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Someone Asked Men To Open Up About The Last Time They Cried, 30 Gave Honest Answers
Crying is a healthy way to process your emotions, and it can have a range of emotional and physical benefits. It activates the parasympathetic nervous system, which, in turn, puts us in a “rest and digest” mode, helping our body relax after a time of stress. Crying releases oxytocin and endorphins, hormones that can soothe pain and lift our mood, helping us feel better.
Still, many find it difficult to do. Especially men. Yes, they have significantly lower levels of prolactin (another hormone, only this one is found in emotional tears) compared to women, but societal stereotypes and expectations discourage them from displaying emotional tears. However, suppressing your feelings can make it harder to cope with life and seek support.
In an attempt to encourage folks to open up, Redditor u/xeowa made a post on the platform, asking men when was the last time they cried and why. Luckily, many stepped up and shared their answers.
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#1
Crying in my car right now.
My wife has cancer. It scares me to death. I have to be brave at home. My car has become my place to escape to cry and release my fear and sorrow
Brittania Kelli 2 years ago
If you are in a similar situation please find a support group. As a cancer survivor I can say it is sometimes harder on the patient's family and there is no shame in seeking help.
LH25 2 years ago
I agree. The patient tends to get the support and empathy. The family not as much, and they are suffering as well. When I was battling my cancer, my husband had a couple of friends that he could talk to honestly. One of my favorite moments was when one of them asked hubby how he was. Hubby answered "I'm fine". Friend looked him in the eye and said "Great. Now, how are you really doing?". Giving hubby a space to talk about how scared he was.
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Emma Goransdottir 2 years ago
I feel so sad for your situation. It s good that you have a place to release your pain. I hope that you will become safe enough to do this with a friend so that you can get some support. I wish for your wife all the strength she needs to fight this horrible disease❤️
Pride Bean️ 2 years ago
Im so sorry to hear that. Cancer is a f*****g horrible disease and nobody deserves to live with it.
ROSESARERED 2 years ago
My heart goes out to you, hope there are happy days in amongst the hard ones
kim davies 2 years ago
When my dad was diagnosed with pulmonary fibrosis and the only option was a transplant I had to be brave for my daughter and my mom, I would go and ride in the laundry room of my home and sob for hours. He passed away before he could have the transplant, I was a mess. My husband was not helpful, his whole mentality was for me to “get over it”. It was so hard.
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#2
When I had to put my cat to sleep in December. We had 18 years with her.
Tamra 2 years ago
We have a completely pure relationship with our pets. It's an uncomplicated love - we adore them, they adore us, no baggage, no games. It's incredibly painful to lose that kind of love.
Astrius 2 years ago
I would love humans to be like this too. Closest we have is family and even then it’s never that simple.
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HungryAardwolf 2 years ago
My cat died by a scorpion bite... We still don't know how he went out but I still think of him today.. Now I am blessed with 2 cats and 4 kitties
yeeyee 2 years ago
I just had my boy buddy put down yesterday……… he was my workin dog, no matter where I was at putting a fence up down my country road he somehow was always able to walk and find me. Everyday when I came home after working my regular job he would be sitting at the end of my driveway and basically escort me to the house just so he was the first one to greet me when the door opened. It’s gonna be hard as hell going home today……
Tamra 2 years ago
I am so sorry. I know how hard that is. It sounds like you gave him the best kind of life, and I'm sure his years were filled with joy. They do leave such an empty space when they're gone. My condolences.
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Vedyyy 2 years ago
I cried when I found out my family's cat died on 16th this month due to Panleukopenia. In just 5 days after he was admitted to the cat vet clinic that the doctor told us he didn't make it. I cried holding his lifeless body and burying him in family's garden. My family adopted him more than a year ago when he was little, seeing him growing up with us, cherished every moments with him, only for him to leave us that quickly. I'm still unable to move on.
Tamra 2 years ago
I'm very sorry you lost your friend so soon. It's so hard. Allow yourself to grieve as long as you need to. It will get a little easier, in time. I promise.
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Sami-Jo Ross 2 years ago
That kitty had a very long and happy life with her family, and no doubt when they meet again at the pearly gates that kitty will come running just like a little kitten.
#3
Last night sent my girlfriend the basic Good night message. She replied back with “I love you”. Sat there and started crying over the fact that she is the most important person in my life and that I'm so lucky that this woman loves me.
Joshua Moore 2 years ago
This actually happened to me last weekend, only I was in bed with my girlfriend, getting ready to go to sleep. We kissed and hugged and she asked me "What's wrong?" I told her I was having a moment, had tears in my eyes because I'm so incredibly thankful for her. She's so beautiful, sweet, kind, generous and a super great mom. Honestly, it's the best relationship I've ever been in and I told her all of that before we went to sleep. I tell her all of the time how beautiful she is and sweet and a great mom.
devotedtodreams 2 years ago
Agreed, this one is very sweet :) Like, imagine knowing the person you love actually loves you back. Wonder if I'll ever experience that...
sweetrottenpeaches 2 years ago
I wish the girlfriend would know about this. It melted my heart. ❤️
georgios pahatouridis 2 years ago
Depends on if they are from the USA. They say I love you after the first two dates.
tabithapaquette98 2 years ago
Not everyone. I've been with my husband since I was 19 years old. We married when I was 23. It took awhile for him to tell me. But it made me very happy. And of course I told him "I love you too".
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#4
Last September.
