30 Things You Should Know Before Visiting The United States For The First Time Ever, According To Americans
The United States is the land of laws and codices; always has and always will be. But on top of that, there are also unwritten rules about the American way of life that are worth knowing whether you're planning to move there or just visit.
Recently, Reddit user Praglik made a post on the platform, saying: "Americans of Reddit, what's something anyone visiting the US for the first time absolutely must know about or be aware of?" And locals flooded the comment section with their answers.
So we compiled them into a comprehensive list in case you plan to go there and need to brush up on your social etiquette.
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You drive five hours in the US: you’re basically still in the same place.
You drive five hours in Europe: everyone’s talking funny and the cheese is different.
To learn more about visiting the United States, Bored Panda got in touch with A Lady in London, an adventurous traveler who has already been to 112 countries.
"As a Californian, when I think of the US, I think of the natural beauty the country offers," she told us. "From stunning coastline to national parks like Yosemite, there are a lot of amazing places to discover."
And that's the beauty of this land; everyone can find a corner within it that will resonate with them. "The US is huge, and there are a lot of amazing destinations to discover. Good places to start include New York City, Yellowstone National Park, and Hawaii. They'll give you an overview of how varied the country is in terms of things to do, see, and experience."
If you find a Mexican or Asian place/truck where they don't speak english. The foods gonna be good as f**k.
1. Come to America just before Thanksgiving.
2. Casually mention to American acquaintance that you’re alone on Thanksgiving.
3. Accept immediate invite to whatever Thanksgiving gathering is being held.
Everyone has their own quirky Thanksgiving traditions and we love sharing them
According to the most recent figures from the World Tourism Organization, France is the number one destination for international tourists with 117 million in 2020, but the United States is in fourth place with 45 million.
However, the country has to step up if it wants to see the number increase. Some researchers estimate that as many as 412,000 travel and tourism jobs in the United States will remain unfilled this year.
1-in-18 industry jobs may have remained vacant during the first half of 2022, highlighting a talent crunch that has plagued the sector since early 2021. An estimated 321,000 positions went unfilled in the January-June period.
As a foreigner I have to add to this thread.
If they like you, you’ll know. Americans are some of the most generous people I’ve ever met.
I’ve only been to florida and every single time people have given me more food than I paid for, their own employee discounts, invited me to their homes for dinner (also, dinner is earlier than you’re used to if your from Latin America, you won’t be eating at 8-10pm, you’ll be eating anywhere from 4pm to 7pm, no later than that), if people like you you’ll be treated as family as soon as they figure you’re not a serial killer.
I love America and you’ve been nothing but great to me. I’m grateful to have met some of the best people I know in America and to have friends there.
Also, I’ve only been to Florida and have yet to meet one of these dangerous creatures called “Florida man”, I know you’re not supposed to feed them or anything but I don’t know if they are “that” harmful or dangerous
The local burger shops are better than the regional burger chains which are better than the national burger chains.
Don't get out of your car if you're pulled over by the police unless directed to do so.
And keep both hands on your steering wheel after you open your window. This is for your safety.
However, when it comes to the locals, A Lady in London said they can be really accepting of tourists. "It depends where you go. Different parts of the country are known for different things. For example, Southerners are known for their hospitality and Midwesterners for their friendliness. I like to think Americans are pretty welcoming on the whole," she explained.
But if you want to meet them, A Lady in London suggests you start locally and see how it goes from there. "My biggest tip is to remember how big the country is. I recommend seeing one state or region at a time so you can experience it fully and meaningfully," she said. "Then make sure to come back again and see a different part of the country. You'll start to get a feel for how diverse the US is."
Always get health insurance unless you wish to be bankrupt. The US healthcare system is insanely expensive.
I am diabetic type 2 and my meds are over $600/month without insurance. With insurance, it costs me $16/month. It's so expensive to try to stay alive.
While walking down the street, people will randomly make eye contact and then smile. No, you don't know them, this is just their way of being polite. They expect you to smile back and then break eye contact.
I will always make eye contact and smile. I might even compliment you on something you are wearing if it looks like you are having a bad day. Many times I will even strike up a random conversation with someone while waiting in line or waiting to cross the street. I love meeting new people. But if I get a vibe that you are not willing to talk or whatever, I will just smile and be on my way.
In 98% of areas you go to, you’ll need a car. The 2% where you won’t are NYC, Boston, Chicago, and DC.
Reddit user Praglik told Bored Panda they came up with the idea for the post when they were planning a trip to California with their wife. "She's never been to the US," Praglik said. "A little bit later before going to bed I thought about asking this question, and to my surprise, it blew up during the night here in Europe."
