People Are Sharing The Exact Moment They Discovered They Were Being Cheated On (30 Tweets)
There are many ways to mess up a romantic relationship, but cheating is arguably the fastest one. It destroys trust and can cause deep emotional pain for those affected. While some couples may be able to work through the issue and salvage their connection, for many, the damage is too great to rebuild.
Recently, online content creator Aliyah's Interlude tweeted a question, asking people: "What's the craziest way you've found out your partner was cheating on you?" and whether it was the desire to normalize their past, shame their (ex) significant other, or simply warn others, many responded with their experiences.
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Continue scrolling to read the ones we think are the most memorable. Hopefully, the popularity of this thread will remind at least one conflicted person that instead of secret hedonistic adventures, honesty is the way to go.
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I did the same thing... one morning, after getting back from a trip out of country with my sister, I woke up and just KNEW (in my gut) that my boyfriend (of 8 years) had cheated on me. He admitted it when I confronted him about it. Before that, while I was away, I also suddenly got a gut feeling that he was doing something wrong. I even wrote in my travel journal, "He better not be making a fool out of me." I told myself that I was being silly, and that he would never do that to me. My gut knew better.
Load More Replies...Truth. I can't begin to tell all the dikcs around, just looking for a warm place to go.
Load More Replies...Anyone who's honest with themselves KNOOOOOOW Holly...you know...like some of us never married single men. Us men know what you women be like.
Load More Replies...The old "I didn't mean to... my penis just fell onto her vagina" excuse?
Or cues in recent conversations, especially if skyping/zooming. Brain, left to think at night...connections get made?
"I didn't mean to" is the most ridiculous excuse that can ever be said to explain cheating.
Oooh, that’s some insane intuition right there! Once, my ex-BF went to another state for Thanksgiving to visit a friend. I surprised him at the airport to welcome him back home (back when you could meet them at the gate). The moment I saw him walking out of the loading bridge, I just knew.
My husband dumped me after 20 years and two kids. Via text message. Two days before Christmas. Great guy.
On the bright side you got rid of a huge arsehole and are free to meet a very nice person!
Load More Replies...My sister was the woman who discovered he had a zillion girlfriends and texted them all. A bunch of them got together for lunch. She's still close friends with one.
Morals aside, what a logistically nightmare! The stress alone would kill my libido!
I barely have time for myself, let alone thirteen other people.
According to research, cheating is rarely a simple affair. There are many reasons why people become unfaithful, and the patterns are more complex than common stereotypes suggest. A fascinating study from 2021 sheds some light on these motivations.
The investigation included 495 people (87.9 percent of whom identified as heterosexual), who were recruited through a participant pool at a large U.S. university and through relationship-related Reddit message boards.
The participants admitted to cheating in their relationship and answered the question at the root of the mystery: why did you do it? An analysis revealed eight key reasons: anger, self-esteem, lack of love, low commitment, need for variety, neglect, sexual desire, and situation or circumstance. These motivations not only influenced why people cheated but how long they did so, their sexual enjoyment, their emotional investment in the affair, and whether their primary relationship ended because of it.
Right, like good job mom, she def knew lol
Load More Replies...What about mother in law is deliberate planting doubt , because she never actually liked son's wife?
Haha that was my first thought too but I didn’t dare write it here, we must be evil!
Load More Replies...I don't get it? If the shirt was in his moms house and he didn't own it then it was someone else in his moms house. Not something to do with his wife/partner??
He either lived with his mom or mom would come over to help him clean. Mom gave gf another girls shirt. Whether it was an intentional heads up that her son was cheating on her I dunno
Load More Replies...Nurses are always looking out for their patients
Load More Replies...My wife is a midwife. She once told me about a guy who's wife and girlfriend were both on the unit giving birth at the same time... and neither of them new about the other.
It’s really sad, but experienced OB nurses have seen some s**t. Our patients are our #1 priority and we will do everything we can to support them. I am sure the nurse spent a bit of time thinking through what was best for the patient. It likely took some restraint not to kick his out when she caught him. I can only imagine how embarrassing this was for this new mama. :(
Hey ...just wanted to thank you for being an OB nurse. You and your wonderful counterparts are heroic, veritable bastions of serenity and support. All my granddaughters gave birth in December (?!) and each OB nurse made their positive experiences possible.
