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Guy Sparks Drama By Going Ballistic That His GF Kissed A Woman As A Teen, She Can’t Believe It
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Guy Sparks Drama By Going Ballistic That His GF Kissed A Woman As A Teen, She Can’t Believe It

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There’s Pride month, Pride parades, and so much awareness about it. Yet, amidst us lurk the people who are anti-LGBTQ+. Some are unabashedly vocal about it (like a famous, rich author) while some hide behind a facade until their truth finally comes out.

Netizens believe that the original poster’s (OP) partner is definitely homophobic after his reaction to a silly thing she did as a teenager. The poor woman was utterly confused about the way that he behaved and vented online. Read on to find out what really triggered his anger!

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    Unfortunately, there are a lot of homophobic people who would even go against their loved ones over it

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    While speaking with her partner, the poster told him that she had kissed a female friend 11 years ago when she was 17 years old

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    Her partner suddenly flipped and said that he doesn’t want to be with a bi, which completely threw her off

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    She tried to reason with him that she is straight, but he just refuses to hear her out, as he can’t even look at her

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    The poster thinks he is overreacting, but also wondered whether she shouldn’t have shared it with him

    Today’s story is about a dramatic conflict between a couple who have been together for 2 years now. They were chilling and chatting when the 28-year-old poster told her 34-year-old partner that 11 years ago, she had kissed a female friend. She was probably laughing about how she was just a 17-year-old at a party, having fun, but he took her expression as something else.

    Here’s where the drama starts because the guy went radio silent, and the next day, when they spoke about it, he called her bi. He ranted on about how he doesn’t want to be with a bi person as there’s already “competition from men”. Wow, way to jump to conclusions, right? Anyway, our lady is shocked by his extreme anger and keeps telling him she’s straight.

    However, it’s all falling on deaf ears as he can’t even look at her now. The man also thinks that the smile on her face when she narrated the incident proves that she thinks fondly of that memory. But, hey, it was a fun and wild moment for her, so, of course, she’s going to remember it fondly; it doesn’t mean she’s bi. Alas, looks like her partner is not smart enough to know this!

    Now she is feeling completely lost about it, and even thinks that she should never have mentioned it in the first place. When she vented online, folks instantly jumped to the conclusion that he’s homophobic. While she has doubts about this, she can’t really picture him reacting the same way if she kissed a man.

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    If you ask me, it’s not a big shocker what netizens are saying, considering that 25% of Americans were reported to be homophobic in 2022. In fact, research has also revealed that homophobes might be people still in the closet for a whole host of reasons.

    And look, while we can’t really pin that on the husband in this story, perhaps there’s something deeper or some hidden trauma, especially seeing as his own parents would call him “gay” for being into poetry.

    The poster believes that it’s jealousy, while netizens felt that he has some deep-seated insecurity issues. It has been observed that jealousy and insecurity may stem from different traumatic life experiences, but these emotions are definitely not healthy in any relationship. 

    Many folks also advised that he really needed therapy if he is pondering something that happened before he entered her life, and it’s totally insignificant. After all, OP was just a teenager back then, and all teenagers do silly things and experiment while growing up. People also found it immature of him to completely stop talking to her over it.

    The poster also narrated how that is always the case, and how she has to go every time and convince him to communicate with her. Yikes, that sounds quite dreary! I have to say, people online are quite right. This doesn’t look like a relationship that will survive in the long run if he doesn’t get help for his issues and resolve them.

    Anyway, that’s my opinion. Now, we want to hear your thoughts and opinions about the story. Just type them away in the comments section!

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    Hey, am Rutuja! A storyteller at heart and a writer at Bored Panda. I have a strange love for words, and I mostly survive on coffee which is the driving force behind my writing. I enjoy working on articles that purely entertain our readers. When am not writing or trekking, you can find me staying up late and watching all the matches of Football Club Barcelona!

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    Janelle Collard
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And people wonder why women stop dating men...😔

    Lyoness
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This happened to my sister. When she and her now husband started dating she was honest about being bisexual and he really struggled with it. I actually chuckled a little when I read the line about how he thought it was hard enough to compete with men and now had to worry about women because that's almost verbatim what her husband said. It's absolutely about insecurity and not understanding what being bisexual means. The insecurity they worked on together, and now he understands that bisexual people are no more likely to cheat than straight ones. He just didn't feel secure in their relationship at the time. The problem here is the partner won't talk about his feelings and isn't being honest about his insecurities. Unfortunately if they can't find a way to communicate about this the relationship is over.

    Mel in Georgia
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    5 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wonder if part of it is, "So she likes women, like I like women, and given the choice, why is she with me, a man? Women are awesome!" Yeah, all of that needs to be explored honestly. And honestly, sometimes I wish I liked women. lol (I'm a woman.)

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    Sarah Kathrin Matsoukis
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Competing...if someone is faithful it doesn't matter if they're straight or not, they commit to their partner

    Nina
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And if he's competing with anything, it's with the peace and freedom she has when she's single

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    Janelle Collard
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And people wonder why women stop dating men...😔

    Lyoness
    Community Member
    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This happened to my sister. When she and her now husband started dating she was honest about being bisexual and he really struggled with it. I actually chuckled a little when I read the line about how he thought it was hard enough to compete with men and now had to worry about women because that's almost verbatim what her husband said. It's absolutely about insecurity and not understanding what being bisexual means. The insecurity they worked on together, and now he understands that bisexual people are no more likely to cheat than straight ones. He just didn't feel secure in their relationship at the time. The problem here is the partner won't talk about his feelings and isn't being honest about his insecurities. Unfortunately if they can't find a way to communicate about this the relationship is over.

    Mel in Georgia
    Community Member
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    5 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wonder if part of it is, "So she likes women, like I like women, and given the choice, why is she with me, a man? Women are awesome!" Yeah, all of that needs to be explored honestly. And honestly, sometimes I wish I liked women. lol (I'm a woman.)

    Load More Replies...
    Sarah Kathrin Matsoukis
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Competing...if someone is faithful it doesn't matter if they're straight or not, they commit to their partner

    Nina
    Community Member
    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And if he's competing with anything, it's with the peace and freedom she has when she's single

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