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Racist Woman Blocks Black Man From Entering His Own Luxury Apartment, Gets The Lesson Of A Lifetime
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Racist Woman Blocks Black Man From Entering His Own Luxury Apartment, Gets The Lesson Of A Lifetime

After a ‘great’ example of white fragility known as BBQ Becky comes, sadly, Debbie Doorway. The latest discrimination example of a white woman calling the police on people of color for simply going about their daily business has gone viral, and it’s just as ugly as you’d expect.

The woman, who we have chosen not to name, confronted D’Arreion Toles as he tried to enter the building that they share in St. Louis, Missouri. Claiming that she felt ‘uncomfortable’ with D’Arreion entering the building, she proceeded to block him while demanding to know his name and which apartment he lived in.

The incident was captured on video by D’Arreion himself and has since gone viral after he shared it with this message: “To be a black man in America and come home. A woman tries to stop me from coming into my building because she feels insecure, Downtown St. Louis luxury loft, because she doesn’t feel that I belong, never really thought this would happen to me, but it did! Then 30 mins later police knock on my door because she called! I was shocked this is racism in America in 2018!”

Soon after the obvious racial discrimination video went viral the internet tracked down the woman and exposed her identity, leading to her losing her job. D’Arreion, while shocked and upset to be treated in such a way, doesn’t want a witch hunt, however. “Don’t bash the woman, just send her positive waves of energy,” he wrote. “Let’s be great people, this is our world, and this message is to everyone of all ages/ races/ colors/! We only get one life so let’s make the most of it and be great, no time for being rude people!”

Scroll down below to see how it all unfolded for yourself, and let us know in the comments what you think about racism being well and alive.

This is D’Arreion Toles, from Chicago but living in St. Louis, Missouri. He recently had a shocking experience that he decided to share

He captured the whole episode on camera

He posted the videos on Facebook, where they went viral and were viewed by over 1 million people

After he shared the videos, many people jumped to his defense

He was more than surprised by the response

The woman ended up losing her job, after the internet exposed her identity to the world

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Laugh Fan
Community Member
3 years ago

Who does she think she is? She's not security. No-one has to answer to her for coming into a building even if they don't live there. His patience is remarkable. Mine would not have been. She must have lied to the police to get them to attend a man politely ignoring her questions and then peacefully entering his own apartment. Disgusting behaviour and yet she seriously cannot see what she did wrong.

Alusair Alustriel
Community Member
3 years ago

I agree that noone has to explain themselves to anyone upon entering a building, but apartment thefts do happen and we all should remain cautios. If someone acts suspicious (of course not the case here - he was clear he lived there, had keys etc) contact authorities. Don't ever take matters in your own hands, because if that person happens to be a burglair, you might end up in a very bad place.

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Aunt Messy
Community Member
3 years ago

Am I the only one wondering why it is that someone so "terrified" of having a black man in her building felt free to not only follow him around yammering at him, she actually made body contact while trying to block his way to the door? ...///... What does that tell us?

Laugh Fan
Community Member
3 years ago

That she wasn't remotely frightened of him so she has NO justifications for her actions.

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Elizabeth Molloy
Community Member
3 years ago

The cops should have arrested her for wasting their time!

Dilly Millandry
Community Member
3 years ago

Yes!

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SykesDaMan
Community Member
3 years ago

3 questions: First, why did she think that he didn't have a key? Second, what did she say to the police, that made them come? 3rd and finally: WTF?

Carrie de Luka
Community Member
3 years ago

Well, she'll have lied. How can the police justify coming out to the truth 'a polite man came into the building I live in, said he lived there and proved it when I followed him and saw him let himself into his apartment and he even gave me his name'... She seriously lied.

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Wil Vanderheijden
Community Member
3 years ago

Worst part of the story is that the police actually did come knocking on his door. How? "Police, a black man just entered my appartment building and then he entered his own appartment with a key. And he even didn't answer all my questions even though I'm a white woman." "We'll be right over , Ma'am."

Dilly Millandry
Community Member
3 years ago

I don't know if I think that is the worst part - she probably lied to get the police to come out. Hard to know without them saying as she's not going to admit it. Her belief that he doesn't have a right to be in that building is the worst thing for me.

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Christi Cocks
Community Member
3 years ago

the dog would like to be adopted by a non-racist person

sharron lynn parsons
Community Member
3 years ago

OH, yes, the dog would say if it could, non racist only please I beg you !!!

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Margaret Chandler-Steinberg
Community Member
3 years ago

She is so afraid that she gets int an elevator with the man who frightens her so much? wow

Mariah Haskins
Community Member
3 years ago

I KNOW RIGHT?

