‘The Girl With Wings’: Dejana Backo, A Woman Born Without Arms, Proves That No Challenge Is Impossible

How people react to their own disabilities varies enormously. There can multiple factors: upbringing, access to accommodations, when their limitation was acquired, their own personalities, etc. This woman is obviously a high achiever and probably would be regardless of whether or not she had a disability. Someone else might be shy or sheltered or having difficulty adjusting to an acquired limitation.

My view: admire anyone who goes far, but don't use them as examples to someone who just wants to learn to navigate everyday life.

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So what you're saying is, there should be no posts about people like Dejana because someone might misuse it? Is there a single word in this entire post that made you feel inadequate in any way? If not, why such bitter reaction to it?

Yeah, I agree

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Where on earth have you read that everyone can/should do it? Show me, please. Because I sure haven't read it anywhere. And if it is legitimate to point out reality for many others, wherever the hell we please apparently, why am I being downvoted for pointing out starving children?

“ People have an incredible ability to achieve anything they set their minds to, and Dejana Backo is living proof of that.” — “While Dejana is only 30 years old, by now, she has become a talented artist, ParaTaekwondo world champion, fitness coach, and super mom, proving that no challenge is impossible when met with determination.“ — maybe they are referring to those quotes? Those could seem to imply that “anyone can do anything if they’re just determined enough!!”

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I'm sorry, I've never been PC, never will be. So, you (not you specifically) can't do something? Well then, JUST F'ING DON'T, OK? But for godssake please do not shìt on people who DO. What is the point of pointing out that not everybody can do what Dejana did? Feeling better about yourselves? I just can't understand the mindset which sees a post like this and its first reaction is "bUt nO NoT eVery1 caN dO it".

Also, since the title literally reads '[she] proves that we all can achieve the impossible' then of course someone will point out that's not actually true. Finally, it's interesting that you asked someone to point out where it's saying we should all do it, so Lakota did, and you ignored that to instead declare: 'if you can't do something, then effing don't.' I can't think of a single instance where saying that to someone would not be rude/insensitive; it's also going against what the post says.

No one is s******g on her or how awesome she is. They just have a problem with the 'if you're determined enough, you can do anything,' because the corollary is: if you don't succeed, you just didn't try hard enough, want it enough, or deserve it enough. That's the issue. It's possible to do your best, work harder than anyone, and still fail. This lady's story is inspirational, but the article is trying to extrapolate her unique story/circumstances into some sort of moral lesson/judgement, thereby taking away from both her uniqueness and the inspiration.

@Mila Put yourself in the mind of someone that struggles out of bed, that considers themself a failure and is hanging on by a thread. A post like this might help but it might also reinforce that person's perception that they cannot succeed, despite trying their hardest. Just like this post might be exactly what somebody needs to read, somebody else might need to understand that not everyone can do everything - and that's also perfectly fine.