30 Things And Experiences That Feel Beyond Bad, As Shared By Folks Online
Hate is a pretty natural feeling towards an enemy. But there are things most of us would never wish upon anyone, even our enemies. There's a very fine line between human and monster in that regard.
But we as a species need to talk about feelings, whatever they may be. And folks on Reddit have been talking about feelings quite a lot recently. Feelings that most of us don't really experience and hence don't think about. But we should. Cause it fosters empathy, and that's something we can never have enough of.
This one Reddit thread has been going viral—garnering over 43,000 upvotes and 60 Reddit awards—where folks shared the worst and most painful feelings, experiences, and situations they've ever had to go though.
Scroll down to read their stories, and, fair warning, it does get very sad and very depressing at times. So, if you feel overwhelmed, take a breather and come back whenever you're ready. But do come back, because this is real, and we need to talk about this.
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A few years ago I euthanized an elderly woman’s elderly cat. She’d lost her only daughter to cancer and her husband the month before.
I asked if there was anything I could do for her. She looked down at her cat in her arms, started to cry, and between sobs said “I just want my family back.”
If you find something worse than sitting there powerless as an old woman’s heart breaks over the sudden and permanent loss of all of her loved ones, you have my profound sympathy. Because that was awful.
The grief from the [passing away] of a loved. Lost the love of my life after her 5 year battle with ovarian cancer. We were happily married 31 years. It was like someone had cut open my chest and ripped my heart out.
Keytoemeyo said:
Feeling like a burden (so you never express yourself and end up feeling very, very alone).
Thoth74 replied:
This is the [effin'] worst. When you just want to talk about what is bothering you but you don't want your [problems] to bring anyone else down. People will tell you to talk to a therapist but you can't even bring yourself to be a burden to someone being paid for it.
When you are deeply depressed and people cannot understand it, as you have always got family or friends or professional support, but you feel that you are a burden, that these people are only supporting you due to obligation, and that everyone would be much better off if you were no longer around. Burden plays a huge part in depression.
After_Ad9814 said:
A combination of monotony, boredom, insecurity, and anger, along with the need to get out of bed every morning because you have things you need to do.
Klashus replied:
Everyone knows a functioning alcoholic. People usually don't know about the functioning depressed person. I'm not late sometimes because I'm lazy... it's literally the hardest part of the whole day. Finding a reason not to say [screw] it. The only reason you don't just stay home is because at 20 and 10 jobs ago you realized it doesn't work. So you slog through 50-60 hours of soul crushing activities to just exist how you're supposed to.
lilnicky-1205 said:
When you suddenly cannot breathe properly and your heart beats hard in your chest from the pain of knowing you can never see or talk to someone ever again.
Capital_Pea replied:
I’ve lost so many people in my life from my teens to now (50’s) this feeling has just been something I’ve always had to live with, and it never goes away. It does become less frequent for some of my loved ones as the years go on but then i lose someone else and it starts again more frequently.
I lost my dad 5yrs ago, I still get that same punch to the stomach, choked feeling when I realise I'll never see him again. I don't expect that feeling to ever go away. My mum better live to 100 at least, my dad was only 59, we were very much not expecting or prepared for it
[deleted] said:
When someone you trusted betrays you.
SolidLikeIraq replied:
I was going to say: that feeling when you catch someone lying to you, and the way they did it was so nonchalant and normal, that you have to then question anything they’ve ever said with confidence.
just-existing-here said:
Watching someone you care about mess up their life. All you can do is watch.
longwalktoday replied:
I tried so hard to help my younger brother with his alcoholism and I couldn’t. It was a feeling of dread, desperation, hope (he was good at saying the right thing). It’s hard to watch.
I can somewhat relate. I had a short relationship with someone I really loved, but everything broke down due to alcohiolism in a combo with BPD (drama, fights, crying shouting). As I am 6 months sober now, I understand what a pain I have caused this guy. It's sad to see someone who you care about ruin it all.
living_sunshine said:
Trying hard to make friends but failing , honestly nothing worse than talking to yourself in a group of people.
Fluffyturtle225 replied:
This hit me harder than most other things here. I've spent my entire life just trying to find someone or some people to hang out with but I'm just the awkward outcast all the time. I have no one to be with physically.
I've been trying to find hobbies that'd be interesting and enjoyable to me for years, I've come up blank. And on the topic of just talking to new people, that is so [friggin'] hard. I get scared of talking to current online friends just because I feel like I might accidentally insult them somehow, actually walking up to someone and saying "hi" is a monumental task I can only attempt once in a blue moon. Not to mention due to my lack of aforementioned hobbies, I have basically no conversation topics and so when I do say hello to someone I just kinda shrink away immediately. Not to mention I also cannot interact with groups of people very well, usually becoming a silent observer.