Load More Replies...I was 8 months pregnant. Drove to Camp Pendleton to surprise him. PFC on duty told me he just left with his wife and family.
You've gotta be a really horrible person to do something like that while your wife/girlfriend just gave birth.
The apparently left out the last part of the tweet (no idea how they even do that!) that says, "He was cheating since the begi-"
Next thing ya know, he also happened to take the exact some photo with the exact same clothes and the exact same haircut in the exact same place!
Load More Replies...What kind of fool doesn't even know his partner's best friend that he swipes right on her???? Such a punk.
Though most cheating involves sex, it is rarely just about the act itself. Most participants felt some form of emotional attachment to their affair partner, but it was significantly more common in those who reported suffering from neglect or lack of love in their primary relationship.
Around two-thirds of participants (62.8 percent) admitted they felt affection toward their new partner. About the same proportion (61.2 percent) engaged in sexually explicit dialogue with them. Roughly 4 out of 10 (37.6 percent) had intimate conversations, while 1 in 10 (11.1 percent) said, “I love you.”
Those who reported feeling less connected to their primary partner experienced greater emotional intimacy in the affair, which might be a way of fulfilling that need. Additionally, when infidelity was linked to a lack of love, individuals found the experience more intellectually and emotionally satisfying.
Is this person sure THEY'RE not the side piece? You generally don't take the person you're just sleeping with on a trip to DW with your daughter?
You found an open box of condoms IN THE GLOVE BOX! I think someone wanted to be found out cuz no kind of stupid would do that and think they wouldn’t be caught.
Also: the heat in the car on warm days is going to make them fail eventually.
Load More Replies...Ah, yes, just ya know holding condoms for a friend? Like how does that work?
My ex tried the same excuse. It didn't work out well for him.
Load More Replies...At least if you’re gonna make excuses, make them believable (not that you should cheat on your partner in the first place)
“Holding them for a friend” - this is a common lie used by teenagers when their parents find drugs on them. I’ve never really understood what the point of it was.
My ex was using his car to cheat on me with someone out of state (he said he was visiting his parents). Turns out he got a ton of expensive (Boston) parking tickets which he ripped up and never paid. A few years later, after we broke up, I was driving through Connecticut (which exchanges info with Massachusetts) and I was arrested and thrown in jail for an outstanding warrant due to the unpaid parking tickets. On the 4th of July. The judge who had to approve my bail was at a BBQ getting drunk. I was in jail most of the day. My ex is an asshat.
Bro, I was done reading at "I got sick from stress so he went out", WTF!
That's the kind of guy that makes all guys look bad. Let him keep using the car next time. Maybe for some inexplicable reason the breaks fail or the wheels come off...or both. On a twisty mountain road with no other traffic around.
he was cheating on his fiancée with OP, who didn't know. according to Twitter they both left after yelling at him though
Load More Replies...Participants' satisfaction with sex differed depending on the reason for their affair. People reported feeling more sexually fulfilled when they cheated because of desire, lack of love, or a need for variety. Much of the sexual activity was limited to kissing (86.7 percent) and cuddling (72.9 percent). Interestingly, the study found that only half of the cheaters reported having vaginal intercourse.
The reason for the infidelity also had a great impact on its length. In some cases, the relationship was a brief tryst, while others were a longer and deeper attachment. Those who cheated because of anger (such as a wish to “seek revenge”), lack of love, or need for variety had a longer affair, while those motivated by the situation (such as those who were “drunk” or “overwhelmed” and “not thinking clearly”) ended it sooner. Women also had longer affairs, on average, than men.
Well, I don't want to enter the general discussion why people cheat at all, but why in all sanity would you cheat with somebody you know will rat you out?!
People are more likely to cheat with another person also in a relationship so that they both have something to lose... 😔
Load More Replies...They must have a close circle of friends because she had enough info of hers to reach her on a cash app and have her number initially. She might have found out she was the other woman and got as much info as she could before she told him she knew.
Some credit for the blocking thing, but the discredit out weighs it 10 fold
I don't understand what the phone type had to do with this... elp!
Maybe with that phone it doesn't show him that everyone can see who is in the group message, like newer phones do.
Load More Replies...I need to know more.... Did he realise? What did he say? What did they say?
The man literally has room-temperature IQ. And I mean that in Celcius.
I'm thinking more like he's owed some IQ. Like, he hid behind the door when it was his turn to get it.
