Woman Gets Tired Of Neighbor’s Kids Showing Up At Her Pool Unannounced, So She Builds A Fence Which Then Infuriates The Kids’ Mom
It’s a story about a few kids who have crossed the line both figuratively and literally.
A now-deleted Reddit user posted a story about the time she met her new neighbors. At first, they seemed fine, so she even let their two teenage boys and 11-year-old girl come over and use her pool as long as the trio didn’t abuse their privilege.
But they did. In fact, the unannounced visits got so frequent and so gross that the woman decided to build a fence around her property.
However, after her neighbor’s protest and discussions with other people, she began having second thoughts. So the Reddit user told her story online, asking if she was the jerk in the conflict.
Continue scrolling to read what she wrote and the conversation I had about disciplining children with a former Editor-in-Chief turned parenting blogger, the woman behind Motherhood: The Real Deal and 40 Now What, Talya Stone.
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Bold, authentic, and straight-talking Talya told Bored Panda that appropriate discipline is necessary as children need and thrive on boundaries and will continuously push to find out where these lines are. “If we don’t put boundaries in place… well, they are going to have a tough time in life later on … Personally, I am in favor of using positive discipline which is focusing on teaching children which behaviors are appropriate/inappropriate and puts an onus on consequences. Needless to say, I am surprised the parents of the said teens didn’t intervene and let the children know that this was no appropriate behavior!”
The mom also highlighted that there’s a difference between discipline and punishment. Since the latter encourages children to lie and avoid punishment rather than avoiding the behavior you are trying to stop, Talya thinks it can be a good idea to look at how you are handling the situation and perhaps sit down with the teens to work out clear limits and rules, and clarify what behavior is expected of them as well as the consequences should they not live up to those expectations. “The children need to be involved in this process so they absolutely understand what the rules are, and what will happen if they don’t stick to them,” she explained.
An important thing to remember in these situations is that discipline should be about educating children on the appropriate way to carry themselves. “These are important life skills that will help them deal with the outside world in future, so they can gel nicely with the big wide world when they get out there as young adults,” Talya added. “Kids making mistakes and taking risks is absolutely normal behavior. As parents, it’s our duty to always teach them what is right and wrong but that should always be done in a warm and loving family environment.”
As the story went viral, OP provided more information
A 2018 Pew Research Center survey discovered that a majority of Americans (57%) say they know only some of their neighbors; far fewer (26%) say they know most of them. Americans ages 65 and older are more likely than those ages 18 to 29 to say they know most of their neighbors (34% vs. 20%). In contrast, about a quarter (23%) of adults under 30 don’t know any of their neighbors, compared with just 4% among those 65 and older.
There are also slight differences based on marital status. Roughly three-in-ten married adults (31%) say they know most of their neighbors, compared with about a quarter or fewer of those who are unmarried (22%); living with a partner (20%); divorced, separated, or widowed (26%); or have never been married (19%).
According to the survey, having children isn’t related to stronger ties with neighbors: parents are just as likely as non-parents to say they know most of their neighbors (26% for each group).
After the word gets out on the street about this story, Mark and Kaylie’s family should become quite popular in the neighborhood. Although I doubt it will bring them any good. At least temporarily. Until their kids go off to college.
Here’s what people thought about the whole ordeal
The first time one of the kids got injured in your pool, those neighbors would be on the phone to a lawyer… tell them no from day one.
In many states you HAVE to have a pool fence cause pools are considered "attractive nuances" and kids die in them
Yep. That was my first thought. It would be totally illegal in my state to have no fence around that pool.
Load More Replies...I’m introverted too and honestly you lasted a lot longer than I would have. I absolutely hate swimming with others in the pool and 2 rowdy teenagers would have definitely moved me to build the fence way sooner. NTA!! Enjoy your pool I envy you lol
I would have built the fence before I even moved in. It would have been the first thing on the list.
Load More Replies...Chad and Brad could do some good old digging with all their energy.
Load More Replies...Your first mistake was talking about it over a plate of cookies. Anyone offering to talk over a plate of cookies has ulterior motives. Always. Next time make it a triple scotch and get right down to the brass tacks. No f****n around.
