Mom Shares Horrifying Story About Brother-In-Law’s GF Who Thinks She’s Their 3 Y.O.
In this day and age, when doctors are expensive and Google has an answer to every question, the temptation for people to draw their own conclusions about their mental health is strong.
And redditor throwRAdzc said his brother’s girlfriend gave in to it. In a post on the subreddit ‘Relationship Advice,’ the man explained that he and his wife recently discovered the woman impersonating their 3-year-old daughter.
Turns out, she’s convinced she has dissociative identity disorder (DID), and that the little girl is one of her alter egos.
This man just learned his brother’s girlfriend believes her alter ego is his 3-year-old daughter
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And he doesn’t know what to make of it
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He and his wife no longer allow the woman around their family
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As his post went viral, the man issued an update on the situation
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And later, another one that sounds really creepy
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Self-diagnosing with a mental illness is dangerous
Dissociative identity disorder is, indeed, associated with overwhelming experiences, traumatic events, and/or abuse that occurred in childhood.
Symptoms of DID (criteria for diagnosis) include:
- The existence of two or more distinct identities (or personality states). The distinct identities are accompanied by changes in behavior, memory, and thinking. The signs and symptoms may be observed by others or reported by the individual;
- Ongoing gaps in memory about everyday events, personal information, and/or past traumatic events;
- The symptoms cause significant distress or problems in social, occupational, or other areas of functioning.
However, just ticking a few boxes isn’t enough to say you have the disorder, thinks Srini Pillay, M.D., who has completed 17 years of nationally funded brain imaging research and is a member of the by-invitation-only Group for Advancement of Psychiatry, an American professional organization of psychiatrists dedicated to shaping psychiatric thinking, public programs, and clinical practice in mental health.
“When you self-diagnose, you are essentially assuming that you know the subtleties that diagnosis constitutes. This can be very dangerous, as people who assume that they can surmise what is going on with themselves may miss the nuances of diagnosis,” Pillay writes.
For example, people with mood swings often think that they have manic-depressive illness or bipolar disorder, but mood swings are a symptom that can be a part of many different clinical scenarios, with borderline personality disorder and major depression being two examples of other diagnoses. And professionals see more than you.
“The clinician can help you discern whether you swing from normal to down or down to up, and by considering how long the mood swings last, the clinician can make the appropriate diagnosis,” Pillay explains.
“One of the greatest dangers of self-diagnosis in psychological syndromes is that you may miss a medical disease that masquerades as a psychiatric syndrome,” the doctor adds. “Thus, if you have panic disorder, you may miss the diagnosis of hyperthyroidism or an irregular heartbeat.”
“Even more serious is the fact that some brain tumors may present with changes in personality or psychosis or even depression. If you assume you have depression and treat it with an over-the-counter preparation, you may completely miss a medical syndrome. Even if you do not want conventional treatment for depression, you may want conventional treatment for a brain tumor.”
We can know and see ourselves, but sometimes, we still need a mirror to get a clearer picture. The doctor is that mirror.
We can only guess what intentions the woman had when approaching OP’s daughter when she was with her nanny, but her actions seem alarming and hopefully, that was the last time he had heard from her.
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People who read his story believe the parents had every right to protect their kids from her
Might the way OP paraphrased it, but her reaction when getting removed from OP daughter's room didn't sound to me like a 3 year old but like an adult playing a 3 year old. Anyway, glad she gets the help she needs. Brother is TA, though.
How can you diagnose yourself if you claim not to have any memories from whatever altered state you were in? Mental health services are everywhere tragically lacking (in france you can still get psychiatrists that swear autism is caused by a 'cold mother'!!); and for the brother that's no reason for letting this happen to someone he supposedly cares about.
Well, two things regarding 'how'. 1. It might not be self diagnose. She may have been told along the way but is in denial about it. My ex was that way for a long time. When it finally came out definitively, turns out she kind of knew but was in denial. She may have had a doctor along the way tell her she probably is - should see a specialist - and she balked at it. 2. With many MPD/DID people there is a personality that plays the role of the gatekeeper. they kind of control who is 'driving the bus'. I know this sounds weird but often not every personality knows about all the others. With my ex wife there were times one personality would tell me something only if I promised I was not going to repeat it to (other personality). It really is like associating with several different people in one body and it is super weird. EDIT: Part of what I am saying is the "her" that said she knows about the little girl and the "her" that says she does not remember might not be the same personality.
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Might the way OP paraphrased it, but her reaction when getting removed from OP daughter's room didn't sound to me like a 3 year old but like an adult playing a 3 year old. Anyway, glad she gets the help she needs. Brother is TA, though.
How can you diagnose yourself if you claim not to have any memories from whatever altered state you were in? Mental health services are everywhere tragically lacking (in france you can still get psychiatrists that swear autism is caused by a 'cold mother'!!); and for the brother that's no reason for letting this happen to someone he supposedly cares about.
Well, two things regarding 'how'. 1. It might not be self diagnose. She may have been told along the way but is in denial about it. My ex was that way for a long time. When it finally came out definitively, turns out she kind of knew but was in denial. She may have had a doctor along the way tell her she probably is - should see a specialist - and she balked at it. 2. With many MPD/DID people there is a personality that plays the role of the gatekeeper. they kind of control who is 'driving the bus'. I know this sounds weird but often not every personality knows about all the others. With my ex wife there were times one personality would tell me something only if I promised I was not going to repeat it to (other personality). It really is like associating with several different people in one body and it is super weird. EDIT: Part of what I am saying is the "her" that said she knows about the little girl and the "her" that says she does not remember might not be the same personality.
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