Load More Replies...Found a stack of pics and letters in his seabag after return from VN. I made a fire. Gave him the ashes. He was so mad I nearly feared for my life, yelling about how was he supposed to find her again. What? We'd been married a couple years with a child.
Well...they were just random on tv /in movies, right???/s Not nec. porn but, whatever.
Since it's a thread about catching cheaters, I'm going to assume that he showed her pictures of girls he was sleeping with.
Load More Replies...In the end, only a third of participants ultimately admitted to their primary partner that they were cheating on them. Women were more inclined to fess up than men. Also, those who came clean were more likely to have cheated out of anger or neglect rather than sexual desire or variety. This suggests that their confession could have been a form of retribution and a way to exact revenge instead of a way to clear their conscience. The participants who confessed were more likely to form a committed relationship with the affair partner, too.
Even if it was past tense, once the comparisons start, it's over. You are your own person.
It is a red flag, though. He's trying to deflect instead of just answering her question.
Load More Replies...Been there. Got weird urge to go to house in another area of town, miles from our home. House was for rent. His bike was out front. I knocked on the door and heard him cursing 'how do you do this!#%^' Intuition, baby.
Why would any partner stroll up to a house where your other half could actually be working? They must have had some indication that is what they were doing there, otherwise, he needed to run anyway. Geez.
Male model on underwear shoot? Private Fitness Instructor? FBI? CIA? Undercover cop on a stakeout? Salesman demonstrating the latest body cream for customer? And the list of excuses goes on and on... and on...
Load More Replies...That’s horrible. It feels like this mom was almost proud that her son…texting this sort of message at 2 a.m. to a teenage girl is immature and cruel. It def could have been handled differently.
by the sound of his mother, she definitely dodged a bullet!!!
I'm a little confused - this is a really s****y situation, but how is it proof that he was cheating?
She didn't get a sexually-transmitted venereal disease from the aether, that's for sure. If she had no other sexual partners before or after said boyfriend, HE had chlamydia and lied/transmitted it to her.
Load More Replies...I found out my ex-horror was cheating on me because I contracted HPV. Of course he denied it, but I couldn't have gotten it any other way. I went to the gyno and she said I might have what looked like pre-cancerous cells. On two occasions, after a positive pap test, bits of my cervix needed to be snipped out. And yes, it effing hurt, not to mention the fear, stress and cost of a divorce lawyer.
YUP... that's... a really... terrible way to find out. It's like Hm... both clean when getting into relationship... clean... clean... suddenly... you go for a yearly physical and... "Pardon me. What did you say I have?" - you know YOU'VE been faithful... Even worse - he tries to play it off as if it must have just 'spontaneously occurred' from nowhere. Uh huh... yeah... that's not how it works.
Why all the hate for lynne hammar? That was kinda funny....I am so baffled by the things that get down voted. I once read a post about things in the workplace, and someone posted a rude note on their desk that they don't care about coworkers weekends or kids so don't bother making small talk with them. I mentioned they sounded like a fun person to spend the day with..BAM 84000000 downvotes.
Yea but chlamydia is only transferred sexually. If you were clear of it earlier, you got it from him. Don't be stupid girl. Wise up.
So does an affair really end a relationship? Ultimately, the fate of the participants' primary relationship depended less on the act itself and more on what motivated it.
Cheating was more likely to end a relationship when it arose from anger, lack of love, low commitment, or neglect and it was less likely to do so when the infidelity was circumstantial.
Surprisingly, only one in five (20.4 percent) of relationships ended because of the affair. The same number of couples (21.8 percent) stayed together despite their primary partner finding out, while slightly more (28.3 percent) stayed together without their partner discovering their infidelity. The remaining relationships broke up for other reasons.
Craziest lie ever, not even a bullet dodged, whole a*s firing squad dodged
i think it's a Snapchat feature you can enable that'll show your friends your general location?
Load More Replies...This one doesn't necessarily say "cheating" either. Maybe she does act like he's out with other girls and is trying to make her own behavior seem he overreacted to an innocent question.
if “i’m not cheating” is the answer to a question that’s not about cheating…it’s cheating
Load More Replies...anytime the answer is “i’m not cheating” when the question wasn’t even about cheating….HES CHEATING
Your intuition knows. It will find a way to enlighten you, despite best efforts to remain blissfully ignorant.
