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“I Will Regret Nothing”: Employee Refuses To Work During His PTO, Goes To Concert Instead
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“I Will Regret Nothing”: Employee Refuses To Work During His PTO, Goes To Concert Instead

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Bosses need to understand that their staff need time to rest, recharge, and spend quality time with their loved ones to be able to do their jobs well. If the only thing their employees have to look forward to is more work, that’s only going to demotivate them. Not only is that awful for everyone’s morale, but it’s also going to affect the company’s bottom line.

One redditor recently went viral online after sharing how management verbally approved his request for paid time off to go to a concert with his family and then went back on that promise. Read on for the full story.

Bored Panda got in touch with the author, and he was happy to tell us a bit more about what happened, and he gave us an update about the concert.

One of the most frustrating workplace experiences is having your request for paid time off rejected for a random reason

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One employee turned to the internet for advice after management verbally approved his time off, only to change course

He later shared some additional info in the comments of his post

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The story went viral, and lots of internet users gave the author some advice on what to do next

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After reading everyone’s advice, the employee later posted a few updates on his plans

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Burnout is a very common workplace problem, so it’s vital to be on the lookout for the symptoms

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Deep rest and time off are absolutely essential if you want your staff to be motivated, efficient, and capable. On the flip side, someone who’s overworked and burnt out is not going to do as well at their job, and they might start looking for a job with a better workplace culture. And finding replacements for talented specialists is incredibly costly and time-consuming.

A survey conducted by Deloitte found that 77% of American workers have experienced burnout at their jobs, while half admitted that this has happened more than once.

Psychologist Christina Maslach, from the University of California, Berkeley, found that burnout has three components: physical and emotional exhaustion, cynicism, and inefficacy.

Employees who are exhausted are likely to feel frustrated and irritable, and they will struggle to enforce healthy boundaries at work and in other parts of their lives. They also find it difficult to feel positive about their tasks at work. This is usually how burnout starts, but for some employees, other symptoms appear in tandem with physical and emotional exhaustion.

These same employees might find themselves growing more cynical and less engaged at work. In short, they want to distance themselves from their jobs, whether they’re dealing with unfair workloads, unclear expectations, lack of feedback, constant conflict with their colleagues, etc.

This then leads to inefficacy, where the staff feel like they’re incompetent. They blame themselves when they notice that their skills aren’t as sharp anymore.
It’s an awful feeling when you have to compete for time off with your colleagues. The author of the post shared that his verbal request for time off was rejected after his coworker, who just got back from a month and a half of vacation, put in the same dates for PTO as him.

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Instead of confirming the author’s request (which was already promised), management decided to deny time off for both employees. In the interest of ‘fairness,’ of course. However, what’s fair about a decision like this eludes us and many other internet users.

According to the author, he still planned to take the days off, no matter what. He wanted to spend the time at a concert with his loved ones. For him, his family is a priority.

The employee still went to the concert with his family, and they had a fantastic time there

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The author, who preferred to remain anonymous, confirmed to Bored Panda that he was, in fact, able to go to the concert by indie pop band AJR with his family. Which is awesome news! Coincidentally, we got in touch with him “not a full hour” after the concert ended.

“It was amazing. AJR brings such an amazing vibe to their shows, and that shows so strongly in the fans. Courteous, polite, and generally well-mannered folks through the entire 12k+. My son had the most fun! I’ve never seen him lose his [stuff] like that before!” he opened up about the experience with us.

We were curious to get the OP’s thoughts on why he thinks management rejected his PTO request in the first place.

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“I think the management above my local station reacted to data on a screen, and that is what screwed me. I think that same upper management is just ‘manager attitude’ enough that he would stick to his answer regardless of circumstances,” he told Bored Panda.

“I think that 100% invalidated any verbal standing from a lower position than them.”

He also had some spot-on advice for anyone new to the job market. “If you can’t laugh while you’re doing what you’re doing, you’re either doing it wrong, or you shouldn’t be doing it in the first place,” he shared a good way to gauge whether you’re in the right line of work and at a good company.

The OP didn’t expect his story to get so much attention online. “I was honestly just grumpy at how things went,” he opened up to us.

In his opinion, the story really resonated with so many people due to the current state of employment in the United States. “With the cost of living rising like it is, it puts the people with the money in a higher position of power over those who need the money. It’s not healthy for anyone. It breeds bad habits in employers and trauma in employees,” he said.

