Woman’s Creepy Encounter With A Seemingly Nice Man Explains Why Women Appear ‘Cold’ Sometimes
Women walk a tricky tightrope every day. They’re expected to be “nice” and “polite” and to defend themselves from creepy weirdos who want to take advantage of them. To prove that it’s perfectly OK to abandon the former if you have to achieve the latter, cam girl Lily Evans shared a chilling personal experience. It’s about a man she encountered while walking her dog and the things it led to because she didn’t tell him to fu*k off. Eventually, her rant went viral and even started an interesting discussion about unwanted attention.
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Whether unwanted attention is coming from a friend or a complete stranger, rejecting them is rarely easy. Recent research from Cornell University has some answers to why it sometimes feels impossible to get rid of persistent come-ons. To examine the experience of rejecting someone’s advances, Bohns and DeVincent focused on 942 participants in STEM; the fields of science, technology, engineering, and mathematics. There, sexual harassment is a documented problem. The study was designed in a way that allowed it to gather data about both being the target of an unwanted pursuit and being the pursuer.
The data they gathered point to five main reasons why it can be so challenging to reject undesired romantic advances.
1. Suitors are oblivious to the discomfort they’re creating. They often thought that their targets had more freedom to say no and were more comfortable than the targets reported. Targets “found it difficult,” “felt guilty,” “felt bad,” and “felt uncomfortable” saying no to a significantly greater extent than imagined by the suitors.
2. Suitors don’t think targets are as worried as they are. The professional consequences of rebuffing a colleague are often on the minds of targets who are trying to say no to unwanted romantic pursuits.
3. Suitors don’t realize targets are rearranging their daily lives to avoid them. The research suggests that targets are changing their behavior much more than suitors imagine. Targets are wasting energy avoiding not only the suitors but their friends as well. In some cases, it gets so uncomfortable that targets are even considering other places to work, just so they wouldn’t have to deal with these unwanted advances.
4. Suitors do not see their attention as distracting. When targets are trying to say no without causing a stir, their work productivity drops. In other words, the harmless flirtation that a suitor thinks they are engaging in is actually negatively impacting the target’s everyday life far more than they could imagine.
5. Suitors aren’t aware of their target’s reputation concerns. Targets of unwanted advances in professional settings worry about what an unwanted suitor might say about them after a rejection way more than the suitors typically imagine.
Lily’s story started an interesting discussion
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I cannot recall a time when a stranger in a street approached me just to be polite or sociable etc, there was always a motive behind a small talk.. Normal men do not chat women up in streets. And yes, I been keeping severe migraine look on my face walking down the street for many years now exactly for the same reason - not to catch psychos attention - it helps.
Yes! I walk with a purpose and a non approachable vibe and it works most time.So many times a male will say smile never a woman always a man.Well sorry I don't walk with a smile on my face, it's a safety measure. I have had far too many lewd comments and have learned not to invite conversations with strangers. Sad but true.
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Oh God, check the downvotes of the real stories about how creepy individuals approached them for no reason and get too personal and things get scary. The question is who's downvoting such a thing...
A similar thing happened to me years ago, except it got physical a lot quicker. A man walked up to me and my puppy and grabbed his lead in order to "help me walk it". Not a single passer-by has reacted in broad daylight in a major city centre, despite me saying very loudly that I wanted this man away from me repeatedly. "Lucky" me, a couple of male classmates passed by, but I literally had to beg them for help and the creep followed us for a good 800 metres before they realised that I'm not overreacting and chased him off.
I cannot recall a time when a stranger in a street approached me just to be polite or sociable etc, there was always a motive behind a small talk.. Normal men do not chat women up in streets. And yes, I been keeping severe migraine look on my face walking down the street for many years now exactly for the same reason - not to catch psychos attention - it helps.
Yes! I walk with a purpose and a non approachable vibe and it works most time.So many times a male will say smile never a woman always a man.Well sorry I don't walk with a smile on my face, it's a safety measure. I have had far too many lewd comments and have learned not to invite conversations with strangers. Sad but true.
Load More Replies... Oh God, check the downvotes of the real stories about how creepy individuals approached them for no reason and get too personal and things get scary. The question is who's downvoting such a thing...
A similar thing happened to me years ago, except it got physical a lot quicker. A man walked up to me and my puppy and grabbed his lead in order to "help me walk it". Not a single passer-by has reacted in broad daylight in a major city centre, despite me saying very loudly that I wanted this man away from me repeatedly. "Lucky" me, a couple of male classmates passed by, but I literally had to beg them for help and the creep followed us for a good 800 metres before they realised that I'm not overreacting and chased him off.
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