"The replies were helpful, they crystallized what I read over the years about the US. Most of them were very similar, falling into 3 categories: danger (don't mess with wildlife), hidden costs (tips, taxes, long-distance travels), and finally people (homemade food is great, they love to share, love to meet foreigners)."
The Redditor said they've been to the US once before. "It was a very short business trip to Colorado. The country seemed very interesting, vast, and full of colorful people. I always dreamt of visiting both coasts, California and New England in particular."
Hopefully, the post will help other travelers too!
Tax is added to the shelf prices at the checkout.
What if you are on a very strict budget? Seems VERY time consuming to add tax to everything when you try to calculate how much it will be to make sure you have enough to pay for everything? Or is it the same tax for every item? When I was a student I had a calculator with me to make sure I was within my budget. This seems to be taking forever if you have to include calculating tax?
24 hour Diners. According to stuff I read in Reddit, our diners are legendary.
ETA: I’m American and I eat at them a lot. I was just surprised how much visitors from other countries love our diners so much.
The McDonalds is not the same as in your country and will most likely make you sick.
People from other countries please DO NOT visit fast food places in the US. The reason our country is so overweight/obese is because of places like that. Even the soda is different here and in a bad way.
When we say, "How's it going?" we don't need a literal answer. It's just a greeting. I went to college with a guy from Germany and this confused him quite a bit when he first got here. He thought people wanted to know about his whole day.
That's interesting because the german phrase "Wie geht's?" means the same and nobody expects any other answer than "good".
Each state has its own driving laws.
Almost everyone in America thinks your accent is charming, and thinks you're super-fancy just for coming from Cork/Manchester/Kyoto/Lagos/Guangzho/Rio/Mexico City.
90% of native-English-speaking Americans absolutely adore hearing people speak English with an accent and with foreign syntax. English is a wildly flexible language, and we love to hear people flex it by translating their native language into English in ways that sound a little weird in English. We will 100% steal it from you because it's vivid! Shakespeare has infected all of us, we love vivid and surprising language! We absolutely devour non-native speakers because they use English like Shakespeare and Chaucer, in vivid ways that re-illuminate the language. Do NOT be embarrassed; we all want to steal your metaphors and odd phrases and malapropisms, because you are DOING SHAKESPEARE RIGHT THERE IN FRONT OF US. Like, literally offer the awkwardest phrase you've got in English, and a bunch of English speakers will instantly adopt it because it's wildly vivid. They may even steal your Italian or Chinese or Portuguese word, because it says something we can't currently say in American English.
We are also incredibly impressed that you can speak English in addition to other languages! We feel humble and slightly dumb that we can't, and we want to make your English-speaking as painless as possible. Non-native speakers are often embarrassed at their English proficiency, but *literally everyone in America* thinks you are amazing and is hanging on your every word! Most of us don't want to be weird and awkward and signal that you're not a native speaker (especially after the Trump years), so we won't mention it unless you do. But we are all sitting here ADORING your accent and freaking out that you're so good at English.
Visit Chicago. It is by far the most American city, and it is clean, friendly, and everyone will want to hear your story and may possibly invite you to Thanksgiving dinner upon first meeting.
If you are a college student, ask your dorm-mates about Thanksgiving. Someone will invite you home with them, and be super-happy to have the opportunity to do so! We're a hospitable people, Thanksgiving is uniquely American, and we know non-American kids in the dorms may not have somewhere to go! If you mention your dietary restrictions, they will make you vegan or halal or gluten-free Thanksgiving food (it might not be good, but they will try). They will want you to call your mother, and they may want to say hi to your mother, so she knows you're being taken care of on Thanksgiving. Your mother might not know what Thanksgiving is! But your American roommate's mother wants YOUR mother to know that you have a place here, so the two of them will have a very awkward conversation and both leave feeling satisfied that you are loved and cared for.
UK native here. I spent a year in Chicago working for a charity. They put me on the phones for their annual funds drive thinking I’d get more donations with an English accent. Backfired big time as everyone wanted to stay and chat longer and I spent most of my time explaining England rather than getting pledges.
Do not under any circumstances try to bribe a cop depending on where you come from that might seem odd but trust me you will get in trouble if you try.
Personal space. Do not get right up behind someone standing in line, if you're lucky you'll just make them uncomfortable, unlucky and you may find yourself in a fight.
Yep, if you stand too close to me , I will fart on you and think nothing of it.
Food and drink portions are HUGE. Order a Coke at a sit-down restaurant and you'll likely get about 32+oz. And when it's mostly gone, they'll just bring you another one.