Good managers put in the effort to support their staff however they can

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There are a lot of things that managers can do to support and motivate their employees. Business Psychologist Lee Chambers explained to Bored Panda in a previous interview that there is a lot of power in managers showing recognition and appreciation for their employees. This can be done formally or informally, as well as for big or small contributions.

“Flexibility is an increasingly important factor, so flexible working policies can promote trust and balance. Supporting your people to find meaning in their work can be beneficial, as can providing relevant training and upskilling,” Chambers told us earlier.

“Clear communication is valued, and the ability to feel included through feedback and input can increase motivation, and access to wellbeing can promote positive engagement in other aspects of work,” he said.

“Setting and communicating realistic boundaries creates space to work efficiently, prioritizes tasks, ensures urgent and important tasks get the attention and progress needed, and allows space for regular breaks and less overtime,” Chambers told Bored Panda.

“Time management techniques can be effective for some people to give structure, and this also opens opportunities for flexibility in other areas. Minimizing distraction can improve output and provide more time for personal commitments and practicing self-care, leaving you with a balance that won’t be perfect, but it will leave you with the opportunity to perform well both at work and outside of it.”

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Storytelling, journalism, and art are a core part of who I am. I've been writing and drawing ever since I could walk—there is nothing else I'd rather do. My formal education, however, is focused on politics, philosophy, and economics because I've always been curious about the gap between the ideal and the real. At work, I'm a Senior Writer and I cover a broad range of topics that I'm passionate about: from psychology and changes in work culture to healthy living, relationships, and design. In my spare time, I'm an avid hiker and reader, enjoy writing short stories, and love to doodle. I thrive when I'm outdoors, going on small adventures in nature. However, you can also find me enjoying a big mug of coffee with a good book (or ten) and entertaining friends with fantasy tabletop games and sci-fi movies.

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Jonas Grinevičius

Jonas Grinevičius

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Storytelling, journalism, and art are a core part of who I am. I've been writing and drawing ever since I could walk—there is nothing else I'd rather do. My formal education, however, is focused on politics, philosophy, and economics because I've always been curious about the gap between the ideal and the real. At work, I'm a Senior Writer and I cover a broad range of topics that I'm passionate about: from psychology and changes in work culture to healthy living, relationships, and design. In my spare time, I'm an avid hiker and reader, enjoy writing short stories, and love to doodle. I thrive when I'm outdoors, going on small adventures in nature. However, you can also find me enjoying a big mug of coffee with a good book (or ten) and entertaining friends with fantasy tabletop games and sci-fi movies.

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Mindaugas Balčiauskas

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I'm a visual editor at Bored Panda. I kickstart my day with a mug of coffee bigger than my head, ready to tackle Photoshop. I navigate through the digital jungle with finesse, fueled by bamboo breaks and caffeine kicks. When the workday winds down, you might catch me devouring bamboo snacks while binging on the latest TV show, gaming or I could be out in nature, soaking up the tranquility and communing with my inner panda.

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Mindaugas Balčiauskas

Mindaugas Balčiauskas

Author, BoredPanda staff

I'm a visual editor at Bored Panda. I kickstart my day with a mug of coffee bigger than my head, ready to tackle Photoshop. I navigate through the digital jungle with finesse, fueled by bamboo breaks and caffeine kicks. When the workday winds down, you might catch me devouring bamboo snacks while binging on the latest TV show, gaming or I could be out in nature, soaking up the tranquility and communing with my inner panda.

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hammerheadsharkgamer avatar
Dragons Exist
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1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

While I like when BP reposts Reddit stuff with extra context from the author, you do realize we can just click on the Reddit link to see the "anonymous" person's username, right?

rdennis avatar
R Dennis
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had a job screw me over on my vacation time. We had a use-it-or-lose-it vacation policy. They were training someone I promoted to be a manager and asked me to postpone my December vacation into the next year - formerly a big no-no. I agreed, as long as I could take it with another week any time the next year so I had two weeks off. They agreed. Then, the day my canceled vacation would have started I was told the week transfer into next year wasn't approved and I had to use it by the end of January... verbal doesn't mean jack.

chegoe69798 avatar
John L
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

PTO, belongs to the employee, not the company. You earned it, you can take it whenever you d@mn well please. My job insists that in addition to putting it in the system (where it belongs), I fill out and excel spreadsheet with the time. I refuse to do the latter, you can look it up in the system. This normalizing employer "rights" over employee rights, has got to stop.

