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Doing only what everyone else tells you to do is no way to go through life. Instead, it’s important to develop the confidence to embrace your true passions—and pursue them without embarrassment or guilt. Just because society tells you something is cool doesn’t make it so.

Jake Okechukwu Effoduh, a Ph.D. candidate at the Osgoode Hall Law School of York University, recently went viral on X (formerly Twitter) when he asked everyone for their thoughts on what they’re convinced people only pretend to enjoy. Camping, situationships, trips to Miami, and oysters are just the tip of the iceberg. Scroll down to see what everyone else had to share.

Bored Panda reached out to Jake and he was kind enough to share a few thoughts with us. Read on for his insights!

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We were interested to get Jake's thoughts on the massive popularity of his online thread. "I wonder why it resonated with so many people. I guess many people have thought about the question too!" he told Bored Panda.

"I didn't expect the tweet to get any attention, so seeing 38M views is shocking," he said.

Meanwhile, we were curious as to why people have such different opinions on various foods and activities. Here's what the author of the viral thread had to say: "As they say: 'One person's meat is another person's poison.'"

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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Running feels awesome. Running cross country is physically, emotionally and mentally fulfilling. More so than in a track. Ergo, better than a treadmill. How could someone who likes to run not like doing it outside? Unless they live in New Delhi or a smoggy place.

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According to Jake, "People find it hard to think that something they dislike so much is enjoyed by other people. For example, I love avocados but was surprised to see many people think those who enjoy avocados are pretending," he explained.

Though he has gone viral on Twitter, Jake doesn't consider himself a content creator. Instead, he used the platform to keep up with the news and to share his insights with others.

"I use Twitter to catch up with what's happening in the world and share my thoughts sometimes," he told Bored Panda.

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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I enjoy going into the office, the team is great and we have a laugh BUT if you give me the option to work from home or from the office, i'm picking home every time

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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I love reading, but never thought they were supposed to do all that. Maybe a little wisdom or insight.

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If we sit down and think hard about our goals and priorities, then we can come up with a list of things that we genuinely enjoy doing. This might mean different things to everyone. Some, for instance, might be passionate about art and writing, while others might want to focus on music and dance. 

Most of us also want to have good, strong relationships with others because we’re social animals. Having an active social life isn’t just pleasant, it’s good for our health. The BBC stresses that loneliness can be just as dangerous as smoking. Leading a lonely life leads to more health problems, and shorter, lower-quality lives. According to health experts, around half of the American population is thought to be affected by this. 

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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Matcha, good quality one, from Uji, is superb if you do it right, none of that matcha latte s**t. Just a teaspoon of matcha whisked with a cup of hot water. Yum. I wish I could get good matcha in my country, the best shops in Uji and Kyoto do not sell overseas.

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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you're feeling fancy try good matcha in almond milk. Just a superb way to start the day.

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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It is no different than coffee or tea. You put the flavorful thing in the water, the flavor leeches out, then you drink the water.

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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't know what that is, but if it's made out of grass, I'm out.

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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OP doesn't know that matcha is just green tea powder, not grass.

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Meridia
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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Matcha is good, though not everyone is good at making it because it depends on the whisk quality and the matcha powder grade.

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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You'll have to qualify "good". Good for your body, but the taste leaves something to be desired. But you will (er..rather, should) learn that just because it's not "good", you shouldn't do it. Feelings vs logic....

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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When it’s made the way it’s intended to, then matcha is really good. Especially with traditional Japanese sweets.

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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They are not if you only know them as sugary Starbucks concoctions. And it's not grass, it is very finely powdered green tea. If carefully foamed with a bit of hot water using a bamboo brush (the classic japanese style), matcha is quite delicious if a bit bitter.

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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I mean I used to chew on grass when I was a kid so picking up matcha wasn't hard for me

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Richard Nichols
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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I just had a matcha frappuccino from Starbucks today (well, it's early morning so yesterday). They've become my favorite drink from Starbucks.