I haven't ever cheated on my wife and I love her more than anyone. But she's woken me up in the middle of the night at LEAST 4 times to yell at me for cheating on her in a dream lol Intuition isn't ALWAYS right. But, I've had that creeping feeling with several past partners and it was right those times. The first gf I had I tried to ignore it as paranoia and ended up finding out she was sleeping with a LOT of different guys later on.
Load More Replies...I found out the same way once. I had a dream that a guy I was dating was with another girl. Next time I talked to him I said "hey I had a weird dream, are you seeing someone else?" He was like "woah, ...um yeah". I was like "ok, see ya around then" and he said "Its been real. See ya". Never heard from him again.
Had a dream years ago too about someone cheating on me. It was true, too!
If that scares you, the median age of initial sexual activity with a partner is 15.6.
Load More Replies...All sorta sad. So glad I'll never be a teen again. Just cruel, evil, mean people.
That means nothing on Spotify though unless he kept his playlists private...which I am not sure is even a thing. They suggest random strangers playlists for me all the time on there.
my goodness...if you consider this as proof... you must not be very bright. Playlist are set as public by default. anyone looking up any song, artist or album of included songs can see that playlist...
Awwww. Making a mixed tape for each other is still a ting with todays middleschoolers, how cute.
Bending over... to give a BJ? Bending over to take it in the heiny? :/ Or is "bending" some new slang word I'm too old to be hip to? XD Ah - I checked Urban Dictionary: "In addition, bending can sometimes also allude to acts of over-the-top homosexual behaviour or indulgence, as in the British slang noun "bender" or adjective "bent.""
Load More Replies...Cool the ex is friends with Bender Bending Rodríguez. Is the ex Fry
I don't know this guy and Fry won't cheat.
Load More Replies...Thanks for the explanation. I’m way beyond knowing some of these slang meanings.
With you there. I actually want to understand what this means
Load More Replies...Yeah I don't see how this means someone's cheating
Load More Replies...That sounds like a marketing strategy, not like cheating. A bad one, but I don't see the cheating?
Don/t feel bad YSDNWTF, I have no idea what that is nor what it means:(
This is kind of what happened to me. With this loser for 6 years on and off. Met him at my place after a few drinks with friends for my Birthday. He had been cleaning up, found and read my therapy diary from a few years ago. I had written something about a fling I had when we were broken up for a year. He accused me of cheating - we were on a break! - and broke up with me. On my Birthday. Checked his FB page a few days later to see he's updated his relationship status to 'in a relationship' with someone else since April. My Birthday is at the end of May. Jerk.
When my wife's phone received an audible message notification at around 11-12pm, and when I picked up the phone (without looking at it - simply to pass it to her) her guilty, slightly panicked reaction gave her away entirely. Turned out she'd been seeing a mutual friend behind my back for some time.
Jesus Christ, what's the matter with these stories. Half of them make no sense at all ...
i have a coworker who is stalker-level obsessed with a streamer they mod for…soo yeah that would be concerning
Do these people not speak English? I genuinely don't understand what half these posts are saying.
His waves (His group/crew) logo was her twitter header (banner at the top of her twitter page)
"Waves" as in his wavy hair. A pic of her man's wavy hair was the other woman's Twitter header photo. That's what she's saying.
That's exactly what I thought too. But I think we're wrong
Load More Replies...Most likely some of them aren't even from an English speaking country, the rest is propably American ;)
Load More Replies...With my BD for 7 years....I had heard he had reconnected with his old HS girlfriend on FB...who I had always felt he had never gotten over. She caused him MAJOR heartbreak. I started feeling like maybe they were talking to each other more often than the occasional 'like' on FB posts. Just a feeling. One night when I was at work on break, we got into a major fight TEXTING about it on the phone where he kept denying everything and telling me I was totally crazy. Back and forth we texted, and then I got this text from him..."Just told her we were talking again...at least she knows now" It took me a second to realize he must have been texting her at the same time he was texting me...and had texted me a message to her on accident. I wrote back "Well if I wasn't sure before, I sure am now!" He tried to tell me he had written that text to me as a joke...to see how I would react. Stayed with him stupidly for 2 more months, until I walked in on them in bed tog., sleeping, spooning, naked.
Your intuition knew. Hope you've moved beyond this neanderthal and regained your strength and confidence.
