Web Users Are Flabbergasted After Learning ‘Bridezilla’ Is Eager To Serve Seafood At Wedding Despite Best Friend’s Severe Allergy
Gather around, because today we’ll be looking at a fishy (pun intended) post from “Let’s Shame Those Weddings,” which is a leading title of a well-liked subreddit that dedicates itself to, well, weddings and all their glory.
According to the description, the community was designed to shame wedding themes, brides, grooms, wedding parties, in-laws, guests, Uncle Bob (of course – how could we forget about him?), and last but not least, vendors. The creators also mentioned that this sub is not for advice, judgment calls, or any questions about whether something is shameful or not.
Now, the star of the article is a bride-to-be with a huge dilemma. Allegedly, the woman went on Facebook to have netizens weigh in on the situation and to potentially get some help picking between her and her family’s obsession with seafood and her deeply allergic best friend, who’s also set to play the role of the maid of honor.
More info: Reddit
“There is nothing that turns a normally pretty decent woman into a demon from the pit faster than a wedding”
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“Ah yes. Someone potentially dying at your wedding is a much better idea than simply not having seafood for one day” – this web user turned to Reddit’s r/weddingshaming community to chastise a post that was reportedly written in a bride-dedicated Facebook group. It managed to garner 4K upvotes as well as 572 comments.
Woman wants to serve seafood at her wedding despite knowing that her maid of honor has a serious allergy
Image credits: Dmitri Kuliuk (not the actual image)
Image source: u/Why-am-i-like-this97
What happened is that a bride, or shall I say “bridezilla,” took online to seek advice on a pretty delicate matter. Turns out that she and her family are big seafood lovers – however, her best friend, who’s also her maid of honor, is allergic, and quite severely. The original poster revealed that she’s very saddened by the fact that she can’t have some crab at her wedding or the events leading up to it. She said that she doesn’t want to seem insensitive, but she also has her relatives on her back who feel that it’s unfair to not have seafood just because of one person. Crazy, isn’t it?
Well, she still hasn’t talked to her maid of honor, which, in reality, should’ve been her first move, and is basically asking fellow group members to help her out and perhaps tell her how to even approach the issue, since she’s convinced that her best friend is assuming that she won’t have any seafood at the party. Finally, the wife-to-be finished her post by saying that while she knows that her friend’s health is important, she only gets one wedding, so she feels like she’s missing out.
Image credits: Rene Asmussen (not the actual image)
A digital media company called Everyday Health Group that creates material about health and wellness for both patients and medical professionals states that “seafood allergies often cause severe, life-threatening reactions to someone who is allergic to fish or shellfish.” There is also one main factor – you can have an allergic reaction without eating it. So, the question stands: why is the original poster willing to put her dearest friend at such big risk?
While it’s understandable that the bride-to-be is yearning to make her wedding day as memorable as possible, surely the possible death of her closest friend shouldn’t be a part of it? But what do you think? And how would you handle the situation?
Fellow community members shared their opinions on the situation
One of the Redditors that goes by the name u/teramu allegedly saw the original post and said that the bride was thinking about asking her MOH to stay outside for the cocktail hour as a compromise (which was also confirmed by the person who reposted it to r/weddingshaming), and said that seafood was “important to her culture.” Now, if the woman really valued her friend and, well, her life, surely the discussion wouldn’t have even existed in the first place. There are a million and one ways to handle this sticky situation – for instance, not having seafood at your wedding and perhaps going out the next day to enjoy it with your family.
Most Redditors were appalled by the original post and couldn’t believe that the bride-to-be was even debating the matter
Others shared their own stories and remarked on how lucky they were to have great friends who didn’t want them to die at their weddings
Image credits: photosforyou (not the actual image)
Just look at another community member’s remark: u/The-Lost-Girl said that her best friend and her godsister both had fake flowers at their weddings because she’s seriously allergic to pollen, and the best thing is that both women initiated the idea, even though the Redditor told them that they didn’t need to do that. At the end of the day, the thing that you enjoy – whether it’s seafood or something else – won’t run away, but your closest friend will deal with some dire aftermath if you fail to choose what matters to you the most.
Am I the only one who is starting to think some of these 'AITA' posts aren't real? I mean seriously, who would even think to ask such a question. I'm tempted to get a throwaway and post something like "I kicked a mentally disabled child with a stutter out of line at the Starbucks because they were trying to order an obnoxiously long drink and were inconveniencing everyone else in the line, AITA?". I don't think I've ever met someone this entitled, stupid or inconsiderate, and I think I should count myself lucky.
