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People Share What Horrible Things Husbands Have Said To Their Wives That No One Should Repeat (35 Stories)
Honesty isn’t always the best policy, even in long-term relationships and in marriage. How you say something, how you phrase your opinion is just as (and arguably even more) important than what you’re trying to communicate. The truth can hurt and opinions can sting if you think diplomacy is a blunt instrument.
Internet users have been compiling a huge list of all the things that husbands should never (ever, ever, ever) tell their wives over on the r/AskReddit subreddit. The thread had nearly 6k comments and over 14k upvotes at the time of writing, and it’s all the proof you need that blurting out whatever’s on our mind doesn’t always bring about the best results.
Have a read through some of the best entries in the thread, upvote the comments that you absolutely agree shouldn’t leave a guy’s mouth, and let us know what you think is essential when it comes to communication in relationships in the comments.
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#1
My dad, who doesn’t bake anything and barely cooks at all, while eating a slice of my mom’s homemade apple pie:
“You don’t cut the apples right.”
And that was the last apple pie she ever made for him. Around 40 years ago.
May 4 years ago (edited)
Bet he learnt not to criticize her cooking after that - either that or learned to cook for himself
Lillukka79 4 years ago
My dad said once "mom made better". Mom told him to hop on the next train back to mommy or shut up and eat. Never complained again.
Terry Tobias 4 years ago
I was 12 years old and decided to make an apple pie from scratch for the very first time. I picked the apples from a tree on my uncle's land that I had to climb to get to, made the crust and filling myself and baked it to perfection. My dad's only comment: "I don't like the sugar sprinkled on top". So much for supporting the efforts of your children.
Yoga Kitty 4 years ago
I am sure it was delicious! But maybe totally wasted on your father... I hope everyone else loved it and told you so.
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Natalie 4 years ago
I'm imagining your mother waiting til your father goes to work, making an apple pie and troughing the whole thing herself. "Up Yours, Husband" *spraying crumbs*
Martha Meyer 4 years ago
This is the kind of comment people make who never or almost never cook. They have no appreciation for the time and labour put into their food.
Tara Leigh 4 years ago
In 1998 I made me (now disowned) parents and sister a beautifully cooked meal of food they like(I have a year professional chef training)I spent all day cooking it and half my food budget of the month(I was a single mom of a 2yr old on a very low income). They just insulted the meal and were horrible. They never apologized. & There was an apology owed on the table. So I never cooked them anything ever again from 1998-2016 when I ended the relationship in 2016. I mean not anything. If they had a dinner I’d not help cook anything. I’d open a tin of cranberry sauce or heat up something but I never ever cooked for them, again. & what I should have done was never spoken to those people from the day I turned 18. Don’t waste your apple pie, your gifts or your life on people that don’t appreciate you.
Black Karen 4 years ago
"Dont waste your apple pie." I love that. Sorry your fam are jerks. Good for you for setting healthy boundaries.
Load More Replies... Lynne Monteith 4 years ago
My Mum got up and made breakfast for my Dad when they were first married. He complained about everything and she neve made him breakfast again in all the 48 years they were together.
Sam Yobado 4 years ago
He dodged a bullet there. 40 years of wrong cut apples in pies. No one could endure that.
Mark Kelly 4 years ago
She was with him for 40 more year? But that’s not the first and last shitty thing he said
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#2
When I was pregnant with my daughter, maybe ten-eleven weeks and really wacky hormonal, my ex suddenly looked up and said,
"I know! If the baby is a girl we should make it Stephanie after my one true love."
My name is 100% not Stephanie.
Monday 4 years ago
Was Stephanie perhaps a former pet dog? ...that might be the only way to save this.
Sam Yobado 4 years ago
It's called a Freudian slip. He meant to say "Stephanie, after no one in particular.".
#3
At dinner with my parents last night, my husband said "it was so annoying when you kept throwing up when you were pregnant."
I threw up 3x a day for 20 weeks. I'm sorry it inconvenienced him so much
May 4 years ago
Isn't there a thing you can give someone to induce vomiting? I'm thinking his every meal should be laced with that for the foreseeable future
Vicky Zar 4 years ago
What a great idea. I would not recommend really doing it, but alone the thought is so satisfying.
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Foxxy (The Original) 4 years ago (edited)
If HE thought it was annoying, imagine how she and many other women feel having to actually go through it.
Jake 4 years ago
February of 1997 was the longest month for my wife and for me. She refused Fenegren for nausea because the drug could possibly affect the baby. She threw up 100 times that month! Finally, the doctor told her she was hurting the baby more by the dehydration than if she used the drug. At the ER one time, she had 3 and a half bags of IV liquid. That is a huge amount for a woman 5'3" and 120 lb.
Sang Fe 4 years ago
It has only been 100 years since all states in the USA took away men's legal right to beat their wives. I think it is less about stupidity and more generational tradition of many cultures to expect absolute subservience from women.
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Ryan Deschanel 4 years ago
People can be very insensitive and selfish sometimes. I remember I was told several time that I had to stop being depressed because I was ruining some people's mood. Like, oh, I am sorry my suicidal thoughts rain on your pretty little perfect parade.
Black Karen 4 years ago
Un-did whatever rude ahole downvoted you for this. People suck. Seriously. I hope you always choose life.
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Kathryn Baylis 4 years ago
Please tell me his mother piped up and angrily gave him a good piece of her mind for saying something so f*****g insensitive as that. Even better if his father did the same, and both insisted he apologize to his wife RIGHT NOW, and never ever ever say anything like that again.
Earlier, I spoke with relationship and self-love coach Alex Scot about honesty, trust, and how we can distinguish between secrecy and privacy. According to Alex, it’s best to be completely honest with your loved one if the information affects them directly. We should do our best to imagine ourselves in their shoes and think about what we’d prefer, the truth or lies, in their position.
"If it can affect your partner or family, there absolutely should be transparency. Whenever in doubt, put yourself in the other person’s shoes and ask yourself what you would like if you were in their situation," Alex told Bored Panda.
#4
I didn't get to try my mother's lasagna till I was twenty years old. Why? My father, in a temporary bout of insanity, whilst eating my mother's home made said to her "this is really good lasagna, but you know who makes REALLY good lasagna? My ex wife."
Otter 4 years ago
He's lucky he ever saw another hot meal during that marriage.
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V Martinez 4 years ago
I would have packed his suitcase, with the lasagna mixed in with his clothes!
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Philly Bob Squires 4 years ago
I'd be like... "call her then, it's where you'll be eating your meals from now on!"
#5
Wasn’t my husband, but an ex of mine once told me “I see why your ex abused you” when I was suffering from mental health issues.
Lisa Reuss 4 years ago
NO!!!! I am gobsmacked that anyone would ever say anything even remotely like this. No wonder he’s an ex. What an asshole.
Ryan Deschanel 4 years ago (edited)
People always blame the victim. Yet another reason why life and people suck.
StrawberryParfait 4 years ago (edited)
And this is why we never share our traumas with our men until you are years in and good and sure he won't weaponize it against you. Happens all the time to women who open up about their past traumas under the guise of "being honest" and showing vulnerability. You don't owe anyone your traumas. You are allowed to keep them to yourself, and they are no one's business. And never trust a man who is openly encouraging you to share your past hurts. He is wanting that information to know how to manipulate you, or will use it against you later to excuse his bad treatment of you. A good man will respect your privacy about your past hurts, and not expect you to be an "open book" about such personal information. Tell a therapist about your hurts, not your new partner.
No Fox Given 4 years ago
Actually had an ex say these exact words to me and also informed me that I wasn’t a real woman because I can’t have children. This is one of the many reasons why he became my ex husband.
Shinomi Chan 4 years ago
Yeah because you should really tell that to someone with mental problems like that. Helps as much as "Oh lol, it's all in your head, just stop being negative."
#6
I was modeling some new lingerie for my ex husband and asked “Do you like what you see?” In a flirty come get it kind of way. He looked up from his phone, gave me a once over and said “I’d like you to lose some weight”.