I bought a house on a double lot. First moved in, see neighbors cutting thru to walk the dog to the street behind. Then they start walking along the sidewalk along my office room and kitchen. I call out, they ignore me. One time, the adult daughter was with them, I called out, she turned, the dad kept walking, the mom grabbed her arm to turn her back. I put up no trespassing signs. They went back to the grass. I put up a little 12” high fence from tree to tree, 100 yards. Neighbor is walking the dog, NOW she stops to talk to me. “Oh! Are you planting flowers there?” Yup, tulips. The other neighbor caught me at the curb on garbage day. She didn’t know I was new neighbor (cuz she never made eye contact) and started talking about how they used to go thru the yard, guess the last resident didnt like that. Wen she gets a new dog, she’ll have to go around the block. Yup.
Same. The church used to own our house and it was empty for 6 years. Cue literally over a dozen dog walkers - ‘but I have walked him here since he was a puppy’, ‘but it’s safer for him to be off leash here’ etc. I have two dogs. Fences and gates and CCTV were the first things up.
Load More Replies...In most communities, it's illegal to have a pool without having a barrier around it. Allowing the neighbor's kids to swim whenever they want, even if you're not home, opens you up to a crapload of liability should anyone get hurt. Obviously, the neighbor isn't watching her own kids. The fence should have gone up on Day One. If they want a pool, let them install one.
I would not go a day without a fence or impenetrable hedge around my garden. It's MY garden. Everyone stays out of it until you're invited or you ask and are given permission to enter.
Again it's another case of "My house, my rules." If the neighbors want a swimming pool for their kids, they can buy one themselves. It's just that easy. No one has any obligation to cater for the needs of strangers that happen to live next door. The ass hats here are the mother and her children. I'd set up surveillance cameras and get a pitbull as service dog.
Well, she wants to rescue a pupper, and a majority of these are pitties, so there's a good chance her new four legged buddy might be a Pitbull
Load More Replies...I would let the younger one come over provided she texted first and you were there to supervise. You absolutely CAN set different rules for her and for her older siblings and when they ask why you tell them because she has always been polite and respected my rules. You don't have to treat them all equally if they're not acting equally. Actions have consequences.
Nope. No mercy. Having ANY contact with this family would be begging for trouble.
Load More Replies...GET A SECURITY CAMERA. She is a saint for putting up with gross comments from the boys and being treated like an unpaid babysitter and having her legal rights to her own property ignored. I guarantee the teen boys will break in at some point, so make sure you've got receipts for when you call the police, since neither they nor their mother can act like reasonable, responsible adults.
Honestly the kids getting their feelings hurt isn't even a valid arguement. They're all old enough to understand.
What is the deal these days with people thinking that their neighbors' property is also their property? The OP was nice enough to let them come over as much as she did, but this mom getting upset about this is just absolutely ridiculous. It's like people's sense of entitlement is getting worse and worse. So far it's been "you have to babysit my kids because you're home all day", "you have to get rid of your bees because my kid is allergic", "I am unemployed, but I am still going to send the kids into your Zoom meeting", and now it's "My kids are going to come swim in your pool whenever they please and you are going to put up with it." No one is entitled to anything and acting like you are makes you the problem. Just because the older couple said it was okay doesn't mean that the new homeowner has to go along with it. Take care of your own kids.
My aunt and uncle had a house with a pool years ago. It had fencing and bushes all around it. What they did is have a flag pole. One color indicated that the kids of the neighbors they knew were allowed to just come over because they were home and their kids were in the pool. Another color, call and ask. Another, it's family private time. It worked well. But these neighbors are beyond selfish and ridiculous. Its your property, your pool and you can do what you want. Its not up to you to provide a free pool for the kids and babysit them. She wants her kids to have a pool? Get one of your own. Fence AND security cameras are a fantastic idea. Obviously the other people on the street are tired of listening to her. You may kinda like her, but if she kicks up more of a fuss dont be afraid to and, do really put your foot down. You are not responsible for her reaction to what you are well within your rights to do.