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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Matcha is just a type of green tea... No grass involved. Matcha sweets are also yummy.

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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When made correctly it’s amazing. Matcha ice cream/mochi is one of my faves

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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Matcha has its place, it’s not for everyone though. I love it but I can’t stand matcha Kit Kats or cakes

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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I like the grass-based drink I make at home. Butter, honey and about 1/2 an oz. of Acapulco Gold

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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Matcha is nice when made well. One place near me doesn't dissolve the powder, leaving it gritty and undrinkable

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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I love matcha 🍵. A really good matcha has a wonderfully sweet earthy taste.

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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I didn't really think it had much flavour. I tried matcha ice cream and it was very similar to vanilla, as with the wafers I tried.

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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Real matcha is going to pack a lot of flavour. It should have a sweet, earthy, and somewhat “grassy flavour.” The matcha served in Starbucks is usually loaded with sugar so the flavour is diluted

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However, it’s because our social lives are so important that we might be overly worried about our reputations and that others like us. Instead of being 100% authentic and true to ourselves, our aims, and our values, we may adapt our behavior to fit in better. This might mean copying our social group’s interests to leave a positive impression, whether it’s suddenly trying to enjoy camping or some other activity. 

Here’s the thing, though: it’s perfectly fine to try out new and unexpected activities. Embracing a sense of adventure and surprise, and living curiously, are all wonderful things. However, pursuing specific activities just because you’re scared your friends and acquaintances might judge you otherwise isn’t healthy.

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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Instagram, depends on who/what you follow. Though the adverts/suggested posts in my feed can f**k right off

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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I live on an island where we have to watch for falling coconuts all the time. It’s so delicious. Especially if you filter the pulp or meat. How people don’t love coconut I’ll never understand.

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It’s perfectly fine to say ‘no’ if you’ve tried, say, golf, but it never really clicked. On the flip side, if you did enjoy the activity like your friends do, then that’s wonderful, you’re on the same page. The point is, friendship—true friendship—means setting and enforcing boundaries, and feeling comfortable enough to be honest about what you enjoy and absolutely do not. So you might not like camping—that’s fine, you’ll bond with your pals over hiking or cooking.

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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So I was thinking of those retractible daggers on cats paws before I realised they meant manicures.

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Verywell Mind points out that herd mentality, also known as mob or crowd mentality, can be observed everywhere we go. That’s how fashion trends, investment decisions and political affiliations can spread: people set aside their personal judgments and individuality in exchange for adopting the beliefs of the majority. 

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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

have you ever tried salted licorice, cultural heritage of the Scandinavian countries, much worse than viking raids?

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Folks who are victims of herd mentality tend to conform with the rest of the group, even if they had very different opinions before joining it. They often have a fear of being excluded and may adopt more extreme opinions in order to fit in better. Not only that, members of these social mobs also suppress dissent by stamping out contrary opinions. 

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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I didn't understand anything; what is "La Croix" and what means "fr"?

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The best way to fight back against herd mentality is to cultivate more self-awareness. In other words, you have to take an honest look at your beliefs and (dis)likes. Be open with yourself about how much your peers affect how you act. Then, it all comes down to making the decision to be more authentic in the future… or to continue going with the flow.

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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is silly. Taylor is the biggest performer on the globe right now. Its not even close. People aren't pretending.

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It also helps if you become more skeptical of all trends and popular opinions. Try to see through the hype and spot the nuances in situations. The more you develop your critical thinking skills, the more you’ll be able to protect your individuality. And though human beings crave certainty and stability, you can slowly develop your confidence if you start to embrace being uncomfortable going against the crowd. Though you shouldn’t be a contrarian just to stand out!

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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or, as my dad calls it, “pretending to be homeless for a few nights.”

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So, dear Pandas, which of these tweets (or should we be calling them Xs now thanks to Elon Musk?) did you resonate with the most? What things do personally think aren’t all that enjoyable but folks feel pressure to say they love ‘em? What activities do you genuinely love? Share your thoughts in the comments, we’d love to hear from you!

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