Man’s Parents Continue Making Fun Of His Girlfriend For Being Too Young During Her Baby Shower, She Storms Out Of The Party
Getting pregnant is one of the most magical times of a human’s life. However, it is also an exhausting and psychologically hard period. It is important to feel loved and supported by your family, friends and partner. The hormones are running wild, sleep is getting worse, tiredness is taking over the body and every rude phrase towards a mother-to-be hits much harder.
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A baby shower may be the best memory of your life but it also may be heartbreaking if you feel judged by your partner’s family
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Woman wonders if she was wrong for leaving her own baby shower after feeling humiliated and unwelcome by her boyfriend’s family
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The mother-to-be ended up being called rude and ungrateful
Recently, a young woman took her story to one of the most judgmental subreddit groups asking folks if it was a jerk move to storm out of her own baby shower after feeling that she was being disrespected. The post caught users’ attention and received more than 4.5K upvotes and almost 700 comments.
The author started by saying that she is currently 19 years old and is 7 months pregnant. She added that her boyfriend’s family is quite traditional, so having a baby without getting married wasn’t really a dream come true. The parents have been quite distant towards OP since the news about the upcoming child, however she hoped that the baby shower would bring them closer.
Unfortunately, since the moment she arrived, the boyfriend’s aunt’s words were not very welcoming. She made a few comments about how “young mothers never know what they are doing”, the brother then followed up with questions about if she was planning on getting a job or planning to live off her brother for the rest of her life.
Following what was not the nicest welcoming of the young mom-to-be, she was already grabbing at the last straw when her boyfriend’s mom gave her a gift bag that was full of baby clothes in pink. After OP reminded her that they were having a boy, the mother responded that she assumed that as she is very young, she must not know the gender of the baby.
After this, OP was done. She just stood up and informed them that she was leaving as she didn’t feel welcome at her own party. Of course, her boyfriend and his family called her rude and ungrateful, however the author feels like they were the ones who were wrong in this situation.
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Community members voted the woman as “Not the A-hole” in this situation. “Mommy dearest is mad she’s no longer going to be the center of her son’s universe,” one user stated. Folks in the comments defended the author and shamed the boyfriend’s family for such behavior towards the young woman.
However, many readers noticed that the boyfriend didn’t defend his partner and this was not acceptable to them: “The fact your boyfriend didn’t tell his family to back down and stop treating you like [a jerk] is even worse than their behavior. You’re NTA but your boyfriend’s family is and I’m even considering him one since he clearly didn’t support you and stand up for you.”
For context, according to one study, parents’ disapproval of a partner may put pressure on the whole relationship. Additionally, speaking about toxic parents, Parenting for brain listed a few of the traits that identify them. First of all, a toxic home environment is created by toxic parents. To accomplish what they want and to compel their kids to comply, they employ fear, shame, and humiliation as methods. The abusive actions of toxic parents have a harmful long-term and short-term impact on their children. Narcissistic parents are the label most frequently used in psychology to describe toxic parents. These parents occasionally experience personality disorders including narcissistic personality disorder.
Now, let’s speak about how mental health may affect a pregnancy. WebMD Editorial Contributors highlighted that most recent research shows that a mother’s mental health may have an effect on the baby while she is pregnant and not only after giving birth. According to studies, babies who are exposed to more stress hormones as they are developing are more likely to have an amygdala that is highly active. This indicates that their anxiety levels are higher.
Additionally, when their mothers were given a demanding assignment, the newborns of worried mothers responded with racing hearts. One more research showed that the birth weight of children whose mothers had depression during their pregnancies is lower. Lastly, smoking, drinking alcohol, or using other drugs while pregnant is more prevalent in pregnant women with anxiety and depression.
So guys, what do you think about this situation? What would you have done?
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Folks in the comment section defended the author and assured her that she was not in the wrong in this situation
Regarding the comment about why they're not acting like this towards the son, simple: sexism and slüt shaming.
Ah, yes. Slût shaming. Because conservative and traditional rules should only be applied to women (eye roll).
Load More Replies... "pretty traditional"..."out of wedlock"..."distant and cold towards me". And yet it takes two to tango. They assume BF has no responsibility? That a father can't know the sex of his own baby? Or will automatically know better than the mother, regardless of age? I hope OP had a strong support network on her own side - cut off the BF's side. Cut off the BF if he doesn't step up. I have no patience remaining for idiotic, selfish AH inflicting themselves where they are neither wanted, nor needed.
They probably are the sort of people to blame the young woman for seducing their poor son and trapping him with a baby.
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For those who have people giving them the "wrong" color clothes for their baby consider thanking them with "I'm happy to see you don't agree with gender stereotypes! So good to see such progressive thinking from people I thought were hidebound traditionals." or "I knew you were more traditional than me but I didn't know your thinking went so far as when pink was for boys and blue for girls. My baby will rock these." Basically make them either accept your dig or explain very clearly why they did/said what they did. And if they go for explaining their insult, make them go into clear simple detail to ridiculous levels while maintaining a polite attitude. Best you can do with these types, set boundaries and when they say things to judge and hurt you stay polite but ask questions forcing them to explain their rudeness. They will hate not getting a rise out of you and you gain control by making them dig a hole. Practice with a trusted friend.
Yeah, nothing wrong with pink for the baby. It's a baby, it won't have colour preferences yet. Not liking the colour of the clothes is an adult problem not a baby problem.
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Regarding the comment about why they're not acting like this towards the son, simple: sexism and slüt shaming.
Ah, yes. Slût shaming. Because conservative and traditional rules should only be applied to women (eye roll).
Load More Replies... "pretty traditional"..."out of wedlock"..."distant and cold towards me". And yet it takes two to tango. They assume BF has no responsibility? That a father can't know the sex of his own baby? Or will automatically know better than the mother, regardless of age? I hope OP had a strong support network on her own side - cut off the BF's side. Cut off the BF if he doesn't step up. I have no patience remaining for idiotic, selfish AH inflicting themselves where they are neither wanted, nor needed.
They probably are the sort of people to blame the young woman for seducing their poor son and trapping him with a baby.
Load More Replies... For those who have people giving them the "wrong" color clothes for their baby consider thanking them with "I'm happy to see you don't agree with gender stereotypes! So good to see such progressive thinking from people I thought were hidebound traditionals." or "I knew you were more traditional than me but I didn't know your thinking went so far as when pink was for boys and blue for girls. My baby will rock these." Basically make them either accept your dig or explain very clearly why they did/said what they did. And if they go for explaining their insult, make them go into clear simple detail to ridiculous levels while maintaining a polite attitude. Best you can do with these types, set boundaries and when they say things to judge and hurt you stay polite but ask questions forcing them to explain their rudeness. They will hate not getting a rise out of you and you gain control by making them dig a hole. Practice with a trusted friend.
Yeah, nothing wrong with pink for the baby. It's a baby, it won't have colour preferences yet. Not liking the colour of the clothes is an adult problem not a baby problem.
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