Sweet Baby Jesus the entitlement of these people. No you're NTA. Good God. I didn't even like my kid's friends that I KNEW swimming in our pool for fear they'd get injured and I'd get sued. One time my son wanted a pool party and I made contracts for every parent to sign that granted their kids permission to use the pool under the understanding that in no way shape or form would we be liable for any injuries that could be obtained from the activity. You have to protect yourself, and if they wanted their kids ....why the hell is an 11 year old using floaties btw? to swim, get your own pool.
Yeah they're welcome to come and swim all the time! What's that on my arm? Oh nothing, just a highly contagious flesh eating infection that isn't killed by chlorine, never mind it! So are you coming over for a swim as well?
NTA at all. the answer would have been no from the beginning due to safety issues/legal issues and the fact that i, too, like my privacy. a fence is the first priority i have when i have moved into a place without one just because i have dogs. and, as my mom used to call them, six foot 'good neighbor fences' are the best because it helps from causing issue in the first place by subtly indicating that you like privacy while you can continue to be friendly
Definitely NTA. Her property, her pool, her rules. Let yoga-mom get a membership at a local pool or put in her own.
These would be way more interesting if it was close. Like if there were some YTA and NTA, but it's almost always clear, and almost always NTA. Maybe nuance is too much to ask.
I would have refused day 1, but that's just me. The neighbor's kids are not her responsibility, and she certainly doesn't want the liability. Meanwhile mom is chilling 'cause her kids are out of her hair. Did she even offer up her brood when it came time to clean the pool? Good fences make good neighbors.
I don't know about where you live but in Canada, you must have your pool fenced in, in a suburban area even most people in the rural areas have their pools fenced. I would rather deprive the kids of your pool than have to send flowers to one of their funerals. Plus these people have some nerve, sometimes I wonder if people really understand other persons personal property!
The liability thing is so SO huge. I get that Mom probably only would let them go over when the homeowner was in it so she knew there was someone watching in case someone hit their head or something like that, but that also was kind of the worst time for YOU to have them come over. I used to rent a room from a homeowner who had a pool, and while let her tennents use it freely in summer, she herself rarey did (melanoma survivor) but she had a deal with the neighbors that their kids could use the pool IF: 1. they asked her/let her know first, 2. a parent was with the kids watching them (so no expecting homeowner to babysit), 3. she or her tennents weren't using it/no adults were out drinking on the back patio (which was easily avoided if everyone communicated). Sounds like this entitled mom just expected OP to let her kids disturb her whenever she was in the pool, and didn't listen whenever OP tried to speak up in the past.
My mom also had a similar issue with neighborhood kids using our trampoline. We had one of those big round ones with the safety net all around it, which does make it safer, but you can still fall badly and break a bone. My mom was fine with letting them use it if they asked to join when my brother or I was out there, and even was fine if they asked to use it when we weren't if they brought a parent to watch them. But they started coming over whenever, with no adult supervision, without asking. We'd all be inside and we'd just start hearing their loud noise, and because it was often like, 4+ neighborhood kids, safety was a big issue, because you start putting that many kids on a trampoline and it's easy for someone to get bounced around or jumped on. My mom talked to the kids multiple times, but they still came. She talked to the parents, who probably DID talk to their kids, but the kids would just come behind their parents' backs. My mom finally just trashed the thing.
Load More Replies...NTA, definitely NTA! However, my advice would be if anything like this comes up again for someone, instead of saying "OCCASIONALLY," be specific and say something like, "they can call me to schedule three Sunday afternoons this summer they can come over." Communicate the boundaries right off the bat. It's awkward to do, though.
That's not a boundary. It's OK to say, "No, we are not open to sharing our PRIVATE pool. I'm sure you can find an affordable above-ground pool on the internet to keep YOUR kids happy."
Load More Replies...If they want a pool, they can get one themselves or go to a public pool. It’s a liability thing. They’re lucky you wear a swimsuit at all. If I had my own pool and a fence, suits are optional. Bet that will stop mom from telling the boys they should walk over and swim. Real quick.
i honestly feel bad for the neighbors daughter too bc she has to grow up with such sh*t brothers and parents, and she's actually nice (i don't feel bad that they cant go there anytime they want btw. just that she has an asshole family)
Why is there even a contribution about parenting, boundaries and learning discipline? Your property, your rules! You have no responsibility for your neighbours' kids upbringing, or entertainment. But you do have to be careful about those boys and potential accusations of grooming etc.!!!
