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‘Too Old For This’: 40 Things People Are Getting Too Old To Tolerate
My 17-year-old self would be severely disappointed in the fact that I’m exhausted by 10pm every evening, and I only have about three sips of alcohol a year. But the reality is that many experiences that are exciting or enjoyable for teens and young adults are a lot less glamorous decades later. Why stay out late when I can curl up with a good book at home?
In honor of all of these things that we’re simply getting too old for, Redditors have recently been sharing what they find much less fun (or much more annoying) as they age. Below, you’ll find a list of their thoughts, so be sure to upvote the replies that make you feel less guilty about refusing to go to restaurants with loud music!
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B******t arguing with other people.
It makes me think of Keanu Reeves. He gave an. Interview about growing older, and said he protects his peace by refusing to argue with anyone about anything. He said “2+2 is 5? You are correct. Have a nice day.”
Putting up BS. I'm 64 and will retire in 8 months and also just filed for a divorce and hopefully that will be done before retirement. I'm done with it all. I have looked into buying a coop condo in a 55+ community and should have one secured within a couple of months. My employer seems to think they can call me for advice when I retire, no they can't because they have been very toxic and I'm almost done playing that game. My husband thinks he can treat me like c**p and not acknowledge anything important to me, I'm done with his toxic behavior. He's still in shock that I have the guts to do it but when I made a list in writing and he wanted to continue to be married I showed him a list I made of why I needed to leave and why I should stay and the should stay list was completely blank. He couldn't even argue because it was all true on reasons I should leave.
I am not too old to start a new chapter in my life and enjoy what time I have left.
Edit: Thank you all for the encouragement. We both meet with the attorney today and divorce will be final in 60 to 90 days. This decision has taken 15 years to put in place but someone did tell me about 10 years ago when the time is right I will move forward, the time is right at this phase of my life.
anything starting past 9PM
Eating food that’s not delicious.
And I don’t mean eating unhealthily.
I mean, If I’m going to consume calories, it’s going to be delicious. Sometimes that means heating things up in the oven instead of microwave, or adding an extra ingredient that makes the dish.
I agree-food should be enjoyable . As I've got older, I've got far less rigid about meals: if I feel like eating a beef sandwich for breakfast and a bowl of oatmeal for dinner I will do.
Convincing people not to do dumb s**t.
Go ahead I don’t care anymore. Learn the hard way.
I love it when someone doesn’t listen to me and they do something dumb and I get to see them get in trouble or something worse
Not being comfortable. I'm done with that.
Give me a pilow and some legroom.
A bench in the shower and a fluffy towel. Give me space to breath and live. Give me quality over quantity and I gladly pay extra for an upgrade.
I'm through with wearing high heels, makeup everyday, most jewelry, tightly bound hairstyles. I can barely tolerate jeans.
Going places without a bathroom nearby. Not necessarily "too old," more like "too IBS."
Yep - this is true. Going on holiday is an adventure. The great toilet tour is a thing
This heat. I remember when I used to want to lay out, do beach activities, and swim. Now, I’m dreading having to go out in the sun and want to be locked away in my air-conditioned home
Another thing I am pretty sure I have is heat intolerance, I cannot stand being in the heat for at least ten minutes, I will boil alive, it’s even worse because I live in Florida
BS excuses. Stop trying to make up elaborate, unbelievable stories. Just tell me you forgot, or you overslept, or whatever. It's fine. I get it. But don't expect me to believe your convoluted, half-a*s ramblings. Grow up and own your shortcomings.
S**t happens. I've learned it's actually better to just admit you slept in. It happens to most people time to time. As long as you get right into your work all should be okay.
Nuisance noise, kids whining , cars blasting , mufflers, lawn mowers …. Stupid people in public making noise .
We're really hoping we'll have enough money to buy a house in the middle of nowhere, whee the only sounds will be the rain, birds and buzzing of bees.
Lack of sleep. All nighters were once manageable. Now I pull an all nighter and I am useless.
Seems like my body is trying to catch up on all the missed sleep from those all nighters.
Leaving the house
Way too many people outside. I want to bring back the garden hermit trend from 15th century England where I can get paid for being antisocial
Chasing after people. Like if I ask you to hang out a few times and you’re always busy… come find me. Phone works both ways.
Sitting on the floor.