There was a recent shooting here. While it was happening, my kids were getting texts on who it was and all of their internet postings.
His intentions were to shoot up their high school on the first day of class. He got impatient, and instead shot up our local grocery store a week before.
My daughter asked me if she could skip the first day of school. It was that moment that I realized our society had completely failed our children. We talked about it and she mentioned that everybody thinks it is pathetic that older people have completely given up on them.
That is when I realized that they are just as intelligent as we are...and they realize that all of us adults are "Pathetic". We just let people kill them and they recognize that.
Tamra 2 years ago
And no one even needs to question what country this is in. This situation is an appalling black mark on my country. A shameful, criminal situation that shows no signs of being changed for the better. It's infuriating.
Saint Tim the Godless 2 years ago
The country needs to be broken up so most of us can enact civilized gun laws, and the rest can murder each other as they seem to prefer.
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Min 2 years ago
Sorry you got downvoted, have an upvote from me to counteract it!
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Yep, your mass shooting problem is pathetic. PS, this note is from the 3rd world. Even with our problems which are ridiculously huge, we look at you who have everything, and you are shooting up your schools for 15 minutes of fame on a tv show. THAT is pathetic.
Saint Tim the Godless 2 years ago
Progress in our country is blocked by a minority (30%) of crazy people because of how our laws are structured. Our system is set up so that unless almost absolutely everyone agrees, we can't change anything. We've given dead people more control over our laws than the people living today.
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Bored Trash Panda 2 years ago
On the 5th of this month, I woke up to a message from our school district that there were anonymous threats to schools in our county, but they did not have information about specific schools. We kept our son home that day, as well as like half the school.
Steve Robert 2 years ago
If you vote Republican you are part of the problem and not the solution. WTF is wrong with you people?
Sophie Frankel 2 years ago
A few weeks ago when the anonymous threats towards schools in New York were happening, my cousins school was one of the schools called
Tim Nicebutdim 2 years ago
Bill Hicks: "There's no connection between having a gun and shooting someone with it, and not having a gun and not shooting someone.... and you'd be a fool and a communist to make one."
#5
A couple of years ago I had a dream about my mom. I was just talking, catching up, then I remembered she passed away. I just hugged her and started crying, yelling 'I miss you!' She hugged me back and said 'I miss you too.'
Then I woke up and cried for 30 minutes.
Thomas Lourenço 2 years ago
The same thing happened to me las month, same situation same words. It's been a year, love you mom.
Ryan Edwards 2 years ago
56yo guy here. My father died 8 years ago. Immediately following his death, I dreamed about him almost every night. He still shows up in my dreams on a regular basis - usually when I'm under a lot of stress. In my dreams, he & I are doing the most mundane of activities ... driving to the hardware store, preparing a holiday breakfast feast, playing ping-pong. Lots of talking and joking. At some point, I always ask him to join me for something in the near future ... "Dad, do you want to see that new movie this weekend?" His response is ALWAYS THE SAME ... he chuckles and jokingly looks at me like I'm an idiot and says, "You know I can't. I'm dead". My dream immediately goes from silly nothingness to gut-wrenching sadness. I end up getting emotional and begin crying in my dream. At some point, I wake up and find that I am actually crying. Wish he was still around for any mundane activity. I miss him.
Tamara S 2 years ago
What a cruel dream. Maybe one day that last part will disappear.
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BookFanatic 2 years ago
I have those about both my (gone) parents. I fully believe that they're coming back to check up on me.
majandess 2 years ago
Yes! In my experience, there is something different about these kinds of dreams. They feel like they're taking place in an alternate dimension, rather than in the scape of normal dreaming. And I'm totally with you on believing that the peeps we're missing are stopping by to say hello.
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Poppy 2 years ago
I dread this as it's likely to be my future. My mum has Alzheimer's. She's still living on her own right now with support from me and a cleaner but each day a little bit of her disappears. It's heart breaking. I've cared for her since I was 14 and she sustained a spinal injury at work. We are very close. I can tell her moods, I know if she's annoyed with me or not etc. I see her every day when I go to make sure she's taken her meds and eaten and drunk enough water etc. I put her meds out for her for the day, I take her to appointments, I take her shopping all just so she can continue to have some independence. I know that when she eventually succumbs to this disease I will be broken. I know my dreams will be filled with her, I will wake up and the reality that she's gone will crash over me and I will be crushed once again. I saw my dad go through this when his wife died. I dread the future.But I have to be strong for her.
Tamara S 2 years ago
My heart breaks for you. You're mom is so lucky to have you. All respect.
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Keith Williams 2 years ago
I lost my mom 6 years ago on June 16th. There is no real "getting over it". There's times I still cry about her passing. Also, it marks when my entire family fell apart.
Hseed 2 years ago
I lost my father almost 5 years ago. There's not a single day that I don't miss him and think about him. Everything is a bit worse since he passed, my mother has lost her spark, and all my family is kind of lost... please please please cherish your family and friends. One day they won't be there. And it hurts like hell. I never cried as much as I'm doing since he's gone. So I really get you, Keith. Big hugs for you, mate.
Load More Replies... ROSESARERED 2 years ago
I dream about my dad...part of grieving and missing him.its so hard. Everyone tells you this, but until it actually happens there is no compression how hard it is. I wish I could just break down for a few days, look at photos and cry. Dad would not want thst, he'd want me to get on with living while I can. Our days on earth are shorter than we think...do what you want to while you can. Don't wait for, when I...., just do it.
