Dad Refuses To Help With Newborn, Keeps Inviting Family Over For Visits, Wife Takes Revenge
At 4 months, the development of a baby’s brain might create instability in their sleep, resulting in fussiness, multiple night wakings, less napping, and appetite changes.
There is no single solution to fix these problems, and caregivers are encouraged to remember that sleep regressions are normal and, most importantly, temporary.
However, after Reddit user Adorable_Banana_7262‘s daughter started experiencing these disruptions, her husband failed to realize the toll they were taking on his wife as well. One time, he even invited his relatives to visit them early in the morning!
So the woman decided to give her partner a taste of his own medicine. Continue scrolling to read her post on the subreddit ‘AITAH,’ where she explains how she did it.
4-month-olds are known for their sleep regressions, and they can really disrupt the parents’ routines too
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But this woman’s husband couldn’t understand what she was going through
So she decided to show him what it feels like
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Later, the woman updated her post, clearing up a few details
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Experts say that sleep deprivation hits mothers way harder than fathers
At this time, the Redditor and her husband must work together and help each other. Researchers tracking the sleep of thousands of men and women after their family size increased have discovered that shut-eye hits a low about three months after birth – with the effect strongest in women.
Interestingly, while parents gradually saw an improvement in their sleep as their firstborn grew, it seems their nighttime rest was never quite the same again.
“We didn’t expect to find that, but we believe that there are certainly many changes in the responsibilities you have,” said Dr. Sakari Lemola, co-author of the research from the University of Warwick.
He added that while children may stop crying during the night as they age, they may still wake up, be sick, or have nightmares, while the stress and worries that go with parenthood can also affect mom and dad’s sleep.
Published in the journal Sleep, the study looked at data collected from adults in Germany who were surveyed in face-to-face interviews carried out once a year between 2008 and 2015. Participants were asked to rate the quality of their sleep on a scale from 0 to 10, and were quizzed on how many hours of sleep they got on a normal weekday and a normal weekend day.
The researchers focused on responses from more than 2,500 women and almost 2,200 men who reported the birth of their first, second, or third child during the study, with participants followed for up to 6 years.
Perhaps unsurprisingly, the team found women’s decline in sleep satisfaction in the first year after the birth of a child dropped by 1.7 points for the first child, and over one point for both the second and third child, compared with before their first pregnancy.
The mothers also lost about 40 minutes of sleep a night in the year after a baby arrived compared with pre-pregnancy levels, regardless of whether it was their first or a subsequent kid.
A deeper analysis of the data showed the first three months after the birth of a first child were particularly grueling, as women lost over an hour of sleep compared with before they became pregnant.
While similar trends were seen for fathers, the effects were less pronounced. Even three months after their first child’s birth, fathers lost only 13 minutes of sleep.
So maybe the husband might’ve very well needed the vivid illustration of what it’s like for his wife?
After her story went viral, the author of the post joined the discussion in the comments section
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MIL follows her into the bedroom? Is there no lock on the master bedroom? This sounds like ALL of my nightmares that exaggerate on how bad my inlaw's boundaries are... But even in those infuriating dreams, my dream's bedroom has a lock on the door... Time to pack baby up and head to mum or sibling's house for a bit. He doesn't sound like long term husband material.
If she has family or friends nearby then she can say that she’s visiting ____, go there for a few hours and take a nap. Either he can look after the baby for a few hours or she could take her too. If he complains that she didn’t let him know she was going out then she can say “you didn’t let me know your family was coming round at 8am either.”
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These guys need some communication therapy badly. My wife breastfed our son too. I still stayed up with her and held him while he was digesting before laying him down. He was a baby that did not sleep thru the night until well after he was a year old. Would wake up 3-4 times thru out the night and just cry. We were definitely sleep deprived but we shared the load as any good partnership should
Anyone here read the response to "Selmaris".... He fed baby, baby still hungry which is unusual. Guess what, he didn't feed the baby. He is an idiot.
Well…not necessarily. Baby may have wanted to cuddle after feeding. In my limited experience, the baby fed on breast would fall asleep while feeding but the bottle fed baby would be full but awake, and would require extra effort to put down
Load More Replies... MIL follows her into the bedroom? Is there no lock on the master bedroom? This sounds like ALL of my nightmares that exaggerate on how bad my inlaw's boundaries are... But even in those infuriating dreams, my dream's bedroom has a lock on the door... Time to pack baby up and head to mum or sibling's house for a bit. He doesn't sound like long term husband material.
If she has family or friends nearby then she can say that she’s visiting ____, go there for a few hours and take a nap. Either he can look after the baby for a few hours or she could take her too. If he complains that she didn’t let him know she was going out then she can say “you didn’t let me know your family was coming round at 8am either.”
Load More Replies... These guys need some communication therapy badly. My wife breastfed our son too. I still stayed up with her and held him while he was digesting before laying him down. He was a baby that did not sleep thru the night until well after he was a year old. Would wake up 3-4 times thru out the night and just cry. We were definitely sleep deprived but we shared the load as any good partnership should
Anyone here read the response to "Selmaris".... He fed baby, baby still hungry which is unusual. Guess what, he didn't feed the baby. He is an idiot.
Well…not necessarily. Baby may have wanted to cuddle after feeding. In my limited experience, the baby fed on breast would fall asleep while feeding but the bottle fed baby would be full but awake, and would require extra effort to put down
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