Carol Emory 4 years ago
And the next time he asked for sex, I'd look him dead in the eye and say "I have to lose weight first" while stuffing a dozen Oreo cookies in my mouth...
AzKhaleesi 4 years ago
Similar thing happened with my ex, I had just had our daughter and I was already feeling kinda bad about myself so I went and bought a cute nightie, and "surprised" him, he looked up barely a glance and went "mmhmmm nice" and went back to eating his ice cream. Never did that again and ended up divorced.
Raven DeathShade 4 years ago
Oh, that's terrible. I bet you looked really nice in that nightie, if that's any consolation XD.
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"If it wouldn’t impact them, then you have the option of keeping it to yourself. The difference between privacy and secrecy is that secrecy has a sense of shame, guilt, or knowing that your partner or family member wouldn’t be ok with whatever took place."
According to Alex, rebuilding trust takes time and effort and is a real challenge. The bigger the loss of trust, the longer it will take for someone to start believing you and feeling safe around you again.
#7
Never tell your partner they did something badly if they do something to be good to you.
If they cleaned the apartment on their day off but there was still sand on the rug in the hallway, dont point out the sand and say they missed a spot or that they did it badly.
Say that it was fantastic and you really love it, then you can say "ohh i think i pulled some sand in with me, i'll just go and dust this hallway mat" Next time when they do it they will remember the hallway mat too.
Dont criticize your partner when they are trying to make you happy, they wont do it perfectly the first time around that is ok. If you criticize your partner when they are trying to make you happy, they will stop doing it. If you tell them it was fantastic, that you loved it, they will put more effort into it because its worth it to them, because it makes you happy.
You should also tell your partner how to train you the same way, so you become someone that makes your partner happy.
Ozacoter 4 years ago (edited)
I think that it depends if the partner forgot once (then its ok) or if they refuse to do x chore. If my partner says that he "cleaned" but all he did was to put the roomba the first time I will thank him. The tenth I will be angry.
Jess Thompson 4 years ago
I would just act interested and ask what all they did - put their sneaky ass on the spot. sometimes they’re trying to score points by doing nothing. I’d rather them do nothing than lie to appease their own guilt for doing f**k all for me.
Load More Replies... D S 4 years ago
If your partner lives with you, cleaning isnt something nice he´s done for "you". You both live there, you both have exactly the same responsability to do everything in said home. Just because one of you usually does it while the other sits on their butts, doesnt mean people should be happy when their partners do a shitty job at not even doing the bare minimum................. I´d say the poster was right if they were talking about their child. If your child does something like that, be grateful and don´t point out what they did wrong. Obviously try to teach them to do better at another time but not right then..... But towards a spouse/partner?? LOL. You must be dense if you think doing a crappy clean up in the house you live in as an adult should get you any sympathy points.
Luke Oakridge 4 years ago
If someone does the minimum and someone else does nothing, I don't think the second person has the right to complain about the first person.
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Ryan-James O'Driscoll 4 years ago
You should be able to speak honestly with your partner without being rude. If you have to resort to this sort of trickery, something is very wrong.
Tee Witt 4 years ago
Train you? I do what housework needs doing, if my husband decides something I have not done needs doing, he damn well does it himself. Men are quite capable you know.
Luke Oakridge 4 years ago
If you split up the chores with him, maybe he can take over one chore and you take over one of his chores. But if you are responsible for a chore, you should do a good job at it rather than just expect the other partner to be happy with whatever minimal effort you put into it.
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Cosgrove Penfold 4 years ago
" tell your partner how to train you the same way" is this about dogs or humans? Yikes.
Amina Hays 4 years ago
1/2 I'm confused about this one. I’ll probably get downvoted a lot for saying this. Some women say things like that all the time, more often than not, say even worse things. Some women are so quick to get angry about things and chastise their partners about it, yet play the "victim" if negative things are said about themselves. I'm saying this as someone who has been in an incredibly abusive relationship.
Curry on... 4 years ago
Be sure they aren't intentionally trying to sabotage you by doing sloppy work so that you decide to "do it yourself."
#8
I was only 23 at the time, but I once told my now ex-wife that her cooking will “never be as good as my moms, no offense though” and boy, that was the dumbest thing I’ve ever said in my life. Like, wtf was I even thinking lol
chi-wei shen 4 years ago
I've just seen a documentary about Pearl Harbor and the long war that followed. I do see some similarities.
Brian Bennett 4 years ago
My husband said that and I served him creamed canned mushrooms with every meal. Mommy's most exquisite dish!
Tara Leigh 4 years ago
Don’t forget men YOUR cooking can be as good as your Moms. Your Mom or Grandma would love it if you wanted to spend time with her teaching you how to cook! And your spouse would love you cooking for her what you learned!
Rob Davison 4 years ago
My wife absolutely could not cook when we first got married. She would cook everything with the burner turned on high and thought that the minute the stove top percolator started perking that the coffee was done. She learned though. Her mom was an excellent cook but my wife had no interest in learning to cook until after we were married. I should note that we marked our 52nd anniversary on the 16th.
Jade Lynn - Panda's Brat 4 years ago
At least this guy seemed to have learned. I think a lot of liking mom's cooking the best is nostalgia.
Adriana Loborec 4 years ago
Many people like most what they were used to eat in childhood.
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wifeofweasley 4 years ago
NEVER EVER compare your gf/partner/wife to your mom!!!! It kills relationships
Kathryn Baylis 4 years ago (edited)
You weren’t thinking. Emotionally immature men don’t think before speaking, as there’s no filter between the f****d up brain and the filthy mouth-*-*-*-*-Now, I didn’t say all men, I said emotionally immature men. So before you get all pissed off at me, reread my comment, remember I made that distinction very clear, and decide which kind of man you want people to think you are.
#9
That she’s only upset because she’s PMSing. My husband knows my cycle better than I do (which isn’t saying much because I really pay no attention), and I swear he just expects me to get bitchy, so anytime I get irritated in that window of time, he acts like I’m not to be taken seriously.
For the record, I do get PMS—not severely, but I recognize when I’m getting irrationally bitchy, because I feel like I just WANT to be mad. So when I make a reasonable complaint from a rational place and it gets attributed to PMS, it’s infuriating. Like, it’s reasonable for me to get mad that you walked past a heap of cat puke 10 times today but waited for me to get home to clean it up!
Sarah Tyrrell 4 years ago
My partner thinks of my PMS irritability as when I'm most genuine. Like PMS makes me care less about societal pressures to be a "pleasant, rational woman" and I just say what's really on my mind. So he listens more closely to what bothers me during that time. It blew my mind that I'd been convinced by society for so long that I just 'go crazy' once a month. No I just give less f**ks once a month and I'd like to increase the frequency of that mindset now.
Helen Haley 4 years ago
Yup. Those are the days where there is no filter. Just let it fly.
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Yildiz Bolat 4 years ago (edited)
Husband, after he did something: are you on your period? Is that why you’re so angry? Me: do you, somehow, believe you’re an idiot only 5 days per month? He never said that again.
Luke Oakridge 4 years ago
How would you feel if he said you were an idiot all month?
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Patti Vance 4 years ago
gosh, i understand this so well. didn't know i was giving shelter to 4 large tumors in my uterus which made PMS just horrible. i knew i could get bitchy so would try to stay kind of quiet during this time as it wasn't anyone's issue but mine. i noticed that my teen son was starting to get into baking but only chocolate chip cookies. when i mentioned that i really loved seeing him do this he told me it was self preservation: he had become aware of my cycle & thought cookies would make me feel better. of course, cookies make everything better. he's 42 now and still keeps aware of how i am feeling.
Raven DeathShade 4 years ago
I like your son. He seems like a cool dude (though he's older than my dad, so is that a weird thing to say?)