I wish everyone a good day.
I cannot keep a conversation going to save my life. But i can listen! I am good at that! So yeah.
I’m a good listener too, and one trick I have is to go into every conversation looking for The Follow Up Question. I have noticed that most people love talking about themselves if they have someone who is willing to listen and show interest. And since I DONT like talking about myself, it keeps the conversation going without me having to do a lot of talking. Plus I tend to learn something new. Hope this helps and good luck to you!
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I find this touching. I can carry a conversation with complete strangers and appear social but find it very taxing. I too have few friends despite this and often feel alone regardless of how many people I know or talk to. It is a constant struggle between wanting to be alone yet have human contact. I often leave feeling more awkward nd alone than when I came.
I’ve been an outcast all my life. Always the oddball, never included in anything. Now I just refuse invitations so I won’t get my hopes up.
I have social anxiety. It's gotten better with therapy and I have been able to talk to a few of my neighbors, but I still replay every conversation in my head over and over again and get anxiety about things I said, should not have said, etc. It's so frustrating, but I am slowly getting better. Posting on here has also helped, too. You guys are pretty cool. I can't help but think that it's just a matter of time before I post something colossally stupid and have to stop posting. My brain sucks.
Wow it's as though I've written this myself. I hear you, I never have anything to talk about either other than what's wrong with me
For all of you single shy hard to make friends with types.... I'm just now married 2 years ago and I'm 36. He is my bestfriend and the only one I really have at the end of the day. I don't hang out with people either cause I'm always socially awkward. It's okay. You just have to be you, stay you.... someone will find you and love you for you ❤
Whenever I'm with my friends and I actually talk, it feels like I'm talking into a void. It's like everyone takes for granted that I'll just sit quietly in the back and listen.
I struggle with that, I really need someone to hang out with
I feel this- I feel like I only stay in contact with a lot of people because one friend organizes it because I find it hard to initiate that sort of thing- until recently when I caught up with a friend who I hadn't seen for more than 10 years, who now happens to live only a couple of streets away!
I have people I chat to at the school gates, that we'll hang out while the kids play together etc, but outside of that I don't seem to maintain relationships too well, apart from a few but they live far away - I seem to have a knack of attracting drama seeking people and I have zero tolerance for peoples made up drama over mundane everyday stuff, although the last time I walked away from a "friend" it was because she lied and made this big drama about my neighbours kids saying she does porn and came crying to me all upset etc, turns out she has done porn and it was well known in our wee town, making me defending her look like a complete idiot. Couldn't care less if that was her thing, would've had no issue with it at all but it was the fact she came to me acting the victim and offering this story when no one had even hinted at it - was a situation she created - I'm now very wary of getting too close to anyone. Covid hasn't helped
Fluffy should get a horse, the confidence, the bonding and trust that can be built is unbreakable, impenetrable. Not to mention women love horses 🤠😉
Oh gosh I really feel this one , as an introvert and not a good conversationalist it's almost impossible for me to make friends , and lacking confidence because I don't keep up with society's beauty standards nowadays doesn't help, I'm so sorry
I think it might be even worse to need friends but not want any. I’m constantly fighting myself about it.
I have experienced this too. Start a hobby by taking an adult class like photography or pottery and sculpture. There are lots of weekend classes at libraries and art galleries.
I'm afraid I've accepted the fact that I'll always be the silent observer, I have friends but even among them I feel like an outsider, they've even made comments about how I'm often very quiet and tend to watch, it's because the only hobbies I have is smoking green, playing videogames and photography but none of my friends do those things we just skateboard together and I don't even do it that much because I'm not that interested in it. I love my friends don't get me wrong but it sucks to have people who love you but you're constantly feeling like an outsider and lonely asf thus you don't talk much, you tell them what's bothering you and it's just a whole thing. TL; Dr I feel lonely in this world and no matter how many people I surrounded myself with or at least try to I never feel like I actually have any friends.
I can’t seem to make real friends to save my life. If I do have “friends” I only ever hear from them when they need something. They ignore my msgs. Or they end up talking about me, mocking or belittling me. There has to be something wrong with my personality, I just wish I knew what so I could fix/hide it. You’d think I’d learn and stop trusting people but I’m apparently an idiot to boot. I must really be a horrible person but shouldn’t I know it? I don’t know, I just wish I had a real friend
I get that, it's a deep feeling of being alone in a room full of people. I get that a lot, always. I'm 61 and still have only one friend who I seldom see cause she works a lot. Luckily I did find a man to marry and had two kids but lately I've been alone in a house with 4 people in it so good and bad. Stop looking, sometimes two people are both looking for the same thing and keep missing each other. I gave up on love and it found me. You put pressure on yourself when looking, when you stop looking no pressure. Keep smiling, you are your own best friend.