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michele mbennett101044@yahoo.c
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Manager needs to suck it up and approve OP's request and advise entitled employee who just returned from 6 weeks off that she should have requested the additional time off in her original 6 weeks PTO request. "It's only fair to deny both" is a chicken s**t cop-out. Manager verbally ok'ed OP'S request but failed to do follow up on computer issues, again a cop-out and bad management. Management loves to use "computer/system problems " to excuse their failures. OP should take the time and tell Manager to pound sand, then start looking for a better job

alysha_pursley avatar
Bewitched One
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’m curious if the female coworkers “vacation” wasn’t actually “maternity leave” Since 6 weeks is usually the standard amount of maternity leave allotted in what I assume to be America. So not really a “vacation” if that’s the case. And often times not even paid

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Tracy Rieon Hall
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

PTO is just that so it's yours to use at your discretion. Also since you've been telling them the entire time the other coworker has been off yeah take that paid for vacation asap

jnogrimes avatar
UncleJohn3000
Community Member
1 week ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The way to reign this in is to repay cancelled PTO at a 1-10 ratio. Cancel my previously approved three days for a family event and repay me with 30 days off.

scottwilkins avatar
Scott Wilkins
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sometimes there ARE legitimate reasons to deny PTO at a particular time. But they better be VALID reasons.

charmhockaday avatar
Charm Hockaday
Community Member
1 week ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Failure to plan on your part does not encompasses an emergency on mine. PTO, vacation, etc. are a "heads up management, plan for this", not asking for permission. Edit: typo

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secondonlytome avatar
April Dancer
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Two of you applied for the same time off, so,to be fair, we gave it to no one. What the he.ll kind of logic is that?

alysha_pursley avatar
Bewitched One
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’m curious if the female coworkers “vacation” wasn’t actually “maternity leave” Since 6 weeks is usually the standard amount of maternity leave allotted in what I assume to be America. So not really a “vacation” if that’s the case. And often times not even paid

impossiblekat avatar
KatSaidWhat
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You book something, you inform rightist there and then as the booking itself is proof of the date of request. They asked if I needed this week off or could golden child have it? They have learned lessons that I learned long ago. I booked in January after a disastrous family trip over Xmas. It's during term time and I don't have kids. I already covered her during Easter school break.

deirdresegraves avatar
Deirdre Segraves
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was denied time off for both my kid's upcoming HS graduation AND a vacation 5 months out. Welp. That just doesn't work for me.

h_siniaho avatar
Hannah
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Thats what I love about my job. If i tell management Im taking a day or two off, they dont even question it. Its my time and i can do with it whatever i damn well please

katzgocc avatar
Kathryn Russell
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The OP (or anyone in this situation) needs to document the reason why, preferably on the write up, if one occurs. Ask for a copy.

kevinfelton avatar
Kevin Felton
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I first read this I was like this HAS to be a swifty. Only a swifty could be this entitled and expect everyone to agree with her. I don't know what the f**k an AJR is but I'm guessing it ain't worth my job so I'm guessing she works at Burger King.

mollykstimson avatar
M.
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

AJR is amazing. I started listening to them recently, I'm addicted. They're Indie-Pop. They sang "World's Smallest Violin", which was on the radio for a while.

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Della
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Former supervisor here, had to approve leave. Not easy, everyone wants holiday time, etc, and I needed to ensure enough manpower to get job done. Work didn't sit idly by while everyone was on PTO. Sometimes had to deny leave. Would have been furious if someone TOLD me they were not working when I managed the schedule. One more thing, concerts come and go, good jobs maybe not so easy to get. Hope it worked out!

hammerheadsharkgamer avatar
Dragons Exist
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

While I like when BP reposts Reddit stuff with extra context from the author, you do realize we can just click on the Reddit link to see the "anonymous" person's username, right?

rdennis avatar
R Dennis
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had a job screw me over on my vacation time. We had a use-it-or-lose-it vacation policy. They were training someone I promoted to be a manager and asked me to postpone my December vacation into the next year - formerly a big no-no. I agreed, as long as I could take it with another week any time the next year so I had two weeks off. They agreed. Then, the day my canceled vacation would have started I was told the week transfer into next year wasn't approved and I had to use it by the end of January... verbal doesn't mean jack.

