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Husband Leaves Mistress After Wife Starts Acting Exactly How He Wants, Doesn’t Know It’s A Plan
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Husband Leaves Mistress After Wife Starts Acting Exactly How He Wants, Doesn’t Know It’s A Plan

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One of the most hurtful things that anyone can do to their spouse is be unfaithful. Anyone who has had their partner cheat on them knows just how painful it truly is. It’s a personal decision whether someone decides to try and fix the relationship or if they decide to move on. Some people decide to get revenge.

One anonymous woman, who recently gave birth, went viral on the r/TrueOffMyChest subreddit after talking about her extremely sensitive situation at home. She revealed how she learned that her husband had cheated on her while she was postpartum. She then won him back from his mistress and now plans to get her revenge. You’ll find the full story as you read on. Bored Panda has reached out to the author via Reddit, and we’ll update the article once we hear back from her.

Finding out that your spouse has been unfaithful can be heartbreaking

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One woman opened up online about how she plans to get revenge on her husband who cheated on her

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Good communication and trust are fundamental to happy relationships

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‘Tech Report’ states that 16% of married couples admitted to being unfaithful at ‘some point’ in their marriages. Around a third of those who cheated revealed that they did so with someone from their work environment.

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The majority (nearly two-thirds) of emotional affairs also start in work environments. 77% of men said that they’ve engaged in emotional affairs. Meanwhile, 91% of women did the same.

Meanwhile, ‘Regain’ points out that married people over 55 years old reported being unfaithful at a rate of 20%. On the flip side, married individuals under 55 had an infidelity rate of 14%.

Happy and healthy relationships—both romantic and otherwise—rest on a few fundamental things. Trust. Mutual respect. Empathy. Loyalty. Good communication. Transparency. Love. Kindness. Honesty. All of these are key if you want an equal partnership. However, if these things are lacking and both partners are on different pages, the relationship is in jeopardy.

Most problems arise from a lack of communication. If there are issues at home or in the relationship, it is absolutely essential to talk about them. Nobody is a mind-reader. No matter how well we know someone, we can’t tell if they have secret issues with the relationship unless they speak up.

Yes, it can be awkward and uncomfortable to have those super candid conversations. But avoiding confronting these issues will only lead to bigger problems. For example, it can lead to a buildup of frustration and resentment. Couples are meant to be a team. It’s important to remember that and prioritize honesty.

People are unfaithful due to a wide range of possible reasons

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There are no easy answers to why somebody cheats on their partner or spouse. Every couple’s situation is different and complex. However, there are some broad trends when it comes to the reasons behind cheating.

For instance, psychology professor Lucia F. O’Sullivan, Ph.D., from the University of New Brunswick, argues that one major reason why people are unfaithful to their partners is due to sexual dissatisfaction.

The individual might want more sex or variety in bed. If they don’t get this from their partner, they might look for someone who can provide them with what they want. A solution to this issue would be for the couple to sit down and open up about their intimate needs.

Another common reason for cheating is emotional dissatisfaction. The individual might feel drawn to other people in their lives when they become disillusioned with how they see their partner.

Others become unfaithful when they feel neglected, rejected, and overlooked by their spouse. Still, others cheat because they’re angry with their partners and want to find ways to hurt them for mistreating them.

But the reality is that some individuals are not just unfaithful due to some problems at home or having unfulfilled emotional or physical needs. They cheat because… they can. Some people do this simply because a romantic opportunity presents itself.

As we’ve mentioned before, it’s a very personal decision whether to try to fix the relationship or to cut ties and move on with one’s life. In these sorts of delicate situations, the help of a therapist or couples counselor can be invaluable. They can help you understand what happened and reframe the situation to restore your confidence.

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Jonas Grinevičius

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Storytelling, journalism, and art are a core part of who I am. I've been writing and drawing ever since I could walk—there is nothing else I'd rather do. My formal education, however, is focused on politics, philosophy, and economics because I've always been curious about the gap between the ideal and the real. At work, I'm a Senior Writer and I cover a broad range of topics that I'm passionate about: from psychology and changes in work culture to healthy living, relationships, and design. In my spare time, I'm an avid hiker and reader, enjoy writing short stories, and love to doodle. I thrive when I'm outdoors, going on small adventures in nature. However, you can also find me enjoying a big mug of coffee with a good book (or ten) and entertaining friends with fantasy tabletop games and sci-fi movies.

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Storytelling, journalism, and art are a core part of who I am. I've been writing and drawing ever since I could walk—there is nothing else I'd rather do. My formal education, however, is focused on politics, philosophy, and economics because I've always been curious about the gap between the ideal and the real. At work, I'm a Senior Writer and I cover a broad range of topics that I'm passionate about: from psychology and changes in work culture to healthy living, relationships, and design. In my spare time, I'm an avid hiker and reader, enjoy writing short stories, and love to doodle. I thrive when I'm outdoors, going on small adventures in nature. However, you can also find me enjoying a big mug of coffee with a good book (or ten) and entertaining friends with fantasy tabletop games and sci-fi movies.