Mexican restaurants tend to give you 40+oz glasses of your drink.
And speaking of Mexican restaurants... They'll bring chips and salsa until you can't even stand up anymore. Then they'll bring your entree.
To those unfamiliar with Imperial units, 32 ounces is 2.1 soccer balls, according to my crosoft conversion calculator. About 0.946 liter or kilogram. Americans will never go metric because their cowboys would never exchange their 10 gallon hats for 37.85412 liter hats.
It isn't like the movies and TV shows, which tend to show southern California or New York City. The country is incredibly diverse in environment, political beliefs, accents, economics, etc. If you drive from one side of the country to the other, you will encounter so many differences you won't believe it's the same country. Sometimes you don't even have to drive to see these differences.
If you expect Times Square but fly into North Dakota, you'll be in for a rude awakening. If you visit the beach of Baywatch, you'll be shocked that instead of Pamela Anderson running in slow motion you'll see 100 overweight, middle-aged couples eating fried chicken. If you go 2 blocks off of the Las Vegas Strip, it turns into a regular city... and if you go two blocks in the wrong direction, you may fear for your life. If you think you'll see movie stars in Hollywood, you'll be surprised that it's mostly a disgusting area... and you can go from a ghetto-like environment to the fanciest of fancy Beverly Hills by crossing the street.
I know a lot of people who are from all over the world thanks to playing mmorpgs online. This is one of the first things I tell them when they ask me about the US. We and our lives are nothing like what you see on TV or in the movies. We all live in very diverse areas. There are all types of people who come from various backgrounds. Various types of religions, politics, races, genders, ages, economic structures, creeds, beliefs, and sizes.
You can't drive across the country in 12 hours.
You can't drive across Montana in 12 hours (if you obey the speed limit, which we don't)
Personal space. Americans do not want to be touched. We want to know every single thing about you because we find foreigners fascinating (most of us love foreigners and are simply curious), except for how your breath feels on our face. We have bubbles that must be respected. That is probably why Americans are "loud," we just simply stay farther away from each other.
The CD is not free, never accept something from someone on a street.
I have never had this happen to me but I will say that non-food street vendors are pretty aggressive when trying to get you to buy their goods.
Food portions are huge, but anything you can't finish can be packed up for later. You just need to ask.
Most Americans are quite friendly and helpful. That most of them are truly interested in hearing all about you and your country.
In the US, we leave tips for food servers at restaurants and resorts.
It's not automatically included.
Here's something people may not know about this. It's almost universal for restaurants to pay waitstaff LESS THAN THE MINIMUM WAGE that other workers get. For example, in Florida, normal minimum wage is $10.00/hr, but for waitstaff, it's only $3.02/hr. Waitstaff survive on tips. If I'm not willing to tip 20% at a restaurant, I don't eat there.
And I am still wondering why that remains legal and how employees allow their managers to get away with that.
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Paid up and walked out of a restaurant in Kansas, happy, fed and watered. The owner came up to me as I was getting in the car and asked if everything was alright. Great, I assured, he then told me about the tip thing,I thought it strange at the time but gave a good tip. No problem at all.
10-15% is standard . 18-20% is really good service . You always tip always.
Kenya: The Service Industry has a Salary. Tips are appreciation tokens. Your relationship with your Bosses, first, then your customers.....matters.
For those of you arguing that the tipping system makes no sense or should be abolished: You may be right, but please tip if come to the US. This is the current system and if you don't tip you are not changing the system, you are just making it harder for under-paid hardworking servers to feed their kids and pay their rent.
I've had this conversation with many people from many countries. Tipping is expected for deliveries and for restaurants where you are waited on. It is optional but very much appreciated for to-go orders. Just consider it part of the price of the meal, because food service pays far less than a living wage otherwise.
Minimum (unless you're a f*****g a*****e) is indeed 10-15%, excellent service begets at least 18-20% tip.
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So I always how much of a tip ist appropriate in the US? Is there something like an unwritten rule for tipping?
20% for a sit-down restaurant, 10% if you're getting a carry out order, none at a fast food place.
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In the US, employers are allowed by law to pay servers less than minimum wage, expecting customers to make up the difference with tips. The employer is supposed to pay the difference if the tips don't add up to minimum, but who's looking? The Internal Revenue Service (Tax Department) also assumes that the server gets tipped to at least minimum and assesses taxes to that level. So if you don't tip, you're actually stealing from the server.