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John Caldwell 4 years ago
Man did I screw that one up more than once! The poster did a perfect job of explaining that the validity of her feelings and concerns should not be dismissed as hormonal. PMS or not, I’ve always been more irritable by far than my wife!! And now that I’m closing in on 60, there’s less of what makes men stone cold nuts, and I like the more even keeled way I deal with stuff. So who was more hormonal all those years???!!
Roxy Eastland 4 years ago
I wish women wouldn't feed this idea, that women's reproductive hormones make them irrational and irritable for no reason. Makes me so cross.
Question everything 4 years ago
I don't know about your periods, but my PMS definitely makes me irrational and irritable. For a few days every ant is a molehill. Takes all my might to fight the urge to break things ... or people. Add to that bloating and other premenstrual physical discomfort. I wish women stopped judging other women, especially when they have no idea how much those women suffer. PMS is not a choice, it's not a fun time.
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Missy Moo Moo 4 years ago
Dated a guy who had a fortnightly cycle that would make any woman's perceived cycle look like nothing
Lisa Reuss 4 years ago
We’ve all been there! I swear my husband dismisses me less when I’m upset now that I’ve gone through menopause, and he can’t blame it on PMS. But I remember him doing it, and me telling him that when I get mad at him when I have my period it isn’t always PMS, sometimes he’s just an asshole.
“For smaller offenses, it will take less time, but for larger offenses, be prepared to be overly transparent for a time and hire a therapist or coach to walk you through the process. Trust takes consistency to rebuild and consistency equals effort over time."
#10
Not my husband, but an ex boyfriend.
I dressed up for a dinner out, feeling super cute in my new dress. So I come up to him, smiley face and all.
I didn't even asked him how I looked. Did not intend to. He just said, with a disapointed face and a lil disgusted tone:
"You really wanna know what I think about your outfit?"
He's the ex for many reasons, but this one still makes me angry when I think of it.
Liam Farranree 4 years ago
He didn't even ask what you thought of him as a man. Did not intend to. He found out anyway.
Carol Emory 4 years ago
Like the friend of mine who was getting into her boyfriends car as he held the door open for her only to have him lean over, pat her thigh and say "A few too many of those Wendy's burgers?" She got back out of the car and told him to enjoy his date.....
De Gueb 4 years ago
In my late twenties I was dating a girl 22, she was very sexy and loved to dress up. One day she came down in a short dress with ankle boots, she had beautiful legs, she looked amazing, and I told her. She gave me a big kiss and a hug. Later she told me that she dressed once like that for her ex and he told her to go back up and put some proper cloths on, "you look like a whore".
Yoga Kitty 4 years ago
This reminds me of my bil's birthday party a long time ago - I was in my early twenties and terribly self conscious at that time. I wore my then favourite dress. Some what later in the evening one of my brothers told me - totally unprompted and out of the blue - "You know, you look like a country bumpkin in that dress!". I was shocked and spent the rest of the evening thinking about all the other occasions I wore that dress before and wondered if everybody had had the same thought then. I never wore that dress EVER again. Now, 20 years later, I would react completely different but then it was really hurtful.
Piku 4 years ago
Before dating my ex my two guys had already rejected me after dating for a month ( 4-5 years ago ) . My ex and I didn't had a pretty good relationship 3 years ago as I was mentally not ok and keep thinking that this relationship will also go downhill , I left him ( yes I did wrong ) after 2 years I contacted him and we both put efforts to make this thing work but now he's having serious anger issues and one day in a feat of anger he told me " you're such a monster and this is why your exes left you " over text and I never brought this up because bringing this will make him angrier , he apologized afterwards but some things sticks to your mind permanently and this is one of them . Now we are not together
Got Myself 4 Dwarves 4 years ago
My ex husband would do this, I'd spend ages getting ready to go on a night out (especially if it was a girls night, aka he wasn't coming) and he'd just look at me he say "oh, you're wearing that" - would leave me self conscious the whole night and I'd not enjoy myself - which was his goal
Shinomi Chan 4 years ago
So just for the sake of comparison, what was he wearing at the time? and PLEASE tell me you SLAYED him with your roast.
#11
“I liked your body better before you had kids” Yeah me too.
Susan Green 4 years ago
It’s too bad men can’t get pregnant, and give birth. Oh wait, if that was the case, the human population would have died out centuries ago.
Darko Pešić 4 years ago
As a man i would love to argue you and say that you are wrong, but i just can not. You are 100% correct
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Ryan Deschanel 4 years ago (edited)
Before "WE" had kids, please. I am pretty sure the guy was also involved in the process at some point. Also, why say that? What was she supposed to do? Travel back in time?
Susie Elle 4 years ago
Today, on the 'what's okay to think, but not okay to say out loud to the woman who went through pregnancy and giving birth?'-show.
Jess Thompson 4 years ago (edited)
DUMB C**T I need to stop reading these, I have no hope for men, srsly I’m getting mad at some of these 😂 😂 wtf
Lunar Bicycle 4 years ago
“Hey, f***face. I spent nine months carrying OUR kids in MY body. You’re f***ing welcome,” would be an appropriate response.
#12
I once heard my stepdad say (my mom was standing right beside him) that his ex wife was a 10 in looks but a 4 in personality, but that my mom was a 4 in looks, but a 10 in personality. He thought it was a compliment. Aaaaand he still hasn't lived it down, but his story has changed over time. My mom is now a 7 in looks lmao
Foxxy (The Original) 4 years ago
Noooo, what a horrible thing to say. Here's some advice to men AND women, don't compare your partner with an ex.
Liam Farranree 4 years ago
This champ is a 0 in consideration of others feelings and a 0 in self awareness.
Sa Ruuu 4 years ago
So he knew he f****d up but still tried to raise her "score" to make her feel better? It's surprising how people like that can still be in a relationship
Lisa Reuss 4 years ago
If I were you, I wouldn’t be LMAO. Far from it. That was cruel and over time ~ and she hasn’t divorced him, miraculously ~ he hasn’t gotten better, only slightly less cruel. What a jerk.
#13
My wife was complaining that there was no food, said she was starving. There was, she's just picky. It got on my nerves a bit and I said..
"Well you don't look like your starving"
Don't ever say that
Luke Oakridge 4 years ago
If a wife had made that comment to a husband, I don't think people would joke about him killing her.
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Lea Jacob 4 years ago
Lol. I have said this to my husband. Sometimes we make fat jokes at each other’s expense in jest. I don’t take it seriously and neither does he.
Kathryn Baylis 4 years ago (edited)
WTF, man? Haven’t you ever been really hungry but couldn’t quite put your finger on what you wanted to eat, and nothing in the fridge looked like it would do? You would probably be very frustrated and say pretty much the same thing she did. FFS, try putting yourself in someone else’s shoes before saying something insulting. It’s called empathy. And here’s another little tidbit you should understand: women are not men. You cannot indulge in the same puerile behavior you can when you’re with your bros. We do not respond favorably to roughhousing, rude and crude behavior, foul language, sexist remarks, insults, and graphically filthy jokes, and cruel, disrespectful, and demeaning “pranks”. You’re not in the frat house anymore. You’re supposed to be an emotionally mature adult, so act like it.
Deborah Hale 4 years ago
My ex told me about 3 years into our relationship that I'd look good if I lost "about 25 pounds" - not even thinking about all the times I was cooking dinner and he'd come home with KFC or Pizza Hut. He also wasn't thinking about how HIS ass looked in a mirror, he had a hell of a "muffin top" and buttoned his pants BELOW his gut so...yeah.
#14
My husband once said “I married my mother”, and I’m still plotting his death.
Otter 4 years ago
If you don't want your spouse to act like your parent... act like a f*****g adult.
Ancsuri 4 years ago
My husbad said two or three times that his mother is better in cooking and doing things than I am. I sent him home to mum for 3 days. He never said such things again.
Liam Farranree 4 years ago
Scientists: "Why is it that men die younger than women???" Men: "I married my mother"
Luke Oakridge 4 years ago
If a woman said that, I don't think people would joke about her husband killing her.