It’s hard to fit in. Best way is to volunteer. You will be thinking of others and find like-minded caring people! Life-changing.
I can be an awesome extroverted introvert, but still no friends - at least not in person, have 2 good ones online - because they feel I'm different and I find their personalities not being a match to mine. So we all know we're not compatible. Hurts sometimes, but it has become easier over the years.
Perhaps you are put on this Earth to be a good listener? Lord knows there are plenty of good talkers out there. If you're comfortable just listening, perhaps that is your Gift. Few people are good, active listeners.
This hit me harder than the others. Feel like all my "friends" abandoned me the second they could... which sucks because I tried my best to support them when they asked for help with their stuff... but when I just want to hang out with a friend, they're all busy. After I stopped texting them first, I realized another diaheartening thing: that we only ever hung out because I reached out first. No one ever messaged me first to invite me somewhere or to just hang out. Guess there's something wrong with me, but I can't for the life of me figure out what it is. Idk... thanks for reading this. You didn't have to and I appreciate that. I hope you're doing well.
Oh, my, how I understand this! I can't keep a conversation going, to even try to start on is so hard. Then, someone starts to talk to you, and what do you say back? You sit there looking and feeling like a fool. Good luck to you!
You sound like a person I would approach. You just need a bit of a nudge to come out of your shell
Once you get the courage to say hi to someone (which is a big step in itself) start asking them questions about themselves...most people love talking about themselves, and it helps to get a convo going. Also, this is coming from someone who has been diagnosed with social anxiety, just keep at it and whatever you do, DO NOT let yourself keep locked up in your home and away from people it just makes it harder and harder to interact the next time.
This is so true it hurts. I have been living in Ireland for 7 years now and I have one friend. I have no idea how to make friends because I love reading and writing and those things you do alone. I don't seem to be able to have a proper conversation with anyone I meet... It's like people stop talking when it's not about them anymore. Am I the only one feeling like that?
I can relate I never know what to say and if not approach first I won't hardly talk to anyone. It sad sometimes I will set alone a lot everywhere and people will be talking it as if I'm not there
Fluffyturtle225, if you see this, I will be your friend! If you want to, respond to this comment with contact info, and I will vreak the ice. I believe in lifting the people around me up, I'm a great listener, and Id love to get to know you. Nobody should feel trapped alone like that. I am sure you are a lovely, interesting person with a lot to offer, and you're not alone out there, even if it feels like it. You have worth!!!!
I have a control issue. If I know the situation and have an inkling of where it's going to go, or how I want it to go anyways, I can converse easily (such as calling up for help with a product). When it comes to stuff like this, I always fail. I've never understood how to human, and much less how to idly chit chat, so I just...don't.
My hobbies aren't hobbies I talk much about. I do some crocheting. But talking about slip stitches, single crochets, double crochets and whatnot is downright boring. But you have thoughts, you have things you find interesting, you probably even have a collection of knowledge that is useful for nothing. Like that hippo milk is pink. You are more than your hobbies and there are a lot of suckers for awkward people. (Shout-out to all of you. You're my people)
How about a parent telling you they don't love you?
When I was 12 my father got another woman pregnant, so decided to divorce my mother for other woman. On his last day coming by the house ever, he came into my room to say goodbye and as he was leaving he told me, in pretty much these exact words, "I want you to know that I don't love you anymore and I am going to start a new family now. You probably won't ever see me again." He then walked out of my room. I ran out of my room screaming and crying holding on to my dad's leg begging him not to leave as he dragged me down the hall, my mother screaming/crying, to have him basically shake me off, curse, and bolt out the door. Next time I saw him I was 17.
It was a pretty messed up thing and it REALLY hurt me as a kid.
My mother was amazing and fortunately she remarried within a few years and my step father has been an amazing person in my life. I am 38 years old now so this was a while ago.
Getting news that your sibling has stage 4 melanoma. Our parents have both passed. I have come to the realization that sooner than I thought ever, I'm going to be the only person left in my immediate family. This f*****g sucks.
I am 8 years younger than him, but we have always been very close. He is married with 1 kid. I am married and have 2 kids. But it's just different when you and your sibling have been through so much, you're a team.
*Update: my brother passed away. He had surgery the week prior to put a stabilizing rod on his femur. He declined after that. I'm shattered and I feel a loneliness like non-other.