No I'm not.it's not my job to make up for a cheap boss.i will tip but the service has to worth it.if they seem to forget me no tip
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I was actually a bit suprised about this. Not about giving tips in the restaurant, it is common to give a 10% tip to waiters in my country as well. But even when I got an ice cream from an ice cream truck, they expected me to pay a tip. Is it really common or I was just at a weird place?
They put tip jars almost everywhere like food trucks, coffee shops, and bakeries. If I had a large or a complicated order then I usually leave a tip. For grabbing an ice cream or a simple cup of coffee to go, I don't.
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It's not included ANYWHERE. In the civilised world this is ILLEGAL, as is paying workers less than a living wage. If you want to be sanctimonious, you direct your attention to the establishment using slave labour. Not to the patrons.
Same in South Africa! My daughter works for Hooters and earns about R15k a month...only about R2k is paid by the restaurant...The rest is tips!!!
This confused me a bit when I went to Canada. Some places the eftpos machine gave three choices for tip, some an automatic amount others we had no clue.
So what are the penalties if you don't tip? Do you get blacklisted or publicly called out?
I once saw a menu saying it adds a ten percent extra charge in case u dont tip. It made me not want to tip because they added a forced one
You can leave whatever you want, but 10-15% is usually standard. For some there's a misunderstanding about how tipping works. Employers must follow federal guidelines for pay. So if $7.25 is federal standard, people can make $3 an hour as a pay rate, but the tips have to bring that to 7.25 or else the employer is required to supplement it. The problem is if it’s a slow restaurant and you only get 1 table in an hour who leave a 2 dollar tip, the most you’re making that hour is 7.25 which you can’t live on. So people are trying to raise that to a living wage. However, you can make 100/hour or more in tips at a high end restaurant/bar so they’d lose out on coming home with 700+ bucks a day if we got rid of tipping, which could never be matched by an employer. It would be nice if pay would increase to $20/hour so people could live without those additional tips but a lot of restaurants just can’t afford that, and some people make way more than that with tips and don’t want to lose it.
In Europe waiting staff get full pay. Tips are the bonus of a busy night verses an easy night. They are extra and are legally the property of the staff, all staff not just front of house as kitchen staff share.. not the owner/manager. It is illegal to keep them or make them part of the wages. Usual tipping heeis also 10-15%, however it’s scale is generally based on quality of food and service,
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Don't be afraid to feel comfortable here. As far as anyone is concerned this is just as much Any foreigners home as ours, we have the occasional a*****e that makes snarky remarks. Don't take it personally if u run into one because chances are he's a d**k head no matter what color you are or culture you have. Just have fun and enjoy your stay and don't let the media brainwash you into thinking that Americans are all just racist pricks. Most of us are pretty nice. Personally I'm from west Virginia, the south what is commonly known as the most racist portion of America. We get Muslims, Mexicans, Asians, all of the above, not a single hate crime report here for decades. I'm even dating an Austrian girl who says America is lovely. Our government just sucks man.
I'm going to respectfully disagree with the last portion of OPs statement. I get where they are coming from and it's great to believe but it's not just government because who votes to put individuals in government? The people do. The people can be full of hate and elect others that are too.
People will just start talking to you if the line is long enough.
Water refills are always free.
The majority of cities and towns are not walkable.
You don't need a membership to buy alcohol from Costco.
Have at, don't die, smile at people.
Almost forgot: do not be in a Waffle House/Denny's/iHop/Perkins after 10 pm. Especially not Waffle House.
"Southern Hospitality" is not a carte blanche invitation to act like you own the place. We'll give directions, stop on the side or the road and change your tire, and start conversations for no reason but once you start making absurd demands of strangers you'll hear "bless your heart" before you get punched.
And having lived in KY for almost 20 years now, after NYC and SF… just get used to the cashiers having long chats with the person ahead of you about Mable and what her husband did at the chruch picnic and little Joe-Bob is almost ready to graduate, can you believe it, how time flies, and how’s your Mom’s knee, is it still acting up, you should rub molasses on it when there’s a full moon, that’s what we always do, and….
When you come to the us prepare for endless amounts of ice in your drink. You might not even get any drink but you will have more ice than you could ever imagine
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The US is larger than the EU. You wouldn't plan to visit Barcelona, Helsinki, Dublin, and Bucharest in the same week; you won't manage to visit Boston, Miami, San Francisco, and the Grand Canyon in the same week either.