I am tired of anime and superhero movies with teenage protagonists. I’m not saying the stories aren’t good, but I am f*****g tired of coming of age stories
not to mention these teenagers who aren't even old enough to drive are getting absolutly beat up by supervilllans who are way older than them. and at the end of the movie they are just happy and relieved instead of traumatized. the plot is amazing but i wish they would make it a little more realistic.
Stupid a*s people and friends that still cause drama in their 50's!!! F*****g idiots
Or move anywhere with a Home Owners Association. Nothing like a self-appointed government to ruin your day.
Hangovers, 3 days to go back to normal is too much now and not worth it.
Concerts without assigned seating.
I'm not showing up hours early to get a good spot and then be *stuck* there the entire time without being able to sit or use the bathroom or else I lose my view.
smoking cigarettes. I quit 5 days ago after 15 years. just woke up and went "you know what, nah."
This one hits close to home in it’s own way, it’s extremely difficult for me to quit smoking. I can’t do without a cigarette, it’s my biggest downfall. I’ve decided to try again when I’m good and ready, and I’m fully aware that won’t be for another many of years and I’m quite ok with that too 👍🏻 I know I’ll succeed when the time is right and I’m 100% mentally ready; I feel acknowledging that is a good start
Quit 3 yrs ago after smoking for 30 yrs. I occasionally have a craving but I don't smoke.
Probably the hardest thing I had to go through, but managed to quit smoking cold turkey after 13 years of smoking, this was 2,5 years ago. The first few months were terrible, my boyfriend can tell for sure. -.- but went through it and can't even think about smoking again. Few odd occasions when I drink and smell somebody's cigarette I would get tempted for a second but then realise it's not worth it going trough the beginning of quitting part. Walking helped a lot, and possibly crying too :D You guys can do it, I believe in you
My hubby quit 23 years ago, for 11 months - a stressful day at work and he was back to square one. Now he has COPD and has been in and out of hospital and investigations for the last 6 months but still has no intention of cutting tobacco or alcohol
Sometimes when I see people smoking, I just wonder , you’re really still doing that , besides knowledge the of all the health risks, how are you able to afford it?
Same. But I applaud the people who are trying to make an effort to quit and I appreciate the ones who try to not smoke around others. I also don't understand this mentality that smokers have more friends or are more socialized. They make it sound like non-smokers have no friends or something.
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16 years of smoking and while I did not quit, switching to electronic feels great. And so did my 66 years old mum after almost 50 years of smoking. Change is possible.
Electronic smoking is no better than cigarettes
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Knowing full well I need to quit and haven't. I've made so many promises to myself. Maybe I just need to stop promising myself or anyone and just do it. I've done it before and I never should have gone back, never.
The thing I hate about smoking is that smokers force others to smoke. If I get drunk, nobody around me does, but if I were to smoke, everyone in range gets to smoke too.
all of you trying to quit, keep the goal in sight: not being a slave to the cig, not smelling awful, not tasting awful, not being able to smell or taste food properly, risking fires everytime you flick a butt, and, best of all, money saved and health can return to normal. i used a patch after SEVERAL unsuccessful attempts. don't give up! each time you try again, you are increasing your chances. 20 years post-nicotine, my pulmonologist says my lungs are NORMAL. and have been normal for likely 15 years. 🎉
I stopped smoking for 20 years but I never stopped missing the nicotine rush. When I had times of really great stress I ended up smoking a bit and then quitting again. Last year my partner and I gave up smoking for good he was a much heavier smoker than I was but all the time that I spent with him I was breathing in his second hand smoke. When he suffered a cardiac arrest and died right in front of me in January, I started smoking again to cope with the stress. I've now stopped smoking and I started vaping but this is now the last vape that I'm going to be using; after this I'm done. I'm disabled and mostly housebound so it's not like I've got much to fill my time with, and I know vaping is just as awful and probably more dangerous than smoking but it was something I needed at the time.
quit four months ago with the help of the patch. Best decision ever.
I have quit and started back up so many times I lost count. But sometimes I will not smoke for months. It's so freaking addicting.Im so angry at the tobacco industry. They care about money.I figure any time I'm not smoking is good.So that's where I'm at. Tony Tee, you do what is right for you. 💙
Congratulations, The next couple of years are going to be difficult, but you will make it,.