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Jane Doe
Community Member
3 years ago

I went to visit my parents at their nursing home on a bright sunny Saturday morning. A middle aged white woman came to me while I was waiting in the lobby and asked if I knew the African American teen aged boy over there. Nope. "Well, he's just waiting here." So am I. (also a white middle aged woman0 "I'm uncomfortable. I didn't want to come in." I'm sure he's here to visit someone. "Well, I work downtown, so I know. You have to be careful." You have to get away from me. Take your crazy over there. We are not together. She went to find a staff member, who, at the time was busy directing this kid to where he could do his volunteer hours and made her wait. My sister came in and the woman tried to tell her the same crap about being "scared to come in because she works downtown." My sister told her to kick rocks. I'm sure the lady spent the next five days bragging about her hyper alert sensibilities.

Carol Emory
Community Member
3 years ago

That's as good as the pizza delivery gal that caught a customer lying to her party guests about the how she thought that "The pizza delivery boy tried to steal $40 from us." Turned out it was a five dollar tip that her adult son said she could keep and that the delivery person was the woman standing at their door, not a man. She said her satisfaction came as the door closed when the accusers father turned to this insane woman and said, in front of all the guest.."It was a woman you dipsh*t!"

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Felix Feline
Community Member
3 years ago

She was fired, and rightly so, from The Tribeca-STL which "is a minority-owned company that consists of employees and residents from many racial backgrounds. We are proud of this fact and do not and never will stand for racism or racial profiling at our company." The racist woman bears full responsibility for the consequences of her disgusting actions. No one else, just her.

Dorothy Parker
Community Member
3 years ago

I'm sure there are homophobic and/or racist companies that are now able to deny services to others who will be happy to hire her. I hope they stew in their own juices.

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Monty Is Fiennes
Community Member
3 years ago

So glad to still be shocked at the level of outrageous disrespect coming from this person. In awe of D'Arreion's peaceful representation, I definitely would have told her where to go....

Tracy Murphy
Community Member
3 years ago

If she was so concerned, why did she get on an empty elevator with him? People are morons.

Shana
Community Member
3 years ago

And even after following the guy, watching him use a key to get in, she still called the cops? For what? To be honest, I wouldn't be able to be so patient and calm like that guy. I think I would just tell her I'd be the one calling the cops for keeping me out of my appartment. :P

Dilly Millandry
Community Member
3 years ago

She didn't like not getting her own way so called the police thinking she'd get some kind of revenge. Nasty thing to do.

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Kevin Beard
Community Member
3 years ago

I think a complaint about this woman to the owners of the complex would have been a good start. She can't harass other tenants.

Mother Mary Helen
Community Member
3 years ago

OMG I'm so tired of racist aholes.

Night Owl
Community Member
3 years ago

WTF? She obviously thinks a black man can't be rich and thus can't live there (or visit anyone living there). Even if she is that racist, she could have just left him alone and called the police if she really wants but no, she had to follow him, block his way, try to interrogate him and even after he entered with his own key she called the cops, and probably lied to them to get them to come. Again: WTF? Also: I'm admiring him for keeping his cool, I'm not sure I would be that patient, or so forgiving for that matter.

Don Flynn
Community Member
3 years ago

Those who chose ignorance and divisiveness are emboldened by our current political mess. Her actions and ways are unacceptable and this young man didn't react in a way that would've validated her assumptions. He stayed calm and went about his business. Just remember that not all white people are like this. To most, I hope, of us people are people who all equals. The narrative fed to exploit these people's fears of being outnumbered where their so called friends give them honest opinion journalism is as much to blame, if not more, than the Cheeto emporer himself. Racial predjudice is wrong no matter what color it comes from.

William Morales
Community Member
3 years ago

i guarantee you, she acted and treated people this way before the trumpster, and there will be people like her afterwards. They are evolving out thanks god. I think it will be another 50 years for it to to be noticeable.

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Darryl Kerrigan
Community Member
3 years ago

I remember my friend T explaining getting ripped off at the bus station and I said he should've made a scene, then he explained that black men can't kick off in public as people get scared. Really ridiculous nowadays.

Parmeisan
Community Member
3 years ago (edited)

At first I thought that maybe (maybe!) this wasn't racially motivated. People who live in apartments *do* have the responsibility not to let someone follow them in, because the doors inside are not very secure. So you need to make sure the outer door closes all the way and the next person, if they live there, can let themselves in with their own key. By the sounds of it, she legitimately thought that he hadn't let himself in, so that's a cause for concern. He was smart not to tell her which unit he was in, because who knows what she might do with that information. But she didn't raise or voice or insult him (that shouldn't be unusual, but it is) so I'm confused why he didn't just show her his key fob. But he knew the name of the security guard, and she kept insisting she "wanted to know who he was visitting" which showed she didn't really think he could live there as he said. And then after she saw him let himself in, she called the cops. WTF?

Alex Bailey
Community Member
3 years ago

I'm in the UK and here flats/apartments are legally required to have fire doors which, in theory, are harder to break in. Plus, communal doors often have trades or services buttons on the intercom that unlocks the door directly to allow deliveries or tradespeople in during day time hours. So we can't trust the communal door to be the most secure point.

