Someone Apologizes For Blindly Hating On Women Without Seeing The Full Picture, Gets Mixed Reactions
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As we get older, our perspectives change and we gain the ability to look back differently on events we remember. We can only hope that one of those changes is being able to look back with more empathy.
This Tumblr user’s post about some famously vilified women highlights how easily pop culture and news can take sides against certain figures and the public can latch onto it. That negative impression can take years or decades for us to reconsider as adults with empathy for someone whose personal life ended up in the public eye, and without something to prove to our peers by laughing and agreeing with vicious headlines.
The post gives examples of women who were viciously mocked for situations that spiraled out of their control and did the most harm to them, as well as those who were reduced to casting or creative choices that didn’t go over as well as expected and stuck to them for the rest of their careers to come.
A Tumblr user made a post taking back the judgmental statements they’d believed
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*We note that while the user writes that Monica Lewinsky was assaulted, Lewinsky herself describes her 1996 affair with then-president Bill Clinton as consensual, but indeed a “gross abuse of power.”
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Commenters were quick to start debating some of the points made in the apology
Others agreed with the author of the post and added their own thoughts
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I'll add - Taylor Swift for looking at her like if there's anything wrong with having a couple of boyfriends. Miley Cyrus for criticizing her for experimenting and growing up her own way.
Sergio: What is wrong about multiple relationships? As long as they're consensual - there's no issue. She's not hurting anybody by it.
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Not so sure about Taylor Swift, but agree on Miley.
Even at 19 I never judged Lewinsky, but I still think Linda Tripp is a snake for exposing Lewisky against her wishes.
You're being too hard on snakes. Some of them are pretty cool
Of course they're cool. They're cold blooded ;D (btw, I have nothing against snakes either)
While she has acknowledged the imbalance of power, Monica Lewinsky has repeatedly said that her encounters with Clinton were consensual. To call her a victim of sexual assault is to deny her agency.
Consensual but he was in a position of power, he should have been the responsible one. But I get your point. I just still think many of us (including myself) should look into their conscience and realize that the amount of judgment that she received was nowhere close to the size of her mistake. And therefore she definitely has her place on the list of famous women that many of us owe our apologies to.
Absolutely. A girl barely over the age of 20, propositioned by the most powerful man in the world. There's a huge power dynamic there that seriously compromises consent.
I was more inclined to believe her to be very ill-used until it came out she *kept the dirty dress*. That's a power play on her part, even if it wasn't her idea originally. Again, she consented to keep that dress... For what reason? It had DNA. It was evidence. It was something to use for her benefit at a later date. So, either she's got agency as an adult... or she's just a victim all around, which is something Lewinsky herself denies.
Yeah she got caught up in the excitement. She would never have let Clinton touch her if he wasn't the president.
Thank you. Consent in an ongoing affair is far different than coercion, and for some people (I can't speak to Lewinsky) the power imbalance is part of the "rush".
And Clinton repeatedly denied it even happened, so.... It is all about power. In the USA all it takes is implied quid pro quo by the person in power and it is sexual harassment. Hands off. Period.
I'll add - Taylor Swift for looking at her like if there's anything wrong with having a couple of boyfriends. Miley Cyrus for criticizing her for experimenting and growing up her own way.
Sergio: What is wrong about multiple relationships? As long as they're consensual - there's no issue. She's not hurting anybody by it.
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Not so sure about Taylor Swift, but agree on Miley.
Even at 19 I never judged Lewinsky, but I still think Linda Tripp is a snake for exposing Lewisky against her wishes.
You're being too hard on snakes. Some of them are pretty cool
Of course they're cool. They're cold blooded ;D (btw, I have nothing against snakes either)
While she has acknowledged the imbalance of power, Monica Lewinsky has repeatedly said that her encounters with Clinton were consensual. To call her a victim of sexual assault is to deny her agency.
Consensual but he was in a position of power, he should have been the responsible one. But I get your point. I just still think many of us (including myself) should look into their conscience and realize that the amount of judgment that she received was nowhere close to the size of her mistake. And therefore she definitely has her place on the list of famous women that many of us owe our apologies to.
Absolutely. A girl barely over the age of 20, propositioned by the most powerful man in the world. There's a huge power dynamic there that seriously compromises consent.
I was more inclined to believe her to be very ill-used until it came out she *kept the dirty dress*. That's a power play on her part, even if it wasn't her idea originally. Again, she consented to keep that dress... For what reason? It had DNA. It was evidence. It was something to use for her benefit at a later date. So, either she's got agency as an adult... or she's just a victim all around, which is something Lewinsky herself denies.
Yeah she got caught up in the excitement. She would never have let Clinton touch her if he wasn't the president.
Thank you. Consent in an ongoing affair is far different than coercion, and for some people (I can't speak to Lewinsky) the power imbalance is part of the "rush".
And Clinton repeatedly denied it even happened, so.... It is all about power. In the USA all it takes is implied quid pro quo by the person in power and it is sexual harassment. Hands off. Period.