Load More Replies... Chich 4 years ago
Speaking of marrying your mother. I was helping a friend clean out his parents place once. His wife was a nurse and I found a picture of her in an old-style nursing uniform. I asked where she got the costume and what the event was. He said "that's not Mary, that's my mother".
Tina Hugh 4 years ago
It's weird he has a picture of his mom in a nurse's uniform? I'm not understanding. Was it a sexy nurse costume, (cause that would sound strange)?
Load More Replies... Carol Emory 4 years ago
My husband once told me I scared him because I was starting to act like my mother...and I realized he was right....and I hated the way my mother behaved. Sometimes truth helps.
Luke Oakridge 4 years ago
I don't think a man would ever joke about killing his wife. Why do women joke about killing their husbands?
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kennedy1209 4 years ago
I said this once - and after 10 years of marriage my wife admitted that she is more like my mother than she ever wanted to admit. But I still shouldn't have verbalized it.
InfectedVoice 4 years ago
My wife and mum have similarities definitely, both moody looking woman, both short with dark hair and big boobs, who knows maybe Freud was right.
#15
You look better with less weight! You were more relaxed before we had kids. We have 3 kids 5 and under, the eldest most likely has ASD, sensory processing disorder, ADHD and still doesn't sleep. Sorry I'm not as carefree as before.
Susan Green 4 years ago (edited)
Tell him that he would look better with his big mouth duct taped shut.
Kathryn Baylis 4 years ago
Sewn, dear. Sewn shut. With really strong fishing line.
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NsG 4 years ago
He should maybe step up and take a more active role than the approximately 15 seconds it took to be a part of those kids lives. If your wife is less relaxed, try HELPING her. And weight loss comments are an invitation to become a lump under the patio.
Raven DeathShade 4 years ago
When my dad sees that my mom is stressed, he sends her to her room to have some quiet time alone while he takes charge of the family. Since I have 9 younger siblings, it's really impressive.
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Tell him if he’d take on 50% of the chores and childcare, you’d be more relaxed and in better shape—-and he’d have less energy and time to make stupid remarks like that.
Lisa Reuss 4 years ago
Tell him he looked better before you realized he was a man child who won’t help with his own children, just judges you for not doing it in a way that doesn’t affect him.
Shinomi Chan 4 years ago
How many times per night did he get up to take care of the kids? and how much does he worry about them overall?
#16
Until you know how she feels about how something looks, don’t comment.
My mum bought a dress I thought she looked really good in, she liked it too. She tried it on in front of my dad and he said he didn’t like it. All the happiness drained from her face, she got changed, handed me the dress and said it was mine now. I tried to convince her how nice she looked but nothing changed her mind, a back handed comment from dad (I don’t even think he really looked) changed her whole perspective
Carol Emory 4 years ago
Another note to men...if you do this often enough, one of two things will happen. She will leave you because she thinks you don't find her attractive anymore or she will stop trying to impress you and dress a way that makes her comfortable. After getting the constant...I don't like it...from my Dad, my mother said "Screw this." and started wearing robes and mumus around the house. He never expressed any satisfaction on how she looked so why should she keep trying?
Lisa Reuss 4 years ago
That makes me sad. Why can’t people realize how much damage their words can do, especially when said to someone who loves you and believes you love them?!
Ancsuri 4 years ago
I was in the same situation, I gave a dress away because of my ex. He said it looks like a curtain. And maybe he was right. I could never unsee that it was like a curtain after that.
Tina Hugh 4 years ago
"What I meant was, you remind me of Vivian Leigh in that scene from Gone with the Wind...because you're so beautiful". Godspeed. Or mention the Carol Burnett skit and see what happens
Load More Replies... Kathryn Baylis 4 years ago
Then speak up and call your dad put for being so f*****g insensitive. Make it crystal clear to him just how cruel he’s being, and especially just how much it crushes your mother—-his wife, who he’s supposed to love—-when he does it. Make him apologize to your mom, tell her to try the dress on again, and FORCE him to look at her——I mean really SEE her—-before he even takes a breath to speak.
Tina Hugh 4 years ago
"You look great in it, but you look great in anything, and I don’t think this dress is nice enough for you." Suggested follow up in private: "you look great wearing anything, and even better wearing nothing." The funny thing is, for most men, I think this is literally what he thinks and feels.
J-A Laine 4 years ago
Dad didn't like it. And? Should he have lied? I don't really see the problem here, honestly. Is her ego that fragile? I mean.. just tell him "Well I like it and I'm going to use it" and that's the end of the discussion. Daddies sense of womens fashion has never been that good to begin with right? What does he know? Unless daddy's name is Calvin Klein.
Curry on... 4 years ago
Ok...I can see why this would bother her, but at the same time, is he not entitled to an opinion? I mean, I don't think women are that fragile. It's all in the delivery, or maybe he was just routinely negative, which would bug anyone.
#17
This is to everyone with a significant other that is a female. Saying things like “calm down” “you’re being crazy right now” or “it’s not that big of a deal” is a sure fire way to get us angry, it feels almost hard wired.
A.M. Pierre 4 years ago
If you tell someone "calm down" or any of these things, what that person usually hears is "you shouldn't be getting upset"/"you don't have the right to be upset" or, essentially, "your feelings are wrong". I'm not saying everyone who says these phrases means that, but the phrases imply that. Given that, historically, women's feelings have been downplayed or dismissed far more often than men's, it can touch a nerve.
Helen Haley 4 years ago
Touch a nerve? if I'm irritated and someone tells me to calm down, you've just unleashed the beast. I will go full nuclear. I will destroy your life and your descendents. I was irritated, it was valid, you try to gaslight me and you've chosen your own death.
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Jojo Dancer 4 years ago
Never, in the history of the world, has anyone calmed down after being told to calm down.
Sam Yobado 4 years ago
Nothing makes people less calm then an order from someone else to "calm down". It's not a de-escalation tactic at all.
Roxy Eastland 4 years ago
No one should ever say 'calm down' to anyone else, unless it's affectionate and about them being extremely happy or excited. It directly means 'stop expressing how you feel because *I* don't like it' and people feel that in their bones, even if they don't consciously identify it.
Caitlin Doyle 4 years ago
I think saying calm down when someone is happy or excited still carries the same message of I don't like your feelings etc.
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Andy Smith 4 years ago
Depends on the circumstances, if it really is something that you should calm down about, then calm down. It goes for both him and her. Like traffic, getting angry because of rush hour and getting road rage won’t make things better, calm the hell down
#18
Don't tell them an ex's gift (or an ex's anything for that matter) was better than yours. At my partner's last birthday dinner him mom asked what the best gift he'd ever gotten was. He immediately said "oh insert ex gf name who I was with for a really long time got me these awesome custom Marvel Vans like five years ago! I don't think anything has topped that." and he gushed about it for a good five minutes. It absolutely hurt cause I had just bought him a really expensive gift I knew he'd been wanting for a while. So yeah don't do that.
Luke Oakridge 4 years ago
It was the mother's fault for asking that during his birthday.
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Curry on... 4 years ago
His mom kinda set that up though. Best response -- this gift (that I got today) is definitely on my list of all time favorites!
Luke Oakridge 4 years ago
Or he just really liked the gift. Don't make assumptions.
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It was the mother's fault for asking that question at all during his birthday.
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Lori Everard 4 years ago
"So yeah, don't do that"? You poor thing. Leave him now and stop begging him to give you more points than every other person he's ever been with, including his mother. Stop working for his pathetically hollow worthless points. You are better than this.
Luke Oakridge 4 years ago
If a woman made a comment about a gift she got from an ex when they were dating, I doubt people would tell the husband to leave her.
Load More Replies... Kathryn Baylis 4 years ago
I mean, some childhood toy he really wanted would’ve been a better story, if he absolutely had to choose an object. The BEST answer would’ve been to say his wife (and kids if they have any) still is the greatest gift he could ever have been given.