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Jeff Requier
Community Member
3 years ago

getting into his apartment would be a Big sign he lives there, hearing about this in the early 1900s pissed me off. in this day and age black people shouldnt be feeling the way their ancestors and grandparents did.

James Grey
Community Member
3 years ago

That pos called the police on a black man and probably lied about why. He could have bwen killes on sight. So effing effed up!

Michael Merrill
Community Member
3 years ago

If she was afraid for her safety why would she get in the elevator alone with him how stupid is that she a racist a young man should be able to go to his apartment with out being interrogated

Jenny Sumpter
Community Member
3 years ago

Wow, who the hell does she think she is? That was sooo UNCALLED for lady, you should be minding ur own damn business and quit bein a nosy littke b $ t $ h how would u feel if the shoe was on the other foot? You got lucky this young man didnt lose his cool, smdh he in ur building? Lmao like he said you aint the owner you oay rent just like he do so what gives you the right to stalk somebody like this? I think security should if escorted ur a$$ out the buildin its a wrap.

Gina O'Toole
Community Member
3 years ago

On behalf of middle-aged white ladies who walk little dogs, I apologize and disown this racist twit for her idiot treatment of the gentleman who posted this video.

Chris Jones
Community Member
3 years ago

She's a bit young to be middle-aged. Racist twit I'll totally go with!

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Pearl Sapirstein
Community Member
3 years ago

Oh my god that is something. Blocking someone from their own house because they are black “and walked in off the street” (How else would you get into a building?) and then being extremely nosy and rude to someone who obviously is just trying to get home.

Jo Choto
Community Member
3 years ago

Every time he does something completely reasonable in the face of her unabashed racism, I love how she acts like HE is the one being completely outrageous.

BusLady
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3 years ago

*******I encourage everyone to report SmallTownGirl's comments. They are violent and disturbing, and inappropriate for this site.*********

Nosfentor
Community Member
3 years ago

SmallTownCunt: If you weren't such a stupid and ignorant bitch, this would have never happened.

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Pamela Jean
Community Member
3 years ago

I am so upset with this horrible pathetic woman. You are a very patient man. My prayers to you for peace, love and happiness. Your amazing.

Kimberly Licari
Community Member
3 years ago

this actually made me sick to my stomach. That this guy who was doing NOTHING wrong was treated like a criminal by this lady. He has the patience of a saint, I would not have been able to keep my composure.

Laura Zaini
Community Member
3 years ago

I would have called the police when she was bloking the entryway

Lori Yeske
Community Member
3 years ago

Exactly arrest her for wasting there time. Racist woman was not frightened at all

apple pie
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3 years ago

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If she was frightened of a black man, THAT would make her racist, not protecting hers and HIS property

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Kate
Community Member
3 years ago

This shit breaks my heart. She really should have been charged with harassment/calling police and wasting time. I hope that she changes for the good following this. Mr Toles is clearly an amazing person--I would never have handled a situation like that with so much poise and grace.

Vitalis Garalis
Community Member
3 years ago

in some countrys is neighbour watch, but then must be notice on building

Alex Bailey
Community Member
3 years ago

It's also neighbourhood watch and not neighbourhood interrogation. One is reasonable and safe, the other is not.

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Sierra Batten
Community Member
3 years ago

I just feel like if she really felt threatened she wouldn't have stood as close as she was or followed him. If I ever feel scared about anything I leave quickly. Ridiculous.

Aisha La Gatta Pelirroja
Community Member
3 years ago

Looking at the title photo I thought the article will be about some horror movie and sadly I wasn't wrong.

Peter Kovak
Community Member
3 years ago

What's weird is that she's shaped exactly like humans, without being in fact one of ours! Such a behaviour is absolutely outrageous.

Emily Wilson
Community Member
3 years ago

When he closes his door and she just says 'WOW' she didn't even see what she did wrong!!!

rola
Community Member
3 years ago

I live in a secure building. If me and someone else gets to the door at the same time, neither of us expects the other to quickly close the door behind themselves to ensure the following person has the correct access. I would be livid if the person in front of me went out of their way to close the door in my face to make sure I "lived there". Also this woman had clear intentions behind her actions

BusLady
Community Member
3 years ago (edited)

If she truly thought that he didn't *belong* in the building, why didn't she contact Security and let them handle it? They would have confirmed that he was a resident, then she could have STFU. I don't see why she lost her job, tho. Did she work in the building? I would have filed charges of harassment. This young man is being way too nice.

Nancy Addessi LaCava
Community Member
3 years ago

and then she wants to meet him and be his neighbor??? Uh noooo….babye Felicia

Jennifer Dawn
Community Member
3 years ago

so my question is, if she was that concerned with him being there.....why would she get on the elevator with him?

