the whole thing about their job ended on day one or not their body so how are they supposed to know.... every man in existence has had a day when they had one of the worst pooping experiences of their lives, and they then had at least a week of issues and pain because of that one day, and even then, their lives were changed. Could they trust their bumhole anymore? Would this be the new normal? Would the pain return? What would need to be done to make this stop? Would their bumhole ever be the same again? They know what's been going on to their partner's body and that it takes time. This is about entitlement. Selfishness. Egocentricism.
This legitimately made me laugh. It is a great comparison. Thank you for writing it out and sharing it with us! I may have to use it the example later and I'll be sure to credit 'awesome person on the Internet' 😁
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There is absolutely no reason to feel guilty. Being a new mum is challenging and by the looks of it, your husband didn't spend a lot of time thinking about how impending parenthood will affect all of you. Apparently, he thought that everything could stay the same, only now with a child into the mix. I'm sorry, but that's just ignorant at best and stupid at worst.
"What I neglected was sex, 4-5 times a week." Anyone who thinks this is normal for the entire first year of parenting is delusional, and any partner who has the energy for this is obviously not picking up their half of the responsibilities.
You're doing the right thing here. It's him who neglected you. After having a baby together he should have been there for you. You just became a family and instead of being a husband to you and a father to your baby he decided to cheat on you. Have no regrets in leaving him. You and your baby deserve better
Your husband seems like the kind of guy who is perfectly fine as long as everything revolves around him. These guys are hard to spot because everything is great when you focus on him. So if you have a baby or get sick or have to provide care for a parent or child, he’ll cheat because the focus isn’t on him. Focusing on you while you go through postpartum is completely alien and simply doesn’t register with him. It’s all about him. Divorce him now because it will never be cheaper or easier.
Not sure I'd have had the energy to make that much effort, but if I had, it would have been good to get him to confess to the affair at the end so he knows he ficked up his own life.
I did not see anything in her reddit post or replies about a timeline for when the infidelity commenced. If it was pretty much immediately postpartum within the first 6-8 weeks I am surprised no one had talked to both of them at antenatal appointments about avoiding vaginal sex in that first 6-8 weeks due to the increased risks of air embolus to the uterus as it needs that time to contract down. If it was during then he is not only an AH for the cheating but a double AH for being willing to risk her life to get himself off. If it was after then he is just a selfish AH who may need to consider he has a sex addiction or some other kind of issues if he was more focussed on sex than being a parent and a husband. Either way I do not blame her one bit for what she is planning. I just hope whatever happens the bubba ends up in a safe and loving environment
Good for her.. but look at 'society' these days. The misogyny is front & center .. well front & FAR RIGHT. The incels who define the arrogance of male entitlement (aka .. GRAB EM BY THE PU... Y) .. and he is the prez candidate? This isn't a political comment- it's about the hypocrisy that defines our nation right now. I hope that EVERY SINGLE WOMAN AND MAN who read this article & take issue with the infidelity will also take that passion to the ballot box. Incels, Proud Boys etc- They want women to be captive, pregnant, glamorous, dependent & subservient.
If you let some narcissistic male impregnate you, he will strut around, bragging. Then once your body is no longer tight and unblemished, he may go looking for a different body.
Just a thought experiment here, and since I have experienced the flip side, a cheating woman who had a child within the 12 months before the affair, I will leave out genders for balance. Partner one is going to kill the relationship, WITH INTENT, after reviving it successfully before it died completely. (Fair disclosure, I would have given anything to revive my relationship with her, even knowing what she did). Partner two, no clear evidence of intent, going to the point they may have unintentionally allowed themselves to be manipulated into the relationship. **Partner one is clearly guilty of First Degree termination of the relationship, as this is being done with unequivocal foreknowledge. **Partner two is effectively guilty of Third Degree termination of the relationship, possibly Second Degree, if a clear causal link can be found to this lack of sex resulting in them deliberately seeking attention elsewhere. This is unclear. CONCLUSION: She wanted him to feel pain.
I find this fake-y. You mean this wife is willingly banging her hubby knowing he’s also banging his mistress just to get him back and then divorce him? How GROSS!
Also the writing style "a new and exciting existence" etc.
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This guy is egocentric. I know a woman like this, she was proudly saying she doesn't want kids, because everyone will give their love and attention to the baby and not to her. Well life is not about oneself, the husband in this story was not ready to be a father, he has his needs and is not ready to sacrifice and change. Sad, but true.