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I'm a Visual Editor at Bored Panda since 2017. I've searched through a multitude of images to create over 2000 diverse posts on a wide range of topics. I love memes, funny, and cute stuff, but I'm also into social issues topics. Despite my background in communication, my heart belongs to visual media, especially photography. When I'm not at my desk, you're likely to find me in the streets with my camera, checking out cool exhibitions, watching a movie at the cinema or just chilling with a coffee in a cozy place

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Hphizzle
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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

4-5 times a week, postpartum!?!? Excuse me? Something tells me if he has that much energy, he’s probably not doing much of the parenting. Honey, he sees you as a thing to satisfy himself. You and your kiddo much better off without him.

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Sonja
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This. If he was a real father who'd do his part, he'd be too exhausted to have so much sex. He'd wake up when the baby cried. And it was the best proof of all that he didn't love her for herself, he just desired her body. That's why you don't date someone who is superficial and only cares for physical attraction. Beauty is fleeting. Anything can take it away. You could have a baby and look vastly different, being unable to loose the baby pouch, you could get a disease that makes you fat, there are several. You could get cancer and need a mastectomy, have an accident. So many ways to become less desirable. If he doesn't love you for yourself and is attracted to you without your looks, he'll cheat and leave as soon as the beauty gets diminished no matter how long the relationship lasted and no matter how 'happy' it seemed to be.

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HighlyIllogical
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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why is it expected by so many men that a woman can snap back from a pregnancy to exactly what they were before? They have literally just observed the entire process from start to finish. For those of you about to say the whole thing about their job ended on day one or not their body so how are they supposed to know.... every man in existence has had a day when they had one of the worst pooping experiences of their lives, and they then had at least a week of issues and pain because of that one day, and even then, their lives were changed. Could they trust their bumhole anymore? Would this be the new normal? Would the pain return? What would need to be done to make this stop? Would their bumhole ever be the same again? They know what's been going on to their partner's body and that it takes time. This is about entitlement. Selfishness. Egocentricism.

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Anička
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This legitimately made me laugh. It is a great comparison. Thank you for writing it out and sharing it with us! I may have to use it the example later and I'll be sure to credit 'awesome person on the Internet' 😁

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Alexandra
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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There is absolutely no reason to feel guilty. Being a new mum is challenging and by the looks of it, your husband didn't spend a lot of time thinking about how impending parenthood will affect all of you. Apparently, he thought that everything could stay the same, only now with a child into the mix. I'm sorry, but that's just ignorant at best and stupid at worst.

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Hphizzle
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

4-5 times a week, postpartum!?!? Excuse me? Something tells me if he has that much energy, he’s probably not doing much of the parenting. Honey, he sees you as a thing to satisfy himself. You and your kiddo much better off without him.

sonja_6 avatar
Sonja
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This. If he was a real father who'd do his part, he'd be too exhausted to have so much sex. He'd wake up when the baby cried. And it was the best proof of all that he didn't love her for herself, he just desired her body. That's why you don't date someone who is superficial and only cares for physical attraction. Beauty is fleeting. Anything can take it away. You could have a baby and look vastly different, being unable to loose the baby pouch, you could get a disease that makes you fat, there are several. You could get cancer and need a mastectomy, have an accident. So many ways to become less desirable. If he doesn't love you for yourself and is attracted to you without your looks, he'll cheat and leave as soon as the beauty gets diminished no matter how long the relationship lasted and no matter how 'happy' it seemed to be.

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HighlyIllogical
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why is it expected by so many men that a woman can snap back from a pregnancy to exactly what they were before? They have literally just observed the entire process from start to finish. For those of you about to say the whole thing about their job ended on day one or not their body so how are they supposed to know.... every man in existence has had a day when they had one of the worst pooping experiences of their lives, and they then had at least a week of issues and pain because of that one day, and even then, their lives were changed. Could they trust their bumhole anymore? Would this be the new normal? Would the pain return? What would need to be done to make this stop? Would their bumhole ever be the same again? They know what's been going on to their partner's body and that it takes time. This is about entitlement. Selfishness. Egocentricism.

annavanha avatar
Anička
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This legitimately made me laugh. It is a great comparison. Thank you for writing it out and sharing it with us! I may have to use it the example later and I'll be sure to credit 'awesome person on the Internet' 😁

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de-snoekies avatar
Alexandra
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There is absolutely no reason to feel guilty. Being a new mum is challenging and by the looks of it, your husband didn't spend a lot of time thinking about how impending parenthood will affect all of you. Apparently, he thought that everything could stay the same, only now with a child into the mix. I'm sorry, but that's just ignorant at best and stupid at worst.

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