Pony Horton
Community Member
3 years ago

By following him to his door, she was stalking. If she had attempted to restrain his movement in any way, that's potentially kidnapping. Calling the police is filing a false report. She should be in front of a judge.

phil blanque
Community Member
3 years ago

Racism, pure and simple. If he was afraid, shoe would have run to her apartment and locked the door, called the police. She was not afraid...she followed him in the corridor...ALONE!! RACIST, RACIST!!!! SO GLAD she was outed!!!

Alusair Alustriel
Community Member
3 years ago

Kudos to the man for not engaging her in any way. Admire the patience and resilience. She was already identified and I think she will have a really hard time getting her life together after this. Just one remark though - I know it's not the case here probably, but here we are really suspicious of unfamiliar people entering the apartments hallways. I personally reported someone for getting into the building, but they couldn't prove that the apartment they went for was taken by their friends. I wonder if the case here would escalate like that if the man was white though. Then again - no matter the race, if you see something out of place, contact authorities instead of behaving like she did - it only causes you trouble.

Cherie
Community Member
3 years ago

What a vile troll that woman is....I would sue her and then donate the money.

Christine Mikulice
Community Member
3 years ago

Obviously she wasn't too concerned because she got into an elevator with a man she deemed "suspicious". She wasn't suspicious, she was simply harassing him.

Donald Holder
Community Member
3 years ago

Who the hell made her hall monitor for the building?! Damn. You think she would learn who her neighbors where and get to know and help each other out. But no, she's gotta play neighborhood watch captain likes she's protecting us all from some lurking evil. Damn people. Get involved, but do it respectfully and with some sense of intelligence. Kudos to you sir for your patience and calls for leniency in dealing with her type. Proved who the better person is!

Amanda Panda
Community Member
3 years ago

I am so sick of being represented by stupid people. There is nothing that non-stupid white people can say to redeem or help this stupid situation. We can only hope that we can publicly shame these stupid people back into the closet where they belong. I cannot imagine keeping my cool in dealing with this stupid stupid woman. Because I'm a white lady, chances are I wouldn't go to jail. But if this man had RIGHTFULLY lost his cool with her, he could be in jail or dead. What kind of world have we created where this is reality for people every single time they walk out their door. I'M SO FRUSTRATED!

Nicolas Charette
Community Member
3 years ago

i would have lost my shit seconds into that BS and would have called the owner. flat out, would not care, would have woken his ass up to have him bitch at this dumb lady for doing a job she has no right doing. i have no patience for stupid shit, congrats you live there good for you...you dont belong acting like you can prevent people from walking through that door thats security's job. if security comes up and asks "hey you live here" then he has to show proof of residency but that dumb bitch needs to mind her own business. kinda funny that she lost her job over this. i hope that chick hasnt bred yet, its 2018 this world doesnt need anymore racist ideologies.

K. LNU
Community Member
3 years ago

I'm glad that karma and/or "justice was served..." however, knowing how the internet works - I wonder how many death threats she's gotten due to the release of this video? (And before I get bashed...)What she did is inexcusable, but like the nosy BBQ Betty or whatever she got called, she did get horrible death threats - for being an a**hat. It was a hard lesson to learn, but I am also willing to bet, she really didn't learn much. Racism is mostly inherited, children learning what they see and hear constantly from their family/friends. Our only hope is that many can follow the young man's advice - and send out those positive thoughts into the world to make it a better place.

BusLady
Community Member
3 years ago

I know. They don't deserve death threats. That's just over-reacting. BTW, watch the video that was posted by the woman who was filming BBQ Becky. She was harassing and stalking her. She made *herself* look like a screaming idiot.

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phil blanque
Community Member
3 years ago

OOPPS...If SHE were afraid, she would have gone to her own apartment. Bad keyboard!!!

Jackie Huneidi
Community Member
3 years ago

I cant believe in this day and age there is still such racism. I am sorry this happened to you D"Arreion....not sorry she lost her job. Just look at all the positive posts which shows the majority of people arent hate filled racists.

SweetMamaP
Community Member
3 years ago

To all those who defend this woman: Her tone of voice may have been friendly. Her actions were anything but. Actions speak louder than words and her actions just screamed "racist!".

Jerome Goodwin
Community Member
3 years ago

Jealous he lived better than her.

Abby Rexroth
Community Member
3 years ago

After insulting him and finding out she's made a complete fool of herself she then says she wants to introduce herself? Too little to late bitch, now the whole world knows you're an asshole!

Lesley Riddle
Community Member
3 years ago

SHe didn’t want to let him in to the building because she “felt uncomfortable” and yet she gets into the elevator with him. This is absolutely disgusting and his book coming more and more common. It makes me embarrassed to be white

Janet Judd
Community Member
3 years ago

This woman appeared to be actually stalking this man and her behaviour would have been quite frightening to me. What is even more disturbing is that she appeared to think she was justified in acting in such a creepy intrusive manner because his skin colour is different than hers. Her poor little dog looked so very anxious and also underfed and thin. I think I would have called the SPCA about that dog!