This is obviously a creative writing attempt of a guy who had no idea what postpartum actually is, not how tiring it is with kids. Just a fake story.
OP has a dramatic writing style. Glad she is so sure of her youth and beauty post partim. That's some strong girl power
I went thru the exact situation. But she passed away. We have an 11yr son. She told me a story about doing it to save Jax and me... I think. We were together for 16yrs. She lost a child in 2020 to an OD. That's when things started changing. I've been clean from that s**t that kills everyone. I didn't see this coming, her dying. I didn't even know she was back using. I work early mornings so I'm fine by 6-4. Apparently she was selling herself, cheated who knows. She was holding me back. I love her still it's a year since. I'm managing, found the guy she slept with here in our town and he's from my work. So he got what was rightfully coming to him. Just because he knew me, had a family and his wife cheated on him 10yrs ago.
I’ve read this post twice now because this woman is such a goddess. I don’t think I could have had the patience and fortitude to do what she did, but it’s the most glorious revenge story I think I’ve ever seen.
"Neglected your husband and pushed him in another woman's arms"? Oh, for crissake, you did no such thing. Being pregnant is a full-time job. And there are some men for whom nothing is ever enough, especially when the poor woman bearing THEIR baby has been preggers for a million years and looks like a beached whale. Poor, poor widdle bay-bee, the little woman doesn't have the energy to cater to him 24/7 and has the unmitigated gall of being unavailable to f while she's pushing 7-10 ^pounds out of her body! My heart is BLEEDING for this pain and suffering. 😭 The only thing I'm sorry about is not seeing his face when he found the house empty and was served with divorce papers. BWA-HA-HA-HA-HA!😈
Seriously. Sounds like an incel dude writing monogamy porn...."all the women loved him, and his wife would never forgive herself that she hadn't serviced him properly"
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If you get a cat and don't feed it, sooner or later that cat is going to get his meals elsewhere. A husband is not an appliance you can just use for your own ends, then put on a shelf and ignore. It feels childish, conniving, and fundamentally malicious that her chosen brand of "revenge" is to be the partner he fell for at the start of their relationship. Only making an effort once someone else starts outperforming you, proves nothing other than that you were phoning it in. That said, this whole story reads far too utopianist to have actually happened this way. I'm sure wifey WANTED to have done things this way in retrospect, but in fact just lost her hubby to someone who fed the cat when she couldn't be bothered.
You're a disgusting piece of s**t. She just had a baby you brainless twat.
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Let's not forget that women are not supposed to have sex up to 6-8 weeks after birth. That said, she sounds like someone who lost her husband because of her weight and when the husband is gone, they go the other way and lose that overflow and start eating healthy. Why didn't you do it while he was still around? You did (edit: not necessarily this one example, but you did), but for revenge.
That's just victim blaming and giving him an excuse to be an AH. As a new father his priorities should have been to his newborn and supporting his wife - not seeking personal gratification.
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Never underestimate a woman's ability to hide her feelings from a man. Centuries of patriarchy as training.
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Because a relationship relies on some basic principles that each couple decide. If it's monogamy, both parties have to respect it or else is pure betrayal to the principles they've agreed on. It's not control, but holding your end of the bargain. And if that's not your thing, you can always leave BEFORE cheating.
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He cheated while married after his wife had a newborn. Should've been there for his family instead. Can clearly tell you're the type only your hand could want. Blow up dolls can do better. 😄
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There is likely more to the story, as there always is. But the part of the story that we got was that her husband and father of their child decided to cheat on his wife during the most painful, scary, vulnerable, and stressful part of a woman's life. It's reprehensible and disgusting. He's a useless piece of $hit.
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4-5 times a week, postpartum!?!? Excuse me? Something tells me if he has that much energy, he’s probably not doing much of the parenting. Honey, he sees you as a thing to satisfy himself. You and your kiddo much better off without him.
This. If he was a real father who'd do his part, he'd be too exhausted to have so much sex. He'd wake up when the baby cried. And it was the best proof of all that he didn't love her for herself, he just desired her body. That's why you don't date someone who is superficial and only cares for physical attraction. Beauty is fleeting. Anything can take it away. You could have a baby and look vastly different, being unable to loose the baby pouch, you could get a disease that makes you fat, there are several. You could get cancer and need a mastectomy, have an accident. So many ways to become less desirable. If he doesn't love you for yourself and is attracted to you without your looks, he'll cheat and leave as soon as the beauty gets diminished no matter how long the relationship lasted and no matter how 'happy' it seemed to be.