I am so sorry for your loss. I am the same as you, the only one left after my brother, who was 3 years older than I, passed away suddenly I'm 2017. It gets easier, but absolutely requires a walk through great despair and sorrow.
zvekl said:
Being married but feeling single.
iwantallthechocolate replied:
I felt this for too long. My divorce will be final next month and I've been seeing someone who makes me feel like I have a marriage even though we are just dating. Don't stay with someone who refuses to make an effort for your basic needs of feeling loved, valued, and appreciate.
SoFastMuchFurious said:
"We need to talk" and then when you text back right away, they don't text for hours.
mochikitsune replied:
My boss used to do this to me like "come see me in my office".
It was to show me a cute video of his cat 99% of the time and 1% was to check in and make sure i was not burnt out. I still get a heart attack and its been four years.
peanutbuttermuffs replied:
I had a boyfriend text me “ can you come over? We need to talk”. I was wearing my favorite shirt, so I went home and changed first. I knew I was getting broken up with and didn’t want the memories tainting my view of the shirt. I was right. And I still like that shirt.
The shirt ones makes me sad. I have this lego heart necklace. The last few times I've worn it bad things have happened to me. Didn't wear it for the longest time to check my theory & when i wore it again my best friend said they didn't want to be friends anymore. I can't wear it anymore & I refuse to throw it out. It's hung up on a board pin until I know what to do with it.
damedolla78 said:
Longing to feel one last hug or hear one last laugh from a loved one that is no longer here, and the subsequent pain that consumes your entire being.
Catshit-Dogfart replied:
Also, having a dream about such a person.
It should be a good dream - they're here again, you're with them, you're happy in the dream. Waking up from that dream can be like losing them all over again, so much that you'd prefer not to dream at all.
Oh, the dreams are so gut wrenching. I had one I saw my dad in the hospital after he was meant to have died and he kept running away and hiding from me - I was overjoyed that he was alive but i couldn't get to him, waking up from that dream was horrible, realising he's really gone all over again - it's awful. Mostly I have dreams where my dad is there but he's not the focus, still knowing he'll never just be there like he used to be, bringing tears to my eyes as I type
tvcriticgirlxo said:
Not feeling valued.
cloistered_around replied:
I've just accepted that other people aren't very considerate--but keep in mind that this doesn't mean they don't like you. They just show it in their own ways and that may not align with yours.
When I was going through a really rough emotional time I approached a lot of friends and family to talk about it and keep myself sane. Each and every one talked with me--and each one never followed up again. I was so sad about that for a long time because I was just craving someone to care, someone to say "hey about that thing--how are you doing?" and it never came. But then I finally remembered that they still took the time to sit down with me and talk about it at all! Maybe they just thought it was over or I'd call them again if I needed help. I can't really judge them based on how I was feeling at the time, because they weren't going through the same anguish and although they wanted to support me that doesn't mean they "get it."
Anyway long story short I try to not do the same thing to other people now. If someone mentions they're having trouble sure I'll be there for them--but I also try to follow up and make sure they're okay later (even if you have to set a reminder in your phone). We can be the person we wanted to have.
OldandBoldDude said:
Loneliness.
TheIowan replied:
I like talking to old people, but sometimes the type of loneliness they talk about is so heartbreaking. One lady in her 90's told me how it just didn't feel like the current world was made for her, and that everyone she really related with was either dead or basically completely incapacitated.
I worry about my dad a lot. He lives with me, but these days he only really comes out of his room later in the afternoon and we watch a couple of hours of tv together. He has no friends (hasn't for most of his life) and has social anxiety. He tried online dating years ago, but really wanted a friend more than anything but didn't know how to make those connections. It also makes me sad because I am so similar to him and wouldn't be surprised if I ended up the same way in the future.
The feeling of a full blown panic and anxiety attack. You lose all control and think you are dying and it just incapacitates you for a while. I just had a 2+ hour episode of full blown panic attacks this evening and 3 hours later, I'm still having issues but it's like 35% better now. That, and maybe a more conventional feeling would be despair-anxiety like you're getting called into the boss' and you have zero idea why, but you feel a bad omen like, what did I do?? Am I in trouble for something you don't even know you did. The waiting game sucks.
whosyodaddy328 said:
I know relationships are never 50/50 but loving someone more than they love you after spending years with them. Finding out from your friends that your significant other is sleeping around hurts bad when its 100% unexpected. The heart sinks straight down to your feet and the mind goes down a rabbit hole of thoughts and emotions on why you weren't good enough.
notalistener replied:
Came here to say this exact thing. That betrayal of trust tarnishes your views on so many things for a VERY long time and PERMANENTLY sticks with you in one capacity or another. It’s a “to the core” kind of betrayal if you truly loved them. Not an easy road to recovery on that one. I’ve had to deal with this issue twice and the second time was REALLY unexpected and created a short circuit in my brain. Have never had much for feelings since. Sort of destroyed what was left of my emotional capacity. Been trying for years to restore it, with no such luck unfortunately.