#6
January 4th. On January 1st, I got a message from my dad that the family dog had a stroke and passed away in the front yard.
During the time before I stood at his grave just before I left to head back to my home, I just didn’t cry, I was questioning why I wasn’t.
Then standing at his grave, just a rush of emotions came in and just sobbed my heart out, then got in the car with my girlfriend and had to drive home.
His name was Snitchel and he was a good 14 year old pupper.
I’m 21, so he was a part of my life for about 70% of it. Was hard to say goodbye, especially because I wasn’t able to see him on Christmas because I got Covid, and I didn’t get to see him open his Christmas gifts like he usually does, during Christmas and in general during his final days.
freakingbee is going offline 2 years ago
i'm so sorry. losing a dog is one of the hardest things in the world.
android_brandi 2 years ago
Oh friend, I'm crying with you reading this. It's never easy. He is still with you.
Grace and Lucy 2 years ago
Hope your heart is mending. We put one of our pups down in December and our family sat and cried most of the day. I get annoyed when someone tries to be helpful by saying, 'you can get a new dog'. They don't understand how every dog we have had was different. Each pup had their own personality and character. Dogs give us love and affection and each pup does it so earnestly and so true.
#7
Two weeks ago. When it really hit me how much I let my managers abuse me. I quit a few days later and I start my new job on the 27th.
Awkward Froggy 2 years ago
YAY! You got out of a toxic relationship with your work, that deserves a round of applause!👏👍
#8
December last year, my wife shared with me that we are pregnant.
It’s something we have both wanted for such a long time, when she showed me the test I was so happy I just burst into tears right in front of her.
Needmorecowbell 2 years ago
It was so wonderful to read this one after all the heartbreaking ones.
#9
Six months in the NICU will break anybody.
Qadgop the Mercotan 2 years ago
I lasted 2 months there during my residency training. Adult ICU was a lot easier (tho no picnic)
#10
3 weeks ago. My best friend took his own life and left behind his wife and 2 kids.
That One Cat 2 years ago
In Christmas of 2021 my dad’s best friend took his own life, probably due to the isolation of the pandemic and that was the first time I had seen my dad cry. Suicide is awful and sadly seems to be the escape from life. Especially in men.
#11
May 2021. My wife had a cerebral stroke. I thought that I will lose her, by death or by being a vegetable/incapable of communication.
I felt like a log at the sea, purposeless, aimless. We have a daughter and I knew that I should remain strong for her, but my wife give me purpose... Without her, I'm incomplete. I'm less.
Just for God's grace she survived with almost no side effects.
StitchIsCuteAndFluffy 2 years ago
I’m so happy for you that everything worked out for the better! I would be scared to death if I lost my mom like that.
Noyfb noyfb 2 years ago
Guys, this delusional “remain strong” idea is killing you. A miracle your wife survived. May you have many healthy years with her.
cdubaya 2 years ago
My wife had a stroke on 12/1/22. We're still dealing with it. She's about 75%, she lost most of her right side, but she is all good for the most part. Still drags her right foot when she walks, she can't use her right hand that well, and she can't drive (Virginia automatically suspends DL's for 6 months for her type of stroke) but it DOES get better, I promise you.
#12
Today, I am freshly 18, homeless, 0 contact with my family and in deep s**t :)
ambiguous Fox 2 years ago
OMG, I hope you find a place to live immediately. I hope you have friends that can support you. I hope your luck starts to turn. I wish you ALL the best! <3 <3 <3
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Load More Replies... Weasel Wise 2 years ago
I'll offer more than warm wishes, actually helpful advice: PLEASE LOOK UP EVERY SINGLE PROGRAM IN YOUR CITY/COUNTRY THAT IS DESIGNED TO HELP AT RISK YOUTH!!! My nephew was almost in this position (he was freshly homeless the day he turned 18 & to finish high school on time, he couldn't come live with us), he took my advice, and found a wonderful woman that worked for one of these programs. She helped him find his own apartment, find furnishings for it, get a job, and get his schedule organized. He graduates next month!!! Again, PLEASE TAKE ADVANTAGE OF EVERY SINGLE PROGRAM NEAR YOU THAT HELPS AT RISK YOUTH!!!!
Emma Goransdottir 2 years ago
This break my heart! If you live in Sweden you are welcome to me❤️. I wish you all the luck in the world.
JuniorCJ82 2 years ago
Families that do this to (basically) kids like this deserve a fresh place in Hell. That is so wrong. Godspeed, young person.
Rwby Couch 2 years ago
OP, I hope you find good people in your life, way better than your family, and that you know that we are rooting for you.
Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
I used to be homeless. The best advice I can give is make a schedule you stick to every day and try to get the job asap if you don't have one. DON'T TELL THEM YOU ARE HOMELESS. They don't need to know. Libraries, hospital waiting rooms and public transport are indoor places you can stay at for hours and no one will notice. I used to wash my hair in hospital sinks on the weekend when the showers were closed at the homeless services center. Find out where you can shower and try to do so every day. Apply for food stamps and medical. I'm sorry for you but this will make you strong for life. I was homeless for 8 mos but could still be now if I had given up. I did these things every day. I wish you all the best and hope your situation changes for you very soon for the better
Pheonixvatoreii 2 years ago
I really hope you find a good, clean, safe place to stay. Whatever scars (internal, external) your family have left on you may hurt for now, but believe me there is light at the end of the tunnel, and things will get better. There are incredible people out there who will go to the ends of the earth to help you. You just need to find them. Wishing you all the best my friend. Have hope
Nancy Marine 2 years ago
I wish I could help this kid. My kids are grown and I live alone. It would be nice to have an eager kid in the house again.