I’ve unfortunately met people as entitled/self-centered as this OP (hell, my mother is one of them) so I sadly know that this kind of c**p DOES exist. It seems impossible, that NO ONE could be that way… but it’s possible. My mother, for example, refused to tell my dad’s siblings about his death because they “didn’t come to visit often enough” while he was disabled. I could post on AITA pretending to be her and I’d probably see it crossposted to BP after XD
Yeah...I understand what you are talking about. I'm still waiting for my siblings to tell me my mother died. I found out from a Facebook post. That was 8 years ago.
And those people are double YTA because they do have to ask the community.
If you do meet someone this entitled, divorce her, I did.
Even if they aren’t real, they make for great dinner convo and I’ve learned a lot about the people close to me by hearing their opinions on the stupidest ones.
I hope it's fake, but it wouldn't surprise me to learn otherwise. I've certainly met a few people who are genuinely that shallow. But I still can't imagine being that much in love with a particular food. Who knows?
I truly hope this is fake. What kind of person would consider risking their MOH’s health & life over food that they can eat the other 364 days of the year? If this is real, I hope the MOH seriously reconsiders her friendship standards, because her “friend” is more than an a*****e, she’s the whole frikkin A*S.
Sometimes they post the AITA because they want someone in the comments to justify their actions when they already know they're dead wrong
Change the problem from allergy for seafood to allergy for nicotine and the discussion will be different. For years I (and others) had to life in an environment where smoking was considered normal. Someone's health often gets no consideration when once pleasure seems to be limited.
I agree. Some of these are getting so ridiculous, they can't actually be real.
Bro there are inconsiderate people in this world, unfortunately
100% agree.If they are real its worrying to think someone with such limited brain cell stock is out there in society.If these people can't see that yes..yes you are the A,without having to get advise ,then ..well,no words.Thats why I agree this c**p is made up
Unfortunately i thought the same way as you it couldnt be real then i Unfortunately have to remember my horrible second grade elementary teacher my stupid teacher and vice principal in middle school and crazy career center teacher and that guy i met at new work place in November he normally played checkers and spread rumors about other coworkers the lies he was spreading was exactly how he is if he looses at connect 4 he would call ones he playing against cheaters,braggers and losers sadly enough hes 64 and treat others horrible oh let forget he counts imaginary wins as counting that never happen saying if we go here he would win and if we go there he still will win hes bullies everyone takes advantage of a coworker who is hard of seeing and colorblind and handicap to make himself feel better and he will sit in the middle of a crowded restaurant just to yell across the room he is better then everyone and that we are losers and cheaters all because he lost or even act worst then a kid
Punctuation, for god's sake! Your comment is unreadable.
I always think this too but for the opposite reason. Some of these posts are sooo biased making the op an absolute Saint compared to the people they are dealing with. If it is all real, it screams "give me the attention and validation I need to feel vindicated". This is actually a rare post where the op is clearly the a*****e.
Ofcourse it's not real.
Hence the "ragebait" comment that is in the article. Although here the solution is simple: MOH wears a hazmat suit (cheap now, leftover Covid supplies).
Nah what the MOH should do is file attempted murder charges. That will make this fake post really zing with online point fetish community.
Personally, I would NOT have had seafood at the wedding in case ANYONE was allergic, not just the MOH. Why not have an inexpensive inoffensive buffet at the wedding and then perhaps at a later date have a'seafood night out' with friends and family. Then take best friend out to the restaurant of her choice for a cosy meal and cocktails just the two of you with maybe a trip to the theatre or something similar to let her know that she really is your best friend.
This is a good option. Watching your bestie die on your wedding day would certainly dampen the celebration. How could she live with the knowledge that underwriting bullies' tantrums cost a life?
My highschool bf was badly allergic to fish.That meant to my parents that fish wasn't heated in any form while we dated. And my parents didn't even like my bf that much. Also image of a seafood room like the smoking room comes to mind as an alternative
Your parents may not have liked your bf that much, but they didn’t want to kill him. It’s called common sense and common decency. Something this bride is, at least in this department, missing.
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Sorry but someone is going to be allergic so anything. I for one will not restrict my diet because someone who doesn't even live with me doesn't like it or is allergic. Bread, dairy products, spices, there isn't anything palatable that someone isn't going to have an issue with. That's life, my spouse, my kids ok because they live iny house, my neighbor, too bad for them.
You have of course the right to be an as*hole. Good luck with that!😀
Am I the only one who is starting to think some of these 'AITA' posts aren't real? I mean seriously, who would even think to ask such a question. I'm tempted to get a throwaway and post something like "I kicked a mentally disabled child with a stutter out of line at the Starbucks because they were trying to order an obnoxiously long drink and were inconveniencing everyone else in the line, AITA?". I don't think I've ever met someone this entitled, stupid or inconsiderate, and I think I should count myself lucky.