Feeling like your mind is slowing slipping out of your control. To go from a person that was able to remember the faces of kindergarten classmates after 25 years to not remembering pictures that you took of your children last weekend at her first t-ball game; or not remembering the t-ball game at all.
Constantly letting people down because you can't remember to do even the simplest tasks like make a phone call or ask a question. Very little gets committed to long term memory these days. Nearly half of all interactions I have with people that I am asked to recall something result in me admitting I don't recall. That number goes up well beyond half if the thing was from less than 2 years ago.
Walking around in what can only be described as a dream state because of brain fog. Fog that can feel so thick that simple questions start mild panic attacks while I scramble to formulate a coherent response. I used to be a jovial generally outgoing person, but now I prefer to keep to myself because I'm afraid of interacting with people, can they tell I'm losing my mind? Can they tell the point I'm trying to make isn't quite made because I couldn't hold the thought long enough to form a complete thought? Can the people who know me tell that I'm losing it? Is it just me?
The headaches, the headaches, the headaches. I don't know where the headaches come from but they must all be related. The headaches used to come and go, now they never really go, sometimes just dulling down. Actually, they never really come either headaches seem to be ever present.
My executive function (the command and control of the brain) has falling so far from my old self that I not able to take on complex thought activities. I used to write policies and opinions as an expert in my field. Develop complex strategies with multiple steps, triggers, and contingency plans. Now I can't read a page of text without stopping 20 times to re-read, refocus, or gain control of my eyes. It takes hours to write a 5 sentence response email. The information isn't stuck in my head, the filing system in my brain is so jumbled up that the files aren't ever available for recall. (I won't remember it later)
All of these symptoms combine to make me feel like I'm losing control of my own self. I was always a cerebral person, often lost in thought contemplative, deep thought. Now I just get lost. They all seem to move as a team building up each other and strengthening as a group as my mind gets weaker. I might end up mentally absent long before I die. I might not remember my child's first dance recital, I might not remember my wedding day. I might remember those things. I don't know. But it is a real possibility that my mind goes and the slow creep of this possibility into my world is absolutely the worst feeling.
I'm currently working on getting setup with a doctor that does IVIG treatments. (Intraveineous immuno globulin) treatments. Honestly I don't know much about it but apparently there is a thing called long COVID. That this treatment helps. I had COVID in Nov 2020 and although my issues definitely existed before the COVID, they se to be gaining speed and severity in the time following.
PM_ME_BREAD_PICS_ said:
Telling someone about something that happened in the past and realizing that that wasn't normal
DCYHWLSTD replied:
When my therapist told me my first relationship was abusive... All the music and TV I watched at the time fed me this narrative that emotional pain and turmoil were part of the romance.
I couldn't accept the reality of it until they looked me straight in the eye and said "that isn't romance, that is abuse" with the most blunt tone and expression on their face.
They also let me know what Stockholm Syndrome was, and how it distorted my memories.
It was a rough recovery process... but I thank the good Lord that I was able to heal from all that mess.
This is basically the first 34 YEARS of my life in a nutshell. My father is... not a good person. Exceptionally abusive emotionally, mentally, and sexually, yet a perpetual karma Houdini who never paid for any of his crimes. I'm glad he's gone from my life, though it took me half a decade to find myself again after the decades of abuse he subjected me to.
dwalshhh45 said:
Feeling like all you want to do is sleep. Cause the dreams you have are better than reality.
Mcnugz9 replied:
Similarly, like in my case, wanting to sleep because reality is tremendously agonizing, but being scared to sleep because of having vivid and horrific nightmares. The only solution I’ve come up with is distractions and simply laying in bed waiting.
For a number of years after my father passed away, I looked forward to dreaming because I always got to see him and spend time with him and I remembered the dream. I think it was my way of grieving him.
Heatchill209 said:
Realizing you're responsible for your own misery.
FaithlessRoomie replied:
The moment when you mess up and the horror and shock when you realized you made a horrible mistake and you can’t take it back and your life is this way now because of this moment and because of you.
I once got engaged... It was a fantastic proposal, the thing of dreams...I said Yes. My folks were there and everything!! I was caught completely off guard. My mom took us to a build a bear and had a groom and bride bear done for us. I remember waking up early the next morning and the first thing I saw was the bride bear. My heart sank because I knew it was never going to work out. Sure enough my new fiancé got a security guard at his work pregnant. It all fell apart.
Dominus786 said:
Parents who've abused you all your life expecting love 20 years later.