I hate kids and I've lived next door to my neighbour for 10yrs without even even saying hi. She's a damn SAINT. I would've told them to scram from day one.
I hate adults, but there's so goddamn many of them.
Load More Replies...Doesn’t make sense why anyone would question putting up that fence since it is not their property. Guess that family will just need to get their own pool. That woman was taking advantage of this new homeowner for free babysitting. She should nit allow any of the kids to play with the dog. We lived next door to a lovely couple who rescued dogs, for 12 years. On day 1 she explained they were rescues and as such she could not fully know what their younger years had been like so we should never approach the dogs or let our child approach them. We never got a fence between our houses because we all respected this fact and so she would take her dogs out to pee and poop and we would always make sure we were outside when our daughter was. We didn’t once pet or play with the dogs and the dogs were never brought into our side of the yard. Never had a problem. Respect your neighbors.
I wish the homeowner in this case had called the mom out for using her as a free babysitter. What a leech. They can send their kids to summer camp if they're that much of a nuisance.
Load More Replies...Be prepared to follow through with things like calling the police on trespassing and potential vandalism. A security system is a good idea and save footage when you will need to press charges. Time for that crowd to learn that actions have real consequences and the world does not revolve around them.
Build the fence with barbed wire on top. Then, build another fence around the pool. Also, get a pool cover. Am maybe get some cameras?
She is 100% NOT the asshole here. Kaylie and her entitled crotch goblins are the assholes, without question.
Not a chance, simple as that, if you want a pool for your kids you buy one.
Yep. Lock the gate, install cameras. If something dumb were to happen to one of her crotch goblins at "our" pool, you'd better bet that they will sue your butt off.
Not anywhere near being the asshole. I would have done the same. Nad by the way: couldn’t care less about „hurt feelings“ of some stupid brats
How on EARTH is she anything close to an asshole, I'd have had a fence up WAY sooner, and I'd have kicked them out and told them mom word-for-word about any dodgy comments from the drooling snotbags!!
I'm thinking a 10 foot brick wall with broken glass on the top.
Load More Replies...The neighbors are the assholes. I would not have allowed them to use the pool in the first place. But even before all that i am surprised they were allowed to have a pool without a fence. I thought that was a legal sort of universal requirement.
In addition to the fence I would be planting something spiky - like climbing roses - because fences are no barrier to agile teenages
Personally in addition to the high fence I would also plant very spiky trees along the fence line - climbing roses for instance - because fences don't stop agile teens
No explanation necessary.....it's your property and you've paid for it and can do what you like with it. You extended an invitation and were taken advantage of. This woman is using you and trying to manipulate you, best to nip this in the bud right away. You like your privacy, the peace and quiet...you don't have to explain to someone else why you do what you do. Not their business. Insurance for the pool and guests? Are they going to give you any money for that or upkeep? As for the gross remarks..that right there is why you don't have to have them over, and fortunate that you tolerated that abuse, why I don't know.
Cali, sisters friend’s baby drowned because she didnt have a required fenced around the pool. The fence around the pool is for babies, different than a privacy fence, also a must
I don't know where this is but in these parts you have to fence your pool.
Where I live, it's illegal to not have a fence around a pool, specifically to keep kids out.
Well, this one is interesting. At least some states require a fence to even have a pool.
NTA! Live your life for you and your family. Your neighbor is ridiculous!
These Reddit grab outrage generator posts are toxic as f**k. Stop with this s**t.
Outing assholes is a useful thing. No one is forcing you to be here.
Load More Replies...How many of these f*****g stories do we need, BP. 100% of the time NTA, and everyone knows this, and just says the same s**t in their comments. Be better than this.
The first time one of the kids got injured in your pool, those neighbors would be on the phone to a lawyer… tell them no from day one.
In many states you HAVE to have a pool fence cause pools are considered "attractive nuances" and kids die in them
Yep. That was my first thought. It would be totally illegal in my state to have no fence around that pool.
Load More Replies...I’m introverted too and honestly you lasted a lot longer than I would have. I absolutely hate swimming with others in the pool and 2 rowdy teenagers would have definitely moved me to build the fence way sooner. NTA!! Enjoy your pool I envy you lol
I would have built the fence before I even moved in. It would have been the first thing on the list.