Load More Replies... Why is it expected by so many men that a woman can snap back from a pregnancy to exactly what they were before? They have literally just observed the entire process from start to finish. For those of you about to say the whole thing about their job ended on day one or not their body so how are they supposed to know.... every man in existence has had a day when they had one of the worst pooping experiences of their lives, and they then had at least a week of issues and pain because of that one day, and even then, their lives were changed. Could they trust their bumhole anymore? Would this be the new normal? Would the pain return? What would need to be done to make this stop? Would their bumhole ever be the same again? They know what's been going on to their partner's body and that it takes time. This is about entitlement. Selfishness. Egocentricism.
This legitimately made me laugh. It is a great comparison. Thank you for writing it out and sharing it with us! I may have to use it the example later and I'll be sure to credit 'awesome person on the Internet' 😁
Load More Replies... There is absolutely no reason to feel guilty. Being a new mum is challenging and by the looks of it, your husband didn't spend a lot of time thinking about how impending parenthood will affect all of you. Apparently, he thought that everything could stay the same, only now with a child into the mix. I'm sorry, but that's just ignorant at best and stupid at worst.
"What I neglected was sex, 4-5 times a week." Anyone who thinks this is normal for the entire first year of parenting is delusional, and any partner who has the energy for this is obviously not picking up their half of the responsibilities.
You're doing the right thing here. It's him who neglected you. After having a baby together he should have been there for you. You just became a family and instead of being a husband to you and a father to your baby he decided to cheat on you. Have no regrets in leaving him. You and your baby deserve better
Your husband seems like the kind of guy who is perfectly fine as long as everything revolves around him. These guys are hard to spot because everything is great when you focus on him. So if you have a baby or get sick or have to provide care for a parent or child, he’ll cheat because the focus isn’t on him. Focusing on you while you go through postpartum is completely alien and simply doesn’t register with him. It’s all about him. Divorce him now because it will never be cheaper or easier.
Not sure I'd have had the energy to make that much effort, but if I had, it would have been good to get him to confess to the affair at the end so he knows he ficked up his own life.
I did not see anything in her reddit post or replies about a timeline for when the infidelity commenced. If it was pretty much immediately postpartum within the first 6-8 weeks I am surprised no one had talked to both of them at antenatal appointments about avoiding vaginal sex in that first 6-8 weeks due to the increased risks of air embolus to the uterus as it needs that time to contract down. If it was during then he is not only an AH for the cheating but a double AH for being willing to risk her life to get himself off. If it was after then he is just a selfish AH who may need to consider he has a sex addiction or some other kind of issues if he was more focussed on sex than being a parent and a husband. Either way I do not blame her one bit for what she is planning. I just hope whatever happens the bubba ends up in a safe and loving environment
Good for her.. but look at 'society' these days. The misogyny is front & center .. well front & FAR RIGHT. The incels who define the arrogance of male entitlement (aka .. GRAB EM BY THE PU... Y) .. and he is the prez candidate? This isn't a political comment- it's about the hypocrisy that defines our nation right now. I hope that EVERY SINGLE WOMAN AND MAN who read this article & take issue with the infidelity will also take that passion to the ballot box. Incels, Proud Boys etc- They want women to be captive, pregnant, glamorous, dependent & subservient.
If you let some narcissistic male impregnate you, he will strut around, bragging. Then once your body is no longer tight and unblemished, he may go looking for a different body.
Just a thought experiment here, and since I have experienced the flip side, a cheating woman who had a child within the 12 months before the affair, I will leave out genders for balance. Partner one is going to kill the relationship, WITH INTENT, after reviving it successfully before it died completely. (Fair disclosure, I would have given anything to revive my relationship with her, even knowing what she did). Partner two, no clear evidence of intent, going to the point they may have unintentionally allowed themselves to be manipulated into the relationship. **Partner one is clearly guilty of First Degree termination of the relationship, as this is being done with unequivocal foreknowledge. **Partner two is effectively guilty of Third Degree termination of the relationship, possibly Second Degree, if a clear causal link can be found to this lack of sex resulting in them deliberately seeking attention elsewhere. This is unclear. CONCLUSION: She wanted him to feel pain.
