“Started Crying, Pouting, And Stomping His Legs”: Guy Shows His True Colors After GF’s Revenge
There are a handful of things every relationship ought to have. Respect is probably at the top of the list—and that goes double for respect for the other’s time.
A woman recently shared her bit of petty revenge after having had her time wasted by a boyfriend who favored “me time” over their date time. Twice.
Every relationship should be based on a several things for it to work, with respect being somewhere at the top
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And when someone isn’t showing respect for, say, your time, then there’s bound to be issues
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The relationship ended soon after, as explained in a subsequent update
So, a girl met a boy, they fell in love, all was well until it wasn’t. The problem was that the guy prioritized shower time—which he explained as being ‘me time’—over his date night plans. And that happened twice at this point.
Mind you, shower time took 2 hours. 2 hours that OP won’t ever get back. Actually, 2 hours that were supposed to be succeeded by date plans, but that didn’t happen. This was on top of other things that she mentioned in the post as context.
So, as a response, OP cued petty revenge by letting him take her home, but once there, she refused to leave, ultimately wasting an hour of his time and having him miss out on his own plans.
The general consensus in the comment section was twofold: [1] why was he taking a shower before the gym, and [2] a lot of folks pushed for ending the relationship as it was only 4 months and he seemed selfish and immature.
Lack of respect in relationships can manifest in several ways and even the slightest hint of it can be devastating
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No respect in a relationship essentially means having no solid foundation. Folks who show no respect might make decisions on their own, despite it affecting their partners too, they wouldn’t treat their partners nicely, whether personally or in front of others, and they wouldn’t value them as people.
This in turn might lead to things like sabotaging the relationship and gaslighting. And if you find yourself having to explain the importance of respect to your partner, then that’s a sure indicator of a lack of general understanding on their part.
Showing respect for another means you’re showing love and acceptance, it fosters patience, wiser decision-making, and better communication, and it’s empowering as it shows support and hence encourages relationship growth. Of course, there’s more to a relationship than that, but respect is a crucial part nonetheless.
So, yes, 2 hours do sometimes matter.
What are your thoughts on any of this? Who do you side with and was the petty revenge justified? Share your takes, insights and stories in the comment section below!
But if you want to jump over to your next textual destination, why not read more about relationship values that build long lasting relationships. Or the things that make it last significantly shorter than that.
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Coercion into sex, aka rape, and stomping his feet when he can't get what he wants. What a waste of perfectly fine air. So great to witness her gaining self-respect and standing up for herself!
Disgusting. And @comfortably numb, coercion into sex is still rape. It’s not consent, forced consent is coercion, still rape.
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Chatting with a side piece while intermittently taking a shower. Before going to the gym. Got it?
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Crying like a baby because of his workout? B******t. Crying like that because he had a girl/boy/other waiting for him and he is going to get in trouble because he's gaslighting them too. As far as the dating app. Do the app because you want to meet someone else. Not as a childish tit-for-tat with your ex. That means you don't tell them about the app after because it is no longer their concern. X=X
There are only 4 things a dude would be doing in the bathroom, and I guarantee him sh***ing, showering, and shaving wasn't taking 2 hours. The fact that he had his phone in there leads one to believe he was looking at p*rn or on tinder while "pleasing" himself.
genuine question, do dudes actually sh*t in the shower?
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They both sound stupidly immature. He obviously didn't want to go and wouldn't say so and she's celebrating a "victory" over him, she sounds verbally abusive. And she's stuck in his room for two hours because she can't go in the house because his parents are there! 😂. These are kids playing at being adults.
Well she's on the spectrum and it's her first, so she gets a pass. Him... Neither shower-before-gym makes sense, nor shower-2-hours. If "going to the gym" is his euphemism for going to his other girlfriend, the shower makes sense but not the length.
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he calls YOU a cheater; and "vehemently denies" being a cheater himself? Those are professional psychologist's RED FLAGS that this person IS a cheater himself, and a big fat liar to boot. Count on it That's the pathological person's automatic defense - "I'M not a cannibal, YOU'RE the cannibal!" right.
She's completely justified with everything but I don't agree with being childish of downloading a dating app as revenge. You broke up with the guy, what's that point of that other than being petty? Just move on with your life otherwise you're just as bad as your s****y ex-boyfriend. Grow up
OP is very, very naive. That guy is manipulating her and she lets it happen. That's in no way acceptable behaviour and if he's cheating or not doesn't matter at that point. She was never his gf. She was his convenient sidekick and he keeps trying to manipulate her to come back for exactly that, not because he actually cares. People who care will start to get on one page with you during the relationship, not when it already ended.
