Mom Demands Woman Be Thrown Out Of Restaurant After Hearing Her Yell At Her Boy In The Bathroom
Kids in public spaces can be a lot. Sometimes it’s because they’re loud and upset and other times it’s their inexhaustible energy bank that makes them run around in circles. Either way, they can be annoying. But can you really do anything about it as a stranger?
In the following story, the author got annoyed because a boy, for some reason, was in the women’s bathroom. She thought that was wrong so she didn’t hesitate to interfere. However, she didn’t get the reaction she expected from everyone else. In fact, it only landed her in trouble. Scroll down to see what happened and whether the Am I the [Jerk] community justified her actions.
Rambunctious children in public places can be quite a nuisance for those trying to enjoy the calm of being out and about
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However, sometimes, just like in the following story, it’s the grown ups that cause a scene and not the children
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The mom might have been just trying to keep her son safe
While we can’t be certain of the reasons behind the mother’s decision to bring the boy to the ladies’ restroom, we can presume it might be because she was trying to keep him safe.
One might think that it is a little overbearing as the kid is already 10 years old. However, public bathrooms are not be as safe as one might assume. In fact, there are multiple cases of minors getting assaulted in restrooms, with their parents waiting just outside the door. The kids in some of those cases are even older than 10.
Sure, the situation is a little different when it’s the parent using the bathroom and the child is waiting outside the restroom. In this case, the child is not left in a vulnerable position when they have to relieve themselves. Still, this can be problematic. Letting your kid out of your earshot for a few minutes might lead to them wandering off and getting lost or meeting someone who wants to take advantage of them. Whatever the reason, it’s understandable for the parent to want to keep them close.
The author overstepped by yelling at the child
Attacking a child who was simply standing by the sink and not causing any trouble is a gross overreaction. Yes, one might be curious why the child is there, but cussing them out is simply not the course of action you should take. After all, they’re a child. Maybe they are hiding in the bathroom because they are scared of someone outside. Maybe they are looking for their mom. Maybe they need help.
If you do think a child might be in trouble, ask them about it. Ask if they know where their parents are. They might let you know if something has gone wrong. However, also remember that majority of kids will have been instructed to avoid strangers, so don’t get offended if they don’t want to talk to you.
In any case, don’t just shout at them. Be kind and understanding, especially if they are not being disruptive. They are human beings after all.
Many thought that the author was very much in the wrong here
She left the restaurant because she "didn't want to cause a scene" but was perfectly fine with causing a scene with a 10 year old. Very selective in her scenes.
I love she failed to retract to make it sound like it was her choice to leave after she stated she was kicked out. Sounds like she was ready to go crazy on the owner, too. Yikes. Surprised she has a friend at all.
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What if a grown man helps his mom who can't walk to the loo? Personally Idgaf we can make gender neutral bathrooms, so we would suddenly have double the public toilets for everyone.
Seriously, OP is TA. I (F) don't care who's on the toilet, we are all there to shît, so why does it matter? Also, this little boy could have just as well been a young trans girl, and the OP would have done a lot of damage to the kids mental health by acting so aggressive and causing a scene.
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What a nut. I was in the bathroom the other day and a lady came in with a mentally handicapped adult male. I just smiled and went about my business, but my first thought was to wonder if anyone was going to make it a problem. Thankfully no one did. People have to work with what is available, so just be kind, it's not hard.
She left the restaurant because she "didn't want to cause a scene" but was perfectly fine with causing a scene with a 10 year old. Very selective in her scenes.
I love she failed to retract to make it sound like it was her choice to leave after she stated she was kicked out. Sounds like she was ready to go crazy on the owner, too. Yikes. Surprised she has a friend at all.
Load More Replies... What if a grown man helps his mom who can't walk to the loo? Personally Idgaf we can make gender neutral bathrooms, so we would suddenly have double the public toilets for everyone.
Seriously, OP is TA. I (F) don't care who's on the toilet, we are all there to shît, so why does it matter? Also, this little boy could have just as well been a young trans girl, and the OP would have done a lot of damage to the kids mental health by acting so aggressive and causing a scene.
Load More Replies... What a nut. I was in the bathroom the other day and a lady came in with a mentally handicapped adult male. I just smiled and went about my business, but my first thought was to wonder if anyone was going to make it a problem. Thankfully no one did. People have to work with what is available, so just be kind, it's not hard.
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