Guy Picks His Family Male Name For Future Kid, Has A Fight With Wife After It Turns Out It’s A Girl
When naming a child, it’s imperative to remember that you’re naming an adult who will grow up to be their own person. Sometimes, parents choose names based on vibes, which can lead to surprising results. As someone who has heard names like Willobed (Willing and Obedient), Endurance, Evidence, Patience, and Governor, I can tell you, some names are more peculiar than others.
Our story today features one such situation. A soon-to-be father is determined to name his daughter “Stuarta” (yes, you read that right, Stuart with an “A” at the end). His partner vehemently disagrees with this decision and has taken to the internet to express her concerns.
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Selecting a new baby name is typically one of the most important decisions new parents make for their child
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Our poster today is determined not to allow her husband to name their child, even though they had earlier agreed on the name
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The name was meant to be a boy’s name, but upon discovering they were having a girl, the author changed her mind
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Her husband, on the other hand, didn’t share the same sentiments and wanted to give his baby girl the same name
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The author is currently looking for solutions that do not have a ‘ta’ at the end
Our couple of the day is expecting their first child, a baby girl. The soon-to-be parents initially agreed on a traditional boy’s name, Stuart Jr., to honor the father’s family lineage. However, discussions surrounding their daughter’s name have reached an impasse.
The husband has proposed naming their daughter “Stuarta,” a variation of his own name formed by adding an “a” to the end. The wife strongly objects, citing concerns about the name’s awkward pronunciation, lack of femininity, and potential for teasing throughout her daughter’s life.
She has presented alternative options, including names with similar sounds or meanings to Stuart, names her husband previously expressed interest in, and even starting over entirely. However, the husband remains fixated on “Stuarta,” believing it honors his family legacy while offering their daughter a unique name.
Commenters offered interesting solutions, with one suggesting that the husband gets to name only one child after himself. If he chooses “Stuarta,” then there will be no “Stuart Jr.” in the future if they have a son. Now, here is the thing with names: beyond their function as labels, they carry a wealth of sentimental value. They can be a bridge to our heritage, connecting us to ancestors and family history. For some families, continuing a tradition of naming children after relatives strengthens the sense of belonging and reinforces family identity.
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However, it’s important to remember that sentimental value doesn’t negate practicality. We’ve all heard stories of parents who named their children after pop culture icons or fleeting trends, only to regret it later. Case in point, parents who named their kids Daenerys Targaryen after Game of Thrones early seasons, only to be left with a slightly awkward choice after the series finale. The wife understands the emotional weight the name “Stuart” carries for her husband, but she’s right to be concerned about the potential burden it places on their daughter.
A name so uncommon could lead to isolation. Children are often drawn to familiarity, and a name that’s difficult to pronounce or understand might make her a target for teasing or exclusion. Imagine a young girl constantly correcting classmates and teachers, struggling to explain the unusual name’s origin. This constant barrage could erode her confidence and make her feel like an outsider.
A resolution Pregnancy, Birth and baby recommends in cases like this is to anticipate any potential nicknames, initials or first/last name combinations that may arise from your choice. Try saying the full name aloud a few times, and see how it sounds to you and your partner. Remember that your child will have this name for life, so consider any issues this may cause in the future. You should also keep this in mind if you are considering choosing a name that is unusual or has an unusual spelling.
If you have an unusual name or know someone with an unusual name, we want to hear from you. Tell us about your experience in the comments below and do you think the poster is well within her rights to be concerned?
Commenters found the name absurd and proffered solutions to help the author
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Compromise: The OP can choose the name. Any girl’s name she wants, so long as it ends with an ‘a’. Her husband can then change his name to that very name - less the final letter. Everybody’s happy.
I never liked the "giving family names" or "homage names" to a child... My real name is used by 95% of women in my family and even my cousin has the male version of that name. My mother chose my name to honour her grandmother. I know it's supposed to be a homage, a tribute to a person she loved, but I just feel like my name isn't mine. I've always hated my name because it's an old one, a very used one, and I feel like it doesn't represent me.
I think those names are good for middle names. I seriously believe that is what middle names are for.
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More than a bit I reckon. I could understand if it was the name of a grandfather who raised him or some kind of sentimental reason, but just because it's his name is unseemly. I knew of a Johnna (which doesn't sound quite as bad, but still it's obvious translation is "oops you're not a boy") and guess what, she's got a younger brother called John Jr.
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To "honour" himself?! What's next, call the dog Stuardo and the second weekday Studay?
To honour him I am changing the name of my town to Stuart-under-Wyre. It's the least I can do
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How pathetic and full of himself is he just for the male name? Worse yet, burdening a daughter with his ego?
Does he see himself as a medieval king who has to name their first born after themselves, leading to some strange nicknames?? (Like "Harry" for "Henry")
What about just using Star? Similar, without being matchy, and ridiculous.
OK but Patience is actually a classic name, I've seen it in kids books my mum passed down to me (35F). // Stuarta is so bad it's almost beyond ridicule. **NOTE** "Almost". There will be ridicule. A lot. And it will be deserved, only sadly it will land on your daughter and not on your cockwomble of a husband.
Sometimes reading these posts I wonder, how I, a bit eccentric but very reasonable person, am single and these weirdos are married and are also procreating. And I also would like to ask the wives of these kind of people: you really really didn't see any sign of the immense stupidity of your partner before?
Reminds me of My Big Fat Greek Wedding, when Gus is introducing the family to the Millers.
Congratulations on new life that name belongs on the subreddit for bad names. It does sound like some weird brand of furniture. I laughed hard at that. Incase your husband is hoping the name will pick up with more people nope. Still awful. Well will honoring the person who gave her life. That should never be mentioned again unless it comes up when your baby has babies. Please I don't care if you have to secretly name her not Stuarta. Your child will go by her middle name for life. Absolutely NOOOOOOO. Do not do this to your daughter. Divorce if necessary.
