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Nearly 77k People Found This Thread Of Random Advice Useful And These Are 30 Of The Best Bits
There aren’t people who haven’t failed at doing something, but that’s actually a good thing, because now they know how to do it right. Even though it is human to make mistakes, you can significantly reduce them if you try not to repeat your own mistakes and also learn from others’.
This is how advice is born: people just want you to not do the same things that didn’t work out for them. And the best place to look for them is the internet. For example, in this Reddit thread the user prolific_ideas started. It was quite a success with 16k people joining it and almost 77k users liking it. The advice in the thread isn't related to one topic but instead are just the most random tips people got to find out the hard way.
So enjoy learning about life and share your own secrets so others can do the same. Also, don’t forget to upvote the answers that you find the most useful!
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Don’t take criticism from people you’d never go to for advice.
Being able to admit you were wrong or made a mistake is respectable
It is soooooo much easier to admit you made a mistake than spend your life trying to hide it from people.
....said my mother, after decades of hiding my photos from family albums and forgetting me on invitations :P
Load More Replies...You’ll feel better about yourself and your friends will know that they can trust you
This should be absolute first. Its illogical to hold on to an opinion when you see irrefutible evidendce against it. But it is so often done.
I fully agree, though some people on this site may cry false against me XD.
Load More Replies...I teach this to my son & let him know when I am wrong or make mistakes, everyone does. So he knows it takes more of a person to admit they're wrong than to deny or lie about it.
My dad refuses to admit he's made a mistake, or that he doesn't know something.
I've learned in my marriage that often hubby feels bad too about whatever happened—maybe he responded to harshly to something I did or said wrong—and if I just say I'm sorry I'll find out that he's sorry too. At any rate, the longer no one says "I'm sorry" the harder it gets, and that can just add to the pile of resentments that can grow over the years.
This one is tough. Especially when you thought you were doing something for the right reasons when you were doing it. But it'll make you better at whatever you're doing to admit you're wrong and have a "so what, now what" attitude.
It actually makes you feel better getting it out too. People generally respect you more for your honesty. We all make mistakes, it's one of the things that makes us human.
It is soooooo much easier to admit you made a mistake than spend your life in a relationship with it
Or as I was told once "Own you failures and character flaws and no one can use them against you."
Admitting a mistake, saying sorry - often disarms people at worst, and at best, has them backpedaling and saying “no, it was me”. I never blame someone else for an error with clients, I’ll claim responsibility even if an employee screws up. Buys respect from both clients and staff.
should be respectable. Unfortunately there are plenty of people who would see it as an opportunity to take advantage of a situation.
Wow, just think of the 10s of thousands of times trump had to earn my respect!
For those of you down voting, note, please, that admitting you are wrong is a long different from realizing you were wrong. One: admitting you were wrong is no better than : "I am sorry IF you were offended." That is not apologizing, it is saying that the other person is incapable of understanding. Realizing you are wrong is when you go "Ohmygawd, I am so sorry, that was so wrong of me and I apologize." That is the difference between the two.
Load More Replies...If they will cheat with you, they will cheat on you. The same goes for gossip.
Be comfortable being alone before you get in a relationship. It will keep you from staying in crap relationships just to “not be lonely”
If it bothers you for more than 24 hours, speak up within 48
Great advice. It makes you think before maybe saying something hurtful in the heat of the moment
Looking back at your past and cringing is good. That means you’ve grown since then.
If you want a raise, ask what you need to do to earn it. Accomplish those things and ask for the raise. If you get the raise, stay. If you don’t, begin looking for another job. Don’t play games with people who move your goal posts.
You spend half your life walking and sleeping. Never buy cheap shoes or a s***ty mattress.
Watch old episodes of Bob Ross and Crocodile Hunter with your little kids. Get them started on the right path.
Always take the time to say I love you and remember tomorrow is never guaranteed.
Friendship is a gift we give to ourselves and each other...cherish it❣️
If you think your house is haunted and see s**t buy a carbon monoxide alarm might be a leak making you hallucinate.
When you finish something complicated or pick up a concept from a skill you are learning. Take a moment to be proud of yourself. You don't have anything to prove to anyone. But it feels good to take a sec to enjoy the accomplishment.
Accept people for who they are, not what you want them to be. If they show that they’re trash people, accept it and cut them loose. They won’t change for you no matter how much you want them too. If they show that they’re genuine, they’re the ones you need to surround yourself with.
Put your keys in the same place every time you come home
Put compassion before anger, before jealously, before fear. You never know what other people are going through.
Read to your kids Every. Single. Day. From 1 day old until they graduate high school.
Children who are read to become readers themselves. I grew up in a family where there were bookcases all over the place, and the one on the second-floor landing had a big overstuffed chair right there. I never saw my parents reading because they both had full time jobs and five children to care for, but I can remember being snuggled in the crook of my grandfather’s arm as he read to me as a wee child.
Never invest more than you can afford to lose.
Not financial advice.
Don't live your life regretting the small mistakes you made yesterday. You're not defective, and even though your brain will tell you that you screwed up and because of that you're unworthy of people's time and attention, it's wrong. You are worthy.
This sounds so wonderful, but clearly this person didn’t grow up with someone who never handed out praise and made a full-time practice of criticizing everything you ever did wrong and then punishing you for it...standing in the corner for an hour was getting off light!
