Teen Refuses To Give Up 95% Of His Paycheck As Rent, Parents Are Furious
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In some families, it’s pretty normal for the parents to charge their older children some amount of rent when they come of age. This can be a symbolic sum to teach them about budgeting or real money that goes towards running a household. But certain households end up taking it way too far.
An eighteen-year-old young adult turned to the Internet for advice when his stepfather started demanding what came out to 95% of his income for rent. People did their best to provide him with some advice on how to get out of this pretty unfavorable situation. We also got in touch with throwawaybeardAITA to learn more.
Some parents do ask their adult children for rent if they stay in their homes
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But one young man decided that 95% of his paycheck was a simply unreasonable amount
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Living with one’s parents is slowly becoming more common
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Bored Panda got in touch with throwawaybeardAITA and he was kind enough to share a quick update on his situation. “I moved out around a year ago for unrelated reasons, if the kids are over 18 and out of high school, then I’m okay with parents wanting their kids to pay rent. Of course, the amount varies by situation. Honestly, I’m sort of glad that everyone thought I was NTA because I thought the amount my stepdad was asking for was absurd.”
It’s steadily becoming more and more common for people to live with their parents later in life. Increasing costs of living and accommodation, the ability to work remotely, and just generally changing standards have all contributed to this. While OP’s case is also very common, there is a growing trend for people to return to their childhood homes after spending some time elsewhere.
Researchers call this particular cohort the boomerang generation. In Canada, the number of returnees to their parents has been growing, while in the US, it has remained relatively steady, around 10-15%. It’s worth noting that in some cultures, this isn’t just normal, but expected and people only leave the house when they are married.
Regardless of the reasons, the result is the slow and steady stigmatization of living with your parents. What might have been a punchline in a 1980 sitcom is now just reality, as rent and housing prices remain unaffordable for people. This isn’t to say that most people prefer to live with their parents, even OP plans to leave, rather, the financial barriers to exit are simply higher these days.
It doesn’t look like the stepfather actually needs the other half of OP’s income
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Some commenters suggest that this is a not-too-subtle attempt to entrap OP. Because he is bringing in regular income, the parents might want to keep him around as long as possible. By leaving him with this little money, OP has no way to develop the savings he needs to leave. At the same time, he does need food and shelter, so he isn’t just going to be homeless.
OP also notes some disturbing additional demands, like the pressure that he shaves his beard. Particularly since he is a legal adult, there is no reason the stepfather should be making this sort of demand. While OP does not elaborate on the relationship with his mother, it’s surprising that she doesn’t seem to be offering any real measure of support for him. This could be due to her limited financial resources at the moment, but either way, she really should stand by her son.
Readers did their best to offer advice and support. At eighteen, it might be hard to realize exactly what the stepfather is planning, particularly if you have never lived in the real world. After all, our rent, generally, isn’t directly based on our income, so the stepfather is absolutely attempting to manipulate OP.
There are some decent reasons to continue to live with your parents
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However, if the parents are less toxic than in OP’s case, there are some strong arguments to be made for staying with them into adulthood. First and foremost, even if they do charge rent, it’s almost never going to be the market price of an equivalent space. The result is that a person can save up money for an education, a vehicle, or even a down payment on a home, depending on their situation.
However, in the long run, most people, OP included, would prefer independence, something that should be encouraged. Realistically, the stepfather is in the wrong, particularly as OP’s biological mother doesn’t seem to be quite involved enough. Hopefully, OP can find a way out of this situation and start his life properly.
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Most thought he was absolutely NTA and thought the stepfather was being ridiculous
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I'll never understand parents who think that their kid magically becomes a full-fledged adult at 18, and should move out or start paying part of their bills. They've just finished school, they're still a teenager, and still have so much to learn. Parenting doesn't stop when the kid turns 18. Damn.
I started "helping" financially when I got my first job at 14. I moved out WILLINGLY at 17. I still help my Mom (dad passed) out financially when she needs it and my kids who are grown and live at home WILLINGLY help out financially too. But in their case it's a flat rate per month and they get the house when we die so it's also an investment in a way. His so called parents are lazy bums themselves!
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ha. My parents stated that if I got a job, I was to forfeit the entire paycheque to them. The reasoning was... "When you overspend and need money, you're just going to ask us for money anyhow, so your paycheque is really ours anyhow". Then it was the ... "You're living here and you are using our heat and electricity, etc. so your paycheque is really our money"... Then they got super angry at me for daring to move out, saying I was being an insulting, ungrateful child for moving out. I think it was then that I finally realized - there was never anything I could do that would please them. They just hated me.
That's really sad, @D. Pitbull. I'm sorry to hear what you went through.
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If he doesn't get out now, it may be impossible for him to move later. His deadbeat parents are trying to keep OP on a short leash, treating him like their organ grinder monkey. He needs to make arrangements to stay with friends and break all ties with those leeches. They will drain him dry. And don't forget your important documents (SS card, birth certificate, bank statements, and proof of payment for household expenses). He also needs to check his credit reports; it's possible that his parents might have made purchases under his name.
Perhaps there's a way to recover the money he's paid so far. He's a minor; that should rule in his favor with a judge.
Load More Replies... I'll never understand parents who think that their kid magically becomes a full-fledged adult at 18, and should move out or start paying part of their bills. They've just finished school, they're still a teenager, and still have so much to learn. Parenting doesn't stop when the kid turns 18. Damn.
I started "helping" financially when I got my first job at 14. I moved out WILLINGLY at 17. I still help my Mom (dad passed) out financially when she needs it and my kids who are grown and live at home WILLINGLY help out financially too. But in their case it's a flat rate per month and they get the house when we die so it's also an investment in a way. His so called parents are lazy bums themselves!
Load More Replies... ha. My parents stated that if I got a job, I was to forfeit the entire paycheque to them. The reasoning was... "When you overspend and need money, you're just going to ask us for money anyhow, so your paycheque is really ours anyhow". Then it was the ... "You're living here and you are using our heat and electricity, etc. so your paycheque is really our money"... Then they got super angry at me for daring to move out, saying I was being an insulting, ungrateful child for moving out. I think it was then that I finally realized - there was never anything I could do that would please them. They just hated me.
That's really sad, @D. Pitbull. I'm sorry to hear what you went through.
Load More Replies... If he doesn't get out now, it may be impossible for him to move later. His deadbeat parents are trying to keep OP on a short leash, treating him like their organ grinder monkey. He needs to make arrangements to stay with friends and break all ties with those leeches. They will drain him dry. And don't forget your important documents (SS card, birth certificate, bank statements, and proof of payment for household expenses). He also needs to check his credit reports; it's possible that his parents might have made purchases under his name.
Perhaps there's a way to recover the money he's paid so far. He's a minor; that should rule in his favor with a judge.
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