Complete_Past_2029 replied:
My wife is going through this, she’s finally accepted not only that she was abused but that her parents have no [effin'] clue that the [stunts] they pulled was abusive. Now it’s emotional abuse about her avoiding them and not making time for them. It’s a real [mess].
-AskMeIfImADragon- replied:
My mom doesn't understand why my girlfriend and I don't come over more often.
Ohhhh I don't know. Maybe the 15+ years of constant blackmail, yelling, verbal abuse, and a little physical abuse sprinkled in every now and then?
Wow sounds a lot like my mother. Emotional abuse, blackmail and making everything about her. I finally put my foot down two years ago and refused all contact. No regrets
CircuitMind said:
Seeing your friend group do cool stuff without you.
I_fell_on_a_dog replied:
“You’re more than welcome to come to this thing we’ve had planned for a week but you’re now conveniently here so I feel like I need to ask, it’ll be fun!”
Or this one:
“What are you up to?”
“We all just got back from [mutual interest] thing. We’re going to hangout at [friend's name] house for a while now if you want to stop out”
gloomytrait said:
Not being able to open up to the ones you love.
allisonstfu replied:
I have so many walls internally that took me the longest time to really notice and acknowledge. For so long I didn't realize how much I keep people at arms length. Usually because I assume they won't like me (who would?) Or will think I am ugly or annoying (most do) so what's the point? Then you're lonely even in a group and wonder why you never feel connected to anyone. Then you get so used to the lonely that it feels like nothing. Like emptiness. Then you dissociate completely because, nothing feels like anything anyway.
I was either teased to death about everything or had it thrown back in face. Then everyone couldn’t understand why I was so quiet and closed off… -le sigh-
pyschreader said:
When you wake up and there's that split second than you remember something terrible that happened the day before.
emceelokey replied:
For me it's waking up and you have a split second of an empty mind and clean slate then come to your senses and realize you're day is probably going to be [bullbull] because of work!
Brooklyn_Bunny replied:
This happened to me a couple years ago when an ex broke up with me suddenly the night before. Woke up in the morning not remembering what had happened for a second and then immediately started bawling at 8am. It sucked.
When I was 14 my mom passed away, I had to stay the next day at my aunt and uncle's. When I woke up the next day I have (just for a fraction of time) forgotten my mom had passed the day before, I felt "normal" and even with some odd tranquility... Until I realized she was gone, my whole world collapsed right in front of me.
PlaggingMemes said:
Seeing your dad cry...
pickleallergy replied:
My family had never seen my dad cry. The day my family had to leave to go back to Asia (after dropping me off in Canada to study, and it was my first time being away from my family), my dad cried on the phone while saying goodbye to me. My brother stopped crying cause he was in so much shock seeing my dad cry for the first time.
I finally saw my dad cry about a year ago, when his brother was in the ICU due to COVID and we weren't sure if he could make it. Broke my heart that day seeing that.
I've seen my dad cry twice in my (almost) 29 years. When his brother passed from colon cancer and they had to break the news to 8 year old me and then in March of this year when we had to put our 18 year old family cat down. Seeing him sob like that wrecked me.
WhyCantIChangeMyNaym said:
When you want someone or are in love with some but they don't feel the same way towards you.
stupida%sdumbmfa$s replied:
Happened to me last year and the worst part was that I knew it wasn't the end of the world. But my brain would NOT stop thinking about her. I knew it was never going to happen and I wanted to move on but my brain said "NOPE! You're not going to be able to do anything for even an hour without thinking about her!"
Thankfully this was about 7 months ago so I'm okay now but those couple of months were BRUTAL.
Going through this right now. He's the first one I've ever had feelings for since I got out of a toxic 8 year relationship and, of course, he has a girlfriend. A serious girlfriend. I don't stand a chance and my stupid brain is exactly as op said. I can't get over him, even though I know I have to.
8bitdimensional said:
Shame.
IBseriousaboutIBS replied:
I came her to say shame and specifically hangover shame. You just know you’re a garbage person because your insides feel like literal garbage and you can’t remember exactly how much of a [effin'] idiot you were last night but you’re sure it was a lot. Also, your friends are pretending to like you and your career is a joke. Hangover semi-conscious fever dreaming is when you realize you need to get out your skin, change careers, and move across the country where no one knows what a piece of [nothing] you are.
Side note: none of this is true, your mind is just [messing] with you, and maybe don’t do all the shots next time.
OtherIsSuspended said:
Burnout.
nickfolesween replied:
Currently finishing my first year of college and I have no will to do literally anything but sleep. Hell I didn't eat until 4 o'clock today and couldn't even finish my meal which for me, that's very strange, I have never done that in my life. But I'm just completely burnt out and have so much [stuff] to do still. And it makes it even worse that I put it off and then just have this massive mountain of [bullstuff] to do. Finding someone to talk to about it is never easy because everyone says "oh yeah I feel that" and I don't want to take anything away from anyone but it compounds with stress and anxiety so bad and I just never really know what to do except suck it up and finish it out. Don't even get me started with the social weight too and how that whole thing goes. Sorry for the long-windedness, just had to get that off my chest.