DONT STAY WITH SOMEONE BECAUSE YOU "JUST CANT EXPLAIN IT. " You'll end up depressed, isolated and feeling stuck.
True. And at the end, alone, feeling like you lost a decade or more on being miserable in relationship with wrong person.
Most relationships can be maintained/improved by investing the time and having clear communication. If you can’t have difficult conversations with someone you love and trust, you won’t be successful. This is true for significant others, bosses, your kids, your family, everyone.
No one notices that zit or that one hair like you do. You look good homie.
And even if they do, no one really cares. And if they do, they’re not really friends.
Never make any important decisions when either hungry, horny, happy, sad, tired, or angry.
This was a recent lesson learned. When getting a new apartment test both heat and AC. You don't think to check your heater when's it 105 outside on the day you tour the apartment. We never tested our heater. First freeze of the year and our heater is broken. Two weeks for a replacement. If anyone's apartment hunting that's my nugget of wisdom.
If you're making pancakes from scratch, instead of adding in the egg to the batter as is, separate the yolk and the whites. Add the yolk to the batter, then whip and beat the egg whites till they're nice and foamy, then add them to the batter.
If you are going through something hard find other people in the same boat. You don’t have to do it alone and you will learn so much from those farther ahead of you. Also f**k shame. Get help you need.
There are three of us who are so close that we might as well have been triplets. A is totally not empathetic or sympathetic, B needs empathy, I am the empathetic/sympathetic one. A thinks that when B calls for "help" she, A, is supposed to "fix" the problem and since she can't she gets really depressed and angry. I, on the other hand, realize that people just need to have someone care enough to listen. I love them both and would never, ever be happy without them in my life. I have been friends with A since 1975. And she introduced me to B in 1982. And they both live close to each other, in California, and I live many, many states away and we are all like sisters.
Take the time to enjoy the little/quiet/every-day moments with your kids. They grow up really fast. It’s easy to remember the big events, milestones and vacations. But those small moments of sharing ice cream on a summer day or sitting outside looking at the stars together…those are magic. Don’t overlook them.
One of the things I remember most fondly were the nights the whole family would sit at the big dining room table and play games. Card games, board games, Botticelli (also a great game for long road trips). Another good car game is alphabet.
When you make a plan of any kind, instantly put it on your phone calendar and make an alert to remind you at least an hour or so beforehand
Go to the funeral or visitation whenever someone remotely known to you passes away. Whenever anyone in your friend’s circle passes away. Make the effort, it means a lot.
And when your friends have a loved one who’s died, send them your condolences.
Everything in moderation, even moderation.
When tiling a bathroom floor, always ensure to double coat the waterproofing to prevent future leaks.
And always install a clawfoot tub when there’s room enough! I’m absolutely serious.
Sometimes, if there isn't a good reason not to do it, just say yes, you might experience something amazing. That is unless your gut tells you to say no. If in doubt, listen to your gut feeling.
That's how I ended up on a photography assignment three countries away on a canal boat for a three day shoot!
Increase your property damage on your auto insurance to $300,000. It usually only cost $3 more every 6 months and will keep you from paying out of pocket if you hit a Tesla.
Life should be experiences. When you are old and grey you will remember that wild ski trip but probably not the day you filled out those TPS reports really well.
I don't know... I still feel immense satisfaction about something I designed at work 8 years ago, before retiring.
Load More Replies...Best advice : the four agreements and the "is it true, necessary and kind". Four agreements (Ruiz): Be Impeccable With Your Word. Don't Take Anything Personally. Don't Make Assumptions. Always Do Your Best.
Having a good debate can be rewarding no matter who or where
Load More Replies...Don’t miss seeing your children grow up and only you truly know your child, be prepared to ignore advice from well meaning people. My Dad worked a lot away from home, he worked in the oil industry and it took him to some fascinating places but he missed a lot of the day-to-day stuff and he regretted it. When my daughter was born he told me these two pieces of advice, they are still true now. I’m no longer a long distance truck driver and I’m quite happy ignoring advice about my daughter because I know her feelings and thoughts. PS Obviously don’t ignore ALL of the advice, but be comfortable knowing you are the one who knows them best.
Live your best life. Be humble. Be grateful. Be kind. Smile often. Remember: a bad day isn't a bad life.
Life should be experiences. When you are old and grey you will remember that wild ski trip but probably not the day you filled out those TPS reports really well.
I don't know... I still feel immense satisfaction about something I designed at work 8 years ago, before retiring.
Load More Replies...Best advice : the four agreements and the "is it true, necessary and kind". Four agreements (Ruiz): Be Impeccable With Your Word. Don't Take Anything Personally. Don't Make Assumptions. Always Do Your Best.
Having a good debate can be rewarding no matter who or where
Load More Replies...Don’t miss seeing your children grow up and only you truly know your child, be prepared to ignore advice from well meaning people. My Dad worked a lot away from home, he worked in the oil industry and it took him to some fascinating places but he missed a lot of the day-to-day stuff and he regretted it. When my daughter was born he told me these two pieces of advice, they are still true now. I’m no longer a long distance truck driver and I’m quite happy ignoring advice about my daughter because I know her feelings and thoughts. PS Obviously don’t ignore ALL of the advice, but be comfortable knowing you are the one who knows them best.
Live your best life. Be humble. Be grateful. Be kind. Smile often. Remember: a bad day isn't a bad life.