Load More Replies...Chad and Brad could do some good old digging with all their energy.
Load More Replies...Your first mistake was talking about it over a plate of cookies. Anyone offering to talk over a plate of cookies has ulterior motives. Always. Next time make it a triple scotch and get right down to the brass tacks. No f****n around.
I bought a house on a double lot. First moved in, see neighbors cutting thru to walk the dog to the street behind. Then they start walking along the sidewalk along my office room and kitchen. I call out, they ignore me. One time, the adult daughter was with them, I called out, she turned, the dad kept walking, the mom grabbed her arm to turn her back. I put up no trespassing signs. They went back to the grass. I put up a little 12” high fence from tree to tree, 100 yards. Neighbor is walking the dog, NOW she stops to talk to me. “Oh! Are you planting flowers there?” Yup, tulips. The other neighbor caught me at the curb on garbage day. She didn’t know I was new neighbor (cuz she never made eye contact) and started talking about how they used to go thru the yard, guess the last resident didnt like that. Wen she gets a new dog, she’ll have to go around the block. Yup.
Same. The church used to own our house and it was empty for 6 years. Cue literally over a dozen dog walkers - ‘but I have walked him here since he was a puppy’, ‘but it’s safer for him to be off leash here’ etc. I have two dogs. Fences and gates and CCTV were the first things up.
Load More Replies...In most communities, it's illegal to have a pool without having a barrier around it. Allowing the neighbor's kids to swim whenever they want, even if you're not home, opens you up to a crapload of liability should anyone get hurt. Obviously, the neighbor isn't watching her own kids. The fence should have gone up on Day One. If they want a pool, let them install one.
I would not go a day without a fence or impenetrable hedge around my garden. It's MY garden. Everyone stays out of it until you're invited or you ask and are given permission to enter.
Again it's another case of "My house, my rules." If the neighbors want a swimming pool for their kids, they can buy one themselves. It's just that easy. No one has any obligation to cater for the needs of strangers that happen to live next door. The ass hats here are the mother and her children. I'd set up surveillance cameras and get a pitbull as service dog.
Well, she wants to rescue a pupper, and a majority of these are pitties, so there's a good chance her new four legged buddy might be a Pitbull
Load More Replies...I would let the younger one come over provided she texted first and you were there to supervise. You absolutely CAN set different rules for her and for her older siblings and when they ask why you tell them because she has always been polite and respected my rules. You don't have to treat them all equally if they're not acting equally. Actions have consequences.
Nope. No mercy. Having ANY contact with this family would be begging for trouble.
Load More Replies...GET A SECURITY CAMERA. She is a saint for putting up with gross comments from the boys and being treated like an unpaid babysitter and having her legal rights to her own property ignored. I guarantee the teen boys will break in at some point, so make sure you've got receipts for when you call the police, since neither they nor their mother can act like reasonable, responsible adults.
Honestly the kids getting their feelings hurt isn't even a valid arguement. They're all old enough to understand.
What is the deal these days with people thinking that their neighbors' property is also their property? The OP was nice enough to let them come over as much as she did, but this mom getting upset about this is just absolutely ridiculous. It's like people's sense of entitlement is getting worse and worse. So far it's been "you have to babysit my kids because you're home all day", "you have to get rid of your bees because my kid is allergic", "I am unemployed, but I am still going to send the kids into your Zoom meeting", and now it's "My kids are going to come swim in your pool whenever they please and you are going to put up with it." No one is entitled to anything and acting like you are makes you the problem. Just because the older couple said it was okay doesn't mean that the new homeowner has to go along with it. Take care of your own kids.
My aunt and uncle had a house with a pool years ago. It had fencing and bushes all around it. What they did is have a flag pole. One color indicated that the kids of the neighbors they knew were allowed to just come over because they were home and their kids were in the pool. Another color, call and ask. Another, it's family private time. It worked well. But these neighbors are beyond selfish and ridiculous. Its your property, your pool and you can do what you want. Its not up to you to provide a free pool for the kids and babysit them. She wants her kids to have a pool? Get one of your own. Fence AND security cameras are a fantastic idea. Obviously the other people on the street are tired of listening to her. You may kinda like her, but if she kicks up more of a fuss dont be afraid to and, do really put your foot down. You are not responsible for her reaction to what you are well within your rights to do.