I've just come back from a 5 day trip in New York and the local people are the rudest people I've ever had the misfortune of meeting. I was screamed at JFK airport because I didn't put my thumb on scanner properly. Fingerprint scanning is not something that is required to enter the UK or most countries actually. I asked man working in booth at subway which train and I had to get and he didn't even speak, just looked at me like I was the stupidest person ever, let out a loud sigh and pointed to the platform. Then when my metro card wouldn't swipe me through turnstile he screamed at me that I hadn't swiped it properly. I'm from a part of the UK that has an underground subway system. I also got screamed at when going to see Beetlejuice on Broadway by a guard because he took so long to scan my eticket that the light had gone off on my phone. There were a few more instances like that but not enough space to discuss here. Such loud, obnoxious people with egos the size of Brazil
Hmmmm, so many instances of people 'screaming' at you. Wonder what the problem really is?
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New Yorkers really let their city down. The city itself is a great place with lots to see and do but the attitude, entitlement and ego of the people that live there means I never want to go back. I know a few people that have been to New York that say the same thing. A lot of tourist attractions like American Museum History herd people in and shout at visitors like it's a Cat A prison not a museum. I get they want to be safe, but a lot of it is overzealous guards trying to feel powerful. The gun situation made me feel uneasy in US as well.
I was friendly with a couple who ran a Star Wars website - exchanging chatty emails etc. I was planning come from the UK to visit another internet friend in New Mexico whom I'd stayed with before. I knew Maki lived in New York, and asked if I could come to them after New Mexico, and spend a week with them. Maki and her husband said yes. They picked me up from the airport and took me to their apartment, which was right in the middle of Manhattan. I had a lovely week with them, been shown around and taken to their favourite food places. They paid for my ticket to see Spamalot on Broadway. A friend of theirs was celebrating his 50th birthday and had invited them and a dozen others to be his guest at a little Italian restaurant. He was happy to include me, a complete stranger, in his party - he was delighted to have an English guest. All through my visit, from the subway to museums, everyone was fine.
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A cousin of mine in the U.S. went to a McDonald's in the South, and because they don't ban many toxic chemicals in their food down there, she got an anaphylactic shock from eating their fries and ended up in the hospital fighting for her life. Please take care out there. Many toxic chemicals in the U.S. are not banned.
The US is larger than the EU. You wouldn't plan to visit Barcelona, Helsinki, Dublin, and Bucharest in the same week; you won't manage to visit Boston, Miami, San Francisco, and the Grand Canyon in the same week either.
I've just come back from a 5 day trip in New York and the local people are the rudest people I've ever had the misfortune of meeting. I was screamed at JFK airport because I didn't put my thumb on scanner properly. Fingerprint scanning is not something that is required to enter the UK or most countries actually. I asked man working in booth at subway which train and I had to get and he didn't even speak, just looked at me like I was the stupidest person ever, let out a loud sigh and pointed to the platform. Then when my metro card wouldn't swipe me through turnstile he screamed at me that I hadn't swiped it properly. I'm from a part of the UK that has an underground subway system. I also got screamed at when going to see Beetlejuice on Broadway by a guard because he took so long to scan my eticket that the light had gone off on my phone. There were a few more instances like that but not enough space to discuss here. Such loud, obnoxious people with egos the size of Brazil
Hmmmm, so many instances of people 'screaming' at you. Wonder what the problem really is?
Load More Replies... New Yorkers really let their city down. The city itself is a great place with lots to see and do but the attitude, entitlement and ego of the people that live there means I never want to go back. I know a few people that have been to New York that say the same thing. A lot of tourist attractions like American Museum History herd people in and shout at visitors like it's a Cat A prison not a museum. I get they want to be safe, but a lot of it is overzealous guards trying to feel powerful. The gun situation made me feel uneasy in US as well.
I was friendly with a couple who ran a Star Wars website - exchanging chatty emails etc. I was planning come from the UK to visit another internet friend in New Mexico whom I'd stayed with before. I knew Maki lived in New York, and asked if I could come to them after New Mexico, and spend a week with them. Maki and her husband said yes. They picked me up from the airport and took me to their apartment, which was right in the middle of Manhattan. I had a lovely week with them, been shown around and taken to their favourite food places. They paid for my ticket to see Spamalot on Broadway. A friend of theirs was celebrating his 50th birthday and had invited them and a dozen others to be his guest at a little Italian restaurant. He was happy to include me, a complete stranger, in his party - he was delighted to have an English guest. All through my visit, from the subway to museums, everyone was fine.
Load More Replies... A cousin of mine in the U.S. went to a McDonald's in the South, and because they don't ban many toxic chemicals in their food down there, she got an anaphylactic shock from eating their fries and ended up in the hospital fighting for her life. Please take care out there. Many toxic chemicals in the U.S. are not banned.