#19
An ex once told me he loved me almost as much as the ex that broke his heart. He continued to update me as I got closer to “that mark” and finally once I surpassed that mark. I was young and naïve and he was my first bf. I dumped him, am married now, and I think he’s still sulking around wondering why nobody falls for him.
Arctic Fox Lover 4 years ago
I hope you're very happy now that you're married to someone better! <3
#20
Don't ever bring up how attractive she was before kids. This guy I worked with would say that all the time. Holy shit don't say stuff like that. Do you want to get murdered in your sleep for being an insufferable dickhead?
Kathryn Baylis 4 years ago
Again, this is your wife. You’re supposed to love her. You’re NOT supposed to shoot her down like that, especially when she’s probably already hypercritical of herself. All you’re doing is piling your own bullshit on top of it. She’s given birth to children you BOTH made, which took a physical toll on her that would kill any man. So either tell her she’s beautiful or shut the f**k up.
Roxy Eastland 4 years ago
If the most important thing about a person you are in a relationship with his how they look - don't marry them, for the love of all that is good and pure. It will not last and will make both of you miserable.
Lynne Harbison 4 years ago
A guy I know...about 100+kgs with a big belly...asked me why all women let themselves go once they get married...(I am 59kgs) !
Pamela Blue 4 years ago
Why is it that women seem to think they're fat when they're not, and men seem to think they look sexy when they don't? This self-image thing is bizarre.
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Becky Beach 4 years ago
Some guys are so f*****g clueless hahaha I defiantly lucked out with my husband!
Cindy VanLerberg 4 years ago
When men carry the baby (pregnancy), they get to moan about anything birth related including after-child-body. Oh and can we address “sympathy” husband fat?
Tamara Kroonen 4 years ago
I believe this is the reason people with kids almost never stay together nowadays. All divorced before the oldest kid turns 4. I wondered what why but now I understand.
Franc Esca 4 years ago
This is the world we live in, it's no surprise the birth rate declined.
Luke Oakridge 4 years ago
If a wife was talking about her husband's looks, I don't think people would even joke about him killing her in her sleep.
#21
Never tell your wife something designed to hurt her out of anger. You live with her and know what will hurt her the most, don’t weaponize it. Never say something that implies you find someone else more attractive. Some relationships you can acknowledge someone else is good looking. Some you can’t. But either way, your words should never state or openly imply someone else is MORE attractive. Never talk harshly about the people she’s close to. You can carefully express annoyance about her friends or family, but don’t be petty or hateful towards them directly or in her presence. Never blame her mood on her period. A woman’s mood may be exaggerated (sometimes a lot) by hormones, but the feelings are very much real and any implication that it’s all about her period is dismissive.
Kathryn Baylis 4 years ago
Nasty s**t like that can’t be unheard once it’s been said. Great way to sabotage the good thing you have, but sure do not deserve, asshole.
StrawberryParfait 4 years ago
What a bunch of condescending drivel. We don't need you to guard our moods, just be a truly decent and considerate person and you'll never feel the wrath. Men's moods get pretty damned exaggerated, too. Testosterone is a thing, and it caused beaucoup problems. It also isn't women out there murdering men because they can't get laid, or murdering their children because they are getting divorced. So until we hit that peak, don't worry about women's hormones.
Kourtney Jossy 4 years ago (edited)
I, unfortunately, have so many of these.... People really need to consider what experiences they are giving other people. Their feelings may technically not be their responsibility, but it is a reality that we all affect those around us (whether we like it or not). So give people nice experiences, not s**t ones because you feel like s**t yourself.
Deborah Hale 4 years ago
After a LOT of female issues (including 2 ectopic pregnancies) I got a total hysterectomy at the age of 33 and was put on hormone replacement therapy immediately. But from that moment on, every time the ex and I had an argument he'd ask "Did you take your pill today?" Hormones are not tranquilizers, and they don't make spouses easier to live with.
Cindy VanLerberg 4 years ago
I see that he didn’t miss taking his stupid pill
Load More Replies... Linn Shonta 4 years ago
This is really good sound advice!! I would upvote it more but it only lets you do it one time! 👍👍👍👏👏👏😎❤️
chuck.dont.surf 4 years ago
Tell me you can't get laid without telling me you can't get laid
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Dad was drunk one night when i was 16 and said to mum that she was a fat fucking cow and wished she didn't get that surgery as it made her who she is today. She had breast cancer and had to have surgery to get rid of it, she had a tissue expansion which made her d's become e's for a period of time and dad hated it.
Curry on... 4 years ago
Dear wifey, please don't let LIFE happen to you. Stay the imaginary creature in my head.
Cindy VanLerberg 4 years ago
I have never read anything so completely and utterly spot on.
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Vaida Kuodytė 4 years ago
My father used to tell me I was a fat f*****g cow for upwards of 10 years until I moved out at 19. Sober. 13 years later I still have to treat those people like family.
Suzy the observer 4 years ago
No, you do not. Live free of their BS, pls.
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#23
“Trust me woman, I know what I’m talking about. I’m 100% positive on this.” Welp, 5 minutes later after a Google search she showed me, with a mischievous smile, I was in fact, wrong. Fuck.
Ryan Deschanel 4 years ago
Being wrong is a thing that happens to everyone, except the ones who never say a thing. No shame in that.
Raven DeathShade 4 years ago
Admitting when you're wrong is the best way to earn my respect. And my respect is not easily earned.
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Vicki Hardy 4 years ago
It's frustrating being with a man who believes he is ALWAYS 100% right, but, it's oh so satisfying when you prove them wrong......even though they struggle to admit it. Speaking from personal experience.
Luke Oakridge 4 years ago
That's frustrating regardless of which gender the know-it-all is.
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Luke Oakridge 4 years ago
Don't be sexist. There are plenty of clueless and cruel women and most men aren't clueless or cruel.
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Roxy Eastland 4 years ago
Sometimes it's fun, in a healthy relationship, to inarguably prove the other one wrong. You gave her a gift, so nothing wrong with that.
#24
My ex boyfriend told me he was "glad my boobs weren't any smaller than they already were" and that my boobs were "too far apart". Cue the complex about my boobs I never had before that comment
Agfox 4 years ago
I used to work with a woman who told me that when she first met the guy whom she later married, one of the first things he said to her was 'I have a joke that will make you laugh your tits off - oh, I see you've already heard it". My first thought was why would you even want to see him again let alone marry him
Dave P 4 years ago
if they share that type of humor style, it makes sense.
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Monika Sztuk 4 years ago
My ex told me that he wouldn't mind if I had my boobs done ( I'm cup C). When I got really upset he said that he just wanted me to know that if I wanted to have them done he would give me full support. How extremely considerate of him. Just a shame he couldn't support me with anything else. 1,5 years with someone like that and I'm still working on my crashed to pieces self esteem :(
MelO 4 years ago (edited)
Damn. Did we date the same guy? My ex said the same thing. When I pointed out that if I told him I would be ok if he changed "X" about himself, how would he feel, he got mad and sulked and said I was just mean and it wasn't the same.
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Penni Potter 4 years ago
My (now) 'ex' told me I had saggy tits like an 80 year old woman. I'm 51, have 3 kids, lost over 120 lbs (on my own and then had gastric bypass). All this was before we met, and he knew. He was used to 35 year old gold diggers. I work like a fool. He wanted a stay at home GF. he was quite deceptive. Things kinda went downhill from there.
#25
Wow your sister maintained her figure really well after their kid was born.
M Calad 4 years ago (edited)
This reminded me of a friend whose husband used to compare her with me 🤦. "You should do like *me*, she works out and keeps herself well", "see *me*? She is applying to study. You should do the same". It was so awkward and embarrassing. I knew he wanted to motivate her and set me as an example but his method was totally wrong making her feel below me. She stopped being my friend because of that.
Jess Thompson 4 years ago
Can men just leave women the f**k alone about their bodies? Most of you are disgusting by your own standards. If it weren’t for the patriarchy raising women to feel dependent on men we would all be lesbians, that is my theory for the day.