I was a almost straight A student for the first two terms of school then I figured out I was trans, dealing with the DYSPHORIA brought my grades down (a couple bs and a C) then I came out and was not accepted and my grades went from straight A’s to two Fs and all Bs, save for one A. It was so hard to try to deal with the trans stuff while working so hard to try to keep my grades up and I felt so much burnout that with the rejection and burnout I jsut stopped doing my assignments in a few classes and chilled till the end of the year.
DuCKnFiRE said:
Tooth pain.
ChasingSuds replied:
OMG YES! I had a molar that needed a root canal. Had it all set up then BOOM! Covid. Lost my job, my insurance, everything.
Fast forward a year and a piece of it breaks off. Multiple infections I couldn’t go get taken care of…
Fast forward ANOTHER year and I’m finally getting it taken out on Thursday.
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Not feeling. I know it probably doesn't make much sense, but when you get bad news or something and you just don't feel ANYTHING at all. You're indifferent to things. Good news or bad news you just don't care. It sucks.
This is a form of depression. There are some medicines than can help... somewhat. I have the (mis)fortune of having a lot of empathy. So I get to experience the emotions of others so I know exactly what I'm missing. There is likely something that is locking your emotions away. Mine were locked away by loneliness. I never made true connections with people. At 50 I've finally made some connections, and the emotions are creeping out. Just be aware that if/when you unlock them, they can be rather overwhelming
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TRIGGER WARNING: Death. I can't bear to read the entire list, but one of the things I'll always live with is the incredibly short but at the same time endless time between me noticing the person committing suicide and my train hitting him. The even longer period until the train finally stopped is a close second. Then there's of course not knowing for certain if he intended it or if me signalling made him freeze like a deer in headlights. The police said he had tried earlier during the day, though he actually wasn't allowed to say anything, but sometimes I still wonder if I could have done things differently and then he'd be alive. Honestly the list of thoughts regarding this is endless and depressing.
That's something you can't easily "unsee". You couldn't have done anything differently, it's not your fault. Hug. Nah, 2 hugs :)
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Getting fired from a job you loved is bad. Getting fired from a job you loved and was really good at because of office politics is horrible. Getting fired at from a job you loved and was good at because of office politics at age 53 and knowing you won’t ever earn the same salary again is one of the worst experiences I’ve been through. I was fired less than two months ago and have had no income since. Petty office politics can ruin lives. Mine is over.
Don't let them defeat you. Life isn't over at 53! You don't know what great opportunities could lie ahead, don't quit!
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The feeling of being lost. Lost in the world, lost in your own mind. When you lose the thing that makes you who you are it crushes you. Makes you feel so many of the emotions that have been depicted here. You can not see a way out and you just drift listing from day to day. Just makes it seem like you don't have a place anymore and people would be better off without you.
I feel you. I don't even think anybody would notice if I were gone. I'm not a part of one person's life. No calls, texts, nothing. I probably wouldn't be here if it wasn't for my bubby(kitty in pic)!
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These hit HARD. Lost my great grandmother less than a year ago, and recently have been suffering a boost to depression, anxiety, and irritability (the smallest thing makes me snap so so easily). I just wish I was numb to it already.
I've lost m' father & only sibling to suicide. 2 cousins I was close with died unexpectedly. I lost m' mum 10 yrs ago ta alcoholism. I found that my identity was (still is)tied to m' family unit & it took me time to reconcile this. You're still processing & there's nothing wrong if you need help w/ this. I did.
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Losing a job because you’ve become disabled and being oh-so-carefully forced out so you can’t sue them. 15 years on a job, with stellar evals……then I had a crippling accident. They began playing “stack the deck” and writing me up for every mickey mouse thing thry could find. Learned in my support group that it’s rare NOT to be treated thst way. There are too many able-bodied people who don’t need accommodations for them to be bothered with you. There are ways around ADA and they know them. It hurt so badly though…,,,the times you covered for your boss, sat beside your director when her daughter was in emergency surgery. All forgotten.
Really unnerving just how many of these take up pockets of my life every day. I often joke with people when they ask about any of the swirling darknesses slowly consuming me that I'd love to feel enough freedom to have a nervous breakdown, but I don't have the time or the financing, so I can't. If only I could afford therapy.