I find this fake-y. You mean this wife is willingly banging her hubby knowing he’s also banging his mistress just to get him back and then divorce him? How GROSS!
Also the writing style "a new and exciting existence" etc.
Load More Replies... This guy is egocentric. I know a woman like this, she was proudly saying she doesn't want kids, because everyone will give their love and attention to the baby and not to her. Well life is not about oneself, the husband in this story was not ready to be a father, he has his needs and is not ready to sacrifice and change. Sad, but true.
This is obviously a creative writing attempt of a guy who had no idea what postpartum actually is, not how tiring it is with kids. Just a fake story.
OP has a dramatic writing style. Glad she is so sure of her youth and beauty post partim. That's some strong girl power
I went thru the exact situation. But she passed away. We have an 11yr son. She told me a story about doing it to save Jax and me... I think. We were together for 16yrs. She lost a child in 2020 to an OD. That's when things started changing. I've been clean from that s**t that kills everyone. I didn't see this coming, her dying. I didn't even know she was back using. I work early mornings so I'm fine by 6-4. Apparently she was selling herself, cheated who knows. She was holding me back. I love her still it's a year since. I'm managing, found the guy she slept with here in our town and he's from my work. So he got what was rightfully coming to him. Just because he knew me, had a family and his wife cheated on him 10yrs ago.
I’ve read this post twice now because this woman is such a goddess. I don’t think I could have had the patience and fortitude to do what she did, but it’s the most glorious revenge story I think I’ve ever seen.
"Neglected your husband and pushed him in another woman's arms"? Oh, for crissake, you did no such thing. Being pregnant is a full-time job. And there are some men for whom nothing is ever enough, especially when the poor woman bearing THEIR baby has been preggers for a million years and looks like a beached whale. Poor, poor widdle bay-bee, the little woman doesn't have the energy to cater to him 24/7 and has the unmitigated gall of being unavailable to f while she's pushing 7-10 ^pounds out of her body! My heart is BLEEDING for this pain and suffering. 😭 The only thing I'm sorry about is not seeing his face when he found the house empty and was served with divorce papers. BWA-HA-HA-HA-HA!😈
Seriously. Sounds like an incel dude writing monogamy porn...."all the women loved him, and his wife would never forgive herself that she hadn't serviced him properly"
Load More Replies... If you get a cat and don't feed it, sooner or later that cat is going to get his meals elsewhere. A husband is not an appliance you can just use for your own ends, then put on a shelf and ignore. It feels childish, conniving, and fundamentally malicious that her chosen brand of "revenge" is to be the partner he fell for at the start of their relationship. Only making an effort once someone else starts outperforming you, proves nothing other than that you were phoning it in. That said, this whole story reads far too utopianist to have actually happened this way. I'm sure wifey WANTED to have done things this way in retrospect, but in fact just lost her hubby to someone who fed the cat when she couldn't be bothered.
You're a disgusting piece of s**t. She just had a baby you brainless twat.
Load More Replies... Let's not forget that women are not supposed to have sex up to 6-8 weeks after birth. That said, she sounds like someone who lost her husband because of her weight and when the husband is gone, they go the other way and lose that overflow and start eating healthy. Why didn't you do it while he was still around? You did (edit: not necessarily this one example, but you did), but for revenge.
That's just victim blaming and giving him an excuse to be an AH. As a new father his priorities should have been to his newborn and supporting his wife - not seeking personal gratification.
Load More Replies... Never underestimate a woman's ability to hide her feelings from a man. Centuries of patriarchy as training.
Load More Replies... Because a relationship relies on some basic principles that each couple decide. If it's monogamy, both parties have to respect it or else is pure betrayal to the principles they've agreed on. It's not control, but holding your end of the bargain. And if that's not your thing, you can always leave BEFORE cheating.
Load More Replies... He cheated while married after his wife had a newborn. Should've been there for his family instead. Can clearly tell you're the type only your hand could want. Blow up dolls can do better. 😄
Load More Replies... There is likely more to the story, as there always is. But the part of the story that we got was that her husband and father of their child decided to cheat on his wife during the most painful, scary, vulnerable, and stressful part of a woman's life. It's reprehensible and disgusting. He's a useless piece of $hit.
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