Steph Harrison 4 years ago
I don't see anything wrong in this comment inherently, if my partner made a comment like this about someone we knew I wouldn't think anything of it because we have that level of trust with each other that we can comfortably make those types of compliments about other people. I feel like this one relies more on the individual relationship and context. If for example you had just had a child and knew your partner was really struggling with their body confidence then this would be a definite no-no.
Tina Hugh 4 years ago
I'd join him in praising my sister's figure. Then I'd explain why what he said was not okay. Then I'd go sleep in the guest room for one night. Assuming I was angry. I'm not sure I'd be angry though, maybe hurt. People can be clueless but in his tiny brain he might have been thinking "my wife is beautiful, beauty runs in the family...ooh, let me express this by complimenting her sister, since it is also a compliment to her"
#26
First time I ever tried shepherds pie made by my mum was a few days ago when I (33) was visiting for dinner. Why do you ask? He told her just after they were married (a man who can’t cook mind you) that it’s not the way his mum makes it. It was so damned delicious too!!!!
Samantha Lomb 4 years ago
My friend's 50+ year old husband still does that. I have no idea why she puts up with him other than she is afraid of being alone when she is old
Joe Reaves 4 years ago
Given that women tend to live longer than men anyway, that's a really bad reason.
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V Martinez 4 years ago
I know it can still taste different sometimes, but has anyone ever replied back, "I got the recipe from her." ? Or she made it and dropped it off for you. (If and when that's possible.)
Caligirl20 4 years ago
My boys do this. There are certain recipes I got directly from my MIL because they made completely different things growing up. After my husband saying they weren't like his mom made them I got the recipes. There are certain things I noticed my boys will eat when my MIL makes it. So I follow her recipe to a T and those butts say, "this isn't how grandma makes it!" And I'm like....excuse me!? One time it was because I cut something wrong... my husband doesn't dare tell me I don't make certain things right anymore. He has told me that I have improved some recipes but he knows I have the exact recipes for his favorite stuff. My kids are the ones that kill me though!
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Krzysztof Ziętek 4 years ago
Yeah, because it was not made by your mum. Also, you're not a child anymore and your wife is not your mother. Grow the f**k up!
Lily Mae Kitty 4 years ago
I am a much better cook than my husband's mother. so much better! she has never used even salt or pepper in cooking. not even once. so british. "The salt and pepper are on the table, dear, but I don't use them. I don't like spicy food." But she ate two servings of my chili lime chicken and said she never tasted anything like it. lol
Kathryn Baylis 4 years ago (edited)
My husband started that s**t, full bore, not long after we were married, to the point it became a real bone of contention. He’s found himself doing his own cooking for really long stretches of time ever since. However, his repertoire is limited—-mostly sandwiches, pizza, and heating up frozen dinners. Eventually he regrets his behavior, and starts hinting about how much he misses my home cooked meals. I remind him that, if I cook extra so he can have a full meal to heat up or leftovers if I cook a lot extra, since we work different shifts (I’m 9-5 and he’s not), he better take care what he says about it, or he’ll be right back to eating TV dinners the very next day. I’m hoping, since he’s not a stupid man, that one day the penny will fully drop and he’ll finally realize what an insensitive asshole he’s been, and stop talking without thinking first.
Marian Moore 4 years ago
I like my alone time. I never have to worry about being put down or insulted again.
#27
"I like more athletic looking women" like an Allison Stokke type. I work full time, I'm in college full time, and I take care of our daughter most of the time. I don't have time for the gym and I don't look that terrible. I'm 5'7 135lbs with a little tummy squish bfd
Otter 4 years ago
Tell him that if he'll assume responsibility for the kid for three hours a day, you'll have time to work out like a demon.
Emma Byrne 4 years ago
Then spend that 3 hours doing whatever TF you want.
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Dora Sztojka 4 years ago
Answer is: I like more charming AND athletic men, like a Ryan Reynolds type. FFS
Renate Stargardt 4 years ago
I would have said: Well, honey ... I actually are more into guys like Jason Momoa ... and here we are.
Kathryn Baylis 4 years ago
Per the height-weight ratio charts, at your height you’re actually at the right weight or a bit under. Tell him to go f**k himself—-he’ll have to because the “more athletic women” won’t even give him the time of day.
BastWren 4 years ago
"Tummy squish" is the normal state of a woman after having kids and as we age. Anyone who expects a woman to have a flat belly who has delivered a child is delusional. And 135 lbs. at 5' 7" (61 kg., 1.70 m) is not an unreasonable weight. His answer is insensitive and hurtful no matter how you look at it.
Ms.GB 4 years ago (edited)
She's literally at the low end of bmi...if she lost more than 14 pounds she would be underweight.
Krásnoočko Zelené 4 years ago
Exactly! I'm the same height and I was around this weight when I was eating disordered and miserable. Honestly, this triggered me a bit and I feel extra shitty in my body since I've read this yesterday.
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Raven DeathShade 4 years ago
My sister doesn't. She's all muscle, like a cat. I do, though XD. A fondness for chocolate and a hatred for physical activity.
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#28
Probably shouldn't tell her that since he was unable to get the person he was most attracted to, he got you instead. That leaves a pretty lasting impression.
Carol Emory 4 years ago
I told my husband that he was the total opposite of what I thought I wanted in a man. I said I was so focused on marrying the blonde hair blue eyed tan buff guy that I never looked twice at how they treated me. Most of the guys I dated made it all about them. My husband was the first person that made it all about me. I return the gesture by making him the center of my life. Never get so involved with a person that you miss the fact that you treat them better than they treat you.
ispeak catanese 4 years ago
An ex told me that we should get married because neither of us was going to get anyone better.
Vickie Martin 4 years ago
My now ex and I had friends over one night. We were all just relaxing and listening to music when a Fleetwood Mac song came on and he started raving about how gorgeous Stevie Nicks was. (Which she is!) He was drunk and just going on and on so embarassed as I was I laughed a little and told him to tone it down. His comment was "Oh yea like a woman like that would ever have anything to do with me". Ok but a woman like me did??
Candia Lee 4 years ago
Ooh. I was on a date and the guy says to the effect he used to give ugly girls pity dates ...
Azure Adams 4 years ago
And divorce papers. Seriously why do straight women put up with this s**t
#29
Once had a partner tell me that I "Have a forehead you could lay a mattress on" I used to style my hair with a part down the middle, but after that I made sure to get bangs and am super obsessive about moving my hair to cover my forehead. I was bullied a lot in school, so I had a lot of self consciousness about other bits of my appearance, but the forehead thing was news to me at the time.
StrawberryParfait 4 years ago
Take a look at some of the most beautiful supermodels, singers and movie stars. High foreheads. A high forehead does not mean that you are unattractive, especially if your face is symmetrical and balanced. More often than not a woman with a high forehead is a true beauty.
Vicki Perizzolo 4 years ago
get a good counselor - will do wonders for both problems. at least the partner is a 'was'
Shinomi Chan 4 years ago
I can relate to this, I was bullied for about a decade of my life, and if literally anyone says something even HINTING that there's something wrong with my appearance, I WILL take that to heart, and I will keep that info with me till I die.
Leesa DeAndrea 4 years ago
We were at the mall & out of the blue he says: man, you're a chunk. Then a few years later, my grandma told me she was embarrassed to be seen in public with me. Unlike these assholes seem to think, I'm not sideshow fat. I'm about 70 pounds heavier than I should be. And their hateful comments did not motivate me to lose any weight.
Krzysztof Ziętek 4 years ago
Do you know Brittany Broski? Look up her insta. Also, f**k that a**wipe. I hope he disapeared from your life already.
#30
That the best sex he ever had wasn't with her
Darko Pešić 4 years ago
Seems like a moronic statement to be honest. You just dont say that, you try, talk with your partner, and if you clicked, the sex would be awesome. Noone got it perfect in the 1st try. Not to brag, but the best sex i ever had (still have) is with my gf and my future wife. But it took some time to get here, we talked, tried some things and now it is just amasing. We really love each other, and i find her like reeealy sexy, and just looking at her or touching her turns me on.