Sweet Baby Jesus the entitlement of these people. No you're NTA. Good God. I didn't even like my kid's friends that I KNEW swimming in our pool for fear they'd get injured and I'd get sued. One time my son wanted a pool party and I made contracts for every parent to sign that granted their kids permission to use the pool under the understanding that in no way shape or form would we be liable for any injuries that could be obtained from the activity. You have to protect yourself, and if they wanted their kids ....why the hell is an 11 year old using floaties btw? to swim, get your own pool.
Yeah they're welcome to come and swim all the time! What's that on my arm? Oh nothing, just a highly contagious flesh eating infection that isn't killed by chlorine, never mind it! So are you coming over for a swim as well?
NTA at all. the answer would have been no from the beginning due to safety issues/legal issues and the fact that i, too, like my privacy. a fence is the first priority i have when i have moved into a place without one just because i have dogs. and, as my mom used to call them, six foot 'good neighbor fences' are the best because it helps from causing issue in the first place by subtly indicating that you like privacy while you can continue to be friendly
Definitely NTA. Her property, her pool, her rules. Let yoga-mom get a membership at a local pool or put in her own.
These would be way more interesting if it was close. Like if there were some YTA and NTA, but it's almost always clear, and almost always NTA. Maybe nuance is too much to ask.
I would have refused day 1, but that's just me. The neighbor's kids are not her responsibility, and she certainly doesn't want the liability. Meanwhile mom is chilling 'cause her kids are out of her hair. Did she even offer up her brood when it came time to clean the pool? Good fences make good neighbors.
I don't know about where you live but in Canada, you must have your pool fenced in, in a suburban area even most people in the rural areas have their pools fenced. I would rather deprive the kids of your pool than have to send flowers to one of their funerals. Plus these people have some nerve, sometimes I wonder if people really understand other persons personal property!
The liability thing is so SO huge. I get that Mom probably only would let them go over when the homeowner was in it so she knew there was someone watching in case someone hit their head or something like that, but that also was kind of the worst time for YOU to have them come over. I used to rent a room from a homeowner who had a pool, and while let her tennents use it freely in summer, she herself rarey did (melanoma survivor) but she had a deal with the neighbors that their kids could use the pool IF: 1. they asked her/let her know first, 2. a parent was with the kids watching them (so no expecting homeowner to babysit), 3. she or her tennents weren't using it/no adults were out drinking on the back patio (which was easily avoided if everyone communicated). Sounds like this entitled mom just expected OP to let her kids disturb her whenever she was in the pool, and didn't listen whenever OP tried to speak up in the past.
My mom also had a similar issue with neighborhood kids using our trampoline. We had one of those big round ones with the safety net all around it, which does make it safer, but you can still fall badly and break a bone. My mom was fine with letting them use it if they asked to join when my brother or I was out there, and even was fine if they asked to use it when we weren't if they brought a parent to watch them. But they started coming over whenever, with no adult supervision, without asking. We'd all be inside and we'd just start hearing their loud noise, and because it was often like, 4+ neighborhood kids, safety was a big issue, because you start putting that many kids on a trampoline and it's easy for someone to get bounced around or jumped on. My mom talked to the kids multiple times, but they still came. She talked to the parents, who probably DID talk to their kids, but the kids would just come behind their parents' backs. My mom finally just trashed the thing.
Load More Replies...NTA, definitely NTA! However, my advice would be if anything like this comes up again for someone, instead of saying "OCCASIONALLY," be specific and say something like, "they can call me to schedule three Sunday afternoons this summer they can come over." Communicate the boundaries right off the bat. It's awkward to do, though.
That's not a boundary. It's OK to say, "No, we are not open to sharing our PRIVATE pool. I'm sure you can find an affordable above-ground pool on the internet to keep YOUR kids happy."
