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Husband Gets A Brutal Reality Check After Realizing An Open Marriage Applies To Both Spouses
Personally, I’ve never really liked the concept of an open relationship, but I know a couple who are in one, and they seem pretty happy. I guess, as long as it’s not forced on one partner and both choose it, it’s their life and they can do what they want.
This man, however, forced his wife into an open marriage just because he wanted to sleep with his secretary. However, he quickly realized that he had made a mistake as his wife was able to find a lot of men, so he demanded that they stop it, but things escalated as she refused!
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The poster’s parents got married pretty young, as her mom got pregnant with her, and they moved to the city where her grandpa set up a business for her father
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After years together, her barely present father demanded an open marriage from her mom, who was reluctant at first, but gave in after pressure
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The man quickly realized his mistake, as it was just a reason to sleep with his secretary, while his wife was able to find many men
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He asked his wife to stop the open marriage, but she refused, so they got a divorce, but he spread rumors to his family that she cheated on him
Today, we dive into the original poster’s (OP) life as she tells us the story about how her parents got divorced. They were really young when they got pregnant with her, so they were married off, and OP’s grandpa set up a business for them in the city. Her mom was taught to be a “submissive wife” when she grew up in the south, and barely socialized after moving away.
She got close with her daughter, who urged her to go out, and she finally made a friend and started socializing. One day, her 41-year-old husband suddenly suggested an “open marriage,” and she was aghast. Being a good Christian, the idea was shocking for her, and she didn’t believe in divorce either. With pressure from him and encouragement from her daughter, she finally agreed.
The truth is that the man only wanted to sleep with his secretary, but he quickly realized the mistake he had made. His 39-year-old athletic wife got a lot of attention from numerous men, and he just couldn’t bear it. It must have hurt his small ego, as he started fighting with her over silly things. Now, she had grown confident, so she also fought back, and they decided to get divorced.
However, the sly man went and told both their parents that she “cheated on him,” and they all came down to berate her. Luckily, she is blessed with a smart daughter, as OP had saved all their messages and revealed the truth to the whole family. The grandparents started fighting each other for their children, and said accusatory things to the poster’s mom.
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She even faced backlash from her “church friends,” but she shut them down. Her true friend was very supportive in this, and she even gave her an attorney’s number. Meanwhile, OP also found out that the business given to her dad actually belongs to her mom, and now her father is living in a hotel, while they await more divorce drama.
The truth is that open marriages might seem like a new concept, but in reality, it’s actually a historical phenomenon. In fact, some scientists argue it may be hard-wired into our genetics and confer species survival advantages. No wonder so many people are willing to give it a try. Data shows that 23% of Americans find it acceptable, and out of those, 36% are men, while 30% are women.
However, it’s not everyone’s cup of tea, as we clearly witnessed in this story. The man basically wanted his wife’s “permission” to sleep with his secretary, so he jumped into it. When his wife got a lot of men to hook up with, he got jealous and then conveniently wanted to stop it.
Research suggests that men’s jealousy tends to center around the idea of their partner getting physical with another man, while women tend to get more jealous of emotional intimacy. Jealous people can lash out, and even the man did so, by commenting on his wife’s appearance. Well, it’s a good thing that they are getting divorced because he sounds quite annoying.
Netizens expressed sympathy for the poster that she was stuck in all the drama, but they were glad that her mom was leaving her toxic dad. Don’t you agree with them? Feel free to jot down your thoughts in the comments below!
People online found it funny how the one who wants an open marriage always ends up regretting it
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Apatheist Account2 3 months ago
He wanted a one-way open marriage - or, as it's commonly known, an affair. I suppose the only redeeming feature is that he was 'open' about it without sneaking behind her back. Religious extremism - whether conservative or radical - really is a blight on society. Just divorce and have done with it.
Miss Ann Thrope 3 months ago
He wanted permission to have an affair so he wouldn't have to sneak around.
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KatSaidWhat 3 months ago
I shouldn't be laughing, but oh well. Anyone who suddenly wants an open marriage is already cheating. And it usually doesn't work in their favour. The way this escalated, if real, made for good reading with a nice little plot twist. 10/10 Would recommend.
