“I’ll Just Simply Say No”: Guy Is Furious For Being Asked To Contribute To Birthday Gifts At Work Despite Never Getting A Gift Himself
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Of course, there are people who enjoy their birthdays, however, others experience sadness on this special day. To feel cherished and adored, though, is always pleasant. One day a year gives you the opportunity to feel like the biggest star. Everyone gathers to celebrate and express their appreciation for you, including friends, family, and coworkers. The giving and receiving of gifts, which represent affection, consideration, and well wishes for the person celebrating, is one of the best parts of birthday celebrations. Even though gifts from friends and family hold a special feeling, receiving gifts from coworkers enhances the feeling of warmth and appreciation in the office. Being congratulated at the workplace reflects the connection and support among colleagues that makes your birthday even more special.
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It’s nice to feel appreciated on one’s birthday by coworkers, especially when you are contributing to everybody’s gifts all the time
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This employee shared a story about how he was asked twice in 48 hours to contribute to his coworkers’ birthday gifts without receiving any himself
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He recently refused to give money and he’s preparing to do the same for future requests
Reddit user “ElChappie1” recently posted his experience on the “Antiwork” subreddit after receiving requests to contribute money for his coworkers’ birthday gifts despite not receiving any himself. The article quickly gained popularity and in just 24 hours, it had more than 6.2K upvotes and more than 700 comments.
The author starts his story by saying that he has been working at his current job for around 3 years, and to calculate birthdays – he had 2 birthdays there. However, he never received any gifts but always requests to contribute. He mentions that he has never refused to contribute but enough is enough.
Recently, one of his coworkers had an upcoming birthday, and even though she was off work on her birthday, before leaving she got a gift card and flowers, and OP got a message that he owes money for this contribution. And this was the last straw as he finally put his foot down and stated that he is not going to contribute any money.
However, right after this email, another message came with the same request – tomorrow is another coworker’s birthday and everybody please contribute. The author mentioned that he hasn’t responded to this request yet, but he is planning on just saying that he is not going to do it. Additionally, he explained that it’s not the first time that he has been told that he owes (not even asked if he would like to contribute) money for people’s birthdays.
He ends his story by saying that he believes he has every right to refuse, however, he is confident that it will be followed with a snub from his colleagues.
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People in the comment section agreed with the author that it is messed up and not fair, and shared their own experiences at their workplaces. One user started by suggesting: “You could ignore it but I’m petty. ‘You know, it’s pretty insulting that people keep asking me to contribute, yet in my several years of working here, I’ve never received a birthday gift.’” Others noticed a very odd thing that the contribution looked more like an obligation: “It’s the “owe” part that gets me. No request, no notice, just a demand that you use a little of your paycheck toward your coworkers.”
Additionally, Bored Panda contacted the author of this story, who agreed to share more insights regarding the whole situation.
“ElChappie1” started by saying that since he has posted his story on Reddit, there haven’t been any more developments, however he said that “based on previous experience, one would assume I’ll get an email shortly asking me again to send money.”
We also asked the OP if he knows or has noticed if there is somebody else in the office that doesn’t get any gifts but always contributes for others’ gifts: “I know for a fact that I was the only one who has never gotten a present.” Moreover, when asked if he has spoken with any of the coworkers regarding this situation, the author mentioned that he hasn’t gone into any details, only a single reply to decline this contribution.
And finally, the guy was very happy about people’s reactions under his post: “I honestly was surprised! Mainly because I didn’t think “antiwork” was that high profile of a subreddit, but also because I thought it was a pretty no-brainer solution to simply say no.”
The author finished by saying that he is really happy to see people take his side and support him in this situation. “I hope it helps other people who might find themselves in similar circumstances to stand up for themselves.”
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Folks in the comments shared their own suggestions on how to handle this situation:
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They "owe money" for birthday gifts?? Is someone going to send a collection agency after them? Take them to court?? Whodef*ck is doing precise bookkeeping on colleagues? Where I've worked, folks sent around an envelope and people shoved whatever amounts suited them.
In most workplaces, the people are all adults, and should be counted on to behave as such, rather than petulant middle school students who
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I've just made everyone aware that I don't "do" birthdays, Xmas or any other annual event (the Earth went round the Sun again, big deal). I don't give and I don't accept. They eventually created a list of people who don't want to join in, as I wasn't the only one. Certainly expecting money after the event is ridiculous. We don't all feel the same way about these things, and you should never assume that we do.
Excellent boundary setting! There are no hurt feelings, surprises or assumptions when you speak up and make your wishes clear. And no apologies needed.
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Where I work, if you feel like celebrating your birthday with co-workers, you might bring in some sweets to work with you that day to share with your colleagues if so inclined. Other than that, we wish one another a cheery greeting and maybe leave a funny post-it message on their screen and some of us (heaven forbid) even exchange a. None of this pressure bs. We're all adults and sometimes we even act like it! Lol
They "owe money" for birthday gifts?? Is someone going to send a collection agency after them? Take them to court?? Whodef*ck is doing precise bookkeeping on colleagues? Where I've worked, folks sent around an envelope and people shoved whatever amounts suited them.
In most workplaces, the people are all adults, and should be counted on to behave as such, rather than petulant middle school students who
Load More Replies... I've just made everyone aware that I don't "do" birthdays, Xmas or any other annual event (the Earth went round the Sun again, big deal). I don't give and I don't accept. They eventually created a list of people who don't want to join in, as I wasn't the only one. Certainly expecting money after the event is ridiculous. We don't all feel the same way about these things, and you should never assume that we do.
Excellent boundary setting! There are no hurt feelings, surprises or assumptions when you speak up and make your wishes clear. And no apologies needed.
Load More Replies... Where I work, if you feel like celebrating your birthday with co-workers, you might bring in some sweets to work with you that day to share with your colleagues if so inclined. Other than that, we wish one another a cheery greeting and maybe leave a funny post-it message on their screen and some of us (heaven forbid) even exchange a. None of this pressure bs. We're all adults and sometimes we even act like it! Lol
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