LOL, she is 19. I guarantee you were just as naïve at that age.
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Men getting angry when their barely adult girlfriends act immature... what did you expect, go date someone your own age. This age difference isn't really that problematic *if* they're both happy, but don't date a teenager (I bet that barely legal is his favorite porn tag) and then whine when they act like one.
Break up was bound to happen. He was your first for everything an prob assumed you didn't know how relationships work and were fine this way of him using your time up. Stay single for 4-6 months. Use your past wisdom with open eyes next time you start to date. Stay off dating sites they are for fast quickies an nothing more. He tried to wrap you around his finger a you woke up and realized you give more than he did. And if he was really showering for two hours I doubt that he wasn't on his phone texting other girls. He was hot you said? I'm sure his gym was also a dating scheme.
OP is too immature to be in a relationship and needs to develop much healthier self esteem before she starts another one. The BF is a total jerk who is narcissistic, selfish, immature, and probably seeing someone else. Dump his behind now!
Um obviously he still lives with his parents at 24. Sounds like he is just a big baby
It’s not weird to live with your parents at 24. It’s not like there are tons of houses available right now.
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This isn't a man, it's an environmental crime masquerading as a pouty little boy.
Why the hell would anyone wait around for 2 hours of showering? Over a half hour and not willing to get out, I'm leaving.
the guy was an a*s but if he had brain cells he could step out of the car and be like "hello police! my crazy ex-girlfriend jumped into my car, shes being hyper aggressive and she's refusing to leave"
And the cops would do absolutely nothing since he has no proof they’re broken up + they won’t interfere in personal matters without an immediate threat to someone’s physical safety. They have more important things to do.
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Most guys who are overzealous about working out aren't straight. His boyfriend, or his crush, works out at the same time as he does. He was upset because he didn't get to see him. That poor beard/girl dodged a painful bullet, because he would have eventually left her for a man. Probably why he accused her of cheating.
Simple rule: when two people share one bathroom, it is a cellphone-free zone.
When a 24 year old male spends an hour in the shower, he's masturbating.
Both are extremely immature. But the girl does annoy me. Personally, I would have driven to the gym or found a patrol officer and told them that my partner was playing dumb games and holding me hostage. You can't lock them into the car and leave (I probably would have done it but stayed close enough to keep an eye on her, to see how fast she changes her tune), and you can't physically remove her from the car because it might be considered an assault. So how is this not a hostage situation? (I *am* actually claustrophobic, so the mere idea of having to sit around in a metal box with someone throwing a tantrum is horrifying to me)
I think you've got a bit confused there. He was the one having a tantrum. He was also the one with the keys. Can you be held hostage in your own car when you can get out or drive off even if she is still in the car? You even say you would have driven to the gym and called the police to tell them that your girlfriend was holding you hostage. I can just imagine that conversation. So, let's make this clear sir. Your girlfriend is holding you a hostage in your own car. The same car that you have driven here to tell me that you are being held hostage in. And where is your gf now? Oh, right, so she is just sitting in your car outside? Does she have a gun,or a knife? Has she threatened you or herself with physical harm? No? Can I remind you sir, that wasting police time is considered a criminal offence.
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I know grown men that behave like that (shout-out to my father and a teacher at my school). It’s not an unrealistic scenario.
Load More Replies... Coercion into sex, aka rape, and stomping his feet when he can't get what he wants. What a waste of perfectly fine air. So great to witness her gaining self-respect and standing up for herself!
Disgusting. And @comfortably numb, coercion into sex is still rape. It’s not consent, forced consent is coercion, still rape.
Load More Replies... Chatting with a side piece while intermittently taking a shower. Before going to the gym. Got it?
Load More Replies... Crying like a baby because of his workout? B******t. Crying like that because he had a girl/boy/other waiting for him and he is going to get in trouble because he's gaslighting them too. As far as the dating app. Do the app because you want to meet someone else. Not as a childish tit-for-tat with your ex. That means you don't tell them about the app after because it is no longer their concern. X=X
There are only 4 things a dude would be doing in the bathroom, and I guarantee him sh***ing, showering, and shaving wasn't taking 2 hours. The fact that he had his phone in there leads one to believe he was looking at p*rn or on tinder while "pleasing" himself.
genuine question, do dudes actually sh*t in the shower?
Load More Replies... They both sound stupidly immature. He obviously didn't want to go and wouldn't say so and she's celebrating a "victory" over him, she sounds verbally abusive. And she's stuck in his room for two hours because she can't go in the house because his parents are there! 😂. These are kids playing at being adults.