Carole Strawn 2 years ago
I think it is terrible that foster kids are considered adults at 18 and just turned out on the streets with no resources. An 18-year-old is NOT an adult. They need an education, a job, and a safe place to live. We are failing our children in so many ways in this country. It is heartbreaking.
#13
Few weeks ago. Friend died. Cried myself to sleep for a few nights.
Steve Robert 2 years ago
I lost my best friend of 50 years because of alcohol. We met as freshman at UCLA sharing a dorm bedroom. Really miss him so much!
#14
Tonight. My best friend told me that I don't make her happy, and that she doesn't want me in her life anymore.
I'm in love with her.
Despite the username, I'm a man, not a lesbian.
StitchIsCuteAndFluffy 2 years ago
Sometimes it’s scary to open up. Also, we don’t know the full story. Let’s try not to judge.
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#15
5 minutes ago, my dad died of cancer recently.
devotedtodreams 2 years ago
I feel you, OP. Cancer sucks so hard, there are no words for it. Lost my Dad to it almost 4 years ago, and there have been many tears because of it.
ambiguous Fox 2 years ago
I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope someone is there to show you ALL the love and support you need. <3
Mary Mosher 2 years ago
You never really get over the loss ... my Dad died of cancer when I was 14. It gets a little less intense as time goes by, but every so often it just hits me, and I'm sobbing uncontrollably. I'm 63 now.
#16
At the hospital with my 2 year old daughter. She just had a seizure in the waiting room. I felt so lost and useless...
But it cut the wait time down to seconds!
B 2 years ago
As someone who cares for a person with medicine resistant Epliepsy. It's ok to feel helpless you stand there thinking I wish I could fix this, but it's an electrical storm inside their brain. Go to every Dr appt ask the questions even if they seem dumb. Keep a notebook record of the seizures to show the Dr. Be diligent about them taking their meds & don't make a big deal of the seizures. The thing I learned from taking care of my husband is just be the face they see when they come to. They need reassurance they are ok. We have been through a fractured spine from a bad seizure, teeth knocked out , multiple head injuires etc but the one constant is he knows I will be there at every Dr appt & when he wakes up I will sit with him
BannedFromABoatShow 2 years ago
As an adult when I started having seizures, epilepsy is an angry disease. I hate that I worry my family. My daughter’s first memory is of me having a seizure in front of her. But as a child growing up with it, believe me when I say your support will help immeasurably, and help her not to feel ashamed. I envy her for your strength.
BeepBoop is Lonely (she/they) 2 years ago (edited)
I have epilepsy. My first seizure was in December 2020 (what a great way to end the chaotic year). It was actually on Christmas lol. I don't remember anything before that, besides waking up in the hospital. I don't remember waking up that morning, or talking to my family. Present opening got pushed back for everyone to make sure I was okay. I've been on a lot of meds, and we actually recently changed them around because of horrible side effects, and I've been doing good. I haven't had a seizure since we took me off of them in the hospital (one week stay for a study). They're working great and I feel great now. I don't know if I could deal with a family member having epilepsy. It seems so scary
cdubaya 2 years ago
One of my children (M 13yo) had a stroke at like 2yo. He had a temp of 102 at the time and I stupidly told my wife to put him in a cold bath...instant seizure. I stayed home with our 1yo daughter while my wife went in the ambulance with him. After 11 years I still blame myself for that.
#17
Earlier today. Reading a story about a 6 year old kid that was gunned down by his s**t step-father.
His gap-toothed smile in the photo set me off. I cannot comprehend the capacity to harm children like that.
Tamra 2 years ago
Any form of violence against children or animals always breaks my heart. I just can't take it.
Rivers of Belief 2 years ago
I am right there with you and elderly included
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Rocky 2 years ago
Violence and abuse against children is why I can never speak about children like they're nuisances, or however else they're spoken about by some people who don't want kids. BoredPanda has that sort of derogatory talk against kids A LOT and it's normalized that an opinion like that is valid. It isn't a very educated opinion to generalize children as those bad things. Adults are almost-always at fault. They're innocents. My heart sinks everytime, for anyone and being. People are cruel.
censorshipsucks 2 years ago
I am amazed that the EU is fussing about Madelaine McLean - one missing child - for like 20 years - but USA has mass gun death every day for kids and they carry on as if that is normal. F*****g pathetic.
BeepBoop is Lonely (she/they) 2 years ago
when we had a school shooting a few hours away from my school, we were all terribly affected. We had had a lockdown the day before, and we later found out it was because of the school shooting that had happened. It broke a lot of us. We were terrified to go to school. It affects people in the area. I don't really hear about the shootings that happen in other states, but that does not mean it's normal. No one thinks that it's normal.
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I don't remember. I feel so sad and lonely sometimes but I still can't cry. I wish I could cry like a kid again.
Ray Ceeya (RayCeeYa) 2 years ago
NO. I love Miyazaki, but I can never watch that one again. I was destroyed. I'm glad I watched it, but it is a movie I only want to ever see once.
