My BF and I hosted his entire family (6 adults,8 kids) for Christmas Eve last year. We have a small house and a tight budget but we pulled it off. Needless to say it was alot of work getting ready for it and alot of work cleaning up afterwards, so when his sister said she would host this year it was a big relief. Today I found out that she no longer wants to have it at her place because their other sister won't come and help her get ready for it. So my BF said we could have it at our place again, without even asking me ! I don't know who I'm more pissed at, him or his sisters !! I told him it wasn't right to do that without asking me first and it's not right that she canceled for that reason, if you say you're gonna do something then you should do it, regardless. I also reminded him no one helped us last year, they ate, opened presents and dipped. Not one person offered to help with anything. I really feel they just don't want to be bothered with it, and if I refuse,there won't be a Christmas at all and I'll be the bad guy. What should I do?
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Agree to have it at your place, then move all your furniture to the worst spots. Get a tree thats too big. On christmas, get really really drunk. Play the music too loud so everyone has to yell. Screw up the color on the tv. Unscrew the lightbulbs in your bathroom just enough so they might still come on. Get your neighbors to ding-dong- ditch every couple hours. Theres tons of stuff you can do to ruin it.
I think you should say the same thing your bfs sister did. It's not your job to host Christmas when you did it last year.
Tbh, this sounds more like a problem for your boyfriend to deal with. He's the one who agreed to host again without talking to you, the co-host.
You're kinda left with three options here, imo:
1) Ask your boyfriend to explain to his family that he got ahead of himself, and the two of you aren't in a position to host this year. (Make sure he doesn't throw you under the bus!)
2) If your boyfriend insists, then say "Okay, but you are solely responsible for organising it, paying for it out of your own pocket, doing all the cooking, serving and cleaning up afterwards."
If he doesn't agree to that, then put your foot down and say you didn't agree to it before he offered your place up.
3) If your boyfriend doesn't agree to take sole responsibility, then simply make alternative plans and go elsewhere for Christmas day. If you're going to be the 'bad guy' in this situation, then don't half-a*s it.
4) You agree to hosting Christmas at your place, as long as your boyfriend's family pay for the food/ bring their own dishes to share; and nobody goes home until everything is cleared away and tidied up.
Also, info: Are your finances separate, or combined? Do you both work? What did his family do for Christmas in the past?
Combined, yes we both work and they used to have Christmas at his grandparents house but it's become too overwhelming for them to host