Load More Replies... M Calad 4 years ago
I had a ex like that: mentioning often about how this X woman was the love of his life and the magnificent sex he had with Y woman. We lasted just a couple of months.
Marian Moore 4 years ago
after I divorced my ex for cheating and a number of unforgivable things, I let him know that he was right, I actually got better on the streets. He use to tell me he got better on the streets. I really didn't but I wanted him to think I did. Did my heart good. He was an A$$.
Luke Oakridge 4 years ago
But then you are criticizing him for his body, which he can't change, because he criticized his wife for her sexual ability, which she can change. It isn't the same. What he said was rude, but what you are suggesting is worse.
Load More Replies... Luke Oakridge 4 years ago
What evidence do you have for that? Just because he was rude doesn't make him wrong.
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“You must be getting your period soon”
Ryan Deschanel 4 years ago
To not take their feelings seriously. "I don't have to work on myself. She is mad at me, but it is just her hormones."
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Vicki Thill 4 years ago
My sweet husband said this to me once, so I explained in detail that one week out of the month, while being hormonal, is who I actually am. One week out of the month I will be who I am without restraints. One week out of the month, if I want to give the finger to someone, I'm going to. He stood there and said, "Okay. Yeah, I can get behind that." Now when that week rolls around he just laughs and sings, "Oooh, wifey's real today, someone's gonna get it."
Enamelcamel 4 years ago
"Actually, "the ceramic gun I ordered off the internet" is what I'm getting soon. Will you still be here when I return from the mailbox?"
King Kashue 4 years ago
The only way that's an okay phrase is if it's followed by "so lemme run to the store and get you stuff you'd like - what do you want?"
#32
We had a baby two weeks ago. The night after labor, while sitting with our boy. I told her I'm tired. Should not have said that. I apologize.
Dorothy Parker 4 years ago
That's not bad at all. They didn't say they were more tired than the new mother.
BastWren 4 years ago
Exactly, Dorothy. Also, he certainly could have been worn out by the experience even though he was not the one giving birth. She might have felt that he had no reason to be tired when she was the one who had given birth. Yes, childbirth is painful and exhausting (mileage may vary) but being the partner of the one giving birth is exhausting in its own way.
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Stephanie IV 4 years ago
I get the impression that men have to be really careful around women all the time. That can’t be right, can it?
13 4 years ago
Go back and reread. Most of the men mentioned show truly vile behaviour. This one does not belong.
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Little king trash mouth 4 years ago
This one's not bad as long as he wasn't trying to make it a contest. My husband and I were both sleep-deprived zombies for the first 6 months of each of our children's lives. That s**t is hard!
Alexei Arntzen 4 years ago
As long as you weren't using it as an excuse to not help her with something, I see nothing wrong with this. I have zero kids and I am tired all the time lmao
Shinomi Chan 4 years ago
At least you understood what you said was kind of at a bad time? (though not really that bad at all)
#33
My bf went to jail for a few months some years back. I was hella depressed when he was gone, and self medicated with food and alcohol. I would visit him every Sunday with his mom. When he got out, he got drunk one night and told me. “Every week when you came to visit, I always though….man she’s getting bigger!” Didn’t need to know that.
Vicki Thill 4 years ago
"went to jail", "hella depressed", "self medicated", "food and alcohol", "", "he got drunk one night" and "visited him in jail". Just curious, what is your limit? I hope that you are just young and learning what you don't want in life, because this could potentially be the beginning of a Life Scar.
KT 4 years ago
lol why would you stay with someone who did something crappy enough to land in jail?
Potato 4 years ago
That's not really fair if you don't know the story. Plenty of people are wrongly convicted or jailed for something minor like pot. If pot isn't your thing, that's fine, but many people don't believe it should be illegal. Plus, people can be reformed.
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My ex boyfriend used to repeat every day that I was way prettier when we met.
lazy panda 4 years ago
That doesn't mean that it's okay to mention it constantly.
Load More Replies... Vicki Thill 4 years ago
So...he's saying that you were beautiful the night he met you, but upon entering your life full time, you became less beautiful? Huh. I cut beautiful flowers from my garden, brought them in the house, by night time they were wilted and ugly....who is to blame? The flowers that would have continued to be beautiful in my garden or am I at fault for cutting them? He needs to own it.
Leesa DeAndrea 4 years ago
It seems to surprise men that women don't stay 16 years old all their lives.
#35
That she behaves like her mother.
chi-wei shen 4 years ago
I think a husband who makes such a statement is fully aware of the fact that they will get into a fight.
Andy Smith 4 years ago
I said that once when she went off on a tangent about something. She stopped and thought about it for a sec and got mad because I was right. Then we had a good laugh about it
#36
Never introduce her as “my first wife” even as a joke.
ThoughtsAreNotFacts 4 years ago
Ooh, yeah no. Don't do that! It'll be a self fulfilling prophecy
#37
When I asked how I looked to my partner (after getting all dressed up), he glanced up and down, shrugged his shoulders and remarked “you look just like every other mother at the school gate”. The unfortunate fact is that many mothers at ‘the school gate’ where I live, have sadly not taken care of themselves for whatever reasons. I’m not judging them, most happen to be incredibly lovely ladies! Sometimes life happens. But this comment hurt me to no end when I make consistent effort and look better than I did many years ago. It was unbelievably hurtful. Men, if you don’t have anything good (or at least constructively helpful) to say to your wife, either smile and nod or keep quiet altogether.
Nathan Pogorzala 4 years ago
If you married someone, you support them. You make them feel good about themselves. What trash ego could you have to knock someone down that is married to you? if you do that, you are a mother f**k.
chuck.dont.surf 4 years ago
You're just here for the downvotes, aren't you?
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I told my then GF, now wife: "you dance like a white girl." (she is) We never went to another club again. And now I'm sad again.
UpupaEpops 4 years ago
Some POC seem to think that all white people are rhythmically challenged and as such can't dance.
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#39
You were more fun before we got married.
ThoughtsAreNotFacts 4 years ago
Ok who the hell is "fun" for a lifetime? Things change, people change. Not hard to be fun when you don't have the weight of paying for everything, working with disgruntled people and all the grown up crap that comes with being alive. Redefine "fun" and you'll feel better!
#40
My brother was in with my SIL when she was getting a c-section. He looked behind the curtain at her guts all open and came back around and just blurted out "you look awful". Lol the nurse was like "you can't say that!" I mean it probably does look awful when someone is cut open.
Persephone 4 years ago
Women have internal organs, including but not limited to intestines! Shocking, right?
#41
"I don't know if I love you yet" or "you're not hot enough to have an attitude like that"
Amina Hays 4 years ago
The first thing when taken out of context is absolutely fine as a lone statement, at least he was being honest. But when it's being said by the same person who said "you're not hot enough to have an attitude like that" is deplorable. I really hope you ended things.
Ryan Deschanel 4 years ago
So you are supposed to love them at first sight? Creepy... But the second one is true, unfortunately. Good looking people are allowed to be bastards, not the other ones.
#42
I’m currently 8 months pregnant and a couple days ago my husband, thinking he was being cute, said “get over here big body” while pulling me close to cuddle. I’ve never got out of bed so fast. So yeah, don’t say that.
May 4 years ago
Oh come on - why is that a big no no? You're supposed to have a big body at 8 months pregnant.
Prilsy 4 years ago
My ex husband made sure to tell me I looked hot when I was 8 months pregnant, not Big. Which is probably one of the reasons we parted as friends
Load More Replies... Amina Hays 4 years ago
I would understand if he said something like "get over fatty" or something but big body is just so odd.
#43
I didn’t have enchiladas until I was 7 because when my parents first married my dad said they were different than his mom’s.
Foxxy (The Original) 4 years ago
So.... He said they were different. Not gross, nor weird, not terrible. Just different. Not that big of a deal in my opinion.