If you want to help Stuart to honor the name, you could consider variations of the name Stuart that are more traditionally feminine. Here are some suggestions: Stella Scarlett Stacey Simone Sabrina Susanna Stephanie Selena Sylvia Serena These names maintain a connection to the name Stuart while also being suitable for a baby girl.
Omg your husband is a narcissist! I won't mention nam other than this person is quite famous for being in a reality show. He and his partner had a boy and named him Paul after him, but she then had a girl and he suggested Paulette. I hate him because he's narcissistic and this just put the nail in the coffin for me. His partner is lovely and she named her girl not him. It's her who's famous not him. I wil say that his behaviour has improved, I'm not a fan.
My father has two nephews whose first names are his first and middle names, my brother is his name junior and my nephew (my brother's oldest) is his name the third. Fortunately, the names are not unusual, so there are no real issues, but it does seem like a lot of name sakes.
What a narcissistic POS that guy is. No need to add more stupid names to the ones already being used by bogans
If "STUART" is so important to him, maybe he can live with a compromise?: hide all these letters - but sprinkled - in her first and middle name, like an Easter Egg, not too obvious for outsiders, just for you: like "TulaSA RUTh" /"chARloTTe SUsannah"....or whatever you like both.(I hid my partner's first name in our daughter's first and middle name, he didn't know before, and he really appreciated the gesture.(Because her Her last name is mine. and he is such a great dad).)
The post explicitly says she wants to steer away from names with "ta" at the end. Also, those are AWFUL suggestions anyway.
Load More Replies... Compromise: The OP can choose the name. Any girl’s name she wants, so long as it ends with an ‘a’. Her husband can then change his name to that very name - less the final letter. Everybody’s happy.
I never liked the "giving family names" or "homage names" to a child... My real name is used by 95% of women in my family and even my cousin has the male version of that name. My mother chose my name to honour her grandmother. I know it's supposed to be a homage, a tribute to a person she loved, but I just feel like my name isn't mine. I've always hated my name because it's an old one, a very used one, and I feel like it doesn't represent me.
I think those names are good for middle names. I seriously believe that is what middle names are for.
Load More Replies... More than a bit I reckon. I could understand if it was the name of a grandfather who raised him or some kind of sentimental reason, but just because it's his name is unseemly. I knew of a Johnna (which doesn't sound quite as bad, but still it's obvious translation is "oops you're not a boy") and guess what, she's got a younger brother called John Jr.
Load More Replies... To "honour" himself?! What's next, call the dog Stuardo and the second weekday Studay?
To honour him I am changing the name of my town to Stuart-under-Wyre. It's the least I can do
Load More Replies... How pathetic and full of himself is he just for the male name? Worse yet, burdening a daughter with his ego?
Does he see himself as a medieval king who has to name their first born after themselves, leading to some strange nicknames?? (Like "Harry" for "Henry")
What about just using Star? Similar, without being matchy, and ridiculous.
OK but Patience is actually a classic name, I've seen it in kids books my mum passed down to me (35F). // Stuarta is so bad it's almost beyond ridicule. **NOTE** "Almost". There will be ridicule. A lot. And it will be deserved, only sadly it will land on your daughter and not on your cockwomble of a husband.
Sometimes reading these posts I wonder, how I, a bit eccentric but very reasonable person, am single and these weirdos are married and are also procreating. And I also would like to ask the wives of these kind of people: you really really didn't see any sign of the immense stupidity of your partner before?
Reminds me of My Big Fat Greek Wedding, when Gus is introducing the family to the Millers.
Congratulations on new life that name belongs on the subreddit for bad names. It does sound like some weird brand of furniture. I laughed hard at that. Incase your husband is hoping the name will pick up with more people nope. Still awful. Well will honoring the person who gave her life. That should never be mentioned again unless it comes up when your baby has babies. Please I don't care if you have to secretly name her not Stuarta. Your child will go by her middle name for life. Absolutely NOOOOOOO. Do not do this to your daughter. Divorce if necessary.
If you want to help Stuart to honor the name, you could consider variations of the name Stuart that are more traditionally feminine. Here are some suggestions: Stella Scarlett Stacey Simone Sabrina Susanna Stephanie Selena Sylvia Serena These names maintain a connection to the name Stuart while also being suitable for a baby girl.
Omg your husband is a narcissist! I won't mention nam other than this person is quite famous for being in a reality show. He and his partner had a boy and named him Paul after him, but she then had a girl and he suggested Paulette. I hate him because he's narcissistic and this just put the nail in the coffin for me. His partner is lovely and she named her girl not him. It's her who's famous not him. I wil say that his behaviour has improved, I'm not a fan.
My father has two nephews whose first names are his first and middle names, my brother is his name junior and my nephew (my brother's oldest) is his name the third. Fortunately, the names are not unusual, so there are no real issues, but it does seem like a lot of name sakes.
What a narcissistic POS that guy is. No need to add more stupid names to the ones already being used by bogans
If "STUART" is so important to him, maybe he can live with a compromise?: hide all these letters - but sprinkled - in her first and middle name, like an Easter Egg, not too obvious for outsiders, just for you: like "TulaSA RUTh" /"chARloTTe SUsannah"....or whatever you like both.(I hid my partner's first name in our daughter's first and middle name, he didn't know before, and he really appreciated the gesture.(Because her Her last name is mine. and he is such a great dad).)
The post explicitly says she wants to steer away from names with "ta" at the end. Also, those are AWFUL suggestions anyway.
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