Amanda Ferraz
Community Member
3 years ago

I just wish he had called the cops while she was harassing him... Would be great, but i can see her trying to pull a martyrdom if he did so - and as I believe she did when her BS escalated and she lost her job

Ernest Contois
Community Member
3 years ago

It as they say watch you say to others for it may come back & bite you in the ass.

Danielle Renee
Community Member
3 years ago

i give that man so much credit. i don't know if i could have kept that calm.

Steve Arthur
Community Member
3 years ago

He was amazingly calm in the face of complete stupidity! Wow, I wish I could be more like him!

Brenda Forsyth
Community Member
3 years ago

Not surprising after all look who is running the Country..."Sad" What a deplorable excuse for a woman. Sir not everyone feels like her so always keep your head held high and ignore people like her as best you can, you are awesome..

Lucia De Santiago
Community Member
3 years ago

What an annoying woman!!!!! pff, I would have not been as patient as him >.>

Laura Zaini
Community Member
3 years ago

what a bitch

Patti Dial
Community Member
3 years ago

Disgusting....ruled by fear and insecurity along with a superior self esteem. She should be ashamed of herself.....but with her attitude I am not 100% certain that she feels she has any fault in this. Mr. Toles, you are a true gentleman!

Nikki Mooney
Community Member
3 years ago

I kind of think she sounded drunk. Which is NO excuse. The look on her face though when he's going to his floor....you know she is thinking "Crap. Maybe he does live here?!" Then she tries to spin it that she wants to meet him. Lady, you were in the wrong and you look absolutely crazy.

Nikki
Community Member
3 years ago

Start calling the police on THEM for harassment and stalking, maybe then they'll cut this crap out.

Aunt Messy
Community Member
3 years ago

Nope. The police can't do much. He probably has grounds to ask for a restraining order, though, and since restraining orders are public records, that would pretty much screw her for life.

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Talia Tilly
Community Member
3 years ago

Some White people need to mimd their own business and this is one of them. If the guy was White I wonder if she would have stopped him from entering after she opened the door.

MonsterMash
Community Member
3 years ago

Wow, she is a real ghoul. One of the best things about the internet is that these bigots can be personally exposed. She’s a disgusting coward and deserves any harassment she receives in turn.

Martha Meyer
Community Member
3 years ago

As shitty as this was, I don't understand how it was legally possible she lost her job over this behaviour. In most countries political opinions or even harassment are not considered sufficient legal reasons for an employer to fire an employee, unless this behaviour was directed at a customer. Or did she work for the building's owners?

Kiki
Community Member
3 years ago

In America we have At-Will employment and an employer can fire someone for almost any reason, including bad behavior outside work.

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Reactive Kid
Community Member
3 years ago

Yeeep that's big fat Murica

Julie James
Community Member
3 years ago

I am so sorry you were treated this way by this vile woman. You handled yourself with dignity and came across as such a nice respectful young man.

Linda Davis
Community Member
3 years ago

@D’Arreion Nuriyah Toles You’re an amazing young man! We’re ALL outraged at this woman, yet you’ve chosen to stay positive! Please hold on to your great attitude! I have no doubt you’ll help make the world a better, happier place to live! Best of luck!

Krystine Patterson
Community Member
3 years ago

He has the patience of a saint. This shows what an incredible character he has, I would've lost it at the front door of the block! She was so self-righteous, omg it was disgusting...I wanna know this, I wanna know that and she totally believed she was in the right.

Mr. Re-in-act-ment
Community Member
3 years ago

This is more racist and horrible than the time the babysat kids were being babysat by a black person. Segregation may have ended but doesn't mean that people have stopped judging by color!

Sandi
Community Member
3 years ago

WTH is wrong w that woman

Melody Lanzatella
Community Member
3 years ago

ARE YOU KIDDING ME?! She is an EMBARRASSMENT!!! I would say that racist white bitches should not be allowed to live in polite society! I hope to God she is EXPELLED from the building!!

Tarryn Louise
Community Member
3 years ago

On behalf of all white people who are not racist, I apologize for her behavior but let it not reflect upon the majority of us who have more than 4 brain cells.

Kayla Zigová
Community Member
3 years ago

😂😂😂 I am sorry but supidity of that lady make me laught. You are a sympatic man... So I don't understand. I am from meadle Europe so I know what is rasism but this is too much

arianne
Community Member
3 years ago

are these morons intentionally trying to get fired from their jobs!

Biana Weatherford
Community Member
3 years ago

Where did she work? I'd like to support them for doing the right thing...