NsG 4 years ago
"Oh, you make them differently to my mother" is an observation at most. But, (generalisation alert) most men lack the awareness of subtlety to realise that the unspoken part of that sentence is "I don't like it", since any comparison between wife and mother will ALWAYS be negative to wife and positive to mother, whether he means it or not. His mother has, until he got married, been the most important woman in his life. She is the benchmark against which all future women are measured.
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“This hot new girl just started at the office” My bf’s business partner learned that the hard way.
Amina Hays 4 years ago
I'm a bit confused <easily done!) :-D What do you mean by his business partner found out the hard way? Sorry, I'm autistic and need some things explained to me, especially if there's an undertone to it.
Memere 4 years ago
The OP's boyfriend worked with the business partner & the business partner is the one who told *his* girlfriend/wife about the hot new girl at the office. Never a good thing!
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#45
That you don't have to be attracted to someone to get married to them or that you regret marrying them. (Girlfriend's dad said this in front of his wife and kids)
Ryan Deschanel 4 years ago (edited)
To only pay for one house, for taxes reasons, to have children, to have someone to help you with the chores, to avoid dying alone... Many people will never find love, but it is not a reason to remain lonely forever. Real life is not a fairy tale for everyone.
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lenka 4 years ago
Most of these are about how women dont look as good after marriage, kids and the passage of time. Perhaps its about time we started pointing out how men grow a gut, loose muscle tone and start sagging in all the wrong places. How they also wrinkle and go grey and get bald. Why are women accused of 'letting themselves go' when men arn't exactly the studs they were in thier 20s. In most of these comments, the appropriate response is, looked in a mirror lately?
Caro Caro 4 years ago
I stopped reading these posts because the cruelty got me all pissed off! What is wrong with these men?
Davor Jelacic 4 years ago
Most of these people are psychopaths. Not chainsaw slaughter psychopaths, but still...
Donna Shaw 4 years ago
When my husband and I were first married I asked him if he would please take off his socks right side out so that I wouldn't have to stick my hand inside his stinky, disgusting socks (he was a mechanic). He said "I never asked you to do my laundry"! And I never did his laundry, never, ever again! ;)
Aunt Messy 4 years ago
My father is the youngest of seven kids, so I have 27 first cousins. My two siblings are adopted, I am not. Mom couldn't have more kids after me. This will all make sense, I promise. ...///... We were at a family dinner, when my father pointed at my brother and sister and said, "I know those are mine, I've got papers to prove it". ...///... Then he pointed at me (in front of 16 adults and about 25 kids) and said, "I don't know where the hell that one came from." ...///... That was when I was about 12. From that day on, I never spoke to him directly again. He died when I was in my mid 30s.
Memere 4 years ago
I'm so sorry for the pain that has caused you, I know it too well myself. I was around 13-14 when my father had spent an hour chewing me out for something I had got in trouble for at school, when he told me to my face "I wish you had never been born, I never wanted you anyway", then stomped out of the room. I'm almost 70 now, and I cannot remember him ever telling me to my face that he loved me or that he was proud of me for anything. He died alone in a Veterans Home.
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Ola Polowczyk 4 years ago
My ex once told me that "I smile too widely" and "Show too much teeth when smiling" and that "I should practice it"
Missy Moo Moo 4 years ago
What an odd thing to say?!? Smiling is the absolute BEST thing anyone can do. Strange what men request, I had an ex who my daughter loved so much she called him "Jeffy weffy". He got so angry - told me that I bought my child into our relationship and I need to control her (to show him respect). I said I bought him into our relationship and she could call him a lot worse. Just imagine how hard life is for men like this who want to control everything in their life. They will always be miserable
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Leo Domitrix 4 years ago
Hubby to me while I was curled up in agony with monthly cramps, about 30 years ago: "You make cute whimpers when you're in pain." I'm sure he meant well. I'm also sure I feel absolutely zero remorse for my reaction, and he never said it again. :-)
Memere 4 years ago
My husband, maybe 20 years ago, once tried to compare menstrual pain, pregnancy discomfort, & labor/delivery pain to some of the pain he had felt over the years from sports injuries. That got him a shut down I don't think he's ever experienced in his life, and yeah - he's never tried that again!
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Kuromi 4 years ago
My ex once complained about a meal I made, that I cut the chicken wrong as the instructions stated cubed and I didn't cube the chicken correctly in his opinion. He then also commented that my lasagna had too much sauce. This was a guy who didn't cook and would expect me to cook his dinner after he's been home all day and I've been at work for 14 hours. I don't regret leaving his critical, opinionated, condescending ass.
lenka 4 years ago
Most of these are about how women dont look as good after marriage, kids and the passage of time. Perhaps its about time we started pointing out how men grow a gut, loose muscle tone and start sagging in all the wrong places. How they also wrinkle and go grey and get bald. Why are women accused of 'letting themselves go' when men arn't exactly the studs they were in thier 20s. In most of these comments, the appropriate response is, looked in a mirror lately?
Caro Caro 4 years ago
I stopped reading these posts because the cruelty got me all pissed off! What is wrong with these men?
Davor Jelacic 4 years ago
Most of these people are psychopaths. Not chainsaw slaughter psychopaths, but still...
Donna Shaw 4 years ago
When my husband and I were first married I asked him if he would please take off his socks right side out so that I wouldn't have to stick my hand inside his stinky, disgusting socks (he was a mechanic). He said "I never asked you to do my laundry"! And I never did his laundry, never, ever again! ;)
Aunt Messy 4 years ago
My father is the youngest of seven kids, so I have 27 first cousins. My two siblings are adopted, I am not. Mom couldn't have more kids after me. This will all make sense, I promise. ...///... We were at a family dinner, when my father pointed at my brother and sister and said, "I know those are mine, I've got papers to prove it". ...///... Then he pointed at me (in front of 16 adults and about 25 kids) and said, "I don't know where the hell that one came from." ...///... That was when I was about 12. From that day on, I never spoke to him directly again. He died when I was in my mid 30s.
Memere 4 years ago
I'm so sorry for the pain that has caused you, I know it too well myself. I was around 13-14 when my father had spent an hour chewing me out for something I had got in trouble for at school, when he told me to my face "I wish you had never been born, I never wanted you anyway", then stomped out of the room. I'm almost 70 now, and I cannot remember him ever telling me to my face that he loved me or that he was proud of me for anything. He died alone in a Veterans Home.
Load More Replies... Ola Polowczyk 4 years ago
My ex once told me that "I smile too widely" and "Show too much teeth when smiling" and that "I should practice it"
Missy Moo Moo 4 years ago
What an odd thing to say?!? Smiling is the absolute BEST thing anyone can do. Strange what men request, I had an ex who my daughter loved so much she called him "Jeffy weffy". He got so angry - told me that I bought my child into our relationship and I need to control her (to show him respect). I said I bought him into our relationship and she could call him a lot worse. Just imagine how hard life is for men like this who want to control everything in their life. They will always be miserable
Load More Replies... Leo Domitrix 4 years ago
Hubby to me while I was curled up in agony with monthly cramps, about 30 years ago: "You make cute whimpers when you're in pain." I'm sure he meant well. I'm also sure I feel absolutely zero remorse for my reaction, and he never said it again. :-)
Memere 4 years ago
My husband, maybe 20 years ago, once tried to compare menstrual pain, pregnancy discomfort, & labor/delivery pain to some of the pain he had felt over the years from sports injuries. That got him a shut down I don't think he's ever experienced in his life, and yeah - he's never tried that again!
Load More Replies... Kuromi 4 years ago
My ex once complained about a meal I made, that I cut the chicken wrong as the instructions stated cubed and I didn't cube the chicken correctly in his opinion. He then also commented that my lasagna had too much sauce. This was a guy who didn't cook and would expect me to cook his dinner after he's been home all day and I've been at work for 14 hours. I don't regret leaving his critical, opinionated, condescending ass.
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