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Man Bullied Sister Into Avoiding Family, Now Shocked She’s Marrying Without Him Or Parents
Middle-aged woman and young woman having a serious conversation indoors, reflecting tense family dynamics about bully bro and wedding.

Man Bullied Sister Into Avoiding Family, Now Shocked She’s Marrying Without Him Or Parents

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When we are kids, we are always taught that the real trouble lies outside our house, and the inside is a safe space. That’s probably why we never keep our guard up at home, but at times, this can have a lifelong impact if the danger is inside.

Just like in today’s story, where the original poster’s brother is the real trouble, as he bullied their younger sister all her life, until she literally fled to a faraway place. It was obvious that she didn’t even want him at her wedding, but when the parents found out, they went ballistic!

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    The poster’s brother (Mike) is the golden child of the family, and their parents did nothing while he bullied his younger sister (Kelly)

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    Mike bullied Kelly so much that she gave up on her dream college, which was close to home, went far away, and decided to settle there

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    She found a guy (Jake) over there, and when they decided to get married, she didn’t invite Mike, angering her parents, but she kicked them out, too

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    Text on a white background stating mum and dad tried to play it off as a prank while Jake was refusing to accept it, relating to couple goes ballistic.

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    They complained about it to the poster, but she told them that they completely deserved it for turning a blind eye to Mike’s bullying behavior

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    Text excerpt describing a bully man-child being unsafe around children and a daughter moving 400 miles away to escape bullying.

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    The poster updated that her kids don’t like visiting her parents, as her dad keeps forcing her son to play rugby

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    She informed her parents that she is going low-contact with them and that even her kids don’t like visiting them

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    She also opened their eyes to how they’ve ruined Mike’s life by babying him, as he’s a man-child with zero prospects in his life

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    The parents are quite shocked to find out that she will not care for them when they age and won’t look after Mike when they pass

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    Just imagining their life with the poster going low-contact with them left the parents completely baffled, and the poster hoped they would think things through

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    She even stood up to the relatives who chastised her for saying that her parents deserved to be kicked out of Kelly’s wedding

    Today, we dive into the life of Reddit user ThrowRAsisterswed as she narrates how her parents and brother (Mike) messed up her younger sister’s (Kelly) life, but the sisters finally stood their ground. Mike was a bully at school, but he was even more awful towards Kelly at home, and their parents let all his “pranks” slide since he’s the “golden boy” whom they thought would become a rugby star.

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    He remained the favorite child even when things didn’t work out in rugby, and Kelly got so sick of his disturbing behavior toward her that she gave up going to her dream college, as it is close to home. She decided to go far away and even settled there, so she only has to go home for Christmas

    Research has revealed that bullying can seriously affect the victim’s mental health and can change the way they feel about themselves well into their adulthood. It has also been observed that being bullied can lead to traumatic stress reactions, including post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Well, is it any surprise that Kelly wanted to flee the house?

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    Despite such a traumatizing childhood and teenage years, Kelly has built a life for herself in London and even found an amazing guy (Jake). When he visited her parents, he stopped Mike from “pranking” her, so they all instantly hated him. However, more drama ensued when she decided to marry him and didn’t invite Mike. 

    The parents were beside themselves with rage, so she kicked them out, too. OP even told them to their face that they deserved it. This led to them throwing such a huge fit over it that relatives started reprimanding the poster for saying such things to them, so she vented online. However, folks instantly sided with her and didn’t shy away from calling out her parents and Mike.

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    Later, the poster updated that she went to talk to her parents and tell them that she is going to go low-contact, but they brought up her kids. However, she quickly told them that the kids don’t like it with them, as her daughter finds Mike weird, and her dad keeps forcing her son into rugby when he clearly dislikes it. OP also threw a reality check at them, which had them absolutely rattled.

    She brought up how Mike is a good-for-nothing man-child with zero prospects, and said she will not be looking after them or him when they pass away. Research suggests that favoritism can harm the sibling bond, and studies have proved that it increases tensions and conflict between siblings. That’s exactly what happened in this story, as the sisters and Mike clearly despise each other.

    It has also been observed that the favored child may develop a distorted view of self, and a feeling of entitlement may make it difficult for him or her to have successful relationships in adulthood. The poster wasted no time in reminding her parents about how much damage they had actually done to Mike by babying him so much, and looking at his bleak future, they were shocked.

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    OP feels that since she has finally given them a much-needed reality check, they will hopefully think things through. However, she is sticking with her decision to go low-contact and is excited to meet Kelly. Netizens were glad that the sisters finally stood up for themselves, and loved the fact that their grandpa is walking Kelly down the aisle.

    Well, I guess all’s well that ends well, right? We really hope that the parents reflect on their mistakes rather than show up to the wedding with Mike, as many Redditors warned OP they might, but she clarified that they are prepared if that happens. If you were in her shoes, how would you have handled the situation? Let us know your thoughts in the comments below!

    Folks were aghast at the enabling parents and golden boy Mike, but felt glad that the sisters finally stood up for themselves

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    MotherRobinson
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    6 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OP is an entire rock star for how she's handling her mom and dad and Mike she did a good job with that and supporting her sister.

    FreeTheUnicorn
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    6 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    For all those siblings that left and either things got worse for the younger ones or stayed the same but were bad. When it's your home, even if you know it's bad, you don't realise how bad until you get some different life experience. Innately there are things we know parents or siblings shouldn't do, but sometimes it takes years of seeing what healthy relationships are before you really understand how wrong the wrong ones are. So even if you feel like you didn't do enough, you were also a child, and it's ok. An I'm sorry goes a long way, but also, it's on the adults to understand what's going on and to address abuse in their own homes. All siblings can really do is be good to each other when they are adults and do better than their parents.

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    Apatheist Account2
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    6 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Seems like karma all round. Parents and grandparents trying to live through their descendants is never a good idea.

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    MotherRobinson
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    6 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OP is an entire rock star for how she's handling her mom and dad and Mike she did a good job with that and supporting her sister.

    FreeTheUnicorn
    Community Member
    6 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    For all those siblings that left and either things got worse for the younger ones or stayed the same but were bad. When it's your home, even if you know it's bad, you don't realise how bad until you get some different life experience. Innately there are things we know parents or siblings shouldn't do, but sometimes it takes years of seeing what healthy relationships are before you really understand how wrong the wrong ones are. So even if you feel like you didn't do enough, you were also a child, and it's ok. An I'm sorry goes a long way, but also, it's on the adults to understand what's going on and to address abuse in their own homes. All siblings can really do is be good to each other when they are adults and do better than their parents.

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    Apatheist Account2
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    6 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Seems like karma all round. Parents and grandparents trying to live through their descendants is never a good idea.

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