Christina Cherry
Community Member
3 years ago

I just dont get it ...... whyyyyyyyyyy what the fuck is wrong with some white people , i live in england and yes racism exists but not like this , discusting , appauling behaviour , should of knocked the bitch out !! ashamed right now to be white

Daria B
Community Member
3 years ago

When you thought things can't get more bizarrely annoying... Interesting how she became the very kind of people she fears.

Rosie Hamilton
Community Member
3 years ago

Did she? She's fearing him because his black. She's not scared of him being violent or anything otherwise she'd leave him alone and just call the police. She just thinks she's better than him.

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Anita Holleufer
Community Member
3 years ago

She is an arrogant, entitled, insensitive bitch!!! This angers me beyond belief!!!! I’m a white woman, and I don’t believe anyone should have to go through this! Who does she think she is? I just want you to know that we aren’t all like her. I don’t know anyone like her! You had the patience of a Saint. Good for you!

Emen Ihta
Community Member
3 years ago

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Megan Swaine
Community Member
3 years ago

Well, I mean, he does still have to live in the same building with her. Assuming she can still afford to live there. I can see why he wouldn't want to be too much of an a-hole about it.

Sienna Batiste
Community Member
3 years ago

Nobody has to answer to you (her)! Let me stop there before i start cursing

Dorothy Parker
Community Member
3 years ago

So, now instead of just DWB (driving while black,) there is MIWB - moving in while black, EWB - eating while black, as in the teacher's aid at Smith College taking her lunch in a school break room, SWB - shopping at a deli in NY and brushing against a woman with a backpack, another MIWB in NY, SWWB - a child selling bottled water. 911 was called in all those instances, and there are many more. Heinous.

Lesley Riddle
Community Member
3 years ago

So she said “I am uncomfortable” and then she got into the elevator alone with him. Doesn’t sound uncomfortable to me. This is happening way too often and it needs to stop. It makes me embarrassed to be white. Kudos to A’Darreion for keeping his cool.

JacekEU
Community Member
3 years ago

just looked on america's murder stats. Yup, I'd not feel safe there too. My 40 milion nation have less murders than one medium size US city. The opposite cases: white women murdered by immigrants rarely hit front pages. Especially in progressive sources, fighting "racism"

Mylan Nguyen
Community Member
3 years ago

https://fox2now.com/2018/10/16/woman-in-viral-video-with-black-man-speaks-out-after-being-fired-defends-her-actions/

Douglas Campbell
Community Member
3 years ago

Must be uncomfortable for her to bump into him in the building...

bob
Community Member
3 years ago (edited)

He posts this online and then expect people to send "positive waves of energy" to the woman??? Does he know how internet works?

Bevan lafferty
Community Member
3 years ago

Disgusting human being

rhyan lumilay
Community Member
3 years ago

Why is it that there are still a lot of people whose living under the rock while wearing their ass in there heads?

Erin Anderson
Community Member
3 years ago

That was absolutely disgusting!! I hope she is horribly embarrassed and can learn to not be so ignorant in the future. She needs serious counseling.

Farshad Torkashvand
Community Member
3 years ago (edited)

As a Security Officer, I can educate you to know about the rules that only apply for Canada. Here is The Rights and Freedoms for all Canadian are set out in the 34 sections which form the Charter. I just go through from Sections 7 to Section 9. Life, liberty and security of the Person 7. Everyone has the right to life, liberty and security of the person and the right not to be deprived thereof except in accordance with the principles of fundamental justice. Search or Seizure 8. Everyone has the right to be secure against UNREASONABLE search or seizure. Detention or Imprisonment 9. Everyone has the right not to be ARBITRARILY detained or imprisoned This is for my fellow Canadian. It is a dejected thing to see this kind of behaviours and unacceptable. Let us all learn from it, or we are going to be doomed to see it again, but this time in our beautiful country.

Donald Pass
Community Member
3 years ago

wtg she should have been put in cuffs and made to move out !

Agnes Jekyll
Community Member
3 years ago

Terrifying and ugly.

Maureen Tracey
Community Member
3 years ago

I wrote some pretty angry words on Twitter already, so I have rid most of my initial fury. But I must say that I ABSOLUTELY NEED to take lessons from Mr Tole (apologies if I blew spelling), he was calm, respectful and an incredible gentleman, whilst she was a complete and unadulterated ASSHOLE!! There are too damn many assholes and not enough people who act classy and dignified! I used to be the latter, but I've let anger get the better parts of me, and I needed this Brilliant Gentleman to remind me! Thanking YOU, Mr Tole and wishing you a lifetime of happiness and abundance! GODSPEED!!

Bukky Olaneye
Community Member
3 years ago

America has really become a scary and dangerous place for people of colour,make America great again!

Helen R
Community Member
3 years ago

Wow. Just wow.

Mike W
Community Member
1 year ago

Regardless of race it’s best practice to challenge “tail gating” at the main entrance of a shared building. Refusing to enter the door code right at the beginning is what causes the suspicion, not his race.