chegoe69798 avatar
John L
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

PTO, belongs to the employee, not the company. You earned it, you can take it whenever you d@mn well please. My job insists that in addition to putting it in the system (where it belongs), I fill out and excel spreadsheet with the time. I refuse to do the latter, you can look it up in the system. This normalizing employer "rights" over employee rights, has got to stop.

michelembennett1010att_net avatar
michele mbennett101044@yahoo.c
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Manager needs to suck it up and approve OP's request and advise entitled employee who just returned from 6 weeks off that she should have requested the additional time off in her original 6 weeks PTO request. "It's only fair to deny both" is a chicken s**t cop-out. Manager verbally ok'ed OP'S request but failed to do follow up on computer issues, again a cop-out and bad management. Management loves to use "computer/system problems " to excuse their failures. OP should take the time and tell Manager to pound sand, then start looking for a better job

alysha_pursley avatar
Bewitched One
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’m curious if the female coworkers “vacation” wasn’t actually “maternity leave” Since 6 weeks is usually the standard amount of maternity leave allotted in what I assume to be America. So not really a “vacation” if that’s the case. And often times not even paid

Load More Replies...
tracyrieonhall avatar
Tracy Rieon Hall
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

PTO is just that so it's yours to use at your discretion. Also since you've been telling them the entire time the other coworker has been off yeah take that paid for vacation asap

jnogrimes avatar
UncleJohn3000
Community Member
1 week ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The way to reign this in is to repay cancelled PTO at a 1-10 ratio. Cancel my previously approved three days for a family event and repay me with 30 days off.

scottwilkins avatar
Scott Wilkins
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sometimes there ARE legitimate reasons to deny PTO at a particular time. But they better be VALID reasons.

charmhockaday avatar
Charm Hockaday
Community Member
1 week ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Failure to plan on your part does not encompasses an emergency on mine. PTO, vacation, etc. are a "heads up management, plan for this", not asking for permission. Edit: typo

Load More Replies...
secondonlytome avatar
April Dancer
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Two of you applied for the same time off, so,to be fair, we gave it to no one. What the he.ll kind of logic is that?

alysha_pursley avatar
Bewitched One
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’m curious if the female coworkers “vacation” wasn’t actually “maternity leave” Since 6 weeks is usually the standard amount of maternity leave allotted in what I assume to be America. So not really a “vacation” if that’s the case. And often times not even paid

impossiblekat avatar
KatSaidWhat
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You book something, you inform rightist there and then as the booking itself is proof of the date of request. They asked if I needed this week off or could golden child have it? They have learned lessons that I learned long ago. I booked in January after a disastrous family trip over Xmas. It's during term time and I don't have kids. I already covered her during Easter school break.

deirdresegraves avatar
Deirdre Segraves
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was denied time off for both my kid's upcoming HS graduation AND a vacation 5 months out. Welp. That just doesn't work for me.

h_siniaho avatar
Hannah
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Thats what I love about my job. If i tell management Im taking a day or two off, they dont even question it. Its my time and i can do with it whatever i damn well please

katzgocc avatar
Kathryn Russell
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The OP (or anyone in this situation) needs to document the reason why, preferably on the write up, if one occurs. Ask for a copy.

kevinfelton avatar
Kevin Felton
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I first read this I was like this HAS to be a swifty. Only a swifty could be this entitled and expect everyone to agree with her. I don't know what the f**k an AJR is but I'm guessing it ain't worth my job so I'm guessing she works at Burger King.

mollykstimson avatar
M.
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

AJR is amazing. I started listening to them recently, I'm addicted. They're Indie-Pop. They sang "World's Smallest Violin", which was on the radio for a while.

Load More Replies...
blackdog8911 avatar
Della
Community Member
1 week ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Former supervisor here, had to approve leave. Not easy, everyone wants holiday time, etc, and I needed to ensure enough manpower to get job done. Work didn't sit idly by while everyone was on PTO. Sometimes had to deny leave. Would have been furious if someone TOLD me they were not working when I managed the schedule. One more thing, concerts come and go, good jobs maybe not so easy to get. Hope it worked out!

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