I was forced to quit when I got cold. Lung collapse and double pneumonia. It took a full year of patches but I did it. It's been 4 years smoke free, and I smoked for 50 years. Everyone has their time when they quit, but it can only be done if you really want it, and it doesn't matter what you take to quit, or how long it takes. It will be done when you are ready, not when someone tells you to quit
My late Dad quit smoking in 1980. 25 years later when he and Mom were visiting my half-brother, his male partner, and I, Dad developed a bleeding ulcer which was caused by bad bacteria in his stomach. The fact that he had quit smoking all those years before and never ever drank alcohol were two reasons he recovered quicker.
I knew I was way too weak-minded to quit a 60 year smoking habit so I decided to just postpone the first one in the morning for 2 hours. That was on Feb 6, 2022. I'm still postponing it
I quit smoking the day I went in for an artery stent in my heart. I smoked my last cigarette outside the doors of the hospital. It was time to quit. That was in 2001. I've wanted a cigarette several times but not enough to start again. I'm lucky my common sense and my body agreed to stop.
I quit about 10 years ago. The thing that helped me to quit was not my health or the price but because a person smells really bad no matter how many baths you take and if there is a pet, its fur smells like cigerettes too. (the last from a vet I know).
Awesome! I quit over a year ago. But I failed I don't even know how many times. This last time was different and I could feel it. The struggle is real but if I could it ( I never thought I could) anyone can. Keep trying!
It took me about 5 years to finally quit, when I finally quit, I had help, my local hospital, where I was with a terrible case bronchitis . good luck!
My dad smoked. A lot. When I would tell him that he needs to quit, he'd respond, "I've been smoking since I was eight years old!" The month before he died, as he lay in his hospital bed because his weight dropped from 175 lbs. to 139 lbs. due to a tumor on his lung, he said, " I wish I'd never picked the things up." You know what? So do I.
I had just quit vaping for about a month then went right back to it 3 days ago, too hard to quit :( I'm so glad you were able to do it !
Another of the intolerables for me. The old fella next door started smoking his Cherry scented cigarillos inside his apt. bout 5 mos ago.. i breathe his second hand smoke every. Dern. Day/night. Yes it is against our lease but he does it gleefully b/c he knows it affects my health, allergic to tobacco smoke. What about management, won’t they help, you say? I’ve been gas-lighted by the south end of a north facing donkey thru out this whole time . ‘They’ say he doesn’t smoke in his apartment. One of us has got to go!
Contact your local housing authority office. Inform them of your situation and that nothing is being done about it. Have an inspector come by when you know your neighbor is smoking. Being allergic to cigarette smoke may not be considered a disability, but it could still work in your favor.
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Skinny jeans
Have to disagree with this one. I live in my skinny jeans and it's a hill I'm willing to die on.
Anxiety. I need to get over this s**t already
Best advice I know for anxiety: Do everything stressful one tiny step at a time. Eat the elephant one bite at a time.
The news in general
Life is so much better when you're not paying attention to the news. If you think all the bad stuff that's going on is all reported to the news, not a chance. It's just a tip of the iceberg, the ones who bothered to report it to the news. Every now and then there's a good, uplifting story, but not often enough.
All the work necessary to maintain a house, especially the outside.
This is one of the reasons my mom sold her house to rent an apartment. She said the upkeep to make her house "presentable" was too much.
People driving like a maniac to show off… it terrified me then and scares me even more now.
Social media. Rather meet face to face
No one even wants to go out for coffee or go do something, and actually make it to fruition. "Oh, I'll give you my facebook." What? Why? Then you go friend them and they friend you but never chat with you. What was the point?
Family b******t
I don't care who did it what with who. There's a divide in my family right now, and it's all to do with the older generations. They've tried getting all the younger generations involved but we're not playing that game. To hell with all of them.
Long conversations. Please wrap up whatever you need to say in 3 minutes or less. I zone out on each Teams meeting I have at work. I simply can’t stay engaged for longer than a few minutes (this might be a mental issue the more I think about it).
Caring. Growing up I was a people pleaser due to the abuse my bio mom did to me. Now being older, I’ve come to realize that I give less and less effs about if I make someone like me or not.
Took me a long long time to learn that People Pleasing does more harm than good. And that niceness and kindness are two different things. You should always be kind, but you don't always need to be nice. And you do not need to sacrifice yourself for others. Care for those that care for you, and forget about the rest. So many of us are so conditioned to find our worth in the approval of others - and it's destroyed our self esteem. F**k people pleasing.
The dating scene.
Yeah - I can relate to this one. Recently single after 17 years of marriage. It's a mad house out there.
Kissing up and playing games in the work place.
No longer part of my life, didn't do well with it before retirement !