Basil Attwood
Community Member
1 year ago

I worked in an apartment building where all tenants were strictly told not to hold the security door for anybody as doing so defeats the purpose of having a security door in the first place. People has to be buzzed in or use their own key to get in the building. This happened after numerous car break ins in the underground parkade from people who were gaining access by waiting for someone to let them in the building. He did not show his fob or let her close the door so he could let himself in. I don’t see anything racist about this. Giving someone access to a secure area when you are not sure that they have permissible access is not a racist at all. When she realized that he had a key she even tried to introduce herself. Use your head snowflakes, not every incident between two people of different skin colours is race based.

Makayla🐕🐴🐷
Community Member
2 years ago

I just don’t get why she was being so racist. All she managed to do was make her self look like a cruel and racist person. Praise to him for being so patient, I would’ve totally lost it, someone did that to me.

Makayla🐕🐴🐷
Community Member
2 years ago

I meant if someone did that to me

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Heather Porath
Community Member
3 years ago

People like this make me sick

sharron lynn parsons
Community Member
3 years ago

She is not concerned for her safety, she merely wants to show that she is a RACIST !!!

Meredith Presley Chrisman
Community Member
3 years ago

It's a shame. This should have been a good teaching moment but no-one is listening to each other , this will never end at this rate.

Sarah Booth
Community Member
3 years ago

While it was a secure building, everyone in NYC still holds a door open for the person behind them, it's just polite. If she didn't believe he was a tenet she could have made a comment about their being neighbors to suss him out. Once she threatened to call the cops and he kept insisting that he lived there, she should be able to tell he wasn't a robber. Her motives appear suspect and come off as harassing. It's kind of amazing that he was as calm as he was. I doubt I could have managed that.

Monika Soffronow
Community Member
3 years ago

What a marvelous man! I would love to have him in my life. He is right, we all choose the kind of world we live in by managing our reactions to the things that happen to us. His own response to the responses was even better, and no, I cannot understand the schadenfreude at her losing her job, it was certainly not his intention when uploading the video.

Callie Ge
Community Member
3 years ago

Dude you showed so much dignity & self control, what a shitty thing to have to deal with, I would have lost it, told the silly twat to fek off.

عزمي احمد
Community Member
3 years ago

Imagine Muslims being taunted like that on daily basis on the street. How would they feel being branded as terrorist.

jamie1707
Community Member
3 years ago

I hope that woman gets exploding hemorrhoids.

Kathy Durbin
Community Member
3 years ago

hello,Im sorry for her behavior,no one of any color should be treated this way,I ashamed sometimes to be white due to this ignorant behavior! bottom line we are all human beings,man,women we all bleed the same we all have emotions why do people act like this you should be ashamed yourself, lets show love,kindness,positivity to all people,kathy romanello

Danny Trejo
Community Member
3 years ago

There are many options as motives for her rude behavior (none giving her the authority to physically block a person from moving): 1. She was honestly suspicious of a person entering the house without a key and went overboard even after noticing she was wrong out of shame or stuborness 2. She's "that person" in the house, prying on other people's business and generally being a sad, obtrusive person without any life of her own. 3. She was drunk or on drugs. 4. She's a neurotic wreck, for whatever reason. 5. She's a shameless racist. Now, why would so many of you jump to the conclusion that she's a full blown racist is beyond me. All you see are shades of skin color of which you deduce that it must've been a racist incident.

Danny Trejo
Community Member
3 years ago

Were was the proof of racist intent though?

Brian Burck
Community Member
3 years ago

I am sad that it took this and for her loosing her job for people to realize that their belief system is not within the grasp of their own reality. The whole point of him sending her good vibes is in the hopes that she changes her view of human beings no matter what they look like or where they are from. I have no idea what it is like to be a black man, and I know that I never will. My hope is that I am aware enough on how I treat people and how I leave anyone I come into contact with. Bravo for D’Arreion and his patience and sending good vibes her way.

Mae
Community Member
3 years ago

This is ridiculous, why do you always have to complain online about everything. I don't know why she followed him if she felt threatened, I would've just slammed the door on his face if he didn't have the key to the buildinf, end of story, and no need to talk about this BS..

Ana M
Community Member
3 years ago

Wow! What was she thinking? He is a man, he lives in the building too, they walk into each other in the door, that was it. Oooohhhh right, my bad, he is black. So what? What neurons in her brain told her he is not living here? Tell me please. Bad, bad behavior in your part lady.

Dorothy Parker
Community Member
3 years ago

As of today's (10/17/18) news, she is completely unapologetic. She says the building rules are you don't let anyone in. So she should have closed the door, let him use his key or fob, and let it be. Instead, she followed him to his door and despite his having a key, called the police. These people should be fined for false alarms.