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Rwby Couch 2 years ago
Crying isn't a sign of weakness, remember that. People who think that Crying is weak, they can stfu. We got your back OP.
Min 2 years ago
Give yourself permission to cry, please. If you can't, then I give you permission to cry.
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Mary Kelly 2 years ago
if you are sad but having trouble crying, that could be a sign of clinical depression...which is a misnomer...clinical depression usually involves going numb...please see a therapist
unknown 2 years ago
I've become so callous. I'm often on the verge but nothing happens. It's frustrating, I just want to get it out but can't, but when something does set me over I cry for about 30 seconds until my brain tells me I can't cry.
Noyfb noyfb 2 years ago
It’s not your brain telling that. It’s other men — and they’re tragically wrong. Ignore them.
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Lee Butcher 2 years ago
watch the lastest Lewis Capaldi video, that will make you cry in seconds
#19
Hey man, let me tell you, it's been a while since I last cried. But, that's not because I'm trying to be tough or anything. I just haven't been in a situation where I felt like crying. I think it's important for guys to recognize that it's okay to cry and show emotions. The last time I cried was when my grandpa passed away a few years ago. It was really tough to say goodbye to him and I couldn't hold back the tears. It felt good to let it all out though, and I think it helped me to process my emotions and come to terms with his passing. So, guys, don't be afraid to cry when you need to. It's a sign of strength, not weakness.
kansasmagic 2 years ago
Well said - several of these posts are variations on the theme of "being brave/strong," which is really just a way of saying "do not show emotion." It's not healthy. I increasingly think that it is important for adult men to have adult male friendships that allow for openness and vulnerability, and for men to support each other. Some men rely only on their girlfriend/wife for emotional support and it can be too much for one person to bear.
RandomPersonOnline 2 years ago
Is it weird sometimes I just want to cry but I don’t have a reason? Like, every now and then I just feel sad, and I can’t imagine not crying for years
#20
My wife died.
Rwby Couch 2 years ago
Stupid Onion ninjas... these posts are so sad. Why is this world so effing terrible?!
BeepBoop is Lonely (she/they) 2 years ago
kind of off topic, but why does that dude look like he's kneeling in front of a paper grave? It just doesn't look real idk
DubMaccaT 2 years ago
Grief is hard, nothing anyone will say will make it better. There are charities and others in similar situations. I lost my wife too unexpectedly then my Mum a year later. I found myself a sole parent to a 4 year old. Reaching out helped me, there are subgroups for discussion about multiple topics. You are never prepared for what arises afterwards. Cry, get through each day as best you can, move forward as best you can, don’t be disappointed if you can’t, and please don’t hesitate to reach out if you need help.
#21
December 9th, my twin brother (26) passed away.
#22
I have a cat, one day he got sick and when the vet checked on him he said he needed to go to surgery right away, the chances of survival were low. Came back home that day bawling my eyes out thinking it was all over, he was so happy and normal one day and the next he was at risk of dying. Luckily the two surgeries went great and he survived.
Rivers of Belief 2 years ago
My guy passed away while I was at work. Took him to the vet and wasn't there for him. Can't seem to forgive myself.
#23
A few days ago. Broke down due to stress over everyday things.
StitchIsCuteAndFluffy 2 years ago
I noticed your username. I hope everything gets better for you. (And for you too, OP!)
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BatPhace 2 years ago
This needs to be higher. So many of these are because someone they love passed, people, especially men, need to understand that no one is built to handle the amount of stress we as a world are currently under for very long without breaking down and releasing some of it. Crying is better than violence
Bill Kubeck 2 years ago
If you had the strength to break down and cry, then you have the strength to recover. It's the men who can't cry who break.
#24
I’m deeply, chronically depressed, so about twenty minutes ago.
Maggie Fulton 2 years ago
As someone who has suffered from depression a lot, please talk to a trusted friend or relative if you can. Contrary to what some people say, medication can help, although it may take a while to find something that works.
Nice Beast Ludo 2 years ago
Keep your head up friend. We have all been there at some point I think. I am there every few days myself. I hope you have some kind of support system or SOMEONE to lean on at least.
#25
I've been posting this a lot lately: several weeks ago my former best friend and neighbor either broke into my house or had someone else do it for him and stole money from me. When I confronted him about this he physically assaulted me. The punches and the throwing me into the hedges cracking my ribs didn't make me cry, I took it, but later on when I realized he was in only using me and our friendship was completely a sham and was permanently severed is when I broke down.
I still haven't gotten over it. My ribs are finally healed and the bruises are gone (I do have a nasty scar on my eyebrow though that might never go away), but even today I still feel sad over losing what I thought was a good friend.
shawna Reich 2 years ago
no dont get even be a man and walk away from it...thats terrible that happened to you, im so sorry
Maggie Fulton 2 years ago
Cry all you want, dude. You deserve a lot better than this. If you have access to therapy, it might help to talk to someone not involved in the situation.
Bill Kubeck 2 years ago
Spiritual pain is worse than physical pain, and the worst spiritual pain comes from betrayal like you suffered. I'm so sorry you had to endure that.
tabithapaquette98 2 years ago
Betrayed. You were betrayed. That is a horrible feeling. I'm so sorry. You will make new, real friends.
#26
Recently, some cats on Reddit are just that damn cute.
majandess 2 years ago (edited)
I wish I could upvote this more. My heart breaks for the people sharing their posts of trauma and grieving, and I think most of humanity understands that crying happens after that sort of loss. But I want everyone to feel safe and comfortable enough that when the kitties are just THAT DAMNED CUTE, your eyes leak a little, and it's OK.