Grudges and impatients. It's just exhausting.
I've become a much more forgiving and tolerant person with age. Learning how to set healthy boundaries has helped.
Booze, hangovers are almost always near extinction events these days.
I used to go to the bar on the weekends, play darts, listen to the band, etc. It was fun!
Now it's just crowded annoying people, loud music and overpriced beer with a cover charge.
I'll still make an appearance for some food or to watch a game, but more of a happy hour thing.
I hadn’t been to a proper bar in years and some friends and I decided to meet up for drinks before a concert… I was gobsmacked when I got the tab. $25 per drink 😳 we decided to pregame at home from now on since we Uber
Being treated like s**t
I know it's a movie but I do like the quote in The Princess Diaries "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."
Bad managers that don’t listen. I use malicious compliance, selective hearing, and miscommunication to work around them.
Other people's drama and nonsense.
Negativity.
Loving how every item in this list is a version of “negativity” and then we get negativity. Yup, too old for negativity
I’m getting too old for social media.
I used to care 20 years ago with MySpace, and then Facebook. But in these last 5ish years I’ve just stopped caring.
Instagram, Twitter, uhhh whatever is out there. Snapchat? TikTok? Fk it. It’s all stupid and there is so much out there. Now I’m reading threads… UHG.
Social media used to be cool, now it’s a lame waste of time. I don’t want my private life public anymore and I only honestly talk to 5-10 people regularly out of the hundreds of friends I’ve made in my lifetime.
Not really an age thing, just whether you can give it the time it needs, or indeed whether you're interested. I was never able to cope with Facebook, realising that I really don't want to know every day what people are up to, and I certainly don't expect anyone to be interested in my day-to-day existence either.
Staying out late, especially during the week.
Waiting in line.
Mainstream music
I am old. I don't like auto-tune. I don't like people speaking lyrics. I'm tired of how music went from what seemed like 5 or 6 genres all feeding each other country, s**t rap, or annoying pop.
I can still dig some Adele and T Swift though
Some of Gen-Z, I feel like. I just came across a video from someone who suffers from "time blindness," aka not being able to show up to work on time.
That's a *you* problem, sweetie. Get your s**t together and f****n be a productive member of society. You think that the world's supposed to cater to you? Nah, f**k outta here with that! I absolutely *dread* going into work most days, but I'm getting paid good for a good job, I'm going to be able to pay off my college debt in a few years, I'm going to use some of my grandmother's inheritance to put a down payment on a house soon, and I'm planning on getting married to my girl and traveling the world. Not only that, but I have 3 square meals a day, a roof over my head, a car that works, and a job that although sometimes dreadful, I can still get up to work on time, because not everyone is a pussy who can't get to work because you think the world revolves around you. I'm sick of people in Gen-Z who think that the world is going to cater to them. Nope. Not happening. Suck it up, buttercup. Rant over. Have a lovely week, everyone!
I feel like this was a poorly articulated video. She stated that she was cut off from finishing her question and the interviewer jumped to a conclusion. I get this because this happens to me all the time and I'm left dumbfounded and unable to finish speaking. It's a mindfuck game. The interviewer could have asked for more clarification or some examples. Obviously, this girl made it to the interview. Didn't hear anything about her being late but the interview went ahead enough to get that far, so I'm assuming that aspect. I've never heard of time blindness, however I do know a symptom of Dyscalculia is a difficulty with time recognition and time lapses. Sure, there's been the odd time I've been late for work, missed the bus, as many people have. I make sure my alarm is set and trying to keep tabs on the clock frequently. It's not always easy but it's not something I expect my work to "accommodate" me for. It gives the impression it's a habitual problem when it's not.
Trying to be hot.
Why would anyone do this anyway? It causes people to pay more attention to you
Apparently Im getting too old to be self sufficient or physically active.
Three day music festivals. I still try, it never ends successfully.
Listening to people who don't pay my bills or my way if living. If I have to pay my I wn way then ima listen ti myself
Eating fast food apparently! I used to be able to eat spicy, greasy food no problems. Now I just get heartburn and indigestion
I got heartburn from garlic bread the other day. Like WTF? Where did that come from?
Paying cover for bars/clubs. Why? I'll just go to the next one
Just turned 40 and I can't get "lost" in a game anymore.
Every time I try my brain is like "pssst you don't have your whole life ahead of you anymore..."
Hard labor.