Susi Karg
Community Member
3 years ago

And in addition ... I find it ridiculous that she has lost her job . Probably not the most fine communication. Defending and self-protecting. But all : What did she really do wrong?

Susi Karg
Community Member
3 years ago

May I say something to defend this woman? She has entered her building, which is obviously specially protected. Someone, whether black or white, has joined her to use the open door. She now asks if he also lives here and has a key. The simplest solution would have been: Close the door. He opens with his key. Then he always says: this is my house. I live here and he's probably right about that. Still, I don't think that's right. To make a long story short: why doesn't he just say: look, that's my key. and yes, in the end it's probably idiotic to send the police to an apartment that's obviously inhabited,

Carol Emory
Community Member
3 years ago

Look, there was a much better way of handling this than she did. Instead of "I can't let you in for security reasons because I don't know if you're a thief." Or "I'm scared and I want proof you live here." She could have said "You need to use your keycard/code so they know who is in the building and who isn't so in case they have to emergency evacuate the building for say a fire, they can make sure everyone gets out safely and is accounted for." But her attitude and superiority complex got in the way. If you want to people to do something your way, ask or say it in a way that they will think about how it benefits them, not you.

Lesley Riddle
Community Member
3 years ago

So she said “I’m uncomfortable“ and yet she got in the elevator with him. This is gotten way out of control and it’s happening way too often. It makes me embarrassed to be white. Kudos to D’Arraion for keeping his cool.

Sandy Harding Franklin
Community Member
3 years ago

This is just a statement about my southern upbringing. Born in Mississippi raised in Memphis. Daddy born in Nebraska settled in Chicago . My point is I grew up in the middle of white territory. Not once did I ever hear my wonderful parents refer to people of color by the N word. This was years ago, I was born in1944. My point is not all of us were racist, nor are we now.

Trixster Million
Community Member
3 years ago

Why did she lose her job, exactly? The punishment does no fit the crime.

Bill
Community Member
3 years ago

So she can end up on public assistance? Good job

Tammy Ralph
Community Member
3 years ago

Looks to me like she should take better care of the poor dog instead of harassing an innocent man.

Jada Collier
Community Member
3 years ago

Some people just want attention these days...

Kevin Russell
Community Member
3 years ago

Of course, what would REALLY show her up would be for him to invite her into his apartment for a coffee and a chat.

Nosfentor
Community Member
3 years ago

Why would I want this crazy bitch in my house?

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Heather Farrington
Community Member
3 years ago

Wow! That’s just pure craziness. I’m glad the public held her accountable.

Jessica Stohr
Community Member
3 years ago

How embarrassing how at the end she tried to say if he was a neighbor she wanted to introduce herself. Like he would want anything to do with her!!! And even after it was clear he had keys and everything she called the cops??

Azure Adams
Community Member
3 years ago

Good on this guy! Hope this "woman" gets all the karma she deserves for that shit

Maggie McDowell
Community Member
3 years ago

I am going to follow Mr. Toles request. If he can maintain his cool with this woman, then I am going to try to do the same. She has just created a major life crisis for herself and is receiving terrible remarks in response to her behavior. However, Mr. Toles is looking beyond her behavior to address the human being. Kindness is what will make the difference, Thank you Mr. Toles!

Susan Fernandez
Community Member
3 years ago

Wow!! No Words!!!

Anna Mcaffee
Community Member
3 years ago

Seriously

Sean Barr
Community Member
3 years ago

Jesus. It's exhausting being white and watching this crap so regularly. I can only imagine how this actually feels. Maddening. Sick.

La Rochelle
Community Member
3 years ago

First what I’d like to say is that the woman’s behavior is disgusting and primitive. H/e Americans need to ask themselves how is it that this is happening in 2018. I was fortunate to be raised in one of the most diverse places in the U.S., if not the world, so I believe I’m qualified to share why ppl may be racist. I have made friends with lots of ppl of different backgrounds. A) lack of diversity in their areas B) but largely due to the media. Shows like Maury and Bill Cunningham, don’t do any favors for black ppl. 3) Also, I see that it’s beyond frustrating to be black in America. I may be able to relate a little w/ maybe having a mental illness. Many ppl have called me bi-polar and as a result I purposely acted like it bc my response was, “I’ll show you what bipolar looks like really!” Let’s just say, it did nothing to help my cause. Don’t feed into stereotypes..it only makes things worse.

Carmen Elena
Community Member
3 years ago

This is sad. She ís so scary: following him to his door... he did right to act like a gentleman.

Aunt Messy
Community Member
3 years ago

Who's to say she didn't have a gun?

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Ula
Community Member
3 years ago

That's alwful and she should apologize, hopefully learn a lesson, but lose her job?

Kiki
Community Member
3 years ago

It'll teach her that her attitude is unacceptable. Racists have gotten it in their heads that their behavior will be tolerated because Trump is in office. They're learning the hard way that that isn't the case.

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