#27
Last night, a picture of me and my buddy who took his life couple years popped up.
#28
A few months ago as I picked my dog up from the side of the highway. She was a prolific digger and liked to wander.
freakingbee is going offline 2 years ago
i'm guessing from the past tense that it didn't work out well :(
Kalon Suszko 2 years ago
This could be my brother and his dog...Jack Russel Terrier, would dig 3 feet deep under the cinder blocks my brother put into the ground to try and stop "Elvis" from getting out, but she still did. Disappeared for a few days, and was found at the side of the road....hit by a car :(
#29
3 years ago...
At my father's funeral.
The Sassy Wife 2 years ago
My husband and I have been together for 23 years. I had never before seen my husband shed a tear or heard that emotional voice crackle until the day of his mom's funeral. The moment his eyes welled up, myself and our five children lost it. It was such a heartbreaking moment to see him so fragile and lost. This was a piece of him that none of us had ever seen before. My MIL was an absolute angel of a woman and the extraordinary bond they shared showed that day.
Noyfb noyfb 2 years ago
He was “fragile and lost”? You should understand that you had never let him be emotionally crushed. He set an impossible standard for himself — and for your sake, and somehow you and your children adopted that same, awful ideal. There is hope, though, for him and all of you. Let him fall apart sometimes; he’d do it for you.
Load More Replies... S. E. in Indiana 2 years ago
I am so sorry for your loss. Last year I lost both my father and mother. They were married 67 years. Mom died on March 3, 2022, and dad was ready after he lost her. He died August 8, 2022. Exactly 5 months and 5 days after her. I rejoice in knowing that they are together again. But I really miss them. I am tearing up writing this now.
#30
About 2 years ago, was dealing with a lot of work an personal s**t, was at my limit of s**t I can handle. I get a phone call that a childhood friend that I've known since we were 4 died in a car accident.
StitchIsCuteAndFluffy 2 years ago
Oh no. I’m so sorry that happened, and I hope things got better for you over the last 2 years.
#31
Few days ago. Every time I watch the tiktoks of my teen daughter growing up. I mean grown a*s man slobbering ugly crying. She’s my baby.
#32
My friend died drunk driving and I cried a little bit. But then like 2 weeks later we were watching Leverage and this old lady was trying to save frogs and the tech girl was like, 'this isn't why we're here but I got this'. And the way she said it made me just start baling over my friend who died.
#33
Last week. Just really struggling to get good rest. I was barely getting 4 hours a night and I was just feeling all the anxiety, hurt and stuff I've been carrying for a while now. I felt extremely alone, used and just absolutely manipulated and just useless. It's those dark nights where you feel like you could just disappear and no one would notice.
#34
The birth of my son and daughter!
StitchIsCuteAndFluffy 2 years ago
Hey, this is a happy one! I’m glad that you cried tears of joy. It’s nice to see happy posts sprinkled in here amidst the sorrow.
#35
About two weeks ago when my SO was diagnosed with an incurable disease, it's not terminal but it's still a gut punch.
Shark Lady 2 years ago
I'm the one with the chronic illness but I think it's harder for those who love me, they can't do anything to take away the pain and have to watch as I suffer. I think my mum and daughter have it the hardest.
Wysteria_Rose 2 years ago
I understand this. It's horrible because you just want them to be healthy and have the best quality of life, but instead you have to witness them go through pain and illness without an end in sight. You're not alone, though it may feel like it.
#36
I was laying on the couch staring at the ceiling and my eye teared up from being open too long, and I was like "I forget how this feels", so I let em keep going, wasn't sobbing but multiple tears running down, felt good.
shawna Reich 2 years ago
i'm not emotional person but when i saw my neighbors cat from 2 doors down wait for me when i got home for work after not seeing him for 2 days, i started leaking...been told that i was crying lol
#37
Everyone seems to be posting serious stuff, but actually the last I cried was a few weeks ago when I watched ep. 3 of The Last Of Us
#38
Visited my long distance girlfriend a couple weeks back. Those last days are always the hardest. Said goodbye to her, came back to my hotel room and wept. I’ll be flying to see her again soon enough though, it’s all just part of being long distance (for now).
Wysteria_Rose 2 years ago
Husband and I were long distanced, so I feel you entirely! We'd be at the airport in tears because we never really knew when we'd get to see each other again. We've been married for nearly 9 years now and are happy to say we don't have to go through that again. Keep strong!
insert name here 2 years ago
Hope that goes better for you than it did for me! (Incidentally the last time I remember crying)
#39
Yesterday, I'm still dealing with the untimely loss of my dad.
#40
The very last time I cried feels like a stupid reason so I'll not specify that, but prior to that I had cried back in september at the passing of my aunt. She had stage 4 cancer and I was unable to contact her or talk to her or even go up on an emergency trip to go see her before she passed when everyone else in the house had at least gotten that chance. She was the greatest person and it stings to this day that I couldn't get a chance to say goodbye.
Rwby Couch 2 years ago
Crying isn't stupid. Also, I'm so sorry about your loss. She sounded like a good lady
shawna Reich 2 years ago
well...i hadnt seen my neighbors cat in 2 days which was unusual and when i saw him i cried like a baby and its not even my cat but i was so happy...its stupid bc its not my cat lol
#41
About a month ago. My mom was diagnosed with Stage 4 cancer.