Customers that don't know what they want. I work in a male dominated industry, when the 98% old man customer base is assisted by a female, they have no idea what it is they want. They will stutter and sputter but then catch a glimpse of a man in the background, they want the be served by a him. Dude, he doesn't know 1/2 as much as I do. They get schooled very quickly.
I have to agree to a certain point on this one. My husband used to wear suits 6/7 days. So he has 7 suits with a cycle to replace one every year or two, with the accessories. We went to his favorite store and this lady shows him tons of stuff that we really don't like (the cut, the colors, etc.). She is not listening and wants him to be "hype". After 1/2 hour of this, an older man comes over and offers to take over. We all agree because all three of us were really frustrated by that time. The guy starts and ends up selling us 2 full suits (w/accessories), shorts, summer shirts, shoes, and socks. And. It took less than 45 minutes.
Guest rooms. I got hotel points.
All this s**t.
Honestly, if there was an easy way, I'd nope the f**k out.,
I'm done
Stuffed animals. But they’re just so cute
I have a pile of stuffed animals in my room that I haven’t played with in like 4 years but I will never get rid of them and I will keep collecting them
Niceties. Like in this economy??? Don’t ask me “how’s your day been” in the grocery line, just nod and we can move on. Lol
Classic rock. I had to listened to it when it was new. Enough already.
Yes! Especially because "Classic Rock" radio stations play the same 20 songs on repeat.
Can I just say tolerating the entire human race? Everyday I could face palm...
And not enough room in the trunk of my car for 8 billion people.
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As I get older, I find it worthwhile spending a bit more to buy quality shoes for their comfort & longevity
I'm in my twenties. But I've always known it's better to buy a few things that last than many things that don't. Unfortunately I can't afford some of the quality stuff now. Being young and poor is truly expensive.
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I never wore high heels, vans or chucks for me. And underwire bras..... ugh give me a sports bra anyday wayyyy more comfy
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One very important thing missing: traveling crammed on an airplanes for less money? Oh, and you're not able to bring your carry on luggage. You have to pay for EVERYTHING and in the near future this will include even using the lavatories...and breathing!
Working in office. I'm not trying to climb any ladder. I've always been the hardest working one in the office. All I've gotten for it is more work piled on, small raises. I work from home, do my job, but I'm pretty burnt out at this point.
1. The constant competition for my time, money, & attention. It's like everybody & their narcissistic step-sibling, every institution & its algorithms, has an agenda that is not served by just letting me BE. 2. Willful denial of reality. From science to elections, so many people seem to think they Have The Right to believe whatever makes them feel validated. 3. Having to say everything at least twice because the first response is always, "what"? 4. My own hearing getting worse whenever I notice #3 above.
I don't know if this counts...the way things are 'improved' , everything from recipes to tech but end up being worse....as an example ,getting rid of Google Play Music and replacing it with YT. To this day it still annoys me as I found the voice command very sketchy and try and avoid it
Can I just say tolerating the entire human race? Everyday I could face palm...
And not enough room in the trunk of my car for 8 billion people.
Load More Replies... As I get older, I find it worthwhile spending a bit more to buy quality shoes for their comfort & longevity
I'm in my twenties. But I've always known it's better to buy a few things that last than many things that don't. Unfortunately I can't afford some of the quality stuff now. Being young and poor is truly expensive.
Load More Replies... I never wore high heels, vans or chucks for me. And underwire bras..... ugh give me a sports bra anyday wayyyy more comfy
Load More Replies... One very important thing missing: traveling crammed on an airplanes for less money? Oh, and you're not able to bring your carry on luggage. You have to pay for EVERYTHING and in the near future this will include even using the lavatories...and breathing!
Working in office. I'm not trying to climb any ladder. I've always been the hardest working one in the office. All I've gotten for it is more work piled on, small raises. I work from home, do my job, but I'm pretty burnt out at this point.
1. The constant competition for my time, money, & attention. It's like everybody & their narcissistic step-sibling, every institution & its algorithms, has an agenda that is not served by just letting me BE. 2. Willful denial of reality. From science to elections, so many people seem to think they Have The Right to believe whatever makes them feel validated. 3. Having to say everything at least twice because the first response is always, "what"? 4. My own hearing getting worse whenever I notice #3 above.
I don't know if this counts...the way things are 'improved' , everything from recipes to tech but end up being worse....as an example ,getting rid of Google Play Music and replacing it with YT. To this day it still annoys me as I found the voice command very sketchy and try and avoid it