Max Fox 3 months ago
In some RARE cases it isn't, but that usually comes from a long discussion that both participate in, and the first discussion is always how each would feel, the second one about rules and boundaries. Even then it often doesn't work because one of the partners agree theoretically, but couldn't deal with the reality.
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FreeTheUnicorn 3 months ago
It is beyond f-ed up to discus your s*x life and issues with your kids. They have a right not to know. It's not ok to use your children as therapists, it's as unhealthy as anything the father ever did by being absent. Neither supposed adult out any kind of effort into being a solid healthy adult for their child. Neither is trying now. I feel badly for OP, but couldn't care at all about two selfish people and their marital/conjugal issues and adventures.
zububonsai 3 months ago (edited)
I kindly disagree. a) IMHO,it's a sign of strong bonding when you feel safe to talk about "hard topics" with the relatives you feel comfortable with (and not only strangers/therapists/friends). Like, my grandmother (!) , 91, felt safe to tell me (47) how upset both her and my grandpa were when they found out what is NOT possible anymore after his prostate operation. (I really didn't know, as well! ) // b) Therapists aren't a thing here where I live, and only with the younger ones and even then there are too little therapists... // c) some societies and cultures are more, umm, closed and some are more open (and that's totally okay if you don't feel comfortable to talk about anything with family members) with "hot / intimate topics". Here, we talk about a lot of "hard stuff" here with friends and family. Think of "clan meeting"? e.g. I read a lot about Menopause and Contraception before but in the end I asked my step daughter, 27, too, about h e r. experience and advice because I knew she had done an insane amount of research lately. Why shouldn't I?
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Apatheist Account2 3 months ago
He wanted a one-way open marriage - or, as it's commonly known, an affair. I suppose the only redeeming feature is that he was 'open' about it without sneaking behind her back. Religious extremism - whether conservative or radical - really is a blight on society. Just divorce and have done with it.
Miss Ann Thrope 3 months ago
He wanted permission to have an affair so he wouldn't have to sneak around.
Load More Replies... KatSaidWhat 3 months ago
I shouldn't be laughing, but oh well. Anyone who suddenly wants an open marriage is already cheating. And it usually doesn't work in their favour. The way this escalated, if real, made for good reading with a nice little plot twist. 10/10 Would recommend.
Max Fox 3 months ago
In some RARE cases it isn't, but that usually comes from a long discussion that both participate in, and the first discussion is always how each would feel, the second one about rules and boundaries. Even then it often doesn't work because one of the partners agree theoretically, but couldn't deal with the reality.
Load More Replies... FreeTheUnicorn 3 months ago
It is beyond f-ed up to discus your s*x life and issues with your kids. They have a right not to know. It's not ok to use your children as therapists, it's as unhealthy as anything the father ever did by being absent. Neither supposed adult out any kind of effort into being a solid healthy adult for their child. Neither is trying now. I feel badly for OP, but couldn't care at all about two selfish people and their marital/conjugal issues and adventures.
zububonsai 3 months ago (edited)
I kindly disagree. a) IMHO,it's a sign of strong bonding when you feel safe to talk about "hard topics" with the relatives you feel comfortable with (and not only strangers/therapists/friends). Like, my grandmother (!) , 91, felt safe to tell me (47) how upset both her and my grandpa were when they found out what is NOT possible anymore after his prostate operation. (I really didn't know, as well! ) // b) Therapists aren't a thing here where I live, and only with the younger ones and even then there are too little therapists... // c) some societies and cultures are more, umm, closed and some are more open (and that's totally okay if you don't feel comfortable to talk about anything with family members) with "hot / intimate topics". Here, we talk about a lot of "hard stuff" here with friends and family. Think of "clan meeting"? e.g. I read a lot about Menopause and Contraception before but in the end I asked my step daughter, 27, too, about h e r. experience and advice because I knew she had done an insane amount of research lately. Why shouldn't I?
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