Load More Replies...Seems the BP staff member who posted this left out an entire gender. Was that on purpose?
I saw pics on Facebook of him weigh her at a wedding; I had been invited to the wedding too but was in the hospital having surgery to remove some of my cancer so he took his other woman. Thought it was strange that friends hadn't posted any pics... turns out he had been bribing people to keep it quiet. When I confronted him, he said it was my own fault as the cancer treatment had left me ugly (i lost my hair, eyebrows and eyelashes) and that I'd been a bad girlfriend because I had stopped having sex with him; in my defence I had had a year of horrible chemo by this point, and it had made me really sick, and tired. He said I should have been more aware of his needs and made more effort. I cried way more than I should have over him!
😳 you do NOT need to defend yourself at all for going through cancer treatments and not wanting to 'fulfill his needs'! I'm disgusted that he treated you that way! He is absolutely a POS for even just one part of that story. I'm so sorry!! I hope you are healing both emotionally and physically.
Load More Replies...I found out that I was the side chick after we broke up. Turns out he was engaged. He married her like a month after we broke up. The weird thing was that she looked exactly like me! Except, that I'm more curvaceous and shorter hair. I've only started growing out my hair in the last few years. Anyways, he was always bragging to me that she was an Olympic athlete (she played volleyball).
I never believed the posts on BP were true until just last week, when I came home unexpectedly to find my wife in bed with her (female) best friend. I walked in on them in mid-frolic and my wife asked “would you care to join us?” As you
I wonder if cheating is related to income at all? My impression from the above posts is under-educated men and unemployed men tend to cheat more. Perhaps as ways to bolster self-esteem? Just asking a theory here
More like: the higher up the less likely to talk about it
Load More Replies...Most likely some of them aren't even from an English speaking country, the rest is propably American ;)
Load More Replies...With my BD for 7 years....I had heard he had reconnected with his old HS girlfriend on FB...who I had always felt he had never gotten over. She caused him MAJOR heartbreak. I started feeling like maybe they were talking to each other more often than the occasional 'like' on FB posts. Just a feeling. One night when I was at work on break, we got into a major fight TEXTING about it on the phone where he kept denying everything and telling me I was totally crazy. Back and forth we texted, and then I got this text from him..."Just told her we were talking again...at least she knows now" It took me a second to realize he must have been texting her at the same time he was texting me...and had texted me a message to her on accident. I wrote back "Well if I wasn't sure before, I sure am now!" He tried to tell me he had written that text to me as a joke...to see how I would react. Stayed with him stupidly for 2 more months, until I walked in on them in bed tog., sleeping, spooning, naked.
Your intuition knew. Hope you've moved beyond this neanderthal and regained your strength and confidence.
Load More Replies...Seems the BP staff member who posted this left out an entire gender. Was that on purpose?
I saw pics on Facebook of him weigh her at a wedding; I had been invited to the wedding too but was in the hospital having surgery to remove some of my cancer so he took his other woman. Thought it was strange that friends hadn't posted any pics... turns out he had been bribing people to keep it quiet. When I confronted him, he said it was my own fault as the cancer treatment had left me ugly (i lost my hair, eyebrows and eyelashes) and that I'd been a bad girlfriend because I had stopped having sex with him; in my defence I had had a year of horrible chemo by this point, and it had made me really sick, and tired. He said I should have been more aware of his needs and made more effort. I cried way more than I should have over him!
😳 you do NOT need to defend yourself at all for going through cancer treatments and not wanting to 'fulfill his needs'! I'm disgusted that he treated you that way! He is absolutely a POS for even just one part of that story. I'm so sorry!! I hope you are healing both emotionally and physically.
Load More Replies...I found out that I was the side chick after we broke up. Turns out he was engaged. He married her like a month after we broke up. The weird thing was that she looked exactly like me! Except, that I'm more curvaceous and shorter hair. I've only started growing out my hair in the last few years. Anyways, he was always bragging to me that she was an Olympic athlete (she played volleyball).
I never believed the posts on BP were true until just last week, when I came home unexpectedly to find my wife in bed with her (female) best friend. I walked in on them in mid-frolic and my wife asked “would you care to join us?” As you
I wonder if cheating is related to income at all? My impression from the above posts is under-educated men and unemployed men tend to cheat more. Perhaps as ways to bolster self-esteem? Just asking a theory here
More like: the higher up the less likely to talk about it
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