#42
I cried in my car on Wednesday. I feel like I'm under so much stress already, and dealing with grief is definitely not helping. I called my aunt and she invited me to her house and gave me some soup and I calmed down. Everything still feels kinda scary though.
#43
Cried today watching a Hawaiian dude audition talk about his dad who passed away a few months ago and all three judges were chocked up. He sang a James Blunt song about a father and son and it was so powerful and deep.
freakingbee is going offline 2 years ago
he's awesome. my mom and i have been watching all of his songs.
#44
Today. My grandson went off to Air Force basic training, and I fell apart a few hours later when it really sunk in. My wife and I were very heavily involved in raising him and his sister, and I deliberately tried to steer him in the direction of my interests, aviation being one of them. We'll see him in a couple of months when he graduates, but man, it's hard to watch them drive away knowing that this chapter is over.
Susan Ciochetto 2 years ago
I remember when my son left for the Air Force just broke my heart. Cried for days flew to see him graduate from basic then flew home the day before 9/11 cried for months knowing my son would be going to war. Still cry for all those people who lost their lives and my son who ended up going to the middle east.
#45
Last night… I heard “Follow You To Virgie” by Tyler Childers for the first time and memories of my mom hit me like a freight train. She’s been gone for 28 years now but when you least expect it the water works can come out of nowhere. Felt good if I’m honest.
#46
Recent breakup. Everything was going great and then one day she just said she wasn't attracted to me. Really hurts one's self-image.
#47
Had a panic attack on the freeway two weeks ago the day after my girlfriend dumped me. That involved a lot of anxiety tears.
#48
Sunday. I was lonely.
Junebugjump! 2 years ago
I'm holding you in my heart right now. Loneliness is an awful Place to live. I read Consolations by David Whyte, I found his essays super helpful. Recasting negatives into something deep and thoughtful. Makes me cry, but feel comforted at the same time.
#49
In September when I was dealing with the loss of my mom and my sister. Overcoming the grief has strengthened me beyond what I thought possible. I've taken the pain and used it for productive means and it's really changed me.
#50
Last week. When returning from a super bowl party, my wife and I talked about our friends coming over soon. Not sure why, but I started tearing up thinking about our friend that passed away the week after my son was born. She was so full of life and energy, as my son is also. Just sad that they don't get to meet in this life to fully smile from one another.
#52
Last year, when I was reading the mistborn series. One of my favourite characters died and he had a great personality.
CelticElff 2 years ago
Which one? There were many. I recently re-read it for like the fourth time. Really enjoy them.
#53
January 2022, I was depressed for a very long time (2008 until beginning of last year. I didn’t realise I was depressed). It got much worse the last year due to relationship/friendship stuff and decided to deal with it. Went to therapy for two sessions thinking the reason was the relationship stuff. I stopped going to the sessions when I realised that I basically had tonnes of suppressed emotions from bullying, getting beat up, harassment and exclusion from people that I thought were my friends while growing up. So I went from not crying for more than a decade to twice per week for a few months. Haven’t cried since.
#55
I have had a few recently. Each time holding my infant daughter who is napping on me. I keep making the mistake of watching The Last Of Us during these times... Hits soooo much harder as a parent.
#56
Today, thinking about someone who no longer is in my life and how i wish things could have been different.
#57
The day my wife took my son away from me and moved out. 2002.
censorshipsucks 2 years ago
Time to move on and meet someone new. I hope you have a good relationship with your son.
#58
The end of Marley and Me, reminded me of my doggo, had to put him down at 6 years old due to aggressive cancer :(
#59
A month ago when speaking about the possibility of having to do a long-distance relationship if I get sent to a different state for residency after medical school. I did LDR with my last girlfriend for three years and have a lot of trauma from it. I swore I’d never do it again. Now I’m in love with someone new and am working on breaking down barriers that I’ve put up to protect myself. I think during the conversation it all came crashing down emotionally.
#60
Last night. Talked to my girlfriend, now ex, about all the great moments that we had. Now it's time to move on and get used to a feeling of emptiness, I guess.
#61
Probably a couple years ago when I last rewatched The Martian. The drive across the dunes at the end with the music in the background always gets me.
#64
Few weeks ago when I decided to watch the video of Happier by Marshmellow.
Bob Harnan 2 years ago
That is such a sad video. I haven’t seen it since before the pandemic, but if I think about int makes me sad
#65
The Rick Roll episode of Ted Lasso, and episode 5 of Shrinking (Potatoes)… and I’m pretty sure I cried a bit watching every episode of TLOU so far… idk man, media really gets to me sometimes.
#66
Last night. I miss my ex-wife.
cdubaya 2 years ago
I'm on my 3rd marriage and I missed my 2nd wife badly even though it was a toxic relationship on both our parts. I never thought I'd meet anyone again. Then, one night on Valentines Day about 15+ years ago, a co-worker invited me out so I wasn't just sitting at home alone. I had just texted my ex about how much I missed her and she said "no you don't" and then a beautiful woman sat down at our table and asked me who I was texting. She is now my 3rd wife. We have been together since then. It WILL happen, and it WILL happen like it did to me, when you least expect it.
#67
I last cried probably a few months ago thinking about school. I was in a bad spot with procrastination.
#68
Last night, watching the last few episodes of Derry Girls. Such a wonderfully told story. Plenty of laughing and crying, stellar show.