I’ve unfortunately met people as entitled/self-centered as this OP (hell, my mother is one of them) so I sadly know that this kind of c**p DOES exist. It seems impossible, that NO ONE could be that way… but it’s possible. My mother, for example, refused to tell my dad’s siblings about his death because they “didn’t come to visit often enough” while he was disabled. I could post on AITA pretending to be her and I’d probably see it crossposted to BP after XD
Yeah...I understand what you are talking about. I'm still waiting for my siblings to tell me my mother died. I found out from a Facebook post. That was 8 years ago.
And those people are double YTA because they do have to ask the community.
If you do meet someone this entitled, divorce her, I did.
Even if they aren’t real, they make for great dinner convo and I’ve learned a lot about the people close to me by hearing their opinions on the stupidest ones.
I hope it's fake, but it wouldn't surprise me to learn otherwise. I've certainly met a few people who are genuinely that shallow. But I still can't imagine being that much in love with a particular food. Who knows?
I truly hope this is fake. What kind of person would consider risking their MOH’s health & life over food that they can eat the other 364 days of the year? If this is real, I hope the MOH seriously reconsiders her friendship standards, because her “friend” is more than an a*****e, she’s the whole frikkin A*S.
Sometimes they post the AITA because they want someone in the comments to justify their actions when they already know they're dead wrong
Change the problem from allergy for seafood to allergy for nicotine and the discussion will be different. For years I (and others) had to life in an environment where smoking was considered normal. Someone's health often gets no consideration when once pleasure seems to be limited.
I agree. Some of these are getting so ridiculous, they can't actually be real.
Bro there are inconsiderate people in this world, unfortunately
100% agree.If they are real its worrying to think someone with such limited brain cell stock is out there in society.If these people can't see that yes..yes you are the A,without having to get advise ,then ..well,no words.Thats why I agree this c**p is made up
Unfortunately i thought the same way as you it couldnt be real then i Unfortunately have to remember my horrible second grade elementary teacher my stupid teacher and vice principal in middle school and crazy career center teacher and that guy i met at new work place in November he normally played checkers and spread rumors about other coworkers the lies he was spreading was exactly how he is if he looses at connect 4 he would call ones he playing against cheaters,braggers and losers sadly enough hes 64 and treat others horrible oh let forget he counts imaginary wins as counting that never happen saying if we go here he would win and if we go there he still will win hes bullies everyone takes advantage of a coworker who is hard of seeing and colorblind and handicap to make himself feel better and he will sit in the middle of a crowded restaurant just to yell across the room he is better then everyone and that we are losers and cheaters all because he lost or even act worst then a kid
Punctuation, for god's sake! Your comment is unreadable.
I always think this too but for the opposite reason. Some of these posts are sooo biased making the op an absolute Saint compared to the people they are dealing with. If it is all real, it screams "give me the attention and validation I need to feel vindicated". This is actually a rare post where the op is clearly the a*****e.
Ofcourse it's not real.
Hence the "ragebait" comment that is in the article. Although here the solution is simple: MOH wears a hazmat suit (cheap now, leftover Covid supplies).
Nah what the MOH should do is file attempted murder charges. That will make this fake post really zing with online point fetish community.
Personally, I would NOT have had seafood at the wedding in case ANYONE was allergic, not just the MOH. Why not have an inexpensive inoffensive buffet at the wedding and then perhaps at a later date have a'seafood night out' with friends and family. Then take best friend out to the restaurant of her choice for a cosy meal and cocktails just the two of you with maybe a trip to the theatre or something similar to let her know that she really is your best friend.
This is a good option. Watching your bestie die on your wedding day would certainly dampen the celebration. How could she live with the knowledge that underwriting bullies' tantrums cost a life?
My highschool bf was badly allergic to fish.That meant to my parents that fish wasn't heated in any form while we dated. And my parents didn't even like my bf that much. Also image of a seafood room like the smoking room comes to mind as an alternative
Your parents may not have liked your bf that much, but they didn’t want to kill him. It’s called common sense and common decency. Something this bride is, at least in this department, missing.
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Sorry but someone is going to be allergic so anything. I for one will not restrict my diet because someone who doesn't even live with me doesn't like it or is allergic. Bread, dairy products, spices, there isn't anything palatable that someone isn't going to have an issue with. That's life, my spouse, my kids ok because they live iny house, my neighbor, too bad for them.
You have of course the right to be an as*hole. Good luck with that!😀