Load More Replies...If they want a pool, they can get one themselves or go to a public pool. It’s a liability thing. They’re lucky you wear a swimsuit at all. If I had my own pool and a fence, suits are optional. Bet that will stop mom from telling the boys they should walk over and swim. Real quick.
i honestly feel bad for the neighbors daughter too bc she has to grow up with such sh*t brothers and parents, and she's actually nice (i don't feel bad that they cant go there anytime they want btw. just that she has an asshole family)
Why is there even a contribution about parenting, boundaries and learning discipline? Your property, your rules! You have no responsibility for your neighbours' kids upbringing, or entertainment. But you do have to be careful about those boys and potential accusations of grooming etc.!!!
I hate kids and I've lived next door to my neighbour for 10yrs without even even saying hi. She's a damn SAINT. I would've told them to scram from day one.
I hate adults, but there's so goddamn many of them.
Load More Replies...Doesn’t make sense why anyone would question putting up that fence since it is not their property. Guess that family will just need to get their own pool. That woman was taking advantage of this new homeowner for free babysitting. She should nit allow any of the kids to play with the dog. We lived next door to a lovely couple who rescued dogs, for 12 years. On day 1 she explained they were rescues and as such she could not fully know what their younger years had been like so we should never approach the dogs or let our child approach them. We never got a fence between our houses because we all respected this fact and so she would take her dogs out to pee and poop and we would always make sure we were outside when our daughter was. We didn’t once pet or play with the dogs and the dogs were never brought into our side of the yard. Never had a problem. Respect your neighbors.
I wish the homeowner in this case had called the mom out for using her as a free babysitter. What a leech. They can send their kids to summer camp if they're that much of a nuisance.
Load More Replies...Be prepared to follow through with things like calling the police on trespassing and potential vandalism. A security system is a good idea and save footage when you will need to press charges. Time for that crowd to learn that actions have real consequences and the world does not revolve around them.
Build the fence with barbed wire on top. Then, build another fence around the pool. Also, get a pool cover. Am maybe get some cameras?
She is 100% NOT the asshole here. Kaylie and her entitled crotch goblins are the assholes, without question.
Not a chance, simple as that, if you want a pool for your kids you buy one.
Yep. Lock the gate, install cameras. If something dumb were to happen to one of her crotch goblins at "our" pool, you'd better bet that they will sue your butt off.
Not anywhere near being the asshole. I would have done the same. Nad by the way: couldn’t care less about „hurt feelings“ of some stupid brats
How on EARTH is she anything close to an asshole, I'd have had a fence up WAY sooner, and I'd have kicked them out and told them mom word-for-word about any dodgy comments from the drooling snotbags!!
I'm thinking a 10 foot brick wall with broken glass on the top.
Load More Replies...The neighbors are the assholes. I would not have allowed them to use the pool in the first place. But even before all that i am surprised they were allowed to have a pool without a fence. I thought that was a legal sort of universal requirement.
In addition to the fence I would be planting something spiky - like climbing roses - because fences are no barrier to agile teenages
Personally in addition to the high fence I would also plant very spiky trees along the fence line - climbing roses for instance - because fences don't stop agile teens
No explanation necessary.....it's your property and you've paid for it and can do what you like with it. You extended an invitation and were taken advantage of. This woman is using you and trying to manipulate you, best to nip this in the bud right away. You like your privacy, the peace and quiet...you don't have to explain to someone else why you do what you do. Not their business. Insurance for the pool and guests? Are they going to give you any money for that or upkeep? As for the gross remarks..that right there is why you don't have to have them over, and fortunate that you tolerated that abuse, why I don't know.
Cali, sisters friend’s baby drowned because she didnt have a required fenced around the pool. The fence around the pool is for babies, different than a privacy fence, also a must
I don't know where this is but in these parts you have to fence your pool.
Where I live, it's illegal to not have a fence around a pool, specifically to keep kids out.
Well, this one is interesting. At least some states require a fence to even have a pool.
NTA! Live your life for you and your family. Your neighbor is ridiculous!
These Reddit grab outrage generator posts are toxic as f**k. Stop with this s**t.
Outing assholes is a useful thing. No one is forcing you to be here.
Load More Replies...How many of these f*****g stories do we need, BP. 100% of the time NTA, and everyone knows this, and just says the same s**t in their comments. Be better than this.
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