#69
During Avatar 2, cause I’m a parent and they made me watch a kid die.
J-Stryker666 2 years ago
Spoiler Alert!!! Not that I was gonna watch it anyways lol just not my cupa tea!
#74
I cried of Arthur Morgan’s death. wheresaldopa replied: There ain’t much that can make me cry, but Arthur’s last ride and the soundtrack that goes with that scene completely wrecks me every time.
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3 Trash Pandas (She/They) 2 years ago
How do these people go years without crying? I cried just this morning because it's my last day of school. So many damn memories crammed into one room got me choked up.
crowspectre (he/they) 2 years ago
A few days after my first boyfriend broke up with me. He came out as aromantic and since I'm hopeless in general I was absolutely crushed. I'm very stupid so I had thought it was a forever thing (everyone does when they fall in love for the first time I think) and i was having mental breakdowns every night blaming myself for f*****g up something perfect. It's been a bit and I still miss him, but we're staying friends and I'm more mentally alright now. I can definitely see why he broke up with me tho I'm overwhelming even for me. That was the first time I cried in like three years tho (not counting the time I tore my arm open and was awake for the stitches cause I barely cried then)
Evan not Hansen 2 years ago
Hey if he's aromantic he didn't break up because you're 'overwhelming', he broke up with you because he realized who he is, and that true self isn't one that romantically dates people. Don't put yourself down because of this, I know it's hard but you will find someone someday. <3
Load More Replies... devotedtodreams 2 years ago
On Monday, my Mom and I went to see Hans Zimmer live in concert. At the very end, there was a medley of Lion King songs, and the tears came. No sobbing, but just tears, both of happiness and sadness, all these emotions I felt due to the music. Aside from that, I've been high-strung for years now, so tears of frustration and/or rage are not too uncommon with me. And of course, missing my Dad (passed in 2019), and when I get scared of losing my Mom, who is my only anchor.
Tobias Reaper 2 years ago
a few years ago now i proper cried when my mum had a heart attack she was in hospital i called work the next day to tell them as didnt feel up to working when my manager came on the phone i got as far as saying my mum had a heart and i just broke down luckly she is ok now she has heart issues but has medication and has taken steps to improve her health
Sooploosh MacSchnibble 2 years ago
I was watching that scene in Godzilla vs Destoroyah where he melts away and it always gets me.
Michael Largey 2 years ago
When one of my students died after a long and agonizing battle with brain cancer. A battle she knew from the beginning that she could not win.
Ray Ceeya (RayCeeYa) 2 years ago
Honestly, around 11:30AM today. I was re-reading my favorite Terry Pratchett novel, Reaper Man. The ending gets me every time.
Jill Bussey 2 years ago
Both my parents died some years ago and I miss them both, but my dad more so. I have so much I want to tell him. How proud I am of my children and grandchildren, how much technology has moved on, etc. I can't speak about him - even now - without choking up.
3 Trash Pandas (She/They) 2 years ago
How do these people go years without crying? I cried just this morning because it's my last day of school. So many damn memories crammed into one room got me choked up.
crowspectre (he/they) 2 years ago
A few days after my first boyfriend broke up with me. He came out as aromantic and since I'm hopeless in general I was absolutely crushed. I'm very stupid so I had thought it was a forever thing (everyone does when they fall in love for the first time I think) and i was having mental breakdowns every night blaming myself for f*****g up something perfect. It's been a bit and I still miss him, but we're staying friends and I'm more mentally alright now. I can definitely see why he broke up with me tho I'm overwhelming even for me. That was the first time I cried in like three years tho (not counting the time I tore my arm open and was awake for the stitches cause I barely cried then)
Evan not Hansen 2 years ago
Hey if he's aromantic he didn't break up because you're 'overwhelming', he broke up with you because he realized who he is, and that true self isn't one that romantically dates people. Don't put yourself down because of this, I know it's hard but you will find someone someday. <3
Load More Replies... devotedtodreams 2 years ago
On Monday, my Mom and I went to see Hans Zimmer live in concert. At the very end, there was a medley of Lion King songs, and the tears came. No sobbing, but just tears, both of happiness and sadness, all these emotions I felt due to the music. Aside from that, I've been high-strung for years now, so tears of frustration and/or rage are not too uncommon with me. And of course, missing my Dad (passed in 2019), and when I get scared of losing my Mom, who is my only anchor.
Tobias Reaper 2 years ago
a few years ago now i proper cried when my mum had a heart attack she was in hospital i called work the next day to tell them as didnt feel up to working when my manager came on the phone i got as far as saying my mum had a heart and i just broke down luckly she is ok now she has heart issues but has medication and has taken steps to improve her health
Sooploosh MacSchnibble 2 years ago
I was watching that scene in Godzilla vs Destoroyah where he melts away and it always gets me.
Michael Largey 2 years ago
When one of my students died after a long and agonizing battle with brain cancer. A battle she knew from the beginning that she could not win.
Ray Ceeya (RayCeeYa) 2 years ago
Honestly, around 11:30AM today. I was re-reading my favorite Terry Pratchett novel, Reaper Man. The ending gets me every time.
Jill Bussey 2 years ago
Both my parents died some years ago and I miss them both, but my dad more so. I have so much I want to tell him. How proud I am of my children and grandchildren, how much technology has moved on, etc. I can't speak about him - even now - without choking up.
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