Well she's on the spectrum and it's her first, so she gets a pass. Him... Neither shower-before-gym makes sense, nor shower-2-hours. If "going to the gym" is his euphemism for going to his other girlfriend, the shower makes sense but not the length.
Load More Replies... he calls YOU a cheater; and "vehemently denies" being a cheater himself? Those are professional psychologist's RED FLAGS that this person IS a cheater himself, and a big fat liar to boot. Count on it That's the pathological person's automatic defense - "I'M not a cannibal, YOU'RE the cannibal!" right.
She's completely justified with everything but I don't agree with being childish of downloading a dating app as revenge. You broke up with the guy, what's that point of that other than being petty? Just move on with your life otherwise you're just as bad as your s****y ex-boyfriend. Grow up
OP is very, very naive. That guy is manipulating her and she lets it happen. That's in no way acceptable behaviour and if he's cheating or not doesn't matter at that point. She was never his gf. She was his convenient sidekick and he keeps trying to manipulate her to come back for exactly that, not because he actually cares. People who care will start to get on one page with you during the relationship, not when it already ended.
LOL, she is 19. I guarantee you were just as naïve at that age.
Load More Replies... Men getting angry when their barely adult girlfriends act immature... what did you expect, go date someone your own age. This age difference isn't really that problematic *if* they're both happy, but don't date a teenager (I bet that barely legal is his favorite porn tag) and then whine when they act like one.
Break up was bound to happen. He was your first for everything an prob assumed you didn't know how relationships work and were fine this way of him using your time up. Stay single for 4-6 months. Use your past wisdom with open eyes next time you start to date. Stay off dating sites they are for fast quickies an nothing more. He tried to wrap you around his finger a you woke up and realized you give more than he did. And if he was really showering for two hours I doubt that he wasn't on his phone texting other girls. He was hot you said? I'm sure his gym was also a dating scheme.
OP is too immature to be in a relationship and needs to develop much healthier self esteem before she starts another one. The BF is a total jerk who is narcissistic, selfish, immature, and probably seeing someone else. Dump his behind now!
Um obviously he still lives with his parents at 24. Sounds like he is just a big baby
It’s not weird to live with your parents at 24. It’s not like there are tons of houses available right now.
Load More Replies... This isn't a man, it's an environmental crime masquerading as a pouty little boy.
Why the hell would anyone wait around for 2 hours of showering? Over a half hour and not willing to get out, I'm leaving.
the guy was an a*s but if he had brain cells he could step out of the car and be like "hello police! my crazy ex-girlfriend jumped into my car, shes being hyper aggressive and she's refusing to leave"
And the cops would do absolutely nothing since he has no proof they’re broken up + they won’t interfere in personal matters without an immediate threat to someone’s physical safety. They have more important things to do.
Load More Replies... Most guys who are overzealous about working out aren't straight. His boyfriend, or his crush, works out at the same time as he does. He was upset because he didn't get to see him. That poor beard/girl dodged a painful bullet, because he would have eventually left her for a man. Probably why he accused her of cheating.
Simple rule: when two people share one bathroom, it is a cellphone-free zone.
When a 24 year old male spends an hour in the shower, he's masturbating.
Both are extremely immature. But the girl does annoy me. Personally, I would have driven to the gym or found a patrol officer and told them that my partner was playing dumb games and holding me hostage. You can't lock them into the car and leave (I probably would have done it but stayed close enough to keep an eye on her, to see how fast she changes her tune), and you can't physically remove her from the car because it might be considered an assault. So how is this not a hostage situation? (I *am* actually claustrophobic, so the mere idea of having to sit around in a metal box with someone throwing a tantrum is horrifying to me)
I think you've got a bit confused there. He was the one having a tantrum. He was also the one with the keys. Can you be held hostage in your own car when you can get out or drive off even if she is still in the car? You even say you would have driven to the gym and called the police to tell them that your girlfriend was holding you hostage. I can just imagine that conversation. So, let's make this clear sir. Your girlfriend is holding you a hostage in your own car. The same car that you have driven here to tell me that you are being held hostage in. And where is your gf now? Oh, right, so she is just sitting in your car outside? Does she have a gun,or a knife? Has she threatened you or herself with physical harm? No? Can I remind you sir, that wasting police time is considered a criminal offence.
Load More Replies... I know grown men that behave like that (shout-out to my father and a teacher at my school). It’s not an unrealistic scenario.
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