Sometimes life takes us by surprise and but at least we can always turn to our friends for help and support, but what happens when your friends can’t be there for you? Do you consider them bad friends or do you think that once you grow up you should learn to only trust yourself?

Recently, one Tumblr user Kushandwizdom stated that friends are useless if they can’t be there for you during the most crucial times. People quickly jumped to respond, pointing out that once you’re an adult, being a good and supportive friend isn’t always that easy. One comment, written by Robin Ross, received a lot of attention after she pointed out that just because a friend can’t come to help you, it does not mean they are a bad friend. “I’ve been in many situations where adult matters had to come before being there for a friend in a time of need. It’s not easy, it’s not fun, but it is a fact of life. If I leave my job because my best friend was just served divorce papers, then I’m going to be fired. It’s not realistic for me to walk out of my job, the only income in my household because my best friend is emotionally distraught”, Robin told Bored Panda. “I would like to add that if someone is putting pressure on you to be there for them 24/7 and claims if you’re not, you’re not a good friend – that’s emotional abuse and should be addressed.”

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Recently, one Tumblr user stated that friends are useless if they can’t be there for you when you need them the most

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But one person quickly pointed out that once you’re an adult, being there for your friend is not always possible

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Many people started sharing their own personal experiences about what it’s like to be a supportive friend