Would have said yall are all whiney but then I saw that only about 4 or 5 items I could not relate too.. so yea im gonna shut up
having one body system fail after another. Since I turned 30, my organs have gone AWOL (some literally). Just got out of hospitalagain, kidneys this time. So tired of it all. But I have a child so I must keep going as long as I am able. It is horrible to continuously fight to get your strength back, just to become illagainand again. Cancer, sepsis, organ removal, rare genetic disease: you name it it's happened. Last one left unaffected is my heart. Here's hoping it lasts.
The use of devastating I recognize myself and a lot of them not feeling like I have anyone talked to no one to share with No one is really interested in the things I'm interested in
Not feeling. I know it probably doesn't make much sense, but when you get bad news or something and you just don't feel ANYTHING at all. You're indifferent to things. Good news or bad news you just don't care. It sucks.
This is a form of depression. There are some medicines than can help... somewhat. I have the (mis)fortune of having a lot of empathy. So I get to experience the emotions of others so I know exactly what I'm missing. There is likely something that is locking your emotions away. Mine were locked away by loneliness. I never made true connections with people. At 50 I've finally made some connections, and the emotions are creeping out. Just be aware that if/when you unlock them, they can be rather overwhelming
Load More Replies... TRIGGER WARNING: Death. I can't bear to read the entire list, but one of the things I'll always live with is the incredibly short but at the same time endless time between me noticing the person committing suicide and my train hitting him. The even longer period until the train finally stopped is a close second. Then there's of course not knowing for certain if he intended it or if me signalling made him freeze like a deer in headlights. The police said he had tried earlier during the day, though he actually wasn't allowed to say anything, but sometimes I still wonder if I could have done things differently and then he'd be alive. Honestly the list of thoughts regarding this is endless and depressing.
That's something you can't easily "unsee". You couldn't have done anything differently, it's not your fault. Hug. Nah, 2 hugs :)
Load More Replies... Getting fired from a job you loved is bad. Getting fired from a job you loved and was really good at because of office politics is horrible. Getting fired at from a job you loved and was good at because of office politics at age 53 and knowing you won’t ever earn the same salary again is one of the worst experiences I’ve been through. I was fired less than two months ago and have had no income since. Petty office politics can ruin lives. Mine is over.
Don't let them defeat you. Life isn't over at 53! You don't know what great opportunities could lie ahead, don't quit!
Load More Replies... The feeling of being lost. Lost in the world, lost in your own mind. When you lose the thing that makes you who you are it crushes you. Makes you feel so many of the emotions that have been depicted here. You can not see a way out and you just drift listing from day to day. Just makes it seem like you don't have a place anymore and people would be better off without you.
I feel you. I don't even think anybody would notice if I were gone. I'm not a part of one person's life. No calls, texts, nothing. I probably wouldn't be here if it wasn't for my bubby(kitty in pic)!
Load More Replies... These hit HARD. Lost my great grandmother less than a year ago, and recently have been suffering a boost to depression, anxiety, and irritability (the smallest thing makes me snap so so easily). I just wish I was numb to it already.
I've lost m' father & only sibling to suicide. 2 cousins I was close with died unexpectedly. I lost m' mum 10 yrs ago ta alcoholism. I found that my identity was (still is)tied to m' family unit & it took me time to reconcile this. You're still processing & there's nothing wrong if you need help w/ this. I did.
Load More Replies... Losing a job because you’ve become disabled and being oh-so-carefully forced out so you can’t sue them. 15 years on a job, with stellar evals……then I had a crippling accident. They began playing “stack the deck” and writing me up for every mickey mouse thing thry could find. Learned in my support group that it’s rare NOT to be treated thst way. There are too many able-bodied people who don’t need accommodations for them to be bothered with you. There are ways around ADA and they know them. It hurt so badly though…,,,the times you covered for your boss, sat beside your director when her daughter was in emergency surgery. All forgotten.
Really unnerving just how many of these take up pockets of my life every day. I often joke with people when they ask about any of the swirling darknesses slowly consuming me that I'd love to feel enough freedom to have a nervous breakdown, but I don't have the time or the financing, so I can't. If only I could afford therapy.
Would have said yall are all whiney but then I saw that only about 4 or 5 items I could not relate too.. so yea im gonna shut up
having one body system fail after another. Since I turned 30, my organs have gone AWOL (some literally). Just got out of hospitalagain, kidneys this time. So tired of it all. But I have a child so I must keep going as long as I am able. It is horrible to continuously fight to get your strength back, just to become illagainand again. Cancer, sepsis, organ removal, rare genetic disease: you name it it's happened. Last one left unaffected is my heart. Here's hoping it lasts.
The use of devastating I recognize myself and a lot of them not feeling like I have anyone talked to no one to share with No one is really interested in the things I'm interested in
